Isigqibo sam sokufumana umsebenzi wempumlo sasimalunga nokuKhangela

Umxholo

• Ingcebiso yam xa kufikwa kutyando lwezithambiso
• 1. Lawula ulindelo lwakho
• 2. Ayikho into 'egqibeleleyo'
• 3. Yenza uphando lwakho
• Zinike ixesha lokuba uchache
• 5. Nika iziphumo zakho ixesha

Njengokude ndikhumbule, ndiyayithiya impumlo yam. Uyidelele.

Konke ukunganqabiseki komzimba wam kunye nemicimbi yokuzithemba ibibotshwe ngandlela thile kwesi siqhu siphumayo embindini wobuso bam. Ayizange ilungele ubuso bam, yandoyikisa ezinye iimpawu zam. Ndaziva ngathi xa ndingena egumbini, impumlo yam yayiyeyona nto yokuqala abantu bayibonayo ngam.

Ndizamile ukwamkela impumlo yam njengenxalenye yam. Ndingade ndenze iziqhulo ngayo. Kodwa andinakukwazi ukuzibamba kodwa ndive ukuba ubomi bam buya kwahluka kakhulu ukuba bendingenayo le nto yobuso ithathe indawo ngokupheleleyo. Ndingaya kwiiholide nabahlobo bam kunye nosapho kwaye ndibenexesha elimnandi- kodwa ukubona iifoto zohambo olundibambe kwiprofayile kungandizisela iinyembezi.

Ke nge-21, bendanele. Kodwa ndaye ndayeka ukuba inyani yayingengombuzo. Ngokuqinisekileyo yayiyinto yabantu abadumileyo okanye abantu abazizityebi abayenzayo? Ibinokungahambi kakuhle "kumntu oqhelekileyo", akunjalo? Okwangoku, andinakunceda nokuba ndingajonga kuyo. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, ndichithe ixesha elininzi kunyaka wam wesibini eyunivesithi ndifumana iikowuteshini koogqirha babucala abavela kwihlabathi liphela. Kodwa bonke babuya ngaphezulu kwe- $ 9,000, ebingakwazi ukuhlawula ibhajethi yomfundi. Kwaye bendingafuni ukwenza ingxoxo nesivumelwano xa yayiyinto ethile ebusweni bam endiya kuhlala nayo ngonaphakade.

Kodwa ngokuhlwa, yonke into yatshintsha.

Ndabona iposti evela kumhlobo webhlog kunye nomhlobo wam owayenze inkqubo ye-rhinoplasty kunye neklinikhi yoqhaqho-based yaseLondon, iTshintsho. Iziphumo zakhe zazikhangeleka ziyindalo kakhulu kwaye zazikhona iindlela zokukhetha ezemali ezazikho. Ndibhukishe idinga.

Kwiinyanga ezintandathu kamva, kwiveki emva kokuba ndizigqibile iimviwo zam, ndenziwa utyando.

Ukuzihambela ndiye kwitafile yokusebenza ndisazi ukuba ndiza kuvuka ngempumlo eyahlukileyo lelona lilo lamava akhe abakho. Ukuxhalaba, ukulindela, ukuvuya.

Ndiza kujongeka njengomntu owahlukileyo?

Ngaba ukhona umntu oya kuqaphela?

Ngaba ndisaya kuba ndim?

Ngaba ikhona into eza kutshintsha?

Ewe, eneneni-yonke into itshintshile. Kwinyanga yokuqala yokwenza le nkqubo, ndaziva ndizithembile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndingazama ukwenza izithambiso, kwaye ndafumana ithuba elikhulu lomsebenzi! Ndaye ndacheba neenwele zam okokuqala kwiminyaka emithandathu. (Ndingathanda ukuyikhulisa ixesha elide kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukuze ndithathe ingqalelo kwimpumlo yam.) Kwaye, ndakuba ndinamava okwahlukana, ndazama ukuthandana kwakhona. Ngethuba lokuqala, ndathatha ithuba lokuthandana nomntu endingazange ndadibana naye ngaphambili-ngaphambili, ndiza kuhamba kuphela nabantu endikhe ndadibana nabo kubahlobo.

Ngokujonga emva, andinakuyikholelwa indlela endihluke ngayo njengomntu kwaye kangakanani ukuzithemba kwam endincamathisele empumlweni yam. Emva kotyando, ukuzithemba kwam kwanda. Ndaziva ngathi ndingaziphosa kwikhondo endifuna ukuleqa, ngaphandle kokubanjwa lihlazo endandilibophe empumlweni.

Ndaziva ngathi ekugqibeleni ndinobuso endandihlala ndinabo, nazo zonke iimpawu zam zisebenza kunye kunokuba zibethelele abanye.

Ndikhululekile kumthwalo wam wokuzibamba. Awusazifihli emva kwayo.

