Yintoni omele uyenze xa usana luwile ebhedini

Umxholo

• Ufanele wenze ntoni kuqala
• Iimpawu kufuneka uye kwi-ER
• Iimpawu zempixano
• Yintoni omele uyenze emva kokuwa
• Ukuthintela ukwenzakala
• Ukuthatha

Njengomzali okanye umkhathaleli omncinci, unezinto ezininzi ezenzekayo, kwaye umntwana usenokuba uyazulazula kwaye uhamba-hamba rhoqo.

Nangona usana lwakho lunokuba luncinci, ukukhaba imilenze kunye neengalo ezivuthayo kunokuzisa iingozi ezininzi, kubandakanya umngcipheko wokuwa phantsi emva kokuba uzibeke ebhedini yakho.

Ngelixa ukuthintela yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuphepha ukuwa, iingozi zinokwenzeka kwaye ziyenzeka.

Siyazi ukuba kunokoyikisa xa usana lwakho luwa ebhedini! Nantsi indlela onokuyisingatha ngayo le meko.

Ufanele wenze ntoni kuqala

Okokuqala, musa ukuphakuzela. Ukuba kukho iimpawu zoxinzelelo, ukuzama ukuhlala uzolile kuya kwenza ukuba kube lula ukujongana nazo. Kungenzeka ukuba ukuwa kunokubangela ukuba umntwana wakho alahlekelwe yingqondo.

Banokubonakala beqhwalele okanye belele, emva koko bahlala beziqonda ngokukhawuleza. Nokuba yeyiphi na, le yimeko yongxamiseko kwezonyango. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala enengozi enkulu entloko, njengeempawu ezibonakalayo zokopha okanye ukungabikho zingqondweni, tsalela umnxeba kwi-911 okanye iinkonzo zongxamiseko zasekuhlaleni ngokukhawuleza.

Musa ukuhambisa umntwana wakho ngaphandle kokuba basengozini ekhawulezileyo yokwenzakala ngakumbi. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho uyagabha okanye ubonakala ngathi uxhuzula, baphendule kwicala labo, ugcine intamo ithe nkqo.

Ukuba ubona ukopha, thambisa uxinzelelo ngobunono ngegeyisi okanye itawuli ecocekileyo okanye ilaphu de kufike uncedo.

Ukuba usana lwakho alubonakali lonzakele kakhulu, ngobumnene ululande kwaye ubathuthuzele. Baza koyika kwaye boyike. Ngelixa uthuthuzela, jonga entloko yabo ukujonga iimpawu ezibonakalayo zokulimala.

Kuya kufuneka ubize ugqirha wakho emva kokuwa ebhedini ukuba umntwana wakho ungaphantsi konyaka omnye.

Ukuba awuboni ngokukhawuleza nayiphi na imiqondiso yokwenzakala, beka umntwana wakho ngokukhululeka. Nje ukuba umntwana wakho azole, uya kufuna nokuhlola umzimba wabo ukuba awenzakalanga okanye ukonzakala.

Iimpawu kufuneka uye kwi-ER

Nokuba umntwana wakho akakhange alahlekelwe sisazela okanye abonakale ngathi wenzakele kakhulu, kusekho imiqondiso enokufuna uhambo oluya kwigumbi likaxakeka. Oku kubandakanya:

• ingathuthuzeleki
• Ukudumba kwendawo ethambileyo ngaphambili kwentloko
• ngokuqhubekayo bezihlikihla entloko
• ndiyozela kakhulu
• inencindi yegazi okanye emthubi ephuma empumlweni okanye ezindlebeni
• isikhalo esiphakamileyo
• utshintsho kubhalansi okanye ukulungelelanisa
• abafundi abangalinganiyo
• uvakalelo ekukhanyeni okanye kwingxolo
• ukugabha

Ukuba uyaluphawula olu tshintsho, khangela ingqalelo engxamisekileyo ngokukhawuleza kangangoko kunokwenzeka.

Ukuba uqaphela nayiphi na impawu yokuba umntwana wakho wenza ngokungaqhelekanga - okanye uziva nje ngathi kukho into engalunganga-funa unyango kwangoko. Ngokuqinisekileyo kungcono ukukhuseleka kunokuba nosizi kulo mzekelo.

Oko kwathiwa, ngelixa kubalulekile ukugcina umntwana wakho kwaye uqhagamshelane nodokotela njengoko kufuneka, gcinani engqondweni uninzi lweentsana alugcini ukulimala okubalulekileyo okanye ukuphazamiseka kwentloko ekuwa phantsi kombhede.

Iimpawu zempixano

Nokuba usana lwakho alubonakalisi kwangoko okanye malunga neempawu zokulimala, kunokwenzeka (kodwa akuqhelekanga) ukuba banokuba nesiphithiphithi esingabonakalisi zimpawu kwangoko.

