KuMntu onesifo esinganyangekiyo, uyakufuna ukufundwa kwehlobo

Umxholo

• Qhubeka, Warrior
• Umnyango omnye uyavalwa: Ukoyisa ubunzima ngokulandela amaphupha akho
• Ulonwabo olukhulu: INcwadi ehlekisayo malunga nezinto ezoyikisayo
• Isandi sokutya kwenkumba yasendle
• Ndinesibindi Kakhulu
• Shake, Rattle & Roll nayo: Ukuphila nokuhleka ngeParkinson's
• Xa Umphunga Uba Ngumoya
• Ndikho: Uhambo lweentsuku ezingama-60 lokwazi ukuba ungubani ngenxa yokuba ungubani
• Yise kude

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Ngelixa isenokungabi sisihloko esidumileyo sengxoxo kwitafile yesidlo sangokuhlwa, ukuhlala nesifo esinganyangekiyo okanye esinganyangekiyo kunokudandathekisa kwaye kukoyike ngamanye amaxesha. Banokubakho namaxesha obulolo obungakholelekiyo, nangona umhlaba ubonakala ngathi uyabhuza. Ndiyayazi le nyaniso kuba ndiyiphile iminyaka eyi-16 edlulileyo.

Ngamaxesha asezantsi ohambo lwam lokugula okungapheliyo kunye ne-lupus, ndiye ndaphawula ukunxibelelana nabanye ababesendleleni yobomi efanayo bendikhupha kwislump sam. Ngamanye amaxesha olu nxibelelwano luya kwenzeka ubuso ngobuso okanye ngeqonga ledijithali. Ngamanye amaxesha unxibelelwano luya kwenzeka ngegama elibhaliweyo.

Ngapha koko, ukulahleka kwincwadi ebhalwe ngumntu "oyifumanayo" kundincedile kumaxesha amaninzi. Ngamanye amaxesha incwadi yayindivusa ebhedini, ngesiquphe ikhuthazekile ukujongana nosuku. Kwaye ke kukho amaxesha apho incwadi yandinika ukukhanya okuluhlaza kweentlobo, ukuphumla, ndithathe ixesha "lam", kwaye ndivale umhlaba okomzuzwana nje.

Uninzi lwezi ncwadi zilandelayo lundenze ndakuhleka kakhulu ndilila iinyembezi zovuyo- iinyembezi ezimele ukuba ngudade, uvelwano, imfesane, okanye isikhumbuzi sokuba eli xesha linzima nalo liya kudlula. Ke hlala phantsi ngekomityi eshushu yeti, ingubo epholileyo, kunye nethishu okanye ezimbini, kwaye ufumane ithemba, isibindi kunye nokuhleka kula maphepha alandelayo.

Qhubeka, Warrior

Ngaba wakhe wabuzwa ukuba, "Ukuba ububanjiswe kwisiqithi esishiyekileyo, uza kuza nantoni?" Kum, loo nto iya kuba "Qhubeka, Qhawe." Ndiyifunde le ncwadi izihlandlo ezilishumi elinesihlanu, kwaye ndithenge iikopi ezilishumi zokuzinika iintombi zam. Ukuqwalaselwa yinto ephantsi.

UGlennon Doyle Melton uzisa abafundi ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zobomi ezihlekisayo nezichukumisayo njengoko ejongene nokuchacha kubukhoboka botywala, ukuba ngumama, isifo esinganyangekiyo nokuba ngumfazi. Yintoni endibuyisela kule ncwadi amaxesha ngamaxesha kukubhala kwakhe okuchazayo kunye nokusekuhleni. Nguye lo mfazi uya kufuna ukuthatha ikomityi yekofu kunye nencoko eluhlaza, ethembekileyo- uhlobo apho nasiphi na isihloko siphakanyisiwe kwaye akukho sigwebo siphoswe kwicala lakho.

