Iincwadi ezili-10 eziKhanya ngokuKhanya kuTywala

Umxholo

• Xa iAA ingasebenzi kuwe: Amanyathelo anengqiqo okuyeka utywala
• Ukuphila kakuhle
• Uhambo oluya e-Echo Spring: Kubabhali nasekuseleni
• Umnyama: Kukhunjulwa izinto endizilahle ukuba ndizilibale
• Kulusizi Namhlanje
• Ubomi bokuSela: Isikhumbuzo
• Okomileyo: Isikhumbuzo
• Iphindwe kabini: Isimemo esiBini soTywala
• Ngaphantsi kwempembelelo: Isikhokelo seeNtsomi kunye neNyaniso yoTywala
• Le Ngqondo Eze: Ukulawula Utywala: Fumana Inkululeko, Phinda Ufumane ulonwabo, kwaye utshintshe uBomi bakho

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Umlutha ungabudla ubomi bakho, nokuba butywala, ziziyobisi, okanye kukuziphatha okuthile. Kubantu abanamakhoboka, ukufumana inkxaso kunokuthetha umahluko phakathi kwempumelelo kunye nokuphinda ubuye, okanye nobomi nokufa.

Malunga nabantu abazizigidi ezingama-21.5 eUnited States abaneminyaka eli-12 nangaphezulu banengxaki yokusebenzisa iziyobisi gwenxa. Oku kubandakanya abantu abazizigidi ezili-17 abaphila nengxaki yokusetyenziswa kotywala. Kwezi zigidi zabantu kwaye uninzi luyabathanda, imiphunga yokulutha nayo yonke into eyizisayo iyinyani.

Siqokelele ezona ncwadi zilungileyo kubantu abanomlutha kunye nabo babathandayo.

Xa iAA ingasebenzi kuwe: Amanyathelo anengqiqo okuyeka utywala

Ngokuka-Albert Ellis, PhD, umbhali we "Xa iAA ayisebenzi kuwe," ikhona enye indlela yokunyanga utywala. Ngaphandle kwetywala engaziwayo enceda abantu abaninzi ukuba bachache, u-Ellis uthi abantu abanotywala baneengcinga ezingenangqondo kunye neenkolelo ezibenza babotshwe likhoboka labo. Ngonyango olunemvakalelo olusengqiqweni (i-RET) - oluphuhliswe ngu-Ellis - abantu abanamakhoboka otywala banokuzicel 'umngeni ezi ngcinga kunye neenkolelo kwaye bazitshintshe ngezisempilweni.

Ukuphila kakuhle

"Ukuphila Sober" ngumthamo ongaziwayo owenzelwe ukunika abantu iziyobisi izixhobo zokuphila impilo yemihla ngemihla. Incwadi ayijongi nje ekuyekeni utywala okanye iziyobisi, kodwa ithi eli linyathelo lokuqala kuphela. Ukuchacha okwenyani kuza ngeentsuku kunye neeveki ezilandelayo, xa ucelwa umngeni wokuphila ngokucocekileyo nokuba ubomi bukuphosela ntoni na.

Uhambo oluya e-Echo Spring: Kubabhali nasekuseleni

Ku "Uhambo oluya e-Echo Spring," umbhali u-Olivia Laing ungena kubomi bababhali abaliqela kunye nobudlelwane babo notywala. U-Laing uxoxa ngo-F. Scott Fitzgerald, u-Ernest Hemingway, nangaphezulu, ephonononga indlela ubugcisa kula magcisa ahambelana ngayo nokusela kwabo. Okubaluleke ngakumbi, uyayisusa inkolelo yokuba utywala ngandlela thile inoxanduva lwabo lobukrelekrele.

Umnyama: Kukhunjulwa izinto endizilahle ukuba ndizilibale

Abantu basela ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Umbhali uSarah Hepola, ukusela yayiyindlela yokufumana isibindi kunye nokuzonwabisa. Kodwa ukusela kwakhe kwakudla ngokuphela ngokumnyama. Kwi "Blackout: Ukukhumbula izinto endizisele ukuzilibala," uHepola uthatha abafundi kuhambo lwakhe ngokunxila kunye nokubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo. Ufumanise ukuba utywala bebungabenzi ubomi bakhe bube ngcono, kodwa enyanisweni babuhlutha. Ekuvuseleleni kwakhe, wazifumanisa eyinyani.

