Umntwana omncinci ochukumisa isisu sakhe: nini ukukhathazeka?

Umxholo

• Ukubala njani ukuhamba kosana olungekazalwa
• Ungalukhuthaza njani usana lwakho ukuba luhambe
• Buyintoni ubungozi bokuncipha kwentshukumo

Ukwehla kweentshukumo zomntwana kuyakhathaza xa kukho iintshukumo ezingaphantsi kwesine ngeyure, ngakumbi kwabasetyhini abanembali yoxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu, isifo seswekile, iingxaki kwi-placenta, utshintsho kwisibeleko okanye ukusetyenziswa kwezinto ezinje ngotywala okanye icuba.

Ukuhamba kweentsana kunokuqala ukuvela kwiveki ye-16 yokukhulelwa, kodwa kukho abantu basetyhini abanokuziva ukushukuma kamva, malunga neeveki ezingama-22, kuxhomekeka ekubeni kukukhulelwa kokuqala kunye nendawo yeplasenta. Nangona kunjalo, ukubala iintshukumo kuhlala kulula kuphela emva kweveki yama-28 yokukhulelwa. Qonda xa kuqhelekile ukuqala ukuva usana lushukuma.

Xa usana lunokuhla okuphawuleka kwinani leentshukumo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubonana nengcali yokubelekisa, njengoko inokubonisa ukuba umntwana ufumana ioksijini encinci, kwaye kufanelekile ukuba uchaze unobangela kwaye uqalise unyango olufanelekileyo.

Ukubala njani ukuhamba kosana olungekazalwa

Ukubala kwentshukumo kufuneka kusoloko kwenziwa ngexesha losuku xa umntwana esebenza kakhulu, ngesiqhelo emva kwesidlo. Iintshukumo ezenziweyo ngeyure e-1 kufuneka zibalwe, i-avareji iphakathi kweentshukumo ezi-4 ukuya kwezi-6 ngeyure, kodwa inokufikelela kwiintshukumo ezili-15 okanye ezingama-20 ngeyure.

Enye indlela yokubala kukujonga ukuba kuthatha ixesha elingakanani na ukwenza iintshukumo ezili-10, kwaye kufuneka ufune uncedo lonyango ukuba iintshukumo ezili-10 zithatha ngaphezulu kweeyure ezi-2 ukugqiba.

Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba abanye abantu basetyhini bayayiqhela intshukumo yokuhamba komntwana kwaye abakuqapheli ukuhamba kwayo, okunokudideka kunye nokuhla kweentshukumo zomntwana, kwaye ke kubalulekile ukuba unikele ingqalelo ngexesha lokubala.

Ukurekhoda inani leentshukumo, ikhalenda inokusetyenziswa ngolu hlobo lulandelayo:

Ungalukhuthaza njani usana lwakho ukuba luhambe

Amanye amaqhinga anokusetyenziselwa ukukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba ahambe yile:

• Thatha ulwelo olubandayo kakhulu;
• Ukuhamba;
• Thetha emntwaneni kwaye uchukumise isisu ngezandla zakho;
• Lala kunye neentsiba zakho, zixhaswe yimilenze okanye kwibhodi eyintloko, kwaye uphumle.

Ukwehla kweentshukumo kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo isantya somntwana ngamnye, kodwa ukuba umntwana akashukumi emva kokusebenzisa ezi ngcebiso kwiiyure ezi-2, kuya kufuneka uthethe nogqirha ufumane isikhokelo esitsha okanye, ukuba kukho imfuneko, wenze iimvavanyo ukuze ubone impilo isiselo somntwana.

Buyintoni ubungozi bokuncipha kwentshukumo

Ukwehla kweentshukumo kunokubonisa ukuba usana olungekazalwa luyasokola, ngenxa yokungabikho kweoksijini okanye izakhamzimba ukugcina ukukhula kakuhle. Ukuba ayinyangwa ngokukhawuleza, uxinzelelo lomntwana kunokubangela ukuzalwa kwangaphambi kwexesha kunye nokonakala kwenkqubo yemithambo-luvo yomntwana, kubangele iingxaki ezinje ngengxaki yengqondo okanye isifo sokuwa.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukukhulelwa kubekwe esweni ngokuchanekileyo kwaye lwenziwa lonke uviwo lwangaphambi kokubeleka, nayiphi na ingxaki kwimpilo-ntle yomntwana ichongwa kwangethuba, iququzelela unyango lwayo. Ukongeza, kubalulekile ukucima onke amathandabuzo nogqirha kwaye ufumane uncedo xa utshintsho lubonwa.