Izibonelelo ezothusayo zokukhulelwa kubhubhane

Umxholo

• Kwakungafuneki ndifihle isisu sam
• Akukho mntu uqagela isimilo sam
• Ndingahlanza ekhayeni lam (enkosi kakhulu)
• Ukulala kunye nosuku lweveki kuyenzeka
• Akukho sidingo seempahla zokubeleka ezibizayo
• Ndingakhangeleka ngathi kukungcoliseka okushushu endikuvayo
• Ukutyelela ngokukhawuleza kogqirha
• Akukho msebenzi wokuhamba!
• Akukho sisu sichukumisayo okanye izimvo zomzimba
• Iingcebiso ezingacelwanga zomzali
• Akukho bantu basekhaya bangafunekiyo emva kokubeleka
• Ixabiso leedola !!
• Ukufumana ixesha elininzi nonyana wam ngaphambi kokuba usapho lwethu lukhule

Andifuni ukuthomalalisa iingxaki - zininzi. Kodwa ukujonga kwicala eliqaqambileyo kundikhokelele kwezinye izinto ezingalindelekanga zokukhulelwa kwendyikitya yokufa.

Njengabafazi abaninzi abalindeleyo, bendinombono ocacileyo wokuba ndifuna ukukhulelwa kwam. Akukho zingxaki, ukugula kwasekuseni okuncinci, ukulala okuhle phambi kwesiphango, kwaye mhlawumbi i-pedicure rhoqo emva kwexesha. Yikholwe okanye ungakholelwa, loo mbono awubandakanyi ubhubhane.

Ukusukela oko zaqhambukayo iindaba zokuba ilizwe lethu liyokutshixeka, onke amaqela omama wam abakhulelweyo kwimidiya yoluntu aqhuma ngenkxalabo. Kwaye kufanelekile.

INew York ikhuphe izinto ingavumeli amaqabane ukuba ajoyine oomama abazalisayo kwigumbi lokuhambisa, kwaye naxa loo nto ibhukuqiwe, uninzi lwezibhedlele lwaluthintela amaqabane okubeleka kwenye, kwaye ibathumela ekhaya emva kweeyure nje ezimbalwa emva kokubeleka.

Njengomama okwesihlandlo sesibini owenze le nto ngaphambili, bendithembele kakhulu kwi-doula yam kunye nomyeni duo ukuba banditsale kwakhona kubasebenzi. Andikwazi nokuyiqonda into yokuba kufuneka ndibuyele ekuzalweni okunzima ngelixa ndijongana nomntwana okhalayo kwigumbi elinyanzelekileyo esibhedlele ngobusuku bonke ngaphandle komyeni wam ecaleni kwam.

Kwakukho nenkxalabo malunga nokuba abazali bethu bazokubona nini umzukulwana wabo omtsha, okanye ukhuseleko lokuncika kubo ukuze bancede nonyana wam oneminyaka emi-2 kwiiveki emva kokuzalwa.

Ngelixa ukukhulelwa kufanele ukuba kube lixesha elinomdla elizaliswe ziifoto zokubeleka kunye neeleta ezisikhumbuza ukuba zeziphi iziqhamo umntwana wethu azilingana nobukhulu, ngamanye amaxesha bendixakeke kakhulu kukukhathazeka, ndiyalibala xa kufanelekile.

Ukundinceda ndityhalele phambili kwaye ndibethelele kwezi veki zokungaqiniseki ngaphambili, ndenze umzamo owongezelelweyo wokufuna izinto ezimangazayo zala mava angaqhelekanga siwabizayo ukukhulelwa kwendyikityha yokufa.

Kwakungafuneki ndifihle isisu sam

Uyazi ukuba yintoni eyayintle ngokwenene? Ukukwazi ukuvumela (ngokukhawuleza) ukukhula kwam kwinyanga yokuqala yokuqala ukuphuma emhlabeni (kulungile, yindlu yam nje) ngaphandle kokuziva isidingo sokuyifaka kwi-Spanx okanye ukuyifihla phantsi kweejezi ezingafakwanga de ndikulungele ukuxelela umhlaba ngomntwana indlela enye.

Ngokungafaniyo nokukhulelwa kwam kokuqala, yonke ikota yokuqala bendikwazi ukunxiba iimpahla ebezilungele umzimba wam okhulayo, kwaye ndingakhathazeki ukuba abantu bazakuqala ukubeka ukubheja okuyimfihlo nokuba bendilindele okanye nditya nje ipitsa kakhulu.

