Iimfihlo ezili-10 ezivela kwiintsapho eziPhumeleleyo zale mihla

Umxholo

• Yixabise Imizuzu
• Abahlobo babalulekile
• Baxabise abantu ngokuba banjani
• Nandipha uMzuzu wangoku-Ayisiyiyo iPinterest Moment
• Ngomsebenzi omncinci, iiFolks zakho Ngaba unako Yibani Ngabahlobo Benu
• Izithethe Ziyoyikeka
• Musa ukucinga-Yenza nje
• Iimpawu azithethi nto
• Phinda ucinge uMxholo weKhaya
• Konke malunga nothando
• Uphengululo lwe

Umxholo wosapho lwasekhaya, lwenyukliya luphelelwe lixesha kangangeminyaka. Kwindawo yayo kukho iintsapho zanamhlanje—ezo zonke iindidi zobukhulu, imibala nendibaniselwano yabazali. Ayipheleli nje ekubeni yinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa nezinto ezibizwa ngokuba “ziyantlukwano” zibenza bomelele kwaye bonwabe ngendlela emangalisayo. Apha, iimfihlo ezilishumi zokuphumelela ezinkulu "zale mihla" iintsapho zifundile-ukuba bonke abantu banokufaka izicelo kubomi babo.

Yixabise Imizuzu

iStock

U-Anna Whiston Donaldson, iblogger kwi-An Inch yeGrey kunye nombhali wememoir ezayo Inqabile intaka, wehlelwa yinto ebuhlungu xa unyana wakhe, uJack, warhaxwa kwiminyaka emithathu edlulileyo. "Intlungu lixesha lesiphithiphithi kunye nokudideka okukhulu kuba ilizwe njengoko usazi litshintshiwe unaphakade," ucacisa. Kwaye ngelixa luluvo olungenakunceda ukwazi ukuba awunolawulo oluncinci kubomi bakho, kuhlala kukho amagqabantshintshi ethemba kunye nokuzithemba, utshilo. Nokuba imeko injani, thatha ixesha lokuxabisa mzuzu ngamnye. UDonaldson uthi ukulahlekelwa yinto exabisekileyo kuye-ngelixa ebuhlungu kakhulu-kumkhumbuza ukuba abambelele kwiindawo eziqaqambileyo apho unako.

Abahlobo babalulekile

iStock

Ngexesha lentlekele yonyana kaDonaldson, wayifumana inkxaso-encinci kwaye enkulu- evela kubahlobo banceda usapho lwayo ukuba luqhubeke. Isifundo: Akukho sapho sisiqithi, kwaye ukuba nenethiwekhi enkulu yokuxhasa inika usapho lwakho isiseko esifunayo. Kwaye kusebenza zombini ezi ndlela: Yazi usapho oluya kwixesha elinzima? Endaweni yokubuza into onokuyenza, yeka isidlo sangokuhlwa, ubanike ixesha lokugcina abantwana, okanye ubanike isatifikethi sesipho esifanelekileyo. Okukhona umzamo owenzayo ekugcineni ubudlelwane (obulungileyo, hayi obukukhuphayo), kokukhona uya kuziva uqhagamshelwe ngakumbi, ukhumbuza uJoseph Mallet, ugqirha wengqondo onikwe ilayisenisi e-Coral Gables, FL.

Baxabise abantu ngokuba banjani

iStock

“Xa unyana wam, uMax, kwafunyaniswa ukuba une-cerebral palsy kamsinya nje emva kokuba ezelwe, ndandinqwenela ukuba angahamba athethe ngexesha elinye nabanye abantwana,” utsho uEllen Seidman, obhala ngebhlog ngosapho lwakhe eLoveThatMax.com. “Kodwa ngoku, ukwamkela ulwaneliseko kwizinto zokwenyani nobuchule bethu—kwaye ukungasoloko sifuna ukuphucula—kuye kwachaphazela ubomi bentsapho yethu,” ucacisa watsho uSeidman. Ngokuqinisekileyo kunokuba nzima ukuba umama wakho angakhathazeki xa ethetha ngamalungiselelo okuhlala emtshatweni wakho okanye ukuba utata wakho ukudibanisa nodadewenu kancinci rhoqo-kodwa endaweni yokuba ucofe, khumbula ukuba zonke ii-quirks zabo zibenza ngabantu ababodwa.

Nandipha uMzuzu wangoku-Ayisiyiyo iPinterest Moment

iStock

"Ngelinye ixesha, saqasha iibhayisekile epakini kunye nentambo yokubopha kaMax, kodwa xa sasizikhwelile, umyeni wam wafumanisa ukuba uMax wayesindwa kukutsala ngaphezulu kwemizuzu embalwa," ukhumbula uSeidman. Kodwa oko akuzange kube namsebenzi. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba sibe nexesha elimnandi ngelixa sisenza. Zama le ngxaki: Chitha usuku nabantu obathandayo ngaphandle I-Instagramming, i-tweeting, okanye ukwenza nayiphi na into yokuhlaziya imidiya yoluntu, icebisa uMallet. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba unezithonga ezinkulu, zabelane ngazo ngosuku okanye ezimbini kamva, kodwa ugcine ujoliso apho ukhoyo ngoku kunokukwenza ukonwabele okwangoku.

