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• Jongani Emehlweni omnye nomnye
• Thatha iiBreaks
• Funda ngayo yonke
• Thatha uLawulo
• Ungalibali emva kweSex
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Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokuba ngumlingo, konke okubandakanyayo-kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunqabile, ngakumbi ukuba unomfana omtsha okanye ufuna ukuzama izinto ezintsha (kodwa ungazi ukuba ungaqala phi). Iindaba ezimnandi: Amaxesha ambalwa agungqayo phakathi kwamashiti awathethi ukuba nobabini aningomdlalo-inyani, oko kunokuthetha ukuba lixesha elifanelekileyo lokwenza uphando lokufumana isini esikusebenzelayo njenge isibini, uthi uTammy Nelson, Ph.D., i-sex therapist kunye nombhali we Ukufumana iSex oyifunayo. Jonga (kwaye uzive!) Njenge pro-kwaye izinto eziqholiweyo phezulu-akukhathaliseki nokuba inqanaba lamava akho ngezi zilungiso zisibhozo zilula.

Yonwaba

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Nokuba wenza ntoni, umdla ubaluleke kakhulu kunendlela, utshilo uMark Michaels, umbhali-mbhali Abalingani kwi-Passion. Ngaba uziva uziva meh ngesondo? Cinga ngento eya kukwenza uzive wonwabile. Mhlawumbi ibonisa iimpahla zangaphantsi ezintsha okanye umcele ukuba akunike uthambiso olude kunye neloo lotion intsha. Nantoni na ekwenza uzive uyoyikeka iya kuguqulela kumdlalo wakho wegumbi lokulala ukuba ulungile. (Ukuthumela iitekisi ezirhabaxa yindlela entle kakhulu yokwakha uchulumanco. Nazi iingcebiso ezi-5 zokuthumela imiyalezo nge-Sexting wonke umntu obhinqileyo kufuneka azi.)

Jongani Emehlweni omnye nomnye

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Izandi ze-cheesy, kodwa ukugxila emehlweni akhe kuthatha ugxininiso kwinto eyenzekayo ngaphantsi kwebhanti kwaye yenza yonke into malunga nokudibanisa nobabini owabelana ngayo, uthi uMichaels. Oku kuyinyaniso ngakumbi ngexesha lomlomo, xa ukuthatha iimpawu ebusweni bakhe ngundoqo.

Thatha iiBreaks

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Enoba kukwabelana ngesondo ngomlomo, ukuvuselelana ngesandla, okanye ukwabelana ngesondo, khumbula ukuba akukho ndlela “elungileyo” yokwenza nantoni na. Ukuba uziva udiniwe okanye ufumana i-cramp, ukuma kwaye uthathe ixesha lokuncamisa nokuphulula, okanye ukutshintsha kunye nokumenza athathe umsebenzi osebenzayo kulungile ngokupheleleyo, kukhumbuza uMichaels.

Funda ngayo yonke

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Enkosi ku 50 Izithunzi zeGrey, i-erotica ifumene ukuvuselelwa okukhulu-kwaye ziindaba ezimnandi ezo kubomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo, utshilo u-Alison Tyler, ingcaphephe yezesondo kunye nombhali wamanoveli angama-25 avuselela inkanuko. "Inja yiva iphepha olithandayo ulifunde ngokuvakalayo kwiqabane lakho, okanye umamele ipodcast enesini. Yindlela elula yokubeka incoko kwezi zinto zikujikisela kuzo." Kuba awuthethi ngayo eyakho amava obomi bangaphambili, inibeka nobabini kwiphepha elinye ngokubhekisele kwinto enifuna ukuyizama kunye. (Kwakhona, jonga ezi-5 zeFantasy-Exposed.)

Thatha uLawulo

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Ngobusuku obunye, yenza ubusuku bonke ngaye. Mxelele ukuba akakwazi kushukuma okanye ukuchukumisa ngaphandle kwemvume yakho. Ewe, yinto encinci yolawulo-y, kodwa iyakukunceda bobabini ngcono ukukhupha imimandla ye-erogenous kunye ne-turn-ons ekunokuba nzima ukuyifumana xa nobabini nisenza umsebenzi ngenkuthalo. Ngobusuku obulandelayo, naye enze okufanayo kuwe. Ayishushu nje kuphela ukuba nobusuku ukonwabela ukungaziva unetyala, konke malunga nam, kodwa ukuyeka (kunye nokuthatha) ulawulo kuyakuvumela ukuba ubonise amacala akho abuthathaka kunxibelelwano olungapheliyo.

Ungalibali emva kweSex

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Izandi zilinganiswe ngu-G ngokupheleleyo, kodwa kwavela ukuba, izakhono ezinkulu zokubamba sesinye sezona ziqikelelo zibalaseleyo zobomi besondo obubulalayo. Uhlolisiso lwakutshanje olwenziwa kwiYunivesithi yaseToronto Mississauga lufumanise ukuba indlela yokuziphatha emva kokwabelana ngesondo, kuquka ukuncamisana, ukuwolana nokuthetha ngothando, ikhuthaza ukwaneliseka ngokwesini. Gcina incoko yasemva kwesondo ilula. Gxila kwinto oziva imangalisa ngalo mzuzu, endaweni yokungena nzulu kubuntwana bakho okanye ukuqala "kuyaphi oku?" ingxoxo.

Yongeza ezinye izinto eziMangalisayo

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Ukulandelela ityhubhu yomkhenkce ejikeleze umzimba wakhe, ukubamba ubusi kwiingono zakho nokumenza ayikhothe, okanye ukuzama into yokudlala entsha yesini zonke iindlela zokutshintsha izinto. "Ukwabelana ngesondo kufuneka kube mnandi," ukhumbuza uMichaels, kwaye ukuzama into entsha kuqinisekisiwe ukugubha izinto. Nokuba ubuchule buphela bungeyonto oza kuyongeza kuluhlu lwakho oluqhelekileyo, uyizame-kwaye uhleke ngayo ukuba nobabini niyifumana ibubudenge ngakumbi kune-sexy-ngamava asondeleyo anokukwenza usondele. (Ngaphezu koko, fumana ukuphefumlelwa kwegumbi lokulala kunye ne-7 Kinky yethu yoPhuculo kuBomi bakho bobulili.)

Vele uyenze!

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Ukungavakali njengentengiso yeembaleki, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, eyona nto ibalulekileyo onokuyenza kukuyenza. UNelson uthi: “Ekuhambeni kwexesha, oko kufane kubizwe ngokuba ‘ngesini sokugcina abantwana’ kunokukhula kube yindlela eyanelisayo nenentsingiselo yokuvakalisa iminqweno yakho. "Ngamanye amaxesha, isondo simalunga nokusebenza ngoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo lweveki exakekileyo kwaye siphume sinxibelelene kunangaphambili." Ke ulibale ngokuba nguGrey ongumKristu olandelayo kwaye ujonge ekubeni nguwe.

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