5 Izizathu zempilo zokuzinika ixesha lokungcungcuthekisa

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Ngexesha elizayo xa umfana wakho ethetha ngetyala lakho malunga nexesha lokumbamba-uthi ushushu kakhulu, ufuna indawo yakhe, akaziva ngathi uyaphumla-bonisa ubungqina. Uphando lubonisa ukuba kukho okungakumbi ekukhumbuzeni kunokuhlangana neliso. Ngaphandle kwe-lovey-dovey'ness, izibonelelo zempilo zokugcwala ngokuqinisekileyo ziya kumqinisekisa ukuba azinike ixesha lokwenza oko.

Isizathu 1: Kuvakala Kakuhle

Cuddling ikhupha i-oxytocin, ekwabizwa ngokuba yihormone yokuziva ulungile. "Kuyandisa ulonwabo ngokubanzi," utshilo isazi ngengqondo, ingcali yezomzimba, kunye nombhali othengisa kakhulu Ukonwaba: Umyalelo wakho wokugqibela wolonwabo U-Elizabeth Lombardo.

"Ukuncwina, ukubamba, kunye nokudlala ngesondo kukhupha imichiza, njenge-oxytocin, kwingqondo edala ukonwaba kunye nolonwabo," utshilo uGqirha Renee Horowitz, ob-gyn osandula ukuvula iZiko lezeMpilo yezeSondo eFarmington Hills , EMichigan.

Ukuqubha kunokukhupha ii-endorphins, eziyikhemikhali ezikhutshwe emva kokuzilolonga okanye xa usitya itshokholethi, uHorowitz wongeza, enegalelo kolo luvo lukhulu.

Isizathu 2: Kukwenza uzive umhle

Esona sibonelelo sicace gca ekukhumbeni kukusondela kwiqabane lakho ngokwasemzimbeni. Ukujija kunokukhokelela ekuzonwabiseni ngexesha lokunxiba okanye ekuphumleni nasekuthandeni ixesha lokulala ngesondo, kodwa kukwakho nekhemikhali kunye.

"Kukwakho nokukhululwa kwe-dopamine, eyihormoni evuselelayo eyonyusa umnqweno wesini," utshilo uHorowitz. Ngapha koko, uphononongo lubonisa ukuba isini sisempilweni yokomelela komzimba kunye nezizathu zengqondo, nazo. Ke kukuphumelela.

Isizathu 3: Inciphisa uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo lwegazi

Umqeqeshi wolawulo loxinzelelo kunye nonyango olupheleleyo uCatherine A. Connors ukhumbuza indlela ukunxibelelana nabanye okunokunceda ngayo ukunciphisa uxinzelelo. "Ukuwolana, ukwanga, okanye ukwenza izinto zomzimba ngokungaphezulu kuyonyusa amanqanaba e-oxytocin, eyi-'bonding 'hormone-le mpendulo yamachiza inokunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo lwegazi, ethi yona inciphise umngcipheko wesifo sentliziyo, kodwa inokunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo, "utshilo uConnors.

Isizathu 4: Idibanisa abasetyhini abaneentsana kunye namaqabane

Ngokutsho kukaGqr. Fran Walfish, ugqirha nombhali odumileyo, ukugonana kusempilweni ebantwini ngenxa yombandela ocacileyo wokutsaleleka ngokweemvakalelo. "I-Oxytocin yi-neuropeptide enxulunyaniswa kakhulu nokubeleka kunye nokuncancisa, kwaye uphando lwakutsha nje lubonisa ukuba inendima yendalo ekudibaniseni phakathi kukamama nomntwana," utshilo. "Uphononongo, olukhokelwa nguLane Strathearn, unjingalwazi oncedisayo wezifo zabantwana kwi-Baylor College of Medicine, lubonisa ukuba abafazi abakhuliswe ngokuncamathela okungakhuselekanga ngokwabo kunokwenzeka ukuba babe nobunzima bokwenza ukudibanisa okukhuselekileyo kunye nabantwana babo (kunye namaqabane)."

Kusempilweni ukufuna ukusondela. "Kuncinci okanye kuninzi kakhulu akulunganga. Qaphela kwaye uphonononge indawo yakho yokuthuthuzela. Uya kuba ngumntu onxibelelana ngcono neqabane lakho malunga nokuba uziva ulunge kangakanani na kwaye xa usondele kakhulu ukuthuthuzela," utshilo uWalfish. "Injongo yakho kukufumana ibhalansi phakathi kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela kunye neemfuno kunye neqabane lakho.

Isizathu 5: Ikunceda Ukunxibelelana Ngcono

Ngokuka-David Klow, umtshato kunye nosapho Therapist eChicago osebenza nezibini ezininzi malunga nendlela yokuphucula ukusondelana ebomini babo, usikhumbuza enye yeenzuzo ezinkulu zokubamba kunye nokungaxhuzuli komzimba. Uninzi lwezibini kunyango lomtshato zikhalaza ngemiba yonxibelelwano, utshilo uKlow. "Uninzi lwabantu lufuna ukuziva luqondwa, kwaye unxibelelwano sisithuthi esidlulisa ngaso ukuqonda kunye novelwano. Unxibelelwano olungasebenzisi magama lunokuba yindlela enamandla kakhulu yokuthi kwiqabane lakho," Ndiyakufumana, "utshilo. "Cuddling yindlela yokuthi, 'Ndiyazi ukuba uziva njani.' Isivumela ukuba sizive saziwa liqabane lethu ngeendlela ezingenakudluliselwa ngamagama. "

U-Klow ucebisa ukuba acinge ukugaxeleka njengendlela yokunxibelelana enokunceda abantu abatshatileyo babenobudlelwane obucekeceke.

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