Umnyango omnye uyavalwa: Ukoyisa ubunzima ngokulandela amaphupha akho

Ndihlala ndibonakala ngathi ndiyingcambu ye-underdog, ndingena ngamabali apho abantu bajongene nengxaki ezingenakoyiswa kwaye baphume phambili. Ku "Mnyango omnye uyaValwa," ebhalwe nguTom Ingrassia noJared Chrudimsky, ungachitha ixesha kunye namadoda nabafazi abali-16 ababelana ngokuvuka kwabo emgodini. Ukusuka kumculi owaziwayo owoyise umhlaza womqala kunye nokukhotyokiswa ziziyobisi kwindoda eselula eyonzakeleyo ngokwenzakala kwengqondo emva kokubethelwa yimoto, ibali ngalinye libalaselisa amandla kunye nokomelela komzimba, kwengqondo nomoya. Okubandakanyiweyo licandelo lencwadi yokusebenza evumela abafundi ukuba babonakalise ubunzima babo kunye namaphupha abo, kunye namanyathelo amanyathelo okufikelela kwiinjongo ezinqwenelekayo.

Ulonwabo olukhulu: INcwadi ehlekisayo malunga nezinto ezoyikisayo

Emva kokuba ndihlekise incwadi yam yokuqala kaJenny Lawson, "Masenze lento ingazange yenzeke," andikwazanga kulinda izandla zam ku "Ndonwabe Kakhulu." Ngelixa abanye banokucinga ngesikhumbuzo malunga noxinzelelo oloyikisayo kunye nokudakumba okukhubazekileyo akunakuphakamisa nakubani na umoya, uburharha bakhe eludongeni kunye nokubhuduzela kokuzihlazisa kubangqina bengalunganga. Amabali ama-hilarious ngobomi bakhe kunye nokusokola kwakhe kwisigulo esinganyangekiyo asithumela sonke umyalezo malunga nokuba uburharha bunokuyitshintsha njani imbono kabani.

Isandi sokutya kwenkumba yasendle

Ukubhalwa okuchukumisayo kuka-Elisabeth Tova Bailey ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kubamba iintliziyo zabafundi kuyo yonke indawo abahlala ngaphandle kokugula okungapheliyo. Emva kokubuya kwikhefu kwii-Alps zaseSwitzerland, uBaley ngokukhawuleza uhlaselwa sisifo esibuhlungu esitshintsha ubomi bakhe. Engakwazi ukuzikhathalela, ukwinceba yomkhathaleli kunye nokutyelelwa okungahleliwe kubahlobo kunye nosapho. Ngokukhawuleza, omnye wabahlobo uzisa i-violets kunye nenkumba yehlathi. Unxibelelwano olwenziwa nguBailey nesi sidalwa sincinci, esihamba ngesantya esifana nesakhe, siyamangalisa kwaye sibeka inqanaba "Isandi Sokutya Inkumba Yasendle" kwincwadi eyodwa nenamandla.

Ndinesibindi Kakhulu

Nangona uGqirha Brené Brown ebhale iincwadi ezininzi ezitshintsha ubomi, u “Daring Greatly” uthethe nam ngenxa yomyalezo othile - ukuba sesichengeni kubutshintshe njani ubomi bakho. Kolu hambo lwam nesifo esinganyangekiyo, bendinomnqweno wokuvela ngokungathi ndinayo yonke into kunye nokuba isigulo asichaphazeli ubomi bam. Ukufihla ubunyani bendlela ukugula kundichaphazele ngayo emzimbeni nasengqondweni ixesha elide kubangele ukuba ihlazo kunye nesizungu zikhule.

Kule ncwadi, uBrown uchitha umbono wokuba ukuba sesichengeni asikokuba buthathaka. Kwaye, ukuba ukwamkela njani ukuba semngciphekweni kungakhokelela kubomi obuzele luvuyo kunye nokunxibelelana okwandileyo nabanye. Ngelixa i- "Daring Greatly" ibingabhalelwanga ngokuthe ngqo indawo yokugula okungapheliyo, ndiziva ngathi inolwazi olubalulekileyo malunga nomzabalazo wokudibana kwabahlali ukuba babe sengozini, ngakumbi ebusweni babo bangenayo imicimbi yezempilo.

Shake, Rattle & Roll nayo: Ukuphila nokuhleka ngeParkinson's

UVikki Claflin, iqhula kunye nombhali owaziwayo ngebhlog yakhe uLaugh-Lines.net, unika abafundi umbono omnandi kodwa onomdla ebomini bakhe emva kokufunyaniswa ukuba uneParkinson eneminyaka engama-50. ukugqitha. Ukholelwa ngokwenza abafundi ukuba bahleke amava akhe amangalisayo kunye nokungahambi kakuhle ngokugula, banokufumana uburharha kunye nethemba labo. Thatha ikopi yencwadi apha.

