Andizange ndikrokrelwe ukuba ne-ADHD enokunxibelelana noxinzelelo lwam lobuntwana

Umxholo

• Njengebhola yomsonto eqala ukutyhilwa, veki nganye ndizama ukusebenza ngeenkumbulo ezahlukeneyo kunye neemvakalelo ezinxulumene nokwenzakala kweminyaka edlulileyo.
• Kwakungekho kuphela okuqhelekileyo, kodwa kwakuyinto eyayiyiyo wafunda.
• Eyona nto ibalulekileyo: Abantwana abafumana umothuko ngaphambili ebomini kunokwenzeka ukuba bafumane i-ADHD.
• Ngabantu abaninzi abancinci abafunyaniswa ukuba bane-ADHD, oku kuphakamisa imibuzo emininzi enomdla malunga nendima enokudlalwa kukukhathazeka komntwana.
• Njengomntu omdala, andinakuthi kube lula. Kude kube lolo suku kwi-ofisi yam yonyango, ukuzama ukuhamba ngale ndlela ndive, ngamanye amaxesha, kungenakwenzeka- {textend} ngakumbi xa ndingazi ukuba yintoni engalunganga.
• Ngelixa kusekho uphando oluninzi ekufuneka lwenziwe, bendisakwazi ukubandakanya iindlela zokulwa endizifundileyo kunyango, encede impilo yam yengqondo iyonke.

Ngethuba lokuqala, kwakungathi umntu undivile ekugqibeleni.

Ukuba kukho into endiyaziyo, kukuba umothuko unendlela enomdla yokuzibhala emzimbeni wakho. Kum, ukwenzakala endikunyamezeleyo ekugqibeleni kubonisiwe njengo "kungakhathaleli" - {textend} Ukufana ngokufana ne-ADHD.

Xa ndandisemncinci, into endiyaziyo ngoku njenge-hypervigilance kunye ne-dissociation yayiphosakele kakhulu "ngokwenza" kunye nokuzimisela. Kuba abazali bam baqhawula umtshato xa ndandineminyaka emi-3 ubudala, ootitshala bam baxelela umama ukuba ukungakhathali kwam yayiyinto yokungakhathali, indlela yokuziphatha efuna ingqalelo.

Ukukhula, bendinengxaki yokuhlala ndigxile kwiiprojekthi. Kwakunzima ukugqiba umsebenzi wam wasekhaya, kwaye ndandidandatheka xa ndingaziqondi izifundo ezithile okanye izifundo esikolweni.

Ndifumene into eyenzekayo kum iqhelekile; Bendingazi ngcono kwaye andibonanga ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo. Ndabona ubunzima bam ekufundeni ukungaphumeleli kwam, ndishiya ukuzithemba kwam.

Kwakungekade ndikhule ukuba ndiqale ukuvavanya ngokusondeleyo ubunzima bam bokuxinana, ukulawulwa kweemvakalelo, ukungxamiseka, kunye nokunye. Ndazibuza ukuba ingaba ikho enye into ebisenzeka kum.

Njengebhola yomsonto eqala ukutyhilwa, veki nganye ndizama ukusebenza ngeenkumbulo ezahlukeneyo kunye neemvakalelo ezinxulumene nokwenzakala kweminyaka edlulileyo.

Kwakungathi ndiyacotha kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ndikhulula ingxaki. Ngelixa ukujonga imbali yam yomothuko kundincede ndaziqonda ezinye zeengxaki zam, ayikachazi ngokupheleleyo eminye imiba yam ngokuhoywa, inkumbulo kunye nokunye ukusebenza kwesigqeba.

Ngophando olongezelelekileyo kunye nokuzicamngca ngokwakho, ndiye ndafumanisa ukuba iimpawu zam ziyafana nokunqongophala kokuphazamiseka kwengqondo (ADHD). Kwaye, ukunyaniseka, nangona ndandingazi kakhulu malunga nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kwi-neurodevelopmental ngelo xesha, into malunga nayo icofiwe.

Ndigqibe kwelokuba ndiyizise kunyango lwam olulandelayo.

Ukuya kwindibano yam elandelayo, ndandinovalo. Kodwa ndaziva ndikulungele ukujongana ngqo nale micimbi kwaye ndiyazi ukuba ugqirha wam uya kuba ngumntu okhuselekileyo ukuba athethe naye malunga nendlela endiziva ngayo.

Ndihleli egumbini, ecaleni kwakhe, ndaqala ukuchaza iimeko ezithile, njengobunzima endiya kugxila kubo xa ndizama ukubhala, okanye indlela endifuna ukugcina ngayo uluhlu kunye neekhalenda ukuze ndihlale ndilungelelene.

Wayemamela kwaye eqinisekisa inkxalabo yam, kwaye wandixelela ukuba into endinayo yayiqhelekile.

Kwakungekho kuphela okuqhelekileyo, kodwa kwakuyinto eyayiyiyo wafunda.

Kuye kwaxelwa ukuba abantwana abaye bavezwa kukubandezeleka kwamava ebuntwaneni banokubonisa isimilo esifana nemvelo kwabo bafumaniswe ukuba bane-ADHD.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo: Abantwana abafumana umothuko ngaphambili ebomini kunokwenzeka ukuba bafumane i-ADHD.

Ngelixa enye ingabangeli enye, izifundo zibonisa ukuba kukho unxibelelwano phakathi kwezi meko zimbini. Ngelixa kungaqinisekanga ukuba loluphi olu nxibelelwano, lukhona.

