Ophumeleleyo "weBachelor" uWhitney Bischoff Uthetha ngeQanda eliQandayo

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Sasiliqela elimnandi kakhulu uWhitney ukususela ekuhambeni, ngokuyinxenye kuba wayenomdla kakhulu ngomsebenzi wakhe wokuba ngumongikazi wenzala (ngandlel 'ithile kunqabile kwi-franchise eyaziwa ngokukhetha abasetyhini abanemisebenzi efana "nomlobi wezemidlalo," umthandi wenja , "kunye" nomoya okhululekileyo. "). Wade wathatha Isidanga Chris Soules kwikliniki apho asebenza khona, i-Aparent IVF, ngomhla wedolophu yakhe! Ngokunyuka komkhenkce wamaqanda, sancokola noBischoff malunga nesigqibo sakhe sokukhenkcisa amaqanda akhe “njengomgaqo-nkqubo we-inshurensi,” kwaye sacofa uColleen Coughlin, i-embryologist kunye nomlawuli we-Aparent IVF, ngolunye ubuchule obongezelelweyo. Qhubeka ufunda ukuze ufumane ukuba yintoni ekufuneka uyazi malunga nokulawula ukuchuma kwakho kwikamva likaNkskz Chris Soules! (Kwaye, jonga ezi zinto zisixhenxe zibalulekileyo ukuze wazi malunga nokuqanda iqanda.)

Imilo: Yintoni eyenze wafuna ukunceda ukwenza iintsana ukuze uphile?

UWhitney Bischoff [WB]: Ndihlala ndisazi ukuba ndifuna ukuba ngumama. Njengomongikazi wokuzala, ndinethuba yonke imihla lokubhangqa imfundo yam njengomongikazi kunye nothando lwam lokufuna ukuba ngumama ngokwam ngokunceda abanye bafezekise elo phupha. Ndihlala ndisazi ukuba ndifuna ukuba ngumongikazi kwaye ndenza uphando oluninzi njengoko ndandihamba isikolo kwaye ndikhangela kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo kwaye ndakhawuleza ndafunda ukuba le nto iya kundilungela. Ndiyayithanda nje. Ihlala itshintsha; yintsimi yonyango ezayo.

Imilo: Uthethe kutshanje malunga nendlela obenamaqanda akho afriziwe ngayo (kwiminyaka emibini edlulileyo) eneminyaka engama-27. Ithini inkqubo yakho yokucinga ekhokelela kwisigqibo?

WB: Ndiyenzile kuba ndinethuba lokusebenza kuzo zonke iinkalo zokuzala, ndisebenze nesibini esisisiseko sokuzala, kodwa ndisebenze namatyala agqithisileyo apho abaguli kuye kwafuneka basebenzise umntu onikela ngeqanda lomntu wesithathu. Into endiyivileyo abantu abaninzi besithi, "Ndiyathanda ukuba ndiyazi. Ndiyathanda ukuba umntu angandixelela ukuba ndinokukhetha ukuqanda amaqanda am." Oko kum yayiyibhalbhu ehamba entlokweni yam. Ndifuna ngokwenene ukuba ndisebenze kwimpilo yam kwaye ndilawule ukuzala kwam. Kuluncedo ngokwenene ukuba ndiye ndahamba intetho kwaye njengomongikazi ukuba ndikwazi ukuxelela izigulane zam ukuba bendikwelinye icala. Iluncedo ekuchazeni le nkqubo, ndingayiphendula imibuzo yabo ngamava am obuqu, kwaye ndicinga ukuba iluncedo ngokwazi oko bebekuko.

Imilo: Sithini isicwangciso sakho samaqanda akho aqandisiweyo ngoku udibene noChris kwaye ulungele ukuqala usapho kunye?

WB: Kum, yayiyipolisi yeinshurensi; yayi malunga noxolo lwengqondo. Ithemba lelokuba akunyanzelekanga ukuba uzisebenzise (kwaye unokukhulelwa ngokwemvelo). Kodwa kumnandi ukwazi ukuba zikhona ukuba uyazifuna. Ukuba andizisebenzisi, okanye ukuba isigulana asizisebenzisi, banokunikela ngazo kuphando, bazinike esinye isibini, okanye bazilahle. Ndiceba ukuyishiya indawo yam yokugcina.

