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• Ingcinga yokuba iinwele zam "azinqweneleki" yayiyinkolelo endikhule ngayo
• Ukukhula "phezulu" kuzisa kuphela amathuba okuba sesichengeni kunye neentlungu
• Ukugoba ubuhle akuyiyo intlungu. Sisihogo.

Ngokundixelela ukuba iinwele zam "zazinjenge-pube," babezama nokuthi iinwele zam zendalo azifanele zibekhona.

Impilo kunye nokuphila kakuhle kuchaphazela ngamnye wethu ngokwahlukileyo. Eli libali lomntu omnye.

"Ndiyagula kakhulu kukubona iifoto zeenwele zakho ezinje nge-pube kunye ne-sh * tty lipstick."

Ngaphandle komyalezo omfutshane ongaziwayo ondigxeka ngenxa yokuba ndingumfazi "ombi" kunye nentatheli, yayiyinkcazo ethile eyandijongayo.

Umyalezo wawuza kubakhohlakala ngabom kwaye ungqale ngqo.

Ekuhlaleni, ii-pubes azifuneki kwaye azinqweneleki. Njengabafazi siqhushumbiswa yingxelo-ukusuka kumanqaku ephephancwadi ukuya kwizibhengezo- ukuba iinwele zethu zasesidlangalaleni yinto eza kugxothwa.

(Jonga nje izibalo: Kwabafazi abangama-3,316, iipesenti ezingama-85 zisusile iinwele zabo zangasese ngandlela thile. Ngelixa iipesenti ezingama-59 zisithi zisusile iinwele zabo zangasese ngenxa yenjongo yococeko, iipesenti ezingama-31.5 bathi bazisusile iinwele zabo kuba "zazinomtsalane ngakumbi" ).

Ke ngoku besithi iinwele zam zazifana neenwele zasesidlangalaleni, babesenza inqaku lokuba neenwele zam nazo zazicaphukisa ukujonga- ukuba ndiziva ndineentloni ngobume bendalo.

Njengokuba uninzi lwabasetyhini abanayo nayiphi na imbonakalo yobukho beendaba zosasazo besazi, ngakumbi kuthi kuthi kumajelo eendaba, ukubekwa phantsi kwetroli ayisiyonto intsha. Ngokuqinisekileyo ndikhe ndafumana isabelo sam esifanelekileyo senzondo.

Rhoqo kunokuba kungenjalo, ndinokuyihleka njengokuhlekisa komntu othile onelishwa.

Kodwa ngelixa ndikhululekile ngee-curls zam ezingama-32, yayiluhambo olude lokufikelela kweli nqanaba lokwamkelwa komntu.

Ingcinga yokuba iinwele zam "azinqweneleki" yayiyinkolelo endikhule ngayo

Iinkumbulo zam zokuqala zeenwele zam phantse zihlala zibandakanya ukungahambi kakuhle ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo ngandlela thile.

Indoda endandifunda nayo eyandibuza ukuba ingaba zezam iinwele ezantsi phaya Utshatise into ebisentloko yam. Umchebi weenwele owandingxolayo, njengoko ndandihleli kwisitulo salon, ngenxa yokungahoyi umva wentloko yam njengoko babesika iziqwenga ezaziguquke zaziinkwantyo.

Abantu abaninzi esingabaziyo- bahlala bebafazi-abaziva benesizathu sokuchukumisa iinwele zam kuba "bafuna ukubona ukuba ibiyinyani na."

Kwaye loo maxesha xa abo ndandifunda nabo babebambelele ngokungathandabuzekiyo kwizinto zam ezijikelezayo njengoko ndandihleli eklasini.

Nangona izalamane zam zandinyanzela ukuba ndifunde ukuxabisa into endiyisikelelweyo ngemfuza, kwakusekho umsantsa ongachazwanga phakathi kwam nabafazi kusapho lwam.

Ngelixa mna notata besabelana ngee curls ezifanayo eziqinileyo, wonke umntu wasetyhini osapho lwam wayedlala mnyama, evala iilokhwe zaseMpuma Yurophu. Nangona iifoto zosapho zikucacisile ukungangqinelani phakathi kwam nezihlobo zam zowasetyhini, yayikukusilela kwabo ukuqonda ngendlela yokunyamekela iinwele ezifana nezam eziye zawusa ekhaya umahluko.

Kwaye ke bendishiyeke ngaphezulu nangaphantsi ukuba ndizibonele ngokwam izinto.

Isiphumo sasidla ngokukhathazeka kunye neinyembezi. Iinwele zam nazo zadlala indima enkulu ekwandiseni uxinzelelo lwam oluninzi olunxulumene nomzimba, olwaluya kuba mandundu ngokuya ndikhula.

