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Masiyivume: Siye konke uneempawu ezingalunganga kunye nemikhwa emibi (ukulunywa ngezikhonkwane! Ukuba mva kwexesha elide!) esingazingcayo ncam ngayo. Iindaba ezimnandi? Inzululwazi inokuba kwikona yakho: Ininzi yophononongo lwamva nje lufumana izibonelelo eziluncedo kwezo mpawu zingaphantsi kune-ezincamisayo (kulungile, hayi. konke yabo). Kwaye ngelixa eminye imikhwa emibi-ukutshaya, ukutsiba ijim, okanye ukuyigqithisa ngokutya okungalungelwanga kuwe-kuko nje: kubi, kwixesha elizayo xa umntu ekubiza ngokuba unelungelo (okanye ilize, okanye ukuzingca, okanye Debbie downer), babonise oku. Apha ngezantsi, upsides ezine ezibizwa ngokuba "negative" iimpawu.

1. Ukuziva unelungelo kukhulisa ubuchule bakho bokuyila. Abaphandi baseCornell naseVanderbilt bafumanise abantu abaneemvakalelo zokuba banelungelo lokuyila banokwenza ngakumbi iindlela zabo kwimisebenzi ethile. Xa uziva unelungelo ngakumbi, uyakuxabisa ukwahluka-okukhokelela ekubeni iijusi zokuyila ziqukuqele, batsho ababhali bophando. (Ukufumana ezinye iindlela zokunyusa ubuchule bakho kunye nokunye, bona Iindlela ezilungileyo zokuPhuhlisa imisipha yakho yengqondo.)

2. Ukuziphatha ngokuzingca kunokukunceda ukhokele. Thatha eli cebiso lomsebenzi ukuba yintoni na ixabiso: Kuphononongo olupapashwe kwi Ijenali yoBuntu kunye neNtlalontle yezeNtlalontle, abantu abazicingela bodwa kulingo lomdlalo babonwa njengabanamandla ngakumbi kunabo banceda abanye abadlali. Kwaye xa abathathi-nxaxheba babekwa kwindawo enokhuphiswano, bakhetha abantu ababalaseleyo njengeenkokheli.

3. Abantu abangenathemba banokuphila ubomi obude, obunempilo. Uphononongo lwaseJamani lwafumanisa ukuba abantu ababenolindelo oluqinisekileyo ngekamva kunokwenzeka ukuba bafe kule minyaka ili-10 izayo. Enye inkcazo enokuthi yenziwe ngabaphandi: Xa ubona "ikamva elimnyama" uthatha amanyathelo okhuseleko. Ngapha koko, ukuba ucinga ukuba awusoze ugule, awuthambekeli kakhulu ekufumaneni umkhuhlane kunokuba ucinga ukuba usesichengeni. (Awukayifumani eyakho okwangoku? Chonga ukuba yeyiphi iyeza leFlu elilungele wena.) Ke ukuthatha oku akuyi kuba kukubi, kuya kuba yinyani.

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