UColleen Coughlin [CC]: Ubuhle bokuba namaqanda aqanduselweyo kukuba uxinzelelo luphuma. Kuyamangalisa ukuba izibini ezithandanayo zinokuthatha isigqibo sokugqibela kwaye zakhe iintsapho zazo xa sele zilungile, hayi ngenxa yokuba ibhayoloji ibanqamisile. Ngokwenyani andicingi ukuba isibonelelo esikhulu sokuba namaqanda aqanduselweyo ngenani lomntwana elinye. Izibalo zibonisa ukuba abafazi abaninzi baya kutshata kwangethuba ukuze babe nomntwana wokuqala ukuba bakhetha, kodwa ayisingowona mqobo mkhulu lowo. Umqobo omkhulu kukungazali kwesibini. Ukongeza, ukuba isigulana siphela sinomntwana ogulayo onokuthi afune uhlobo oluthile lomnikelo komnye umntakwenu, loo maqanda aphilileyo aqanduselweyo anokufana. I-500 yeedola (ukugcina amaqanda kwindawo yokugcina) yipolisi ye-inshurensi efanelekile de wazi zonke iinketho ezinokuvela.

Ubume: Ngawaphi amabhinqa akwintanga yakho amangaliswa kakhulu kukufunda malunga nomkhenkce wamaqanda?

WB: Abahlobo bam bandibuza imibuzo emininzi kwaye eyona nto bayothusayo ngayo yindlela elula ngayo. Xa usasaza iinkalo zayo, bayakwazi ukuyiqonda kwaye bajikeleze ngeenxa zonke. Kubalulekile ukufumana igama apho malunga nokuba yintoni ukukhenkceza kweqanda kuba ngokwenene kuya kuba ngumtshintshi womdlalo. Elona xesha lilungileyo lokukhenkcisa amaqanda akho kuphakathi kweminyaka engama-25 ukuya kwengama-35. Amaqanda akho ke ngawona asempilweni kwaye mancinane angaze abe ngawo. Ziya kuba ngumkhenkce ngexesha. Kwi-25 okanye i-27, umntu unokucinga ukuba "andinakukwazi ukuyihlawula" okanye "ukungabi namntwana akusoze kwenzeke kum," kodwa awukwazi ukuba ubomi buza kuphosa indlela yakho. Eli lelona xesha lilungileyo lokuyenza. Ukuba ucinga malunga nayo, sebenza kwangoko. Yiya kuthetha nomntu ngayo kwaye ufunde iinketho zakho. Imfundo ngamandla. Abafazi abaninzi bafunda malunga nokukhetha kwabo, isigqibo esingcono abanokukwazi ukusenza.

Imilo: Ngaba ukhe wathetha nabaphi na abafazi kwi Isidanga ngayo?

WB: Kwakukho okuninzi okuqhubekayo kumboniso, kodwa bekukho ubusuku obuncinci xa sithetha ngawo kwaye ndicinga ukuba ndinabantu abambalwa ebhodini ukuze bafeze amaqanda abo!

Imilo: Lunjani usuku oluqhelekileyo njengomongikazi wokuchuma lujongeka njani kuwe? Kunjani ngoku xa use LA noChris Ukudanisa neenkwenkwezi? Ngaba oko kuya kutshintsha xa ufudukela eArlington?

WB: Suku ngalunye lwahlukile, kwaye yiloo nto elwenza luchulumancise. Kodwa xa ufika kuwo, usuku lubandakanya ukufundisa abaguli, ukuphendula imibuzo yabo, nokuba ngummeli kunye nomhlobo wabo. Imalunga nokubanceda bafeze iphupha labo. Phambi kokuba ndishiye umboniso, bendisebenza nezigulana zomntu wesithathu (abaguli abasebenzisa umnikeli weqanda okanye owesibeleko) kwaye ngoku ndisebenza kunye nezigulana ezinamaqanda (izigulana ezihamba nenkqubo yokuqandusela iqanda). Ndiyakwazi ukuyenza loo nto ukude-umzekelo, ukubonisa indlela yokwenza iinaliti kwi-Skype. Itekhnoloji iyamangalisa! Ndiyayithanda le nto kwaye andizicwangcisi ngokushiya intsimi kwaphela, kwaye andizicwangcisi ngokushiya uMzali IVF. Ndiqeqeshwe ngabona babalaseleyo kwaye ndinethamsanqa lokunikwa eli thuba lokusebenza kude, nokuba ndiseArlington. Kuya kubakho ukuhamba kancinci ukuya ngapha nangapha ukuya eChicago xa kufuneka njalo.

CC: Konke malunga nokufumana umntu olungileyo, kwaye ujonge nantoni na onokuyenza ukugcina umntu olungileyo. Asimvumeli uWhitney abaleke kuthi nokuba kwenzeka ntoni emva koko!

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