Xa Umphunga Uba Ngumoya

Nangona umbhali uPaul Kalanithi wasweleka ngo-Matshi ka-2015, incwadi yakhe ishiya umyalezo okhuthazayo kwaye ubonakalisa ingunaphakade. Ukufika esiphelweni soqeqesho lwakhe lweshumi leminyaka njenge-neurosurgeon, uKalanithi ngokungalindelekanga ufumanisa ukuba unomdlavuza wamaphaphu wenqanaba lesine. Ukuxilongwa kubuyisela indima yakhe kugqirha osindisa ubomi kuye kwisigulana esijongene nokufa, kwaye kuzisa umnqweno wakhe wokuphendula, "Yintoni eyenza ubomi bube nenjongo yokuphila?" Le memoir yeemvakalelo iyamangalisa njengoko ibuhlungu, usazi ukuba ushiye ngasemva umfazi kunye nomntwana wakhe kwangoko. Kuyinyani ukukhuthaza abafundi bayo nayiphi na iminyaka (kunye nayiphi na imeko yezempilo) ukuba bacingisise ngezinto ebomini babo ezibaluleke ngokwenene, ukwazi ukufa akunakuphepheka.

Ndikho: Uhambo lweentsuku ezingama-60 lokwazi ukuba ungubani ngenxa yokuba ungubani

Kubafundi abafuna incwadi ekhuthazayo enesiseko esisekwe elukholweni, ingcebiso yam kwangoko iya kuba "Ndinguye" nguMichele Cushatt. Emva kwedabi elinzima kunye nomhlaza watshintsha indlela athetha ngayo, wajonga, kwaye waphila ubomi bemihla ngemihla, uCushatt wahamba nohambo lokuzityhila ukuba ungubani. Uye wafumanisa indlela yokuyeka ukuthenga kuxinzelelo oluqhubekayo lokulinganisa, kwaye wafunda ukuyeka ukucinga ngaphezulu kwengcinga, "Ndanele?"

Ngama-akhawunti abucala, axhaswa ziinyaniso eziqinileyo zebhayibhile, "Ndinguye" usinceda ukuba sibone ubungozi bokuzithetha gwenxa, kwaye sifumane uxolo ngendlela uThixo asibona ngayo kunendlela abantu abasibona ngayo (ezempilo, indlela yokuphila, njl. . Kum, le ncwadi yayisisikhumbuzo sokuba ixabiso lam alikho kwikhondo lam lomsebenzi, ingaba ndifeza kangakanani, okanye nokuba andizifezekisi iinjongo zam ngaphandle kwelupus. Kuncede ukutshintsha umnqweno wam wokwamkelwa nokuthandwa yimigangatho yehlabathi endaweni yokuba ndithandwe ngulowo undenze kanye ngendlela endifanele ukuba yiyo.

Yise kude

Ezi ncwadi zikhetho ezifanelekileyo zokuza neeholide zakho zasehlotyeni, nokuba luhambo oluya elunxwemeni, okanye usuku olonqenayo oluchithwe echibini. Ikwayindlela yam yokukhetha xa ndigula kakhulu ukuba ndiphume ebhedini, okanye kufuneka ndizonwabise ngamagama axhasayo avela kumntu oqonda uhambo lwam. Kum, iincwadi ziye zaba kukubaleka okumnandi, umhlobo xa ukugula kubonakala kunzima, kunye nokukhuthazwa endinokukunyamezela nokuba kujongwana nobunzima. Yintoni kuluhlu lwakho lokufunda ehlotyeni endifanele ukuba ndilufunda? Ndazise kwizimvo!

Sikhetha ezi zinto ngokusekwe kumgangatho weemveliso, kwaye sidwelise izinto ezilungileyo nezingalunganga zazo nganye ukukunceda ubone ukuba yeyiphi eya kukusebenzela kakuhle. Sisebenzisana nezinye zeenkampani ezithengisa ezi mveliso, oko kuthetha ukuba iHealthline inokufumana isabelo semali xa uthenga into usebenzisa amakhonkco angentla.

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