Izinto ezi-6 esizifundileyo kuMzimba ka-Ashley Graham's Powerful Body Isincoko esincomekayo

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Kwiiveki nje ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo, i-intanethi yaphambana ngefoto uAshley Graham eposwe kwi-Instagram ukusuka kwiseti ye Imodeli yaseMelika elandelayo ephezulu apho ayakuhlala khona njengejaji kwisizini ezayo. Enxibe i-crop top emhlophe kunye nesiketi esihambelanayo nebhatyi yesikhumba, i-snap yayibonakala imsulwa ngokwaneleyo-kwaye uAshley wayekhangeleka engakholelekiyo. Kodwa ke ii-troll zibonise ukuba lihlazo lika-Graham ngokungakhange "ajonge ngokwaneleyo" kwaye amtyhole ngokuba "ngumntu otyebileyo" (ngaba yinto leyo ?!? ukuyalela ukuba umzimba WAKHE ujongeke njani. Kodwa ngoku, uGraham uhambe inyathelo elingaphaya, ebhala isincoko esinamandla kwileta kaLenny kaLena Dunham ebizwa ngokuba yi "Shamed If I Do, Shamed If I don't." Nazi iindlela ezintandathu ezikhuthazayo:

Konke malunga nokwazi ii-angles zakho

UGraham ufana nathi-akathumeli i-selfie ade afumane enye ebetha nje i-engile elungileyo kunye ne-engile evakalelwa kukuba uyazithemba ekwabelana ngayo nabalandeli be-Instagram abayi-2.2 yezigidi. "Uninzi lwabantu alunakubeka mfanekiso oziva ngathi ubenze bazive bengaphantsi kunobuhle. Ukuba bendiyimodeli iminyaka elishumi elinesithandathu, ndiyazazi ii-angles zam, njengokuba sonke sazi iifilitha zethu esizithandayo kunye nokukhanya kunye namacala ethu alungileyo. Ndikhetha iifoto endizithandayo, "ubhale watsho. Uya kuba nzima kule mihla kunye nobudala ukuba ufumane nabani na-indoda okanye umfazi-ophosa ifoto kumajelo eendaba ezentlalo ngaphandle kokuthatha okuninzi, isihluzo, okanye olunye uhlobo lokuhlela esaziyo ukuba siya konwaba ngalo.

Yayisothusa into yokuba abalandeli bakhe ababedla ngokumxhasa bathethe amazwi akhohlakeleyo

UGraham uyazi ukuba umthetho oqhelekileyo wobhontsi kukungaze afunde izimvo-kodwa ukwazile ukuwutyeshela loo mthetho kwixesha elidlulileyo ukunceda ukuqhubekeka neqonga lakhe njengomlweli womzimba kunye nokwakha iqonga lakhe #BeautyBeyondSize. “Abalandeli bam ngabantu bokuqala endijika kubo ukuze ndifumane impendulo kuyo nantoni na endiyenzayo, ukusuka ekuyileni impahla yam yangaphantsi, isinxibo, kunye nemigca yokuqubha, ukuya kwizinto endizixoxayo kwiintetho zam zikawonke-wonke. babe Ukufunda amagqabantshintshi, utshilo uGraham. Ndiyazi ukuba amagqabantshintshi ayizukukhuthaza. Ndingumfazi ozithembileyo onolusu olungqindilili, kwaye njengemodeli eluntwini, ndikulungele ukwamkela ukugxekwa. Kodwa kwiveki ephelileyo, ndiyavuma ukuba bendinexesha elinzima lokususa abo bandithiyileyo.’