Akukho mntu uqagela isimilo sam

Uyayazi into ecaphukisayo ngokubanzi malunga nendawo yokusebenzela kunye nekota yokuqala? Kuya kufuneka uhlale usiza nezizathu zokuba kutheni ungasebenzisi i-toast yokukhuthaza umntu osebenza naye okanye isampulu ye-sushi xa umenyelwe kumatheko omsebenzi kunye nemisebenzi.

Ndinyanisa, hayi ukusela iwayini oyithandayo okanye ukuya kule ndebe yesibini yekofu ongathanda ukuba nayo ngumzabalazo wokukhulelwa ngokwawo, ubuncinci kwi-COVID-19 Life. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ndingqongwe sisilingo (kwaye ndinyanzelwe ukuba ndixoke) ngalo lonke ixesha ndikufutshane nabahlobo okanye abantu endisebenza nabo ukuze ndikhulelwe.

Ndingahlanza ekhayeni lam (enkosi kakhulu)

Owu, ukugula kwasekuseni… Yintoni le ingonwabisiyo ngokwaneleyo eyenziwayo ibangela ukubulala ngakumbi xa kusenzeka kwidesika yakho yegunjana.

Unokwenza inkohliso yokutya "ityhefu yokutya" amaxesha amaninzi, ke kuye kwamnandi ukuba ndikwazi ukuxhoma kufutshane nesihlalo sam sobukhosi se porcelain zide zidlule iimpawu.

Ukulala kunye nosuku lweveki kuyenzeka

Andazi ukuba ngaba kukusebenzela-ekhaya kunye nomzali-umntwana-ujuggle, okanye ukuba kukudinwa nje okuqhelekileyo, kodwa andibonakali ngathi ndilala ngokwaneleyo. Ngokukrakra, ndifumana iiyure ezi-9 eziqinileyo kwaye nangoku ngokusisiseko i-sloth engasebenziyo ngexesha lesidlo sangokuhlwa.

Ngomzimba wam usebenza ixesha elongezelelekileyo ukukhula komntu, andinakutsho ukuba ndiyaphambana ngombono wokusebenza iiyure ezininzi "eziguqukayo" ekhaya ngaphandle kwee-alamu zakuqala ezihamba nge-5 kusasa ngeklasi okanye uhambo lweyure.

Akukho sidingo seempahla zokubeleka ezibizayo

Ukulandela umkhondo webhulukhwe? Jonga. Izikipa zikaHubby? Jonga. Izilayidi? Unjonge kwakhona. Ukwazisa umsebenzi wakho omtsha wasekhaya.

Ngokukrakra, nangona kunjalo, ekukhulelweni kwam okokuqala ndichithe intywenka yemali kwilokhwe ezintle, ezinobungqingili, iibhlukhwe kunye nehempe. Kodwa ngokuvalelwa ndedwa, ndingahamba ngeempahla zam zokuzonwabisa zasebusuku ndiye kwizambatho zam zasemini kwaye akukho mntu uya kuba nobulumko.

Akunyanzelekanga nokuba ndikhame iinyawo zam ezidumbileyo kwizihlangu ezifanelekileyo ezifanele iofisi. EWE!!

Ndingakhangeleka ngathi kukungcoliseka okushushu endikuvayo

Andazi ukuba oku kukhanya kuyimfihlakalo kukukhanya kwabantu bahlala bekhomba, kodwa lo mntwana ngokuqinisekileyo wenze ubuso bam baphuma kwaye khange ndizikhathaze ngokuwufihla ngokufihla ngaphezulu kwenyanga.

Kwangokunjalo, iinwele zam ziyahlanjwa kanye ngeveki (ngaphambi kwenkomfa yenkomfa yevidiyo, ewe) kwaye iingcambu zam zijongeka ngathi ngumsila we-skunk kune-ombre-chic.

Neenzipho zam? Oh nkwenkwe. Ndenze impazamo yokufumana i-shellac mani ebiza kakhulu kwiveki engaphambi kokutshixeka, kwaye ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndinyikime iminwe ye-maroon kunye ne-cuticles engaphezulu koko.

Phambi kwe-COVID, bendiza kuthintela, kodwa ndiziva ndilungile ngokuba nobunewunewu bokujongeka ngathi ndonwabile njengoko ndiziva.

Ukutyelela ngokukhawuleza kogqirha

Ekukhulelweni kwam okokuqala, bendihlala ndilinda ukuya kuthi ga kwiiyure ezi-2 emva kwexesha lam lokubonwa ukuze ndibone ugqirha wam. Ngoku? Yonke into inexesha lomzuzu ukuze ndibonwe amaxesha emva kokuba ndihleli phantsi (kwigumbi lokulinda ngokwasemzimbeni / ekuhlaleni). IBHONASI.