Ingcebiso yam xa kufikwa kutyando lwezithambiso

Utyando lwezithambiso ngokucacileyo sisigqibo esikhulu kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akufuneki sithathwe kancinci. Utshintsha umzimba wakho - ngokusisigxina. Kwaye iziphumo azikho emzimbeni kuphela, zikwimvakalelo, nazo. Ukuba ucinga ngalo naluphi na uhlobo lotyando ngokwakho, ndiyakubongoza ukuba ufunde le nto kuqala:

1. Lawula ulindelo lwakho

Ndicinga ukuba eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu xa usenziwa naluphi na uhlobo lotyando lwezithambiso kukulawula izinto ozilindeleyo, kuba kulapho utyando lunokuhamba gwenxa kakhulu. Inye kuphela into endiyixabisileyo ngugqirha wam wotyando kukuba wandiqinisekisa ukuba umbono wakhe ophambili yayikukuqinisekisa ukuba impumlo yam isalungele ubuso bam. Kuyingozi ukungena kwaye ubuze "impumlo ka-Angelina Jolie," umzekelo, okanye ulindele ukulingisa omnye umntu. Ugqirha lumalunga nokwandisa le nto sele unayo, hayi ukukunika into entsha ngokupheleleyo. Ngokwembonakalo yendalo, ufuna into eza kulingana nezinye izinto kwaye usebenze ngokuvisisana nazo-ke ugqirha wakho kufuneka ayenze loo njongo, nayo.

2. Ayikho into 'egqibeleleyo'

Ukulwela ukugqibelela yenye into embi xa kufikwa kutyando lwezithambiso, kwaye kuyingozi oko. Kuba, ngokuphandle, imfezeko ayikho. Ukuba uzama "impumlo egqibeleleyo" ngelishwa uyakube uzibekela ukuphoxeka. Cwangcisa impumlo (okanye inqaku) elisebenza ngokuvisisana okungcono nabanye. Khumbula, ayikokulinganisa nabani na - imalunga NAWE!

3. Yenza uphando lwakho

Andikwazi ukugxininisa oku ngokwaneleyo. Ukuze uzive uqinisekisiwe ukuba usezandleni ezilungileyo kwaye uza kufumana iziphumo zendalo ozifunayo, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba uqhube uphando oluninzi. Ingcebiso yobuqu ihlala inceda, kuba ungazibonela iziphumo zokuphila, zokuphefumla, zokuhamba, nezokuthetha. Kwaye ukuba ayisiyiyo inketho, uGoogle. Uninzi lotyando lunezigxeko-zincomo kwi-intanethi ngaphambi nasemva kwemifanekiso, kwaye ukuba awufumani, qiniseka ukubuza umncedisi wotyando. Musa ukoyika ukubuza imibuzo kwaye ungaziva unyanzelekile ukuba ungxamele nantoni na. Khumbula, esi sisigqibo esikhulu kwaye kufuneka uzive ulungile kuwe. Ndilinde iminyaka eyi-10 ngaphambi kokuba ndiqhubeke nomsebenzi wam, endinika ixesha elininzi lokucinga nyani malunga nokuba yinto endifuna ukuyenza nyani na.

Zinike ixesha lokuba uchache

Nantsi enye ingcebiso ebaluleke kakhulu. Ngelixa utyando lwezithambiso lukhetha, usenokuba kwiintlungu ezininzi, kwaye usenokuba nokudumba nokugruzuka. Ndizinike iiveki ezimbini ngaphambi kokuba ndibuyele kwimisebenzi yam yesiqhelo, kwaye eli ibilixesha elingaphezulu kwelaneleyo ukuqala ukuziva ndingumntu kwakhona.

5. Nika iziphumo zakho ixesha

Kuthatha ixesha ukuphilisa ngokufanelekileyo. Ngelixa iziphumo zotyando lwezithambiso zikhawuleza, ukudumba kunye nokugruzuka kunokusifihla isiphumo sokugqibela. Umzekelo, inkqubo ye-rhinoplasty ithwala ukudumba okuninzi kunye nokugruzuka ngayo (ngakumbi ukuba uphuke impumlo ukulungisa i-septum ephambukileyo, njengokuba ndandinjalo). Ngelixa ukudumba okuninzi kwehle ngenqaku lenyanga enye, ndingathi kwakukufutshane kwiinyanga ezintandathu kamva ngaphambi kokuba ndiqale ukubona iziphumo zokugqibela endinazo ngoku. Ukudumba okushiyekileyo kunokuqhubeka kude kube lixesha leenyanga ezili-18, ke yiba nomonde!

Impumlo yam entsha ilungile kum, kwaye yandinika ukuzithemba ukuba ndim. Ndichithe iminyaka ndicinga malunga nokuba yintoni malunga nembonakalo yam endiziva ukuba indibambile. Ndiphande iinkqubo ndaza ndaziqwalasela zonke iinkalo zobomi bam. Utyando oluguqula umzimba ayisiyonto ubani ekufuneka nje angene kuyo, kwaye ndiyavuya ukuba ndithathe ixesha lokucinga ngokwam.

Ngenxa yokuba impumlo - okanye nayiphi na into - ayisiyiyo nje into eqhotyoshelwe kuwo wonke umzimba wakho. Yinxalenye yobukho bakho.

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