Ngethuba lokuqala, kwakungathi umntu undivile ekugqibeleni kwaye wandenza ndaziva ngathi akukho hlazo kwinto endandinayo.

Kwi-2015, emva kweminyaka emininzi ndisokola kwimpilo yam yengqondo, ndaye ekugqibeleni ndafunyaniswa ndinengxaki yoxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo (CPTSD). Kwakusemva koxilongo xa ndandiqala ukumamela umzimba wam, kwaye ndizame ukuziphilisa ngaphakathi nangaphandle.

Kungelo xesha kuphela apho ndaqala khona ukuqaphela iimpawu ze-ADHD, nazo.

Oku akumangalisi xa ujonga uphando: Nakubantu abadala, kukho abantu abane-PTSD abanokuba neempawu ezongezelelweyo ezingenakubalwa, ngokusondeleyo kufana ne-ADHD.

Ngabantu abaninzi abancinci abafunyaniswa ukuba bane-ADHD, oku kuphakamisa imibuzo emininzi enomdla malunga nendima enokudlalwa kukukhathazeka komntwana.

Nangona i-ADHD sesinye seziphazamiso ze-neurodevelopmental eMntla Melika, uGqirha Nicole Brown, ongumhlali eJohns Hopkins eBaltimore, uqaphele ukonyuka okuthile kwizigulana zakhe zolutsha ezibonisa imiba yokuziphatha kodwa engaphenduli kumayeza.

Oku kukhokelele ekuphandeni uBrown ukuba loluphi unxibelelwano. Ngophando lwakhe, uBrown kunye neqela lakhe bafumanise ukuba ukubonakaliswa okuphindaphindiweyo kukonzakala besebancinci (nokuba kukwasemzimbeni okanye ngokweemvakalelo) kungonyusa umngcipheko womntwana kumanqanaba ayityhefu oxinzelelo, anokuthi emva koko onakalise uphuhliso lwabo.

Kwaxelwa kwi-2010 ukuba phantse i-1 lesigidi sabantwana banokuchaphazeleka gwenxa nge-ADHD minyaka le, yiyo loo nto uBrown ekholelwa ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ukhathalelo olunolwazi olwenzakeleyo lwenzeka esemncinci.

Ngeendlela ezininzi, oku kuvula ithuba lokufumana unyango olubanzi ngakumbi noluncedo, kwaye mhlawumbi nokuchongwa kwangoko kwe-PTSD kubantu abancinci.

Njengomntu omdala, andinakuthi kube lula. Kude kube lolo suku kwi-ofisi yam yonyango, ukuzama ukuhamba ngale ndlela ndive, ngamanye amaxesha, kungenakwenzeka- {textend} ngakumbi xa ndingazi ukuba yintoni engalunganga.

Kubo bonke ubomi bam, xa kwakuza kwenzeka into yoxinzelelo, kwakulula ukwahlukana nemeko. Xa oko kungenzekanga, bendidla ngokuzifumana ndikwimeko yokungakhathali, ndineentende ezibilayo kwaye ndingakwazi ukugxila, ndisoyika ukhuseleko lwam.

Kude kube ndiqala ukubona ugqirha wam, owacebisa ukuba ndibhalise kwinkqubo yonyango kwisibhedlele sasekuhlaleni, ingqondo yam yayiza kuthwala umthwalo ngokukhawuleza kwaye ivale.

Kwakukho amaxesha amaninzi apho abantu babephendula kwaye bandixelele ukuba ndibonakala ngathi andinamdla, okanye ndaphazamiseka. Ihlala ithatha uxinzelelo kubudlelwane endinabo. Kodwa inyani yayikukuba ingqondo nomzimba wam zazisilwa nzima kangaka ukuzilawula.

Bendingayazi enye indlela yokuzikhusela.

Ngelixa kusekho uphando oluninzi ekufuneka lwenziwe, bendisakwazi ukubandakanya iindlela zokulwa endizifundileyo kunyango, encede impilo yam yengqondo iyonke.

Ndiqale ukujonga ulawulo lwexesha kunye nezixhobo zombutho ukundinceda ndigxile kwiiprojekthi ezizayo. Ndiqale ukusebenzisa iindlela zokuhamba kunye nezomhlaba kubomi bam bemihla ngemihla.

Ngelixa konke oku kuyizolisile enye yengxolo ebuchotsheni bam, ndaye ndazi ukuba ndifuna enye into. Ndenze idinga nogqirha wam ukuze sixoxe ngezinto endizikhethayo, kwaye ndilindele ukubabona nangaluphi na usuku ngoku.

Xa ekugqibeleni ndaqala ukuqaphela umzabalazo endandinawo nemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla, ndaziva ndineentloni kwaye ndineentloni. Nangona ndandisazi ukuba abantu abaninzi bayasokola ngezi zinto, ndaziva ngathi ndiza kuyizisa kum le nto.

Kodwa okukhona ndityhila imicu edibeneyo yengqondo yam, kwaye ndisebenza ngoxinzelelo endikunyamezeleyo, ndiyaqonda ukuba andizizisanga ngokwam. Endaweni yokuba ndingoyena mntu wam ubalaseleyo ngokuzibonakalisa kum nokuzama ukuziphatha ngobubele.

Ngelixa kuyinyani ukuba alikho inani lamayeza elinokususa okanye lokuphilisa ngokupheleleyo umothuko endikhe ndawufumana, ukukwazi ukuvakalisa into endiyifunayo - {textend} nokwazi ukuba kukho igama kwinto eyenzekayo ngaphakathi kum - {textend} iluncedo ngaphaya kwamagama.

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