Kulusizi Namhlanje

Umbhali uMelissa Broder waziwa ngeakhawunti yakhe ye-Twitter @sosadtoday.Yaba yindawo apho angazichazanga ngokungazinzisi iingxaki zakhe noxinzelelo, umlutha kunye nokuzithemba okuphantsi. Kwi "Usizi Lwanamhlanje," uyandisa kwii-tweets zakhe, enika abafundi ulwazi malunga nemizabalazo yakhe yemibongo kwizincoko zakhe. Lo mthamo awusebenzisi kuphela kubantu abaphila noxinzelelo kunye nokulutha, kodwa nabani na ovumayo ukuba ubomi abuhlali bonwabile kwaye bumnandi.

Ubomi bokuSela: Isikhumbuzo

Kubantu abanxila, ukujonga emva ebomini bokusela kunokuba nzima, kodwa kunokuba lunyango. UPete Hamill wakhulela eBrooklyn nabazali abasuka kwamanye amazwe. Ukuba notata olikhoboka lotywala kuyila umbono wakhe wokuba ukusela yinto eyindoda - kwasekuqaleni ebomini, waqala wasela. "Ubomi bokuSela" yabhalwa kwiminyaka engama-20 emva kokuba uHamill ethathe isiselo sakhe sokugqibela, kwaye kuyo wabelana ngendlela ukusela kwakhe kwiminyaka yakhe yokuqala kuyichaphazele ngayo indlela yakhe yokuphila.

Okomileyo: Isikhumbuzo

UAugusten Burroughs wayehlala njengabantu abaninzi abanxila: iintsuku nobusuku zijikeleza, zilangazelela isiselo esilandelayo. Kwaye njengoninzi, iBurroughs ifuna kuphela uncedo xa inyanzelwa. Kwimeko yakhe, ukukhotyokiswa butywala kwakuchaphazela umsebenzi wakhe, kwaye umqeshi wakhe wabongoza ngamandla ukuba angene kwimeko yesiqhelo. Kwi "Dry," uBurroughs ubalisa ukusela kwakhe, ixesha lokuhlala kwakhona, kunye nemiqobo awayejamelene nayo ephuma engenangqondo.

Iphindwe kabini: Isimemo esiBini soTywala

Akuqhelekanga ukuba nomntu ongaphezu komntu omnye onomlutha kwintsapho. Kwi "Double Double," umbhali oyimfihlakalo uMartha Grimes kunye nonyana wakhe, uKen, babelana ngamava abo ngokunxila. Imemo emibini kwenye, inika iihambo ezimbini ezizodwa kunye nemibono yokuphila nomlutha. Bobabini bachitha ixesha kwiinkqubo ezili-12 kunye nezixhobo zokugula, kwaye bobabini banokuthatha kwabo okwenza umsebenzi wokubuyisela.

Ngaphantsi kwempembelelo: Isikhokelo seeNtsomi kunye neNyaniso yoTywala

Kutheni ungenakuyeka nje? Mhlawumbi yenye yeentsomi ezinkulu ezijikeleze umlutha- ukuba ukuzimisela okupheleleyo kuko konke okudingayo ukuze woyise. Kwi- "Under the Impluence," ababhali uJames Robert Milam noKatherine Ketcham bayayichitha le ntsomi nezinye. Baxoxa ngokuchacha, indlela yokunceda umntu otywala, indlela yokwandisa amathuba okuba uchache ngempumelelo, kunye nendlela onokuthi ngayo ukuba wena okanye umntu omthandayo unxila. Incwadi ibishicilelwe amashumi eminyaka kwaye ihlala isisibonelelo esibalulekileyo.

Le Ngqondo Eze: Ukulawula Utywala: Fumana Inkululeko, Phinda Ufumane ulonwabo, kwaye utshintshe uBomi bakho

U-Annie Grace washiya umsebenzi wakhe njengengcali yentengiso ukuze abelane ngohambo lwakhe nokunxila. Iziphumo yile "Le ngqondo ihamba ze," isikhokelo sabantu abanotywala ukuze bafumane into ebenza bonwabe ngaphandle kwebhotile. Incwadi iphandwe kakuhle, ihlalutya indlela obusenzeka ngayo utywala, kwaye ichithe ubudlelwane phakathi kokusela kunye nolonwabo. UGrace uqinisekisa ukuba abafundi bayachacha kungaphezulu kwenkqubo enzima-yindlela eya eluvuyweni.