Akukho msebenzi wokuhamba!

Masenze into ethe ngqo - kundithathe iiveki ukuba buhlungu ngokuphulukana nosapho lwam luhambo olunelanga lwaseCalifornia phakathi ku-Matshi, ngenxa yoko ndiyakuthanda ukuhamba. Kodwa ngomsebenzi? Ukupasa nzima.

Akukho kwanto imnandi ngokubhabha kabini ngemini enye ngaphandle kosapho okanye izihlobo zakho, ukuze nje ufike kwindawo ethile (udiniwe) wenze umsebenzi. Kwaye loo nto ayithathi qatha nokudumba kunye nokuphelelwa ngamanzi okuhamba neenqwelo moya ezikhulelweyo. NDILUNGILE ukuba ndibone ezi zibophelelo zomsebenzi zihlehlisiwe ngokungapheliyo.

Akukho sisu sichukumisayo okanye izimvo zomzimba

Nokuba yinto elindelweyo, eqhelekileyo, kunye nenxalenye emangalisayo yokukhulelwa, ukubukela umzimba wakho utshintshe ngokukhawuleza kunokuba kungonwabisi, kwaye kuxhalabise uninzi lwabasetyhini.

Ngelixa kungathathelwa ingqalelo njengobukrwada kunye nokungenantlonelo ukuphawula ngokufumana ubunzima komfazi - ungaze ucinge ngenene UKUKHATHALELA isisu sakhe - nangaliphi na elinye ixesha lobomi, ngexesha lokukhulelwa, ngasizathu sithile, yile nto nje abantu abayenzayo!

Nokuba izimvo ngokucacileyo zinentsingiselo kwaye iigraphines zesisu kuthiwa ziyathandeka, zinokukwenza uzive ukhululekile kwi-AF.

Andiqondi ukuba ndiye ndayiqonda indlela abantu abaya kuphawula ngayo emzimbeni wam okhulayo de ndiyeke ukubona abantu ebomini, kwaye xa iFaceTime okanye i-Zoom angle indinqumle ngaphantsi kwesifuba, abantu abayizisanga.

Kuhle ukuba abantu bangabi bandijonga umzimba ngawo onke amathuba kwaye bajonge ubuso bam - hayi isisu sam - xa sithetha!

Iingcebiso ezingacelwanga zomzali

Kulungile, kunjalo, uninazala kunye nomama bakho ngokuqinisekileyo Ndisaza kukuxelela malunga nokuba kutheni bebelencancisa, umsebenzi wabo ngaphandle kweziyobisi, okanye indlela yokusongela usana ngeFaceTime. Kodwa ukunxibelelana kobuso ngobuso kwabantu okumbalwa, lixa lincinci ixesha lokuthetha okuncinci okungafunekiyo malunga nomntwana wakho ongekazalwa.

Ngokukhawuleza ndaya kuzifihla, ndayeka ukuva izinto ezinje, "Owu ndiyathemba ukuba le yintombazana!" okanye "Kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba unyana wakho uhlala kakuhle kukhathalelo ngaphambi kokuba kufike usana olubini!" Ngoku, le mizuzwana imbalwa sinayo yokunxibelelana noogxa, usapho okanye izihlobo zipakishwe zizinto zokwenyani esemthethweni imiba (umzekelo, hayi isini somntwana wam ongekazalwa).

Ukhulelwe okanye akunjalo, ngaba sonke singavuma nje ukuba intetho encinci encinci yeyona nto iphambili kubomi be-COVID?

Akukho bantu basekhaya bangafunekiyo emva kokubeleka

Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuthi thina bangabazali besibini okanye besithathu, ukungabinabantu abasondeleyo ukonwabisa abantwana bethu kunye nabantwana abadala yingcinga enkulu. Kodwa ukuba kukho naluphi na ulungelelwaniso lwesilivere ekuhlukanisweni ekuhlaleni, kukuba unesizathu esisemthethweni sokugcina iindwendwe ezingamkelekanga kubuncinci obugqithisileyo.

Ngelixa ezinye iindwendwe ziyazi imithetho engaziwayo yokundwendwelwa kwabantwana abasandul 'ukuzalwa (umz. Ukuzisa ukutya, imizuzu engama-30 okanye ngaphantsi, hlamba izandla, ungamchukumisi umntwana ngaphandle kokuba uxelelwe), abanye abanalo nofifi kwaye baphela bengumsebenzi omninzi. ukonwabisa

Ngaphandle koxinzelelo lokundwendwela iindwendwe, unokufumana ixesha elininzi lokuzibandakanya nomntwana wakho omncinci, ixesha elininzi lokulala okanye ukuphumla nje, ukunganyanzelekanga ukuba unxibe, uhlambe okanye ubeke "ubuso obonwabileyo," kwaye usenokuncancisa ngokugudileyo. amava (ukuba kukwizicwangciso zakho).