Ngomsebenzi omncinci, iiFolks zakho Ngaba unako Yibani Ngabahlobo Benu

iStock

UJessica Bruno, owenza iibhlog zakhe kwizizukulwane ezine ze -oneroof.com, uhlala nomyeni wakhe, abantwana, abazali kunye nootatomkhulu. Yaye nangona kukho ukungavisisani ngamaxesha athile, ukuhlala nentsapho eninzi kuneengenelo ezingakumbi kuneentsilelo. "Uhlala ubabona abazali bakho, ngakumbi, ngamehlo ahlukeneyo xa umdala kwaye ungumama kunokuba wawunjalo xa wawusengumntwana. Ngoku, ndibabona njengabahlobo!" Ngokucacileyo, wonke umntu unobudlelwane obahlukileyo nabantu bakhe, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, inokuba yeyona nto ilungileyo, ubulumko obusengqondweni, ukuba ubagcine bekude, ukhumbuza uMallet. "Ukufunda indlela yokunxibelelana nabazali bakho njengomntu okhulileyo bubuchule." Ukubazisa (ngokuzolileyo) ukuba izenzo zabo zikwenza uzive-okt, uchaze ukuba uyalixabisa ingcebiso yabo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukuyifumana ungacelanga kuyenza ibengathi bayakugweba-inokuba linyathelo elikhulu ekuthetheni njengabantu abadala.

Izithethe Ziyoyikeka

iStock

Rhoqo ngobusuku bangoMgqibelo, intsapho yakwaBruno ihlala phantsi ize itye kunye. Ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela, kodwa u-Bruno ufumanise ukuba ixesha laphambi kokutya isidlo sangokuhlwa lixesha elihle lokuba yena kunye nomama wakhe babambane kwiiresiphi. “Mna nomama sabelana ngamaxesha amaninzi okupheka kunye ngengazange yenzeke ukuba besihlala sodwa,” uyachaza uBruno. Yenzele ukuba isebenzele wena: Mema wonke umntu ukuba aye kwimidlalo yebhodi yangoMgqibelo emva kwemini okanye ube nomkhwa wokuthumela ileta kumtshana wakho okude kude kube ngoLwesihlanu. Nokuba incinci kangakanani, amasiko anokunceda ukuqinisa iintsapho ngokudibeneyo-nokuba niqelelene.

Musa ukucinga-Yenza nje

iStock

Umama osebenzayo UTina Fey Kubonakala ngathi libhinqa elingaphezulu komfazi-kodwa uyenzile yacaca ukuba akayonto. Endaweni yoko, uyatshona mihla le aye kuye. Ngokuka-Fey, "Ndicinga ukuba wonke umama osebenzayo mhlawumbi uziva into efanayo: Uhamba ngeziqwengana ezinkulu zexesha apho ucinga ukuba oku akunakwenzeka ... kwaye uqhubeke nje kwaye uhambe, kwaye wenza into engenakwenzeka." Kakade ke, oko akuthethi ukuba ufanele uzinyanzele ukuba udinwe, kodwa ukuba ufuna ukuya kwinto ethile, yenze!

Iimpawu azithethi nto

iStock

Kwiminyaka emibini eyadlulayo, umfundi wase-Iowa uZach Wahls wafumana ingqwalaselo kuzwelonke xa iklip apho wayethetha ne-Iowa House Judiciary Committee malunga nesindululo somtshato wesini. Njengoko wayechaza: "Akuzange kube kanye ndakhe ndajongana nomntu owaziqonda ngokuzimeleyo ukuba ndikhuliswe sisibini esithandanayo. Kwaye uyazi kutheni? Ngenxa yokuba ulwalamano lwabazali bam alunampembelelo kwaphela kumxholo wesimilo sam. " Isifundo: Uza kuva iingcinga ezikhohlakeleyo zalo naluphi na uhlobo losapho, kodwa zinjalo-iinkolelo-kwaye hayi ezinye izikhokelo malunga nokuba usapho lwakho "kufuneka" okanye "alufanele" lubukeke okanye lube. Kwaye ekupheleni kosuku, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uvakalelwa njani ngosapho lwakho, nguwe lowo kufuneka athathe uxanduva ngobomi bakho.

Phinda ucinge uMxholo weKhaya

Imifanekiso kaGetty

I Jolie-Pitts' banokuba ziinkwenkwezi ze-megawatt, kodwa baziva ngathi kunyanzelekile ukuba abantwana babo bazi ukuba bayinxalenye encinci yendalo yonke. “Ndicinga ukuba [abantwana bethu] babona umhlaba njengekhaya labo,” utshilo uAngie kwixesha elidlulileyo. "Ndimbonile uMaddox egijima kwiimarike zase-Addis Ababa [e-Ethiopia] kwaye angaqapheli ukuba ihlwempu kakhulu, okanye ukuba wonke umntu ungumAfrika okanye u-Asia. Akunandaba naye." Asitsho ukuba kufuneka uxelise le glam fam's jetsetting yokuphila, kodwa ukuqonda ukuba sonke sifana njani ekupheleni kosuku sisifundo esihle ngokubona nayiphi na usapho.

Konke malunga nothando

iStock

Ekupheleni kosuku, nokuba ngubani osapho lwakho, eyona nto ibalulekileyo yindlela oziva ngayo ngabo. Uchaza umdlali we-actress uMaria Bello, kuye INew York Times Ikholamu yoLuthando lwale mihla, "Nabani na endimthandayo, nangona kunjalo ndiyabathanda, nokuba balala ebhedini yam okanye hayi, okanye ndenza umsebenzi wesikolo kunye nabo okanye ndabelana nomntwana kunye nabo, uthando luthando… mhlawumbi, ekugqibeleni, 'lwanamhlanje Usapho 'lusapho oluthembekileyo ngakumbi. " Ubudlelwane begazi kunye nemithi yosapho iya kuhlala inendawo, kodwa kukho into enokuthi ichaze usapho eyakho ngokwemigaqo kuye nabani na oziva efanelekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba angene phantsi kwesihloko.

Uphengululo lwe