Ngenene utyebile

UGraham uyothuka kuba abantu babecaphukile kangangokuba wabonakala enciphile kwifoto ye-Instagram evela kwi Imodeli yaseMelika elandelayo ephezulu iseti. "Ukwazi ii-angles zam yinto enye, kodwa kufuneka ndibe ngumlingo ukwenza abantu bacinge ukuba ndihambe ukusuka kubukhulu be-14 ukuya kubukhulu be-6 ngeveki!" uthi. Kwaye emva koko ulahla ibhombu yenyani: "Inyaniso kukuba andilahlekanga iponti kulo nyaka. Ngapha koko, ndinzima kunokuba bendineminyaka emithathu edlulileyo, kodwa ndiyawamkela umzimba wam njengokuba unjalo namhlanje." Ukuzilolonga kwakhe akwenzelwanga ukunciphisa umzimba kodwa kukwenzela impilo. "Ukuba bendifuna ukunciphisa umzimba, ibingayi kuba sisigqibo sikabani kodwa sesam. Ndiyakuthanda ukubila kwindawo yokuzivocavoca ... I-mac 'n' cheese rhoqo emva kwethuba. " (Idibeneyo: IiCelebs ezala ukulandela ukutya okungqongqo)

Umjikeloyomzimbaukuhlazeka kufuneka kuphele

Ukuyibeka ngokuthobekileyo, uGraham "ungaphezulu kwayo" xa kufikwa kumjikelo ombi wokuhlazisa umzimba-kufuneka uphele-kwaye uphinde uthi ayichaphazeli nje abafazi abagqithisileyo. "Ihlazo lomzimba ayithethi nje intombazana enkulu ukuba ifihle. Izama ukundihlaza ngokusebenza. Inika igama elithi 'skinny' igama elibi. Kukufuna ukuba ndibe ne-plus size, okanye ukucinga ukuba ndikhulelwe ngenxa yezinto ezithile. isisu, "utshilo uGraham. "Luhlobo luni lomzekelo esiwumisela amantombazana amancinci kunye nokuzithemba kwabo ukuba abantu abadala bakwi-Instagram bebiza abanye abantu basetyhini 'ngamagwala' okunciphisa umzimba, okanye 'amabi' ngokutyeba kakhulu?"

"Ukongezaubungakanani"yileyibhile-hayi ukuba ungubani

Ngelixa uGraham evuma ukuba ewe, ngumfazi ojijayo, ngumzi-mveliso wakhe omnike ilebheli "imodeli" kunye noluntu olumbize ngokuba ngumfazi "odibanisa" ubukhulu. Kwaye unomyalezo owomeleleyo wokuwuthumela malunga nawo: Ndilapha kubo bonke abantu basetyhini abangaziva bekhululekile kulusu lwabo, abafuna ukukhunjuzwa ukuba imizimba yabo eyahlukileyo mihle! " Kwaye uGraham uyayiqonda kabukhali into yokuba umele umfanekiso wobuhle osoloko ukhutshelwa ngaphandle kumajelo eendaba aqhelekileyo kwaye uyazi ukuba ukhuthaza abantu basetyhini abathi "xa bejonga kum, bazibone, mhlawumbi yiyo loo nto bendibona nditya i-cheeseburger yenza abanye abantu bazive belungile ngokutya nantoni na abayifunayo."

Lixesha lokuba mijortshintsha

Ekuphela kwendlela esinokuthi siyitshintshe ngayo le ncoko kwaye sitshintshe indlela esithetha ngayo ngemizimba yethu kunye nemizimba yabanye kukujonga izenzo zethu. UGraham uyachaza: "Asinakukwazi ukwenza utshintsho de siqaphele kwaye sihlole izenzo zethu. Ukuba ubona omnye umfazi ethatha i-selfie okanye ifoto ekwisuti yakhe yokuhlamba, mkhuthaze kuba eneneni uziva emhle, ungamniki icala. iliso kuba ucinga ukuba uziva enzima kakhulu. Kutheni ukuchitha ixesha kunye namandla ekhupha ukungakhathali? Masikhathazeke ngemizimba yethu.

Umgca wokugqibela wesincoko sikaGraham ushwankathela konke kwiphakheji enye entle, ecocekileyo: "Umzimba wam NGUMZIMBA WAM. Ndiza kufota."

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