Ixabiso leedola !!

Kuqala kwinto zonke, ndiyalivuma ilungelo lam elikhulu lokuqhubeka nomsebenzi nangona abanye abaninzi kwihlabathi jikelele bengenawo. Akukho zicwangciso zohlahlo-lwabiwo mali ezinokuthelekisa nelahleko enkulu kakhulu koontanga bam abajamelene nayo ngoku.

Kodwa ukuba sizama ukugxila kwizinto ezintle kuphela, mna unayo igcinwe imali eninzi ekuvalelweni enokusetyenziswa ngokuchasene nelahleko yekhaya, kunye neendleko zokufumana omnye umntwana.

Iimpahla zokubeleka, ukuphululwa ngaphambi kokubeleka, unyango lomqolo olungagqitywanga yi-inshurensi yam, ndingasathethi ke ngerejimeni yam yesiqhelo "yobuhle" - konke oku kufikelela kumakhulu eedola ongezelelweyo inyanga nenyanga.

Kwaye ngelixa iindleko zam zokutya ziphezulu, inkcitho yam yokutya iyonke iphantsi kakhulu njengoko ndingakhange ndibonwabise abathengi, ndiphume ngebrunch yeveki, okanye ndibukele umyeni wam e-odola ibhotile ephawulwe ngombala obomvu ngobusuku bangoMgqibelo.

Kwakhona, ezi ndleko zingabalulekanga zezi ngokupheleleyo Akonelanga ukogqitha ukulahleka kwemali kweentsapho eziphelelwe ngumsebenzi, kodwa ndiyathuthuzeleka xa ndicinga ngezinto ezincinci ezinokunceda.

Ukufumana ixesha elininzi nonyana wam ngaphambi kokuba usapho lwethu lukhule

Kuya kufuneka ndikuxelele, ngelixa ndisekhaya imini yonke yonke ngaphandle kokukhathalela abantwana, ukusebenza nabahlobo, ukudlala, okanye iinkqubo kube ngumceli mngeni omkhulu kuthi sonke (unyana wam, ubandakanyiwe), ndiziva ngathi ixesha elongezelelweyo nomama Utata umncedile ukuba akhule.

Oko savalela, isigama sonyana wam siqhume, kwaye ukuzimela kwakhe kundothuse ngokwenene. Bekumnandi kakhulu ukuchitha ixesha elongezelelweyo ndithanda usapho lwam olunamalungu amathathu ngaphambi kokuba sitshintshele kusapho oluxakekileyo lwabane.

Kuyafana nangokulula kubahlobo bam bokuqala bexesha lomama. Ungaphuthelwa yimini yakho yokutyela ngobusuku kunye neqabane lakho, kodwa ukuba ukuvalelwa yedwa kunokukufumanela nantoni na, kulunge ngakumbi ngexesha elinye kunye neyunithi yosapho lwakho oluncinci.

Mamela, isiphumo se-COVID-19 kwabasetyhini abakhulelweyo kusenokwenzeka ukuba asikhanyisi kangako. Ukukhulelwa sele ilixesha elibuthathaka kakhulu loxinzelelo, uxinzelelo, ukungaqiniseki, ubunzima bezezimali, ukuvavanywa kobudlelwane, kunye nokudinwa, kwaye andinakuthi ndingu hayi Ukujamelana nayo yonke le nto nangaphezulu. Kuqhelekile kwaye kufanelekile ukuziva ulusizi ukuba esi yayisisandla esingalunganga esiye sajongana naso, ke ngekhe ndifune ukunciphisa loo mava.

Kodwa ndiye ndafumanisa ukuba le yinyani yethu (ngelishwa) okwethutyana, kwaye ngelixa iihormone ezinoburhalarhume zisenza ukuba kube ngumceli mngeni, ngamanye amaxesha (sinokukhetha) apho sinokuhambisa khona iingcinga zethu. Ndilapha ndiyazama Kulukhuni ukuba ndibambe ithemba elongezelelweyo yonke imihla, kwaye ndalathise amandla am kwizinto ezincinci ezenza ukuba le meko ikhanye ngakumbi.

Ukuba unengxaki ekukhulelweni kwakho, uvalelwe wedwa okanye hayi, ukufumana uvuyo oluncinci yonke imihla, thetha nomboneleli wakho wezempilo malunga nokufumana uncedo (lokwenyani).

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