Okwangoku ujonge ngasemva, ayothusi kwaphela into yokuba iinwele zam zaba nempilo entle engqondweni.

Uphando lubonakalise amaxesha ngamaxesha ukuba umfanekiso womzimba kunye nempilo yengqondo zinxibelelene. Kwaye ndaya kubude obukhulu ukwenza ukuba iinwele zam zingabonakali kakuhle, ukuzama nokuphikisana nokuxhonywa komzimba wam.

Ndikhuphele iibhotile kunye neebhotile zedep gel ukugcina ii curls zam zicabalele kangangoko. Uninzi lwemifanekiso yam evela kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo emva kwexesha ibonakala ngathi ndiza kuphuma nje kwishower.

Nanini na xa ndinxiba i-ponytail, ndandiye ndicofe iinwele zosana ezazingqonge isikhumba sam. Baza kuphantse bahlala bephindaphinda ukuze benze umgca we-coorkscrews.

Kwakukho nomzuzu omnye wokuphelelwa lithemba apho ndajika ndaya kwisinyithi somzali womhlobo wam ngelixa ndilungiselela semi-formal. Ivumba leenwele ezivuthayo lisandikhathaza nanamhlanje.

Ukukhula "phezulu" kuzisa kuphela amathuba okuba sesichengeni kunye neentlungu

Ukuqala kwam ukuthandana, inkqubo yavula iseti entsha yoxinzelelo lomzimba.

Ngenxa yokuba ndiqhele ukulindela okona kubi, ndichithe iminyaka ndizama zonke iimeko ezahlukileyo, ezibulalayo, kunye nezona zinokwenzeka - uninzi lwazo lwalunxulunyaniswe neenwele zam.

Sonke sifunde ii-anecdotes ezininzi malunga nokuba abantu babe neentloni ngomlingane wabo - umntu omnye, ngokwethiyori, omele ukuba uyakuthanda, ngenxa yakho.

Kwiminyaka yam yokwakha, ngaphambi kwexesha legolide kwimithombo yeendaba zentlalo kunye neengcinga zokucinga, la mabali ekwabelwana ngawo phakathi kwabahlobo njengezikhokelo zendlela yokwenza nokwamkelwa. Kwaye ndandizazi kakhulu, ezazingancedi ngexhala lam.

Khange ndikwazi ukuzibamba ekucingeni iqabane lam lisabela ngendlela efanayo xa ndibona ukungakhathali, ngaphandle kolawulo, into yokuqala kwizinwele zohlobo lwakusa okokuqala.

Ndibe nomfanekiso ngqondweni wendawo apho ndibuze khona umntu othile, kuphela ukuba bahleke ebusweni bam kuba… ngubani onokuthandana nomntu obukeka njengam? Okanye omnye umboniso, apho lo mfo wazama ukuqhuba iminwe yakhe ngeenwele zam, kuphela ukuba abambeke kwi-curls zam, adlale njengesiqhelo somdlalo weqhekeza.

Ingcinga yokugwetywa ngale ndlela yandoyikisa. Nangona le nto ingazange indiyeke ukuba ndithandane, yadlala indima enkulu ekwandiseni indlela endandingazithembi ngayo ngomzimba wam ngelixa ndikubudlelwane bam obunzulu.

Ukungena kwabasebenzi kundinike nesizathu esingakumbi soxinzelelo. Iinwele kuphela endandizibonile ezazinombhalo “wobungcali” zazingajongi njengezinokuphindaphindwa ziinwele zam.

Ndinexhala lokuba iinwele zam zendalo ziya kuthathwa njengezingalunganga kuseto lobungcali.

Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, oku akukaze kube njalo - kodwa ndiyazi ukuba oku kungenzeka kube lilungelo lam njengomfazi omhlophe.

(Ndiyazi ngokulinganayo ukuba abantu abaninzi abanemibala kwizicwangciso zobungcali banamava ahluke kakhulu kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba babe ngaphezu koogxa babo abamhlophe.)

Ukugoba ubuhle akuyiyo intlungu. Sisihogo.

Kungathatha iminyaka emine yoku-ayina ngokuthe tyaba ngaphambi kokuba ndingene kwihlabathi elikhohlakeleyo leziphumzi zamachiza.

Ndisayikhumbula imvume yam yokuqala: ndijonge ekubonakaliseni kwam, ndothukile, ngelixa ndibaleka iminwe yam kwimitya yam ngaphandle kwento enye. Yayiyekile imithombo yasendle eyadubula entlonzeni yam nakwindawo yayo, imicu ecekeceke ngokugqibeleleyo.