Ingxubusho kukulimala kwengqondo okunokuchaphazela ukucinga komntwana wakho. Ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho akakwazi ukukuxelela indlela abavakalelwa ngayo, ukuqonda iimpawu zokuxubana kunokuba nzima.

Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyijongile kukuhlehla kwezakhono zophuhliso. Umzekelo, umntwana oneenyanga ezi-6 ubudala akanako ukubhabha.

Olunye utshintsho ekufuneka ulubukele lubandakanya:

• ukuba nengxabano xa usitya
• utshintsho kwiindlela zokulala
• ukukhala ngakumbi kwindawo ethile kunezinye izikhundla
• ndilila ngaphezu kwesiqhelo
• ngokuya esiba nomsindo

Ingxubusho ayikuphela kokonzakala okunokwenzeka emva kokuwa. Ukulimala kwangaphakathi kunokubandakanya:

• ukukrazula imithambo yegazi
• amathambo okakayi
• umonakalo kwingqondo

Iyaphindaphinda into yokuba ukubetha kunye nokulimala kwangaphakathi akuqhelekanga kwiintsana emva kokuwa ebhedini. Kwaye khumbula, ayiqhelekanga into yokuba iintsana zitshintshe iipateni zokulala okanye ixesha lokuxakaniseka njengoko zihamba ngamanqanaba okukhula!

Ke sebenzisa esona sigwebo sakho silungileyo, kwaye ujonge kugqirha wabantwana ukuba unayo nayiphi na inkxalabo.

Yintoni omele uyenze emva kokuwa

Emva kwako nakuphi na ukuwa, umntwana wakho uya kuthi enze ulale. Unokufuna ukubuza ugqirha ukuba ngaba kufuneka uvuse umntwana wakho rhoqo rhoqo ukuze ujonge iimpawu zempixano.

Usana lwakho lunokuba noburhalarhume ngakumbi, lube nexesha elifutshane lokujonga, okanye ugabhe. Intloko kunye neentlungu zinokwenzeka.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho uphefumla kwaye wenza ngendlela eqhelekileyo, ukuvumela umntwana wakho aphumle kunokuba luncedo. Ukuba kunzima ukuvuka okanye abanako ukuvuswa ngokupheleleyo ngexesha eliqhelekileyo, tsalela umnikezeli wezempilo.

Unokucela ugqirha womntwana wakho ukuba kufanele ukuba unike umntwana wakho amayeza entlungu kwaye yeyiphi idosi.

Ugqirha womntwana wakho uya kuthi kwakhona acebise ngokuchasene nokudlala ngokurhabaxa okanye ngamandla ukunciphisa umngcipheko wokulimala ngakumbi ixesha elingangeyure ezingama-24. Oku kubandakanya ukunqanda ukukhwela iithoyi okanye ukunyuka.

Umdlalo ojongwa ngabantu abadala ungabandakanya:

• iibhloko
• iipuzzle
• Ukuhamba ngenqwelomoya
• Ukumamela ibali

Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhathalela abantwana, yazisa abasebenzi ngokuwa kunye nemfuno yokujongwa kufutshane.

Ukuthintela ukwenzakala

Iintsana akufuneki zibekwe kwiibhedi zabantu abadala zingagadwanga. Ukongeza kwimingcipheko yokuwa, iintsana zinokubanjiswa phakathi kombhede kunye nodonga okanye ibhedi kunye nenye into. Iibhedi zabantu abadala azihlangabezani neenqobo zokulala ezikhuselekileyo ezihlala zikhona isitrato, njengombhede oomatrasi oqinileyo kunye nephepha elisezantsi.

Ukuthintela ukuwa, gcina isandla esinye ubuncinci emntwaneni nakweyiphi na indawo, njengetafile eguqukayo okanye ibhedi yabantu abadala. Musa ukubeka umntwana wakho kwisitulo semoto okanye kwi-bouncer etafileni okanye kwenye indawo ephezulu, nokuba babotshelelwe kuyo.

Ukuthatha

Inokoyikisa xa usana lwakho luwela ebhedini. Nangona ukuwa okunjalo kunokubangela ukulimala okukhulu, akuqhelekanga. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala engonzakalanga kwaye esenza ngokwesiqhelo emva kokuwa ebhedini, kunokwenzeka ukuba balungile.

Ukuba unayo nayiphi na inkxalabo, tsalela ugqirha wakho kwaye ubuze ukuba zeziphi iimpawu onokuzibukela kunye nexesha elingakanani.

Okwangoku, khumbula ukuba abantwana abahluphayo nabaqengqelekayo banokuhamba ngokukhawuleza. Gcina iliso kumntwana wakho omncinci kwaye uhlale ngaphakathi kwengalo yakho nanini na xa besebhedini.