Kwiminyaka engama-25, ndade ndayifumana inkangeleko endandiyirhalela kakhulu: eqhelekileyo.

Kwaye okwexeshana, ndandonwabile ngokwenene. Ndonwabile kuba bendisazi ukuba ndikwazile ukugoba inxalenye yomzimba wam ukuze ihambelane nemigangatho yoluntu ebekwe "njengembonakalo entle."

Ndonwabile kuba ndingakwazi ukulala ngesondo ngaphandle kokukrwela ukubuyisa iinwele zam ukuze ndingaziva ndingathandeki. Ndonwabile kuba, okokuqala ebomini bam, abantu endingabaziyo bebengafuni ukuchukumisa iinwele zam - ndingaphuma ndiye esidlangalaleni ndize nje ndidibanise.

Kwiminyaka emibini enesiqingatha, bekufanelekile ukuba ndibeke iinwele zam kukubi kakhulu kwaye ndiziva ukuba isikhumba sam sitshisa kwaye sirhawuzelele yimichiza. Kodwa ulonwabo xa lufunyenwe ngokuzingca okunjalo ludla ngokuba nemida yalo.

Xa ndijonga ngasemva, ngoku ndinokuchaza loo mava njengesihogo.

Ndibethe umda wam ngelixa ndisebenza e-Abu Dhabi. Ndandisandula ukuqalisa indima entsha kwiphephandaba elikhulu lolwimi lwesiNgesi kwaye ndandikwizindlu zangasese zabafazi xa ndandiva oogxa bam ababini bethetha. Omnye wayenenwele yendalo efanayo njengoko ndandikhe ndenza kwaye omnye waphendula kuye ngendlela iinwele zakhe ezimangalisa ngayo.

Kwaye wayenyanisile.

Iinwele zakhe zabonakala zingakholeki. Yayingumboniso wesipili weenwele zam zangaphambili: iirhasi zasendle, eziqinileyo eziwela emagxeni akhe. Kuphela wayebonakala ekhululekile ngokupheleleyo kuye.

Ndaziva ndililolo lokuzisola phezu kwam njengoko ndandibalisa ixesha kunye namandla endandikade ndawachitha ndoyisa eyona nto ndandiyithanda ngoku. Ngethuba lokuqala ebomini bam, ndaphoswa zii curls zam.

Ukususela kuloo mzuzu, ndiza kuqhubeka ndichitha iminyaka emibini enesiqingatha elandelayo ndikhulisa iinwele zam. Ngokuqinisekileyo bekukho amaxesha apho bendilingeka ukuba ndibuyele ekulungelelanisweni kwamachiza ngenxa yokuba iinwele zam bezibonakala zibi.

Kodwa olu khulo lwalungaphezulu kakhulu kunokwasemzimbeni. Ndixhathisile.

Ndithathe isigqibo sokwenza umsebenzi wam wasekhaya ngokufunda kwiibhloko zeenwele zendalo. Ndinabafazi abaninzi abahle ukuba ndibabulele, kunye nabasetyhini abaninzi endibethileyo incoko esidlangalaleni, bonke abo bandincedileyo ukuba ndifunde ukukhathalela iinwele zam.

Ukucinga ngasemva kwinto endandiyiyo ngaphambili kunye nendlela endandiza kuphendula ngayo kumagqabantshintshi athelekisa ii-curls zam "neenwele ze-pubic," ndiyazi ukuba bendiya kuphazamiseka.

Kodwa indawo encinci kum ibiya kuziva ngathi izimvo ziyafaneleka-ukuba ngandlela thile, kuba andikwazi ukuthobela imigangatho yobuhle ebekiweyo, bendifanelwe bububi obu.

Le yinto ebuhlungu.

Ngoku, nangona kunjalo, nangona amagqabantshintshi ebengekho buhlungu kangako, ndikwindawo apho ndinokubona ngokucacileyo ukuba amagama abawakhethileyo ayandicinezela kulindelo lobuhle boluntu.

Ngokufunda ukungayikhathaleli le migangatho inetyhefu, ndiyakwazi ukukhupha izimvo ezinje ngezi - kokubini kwabanye kunye nokuzithemba kwam- kwaye endaweni yoko, ngoku ndingakhululeka ngayo yonke into endenza yona, mna, ukusuka sh * I-tty lipstick kwiinwele zendalo.

U-Ashley Bess Lane ngumhleli oguqukileyo waba ngumhleli oguqukayo. Mfutshane, unoluvo, uyayithanda i-gin, kwaye unentloko egcwele iingoma zomculo ezingenamsebenzi kunye neengcaphuno zeemovie. Uqhubeke Twitter.