Izinto ezi-8 abantu ekufuneka bezazile malunga nokuyeka ukuya exesheni

Umxholo

• Izinto zokuqala kuqala
• 1. Zilungiselele ukuhlala ixesha elide
• 2.Ayonto u "hamba ngayo"
• 3. Wonke umntu wasetyhini uhlangabezana nokuyeka ukuya exesheni ngokwahlukileyo
• 4. Ayisoloko ingcono kunethuba
• 5. Kuya kubakho iinguqulelo zomzimba ekunokuba nzima ukuzilawula
• 6. I-PMS ayisoloko ihamba
• 7. Kuya kubakho ukutshintsha
• 8. Ukubetha indawo yokwenza umthambo kubalulekile - okanye, ubuncinci, ukuzonwabisa kancinci kubalulekile
• Uyinceda njani inguqu yakhe ngokuyeka ukuya exesheni

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Nangona phantse isiqingatha sabemi behlabathi singabantu ababhinqileyo, kuhlala kubonakala ngathi amadoda aqonda kancinci ngokumangalisayo malunga nokuba sexesheni kunye nokuyeka ukuya exesheni. Oko akutsho ukuba onke amadoda kufuneka aqonde ngokupheleleyo ukuyeka ukuya esikhathini - kwaye masijongane nayo, ngubani owenzayo? -Kodwa kunokuba luncedo kubafana abanabafazi abalupheleyo ebomini babo ukuze bafunde okungakumbi malunga nokuqhubeka nokuyeka ukuya exesheni. Yonke le nkqubo ayonwabanga, kubaqalayo, ke uvelwano oluncinci luya kuba ntle.

Amadoda ehlabathi: Siyazi ukuba usikhathalele, ke lixesha lokuba nixukuxe kwi-IQ yakho yokuyeka ukuya exesheni!

Izinto zokuqala kuqala

Masiqale ngeziseko: Ukuyeka ukuya exesheni kwenzeka xa umntu wasetyhini eyeka ukuba sexesheni ngokupheleleyo. Nangona kunjalo, inkqubo yokufikelela kuloo ndawo inokuthatha ixesha elide. Ngapha koko, iqala kubudala beminyaka engama-20, xa ixesha lokuya exesheni komfazi ngokuthe ngcembe lifutshane lide libe lixesha lokuphela.

Nangona izazinzulu zisazi ukuba zininzi izinto ezidlalayo, kubandakanya iihomoni, aziqinisekanga ngokupheleleyo ngonobangela wokuyeka ukuya exesheni. Kuyamkelwa ngokubanzi, nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukuya exesheni kunxulumene ngokuthe ngqo nenani elinciphayo lamaqanda obhinqileyo njengoko ekhula.

1. Zilungiselele ukuhlala ixesha elide

Owu, ucinga ukubetha ukuya exesheni kuthetha ukuba ucacile? Cinga kwakhona, kuba ukuya exesheni akwenzeki nje ngobusuku obunye. Ukuyeka ukuya exesheni okunene kuqala ngokuhamba kwexesha, okunokuthatha iminyaka.

Umfazi akakwazi ukuphefumla ukuba sele edlulile ixesha lakhe ngokukhuselekileyo de kube emva kokuba engenalo ixesha elingaphezulu konyaka, utshilo uMary Esselman, 54, umbhali waseCharlottesville, eVirginia kunye nombhali we "Kwenzeke Njani Oku? Imibongo Yabantu Abaselula Kangaka. ”

"Kwiminyaka emininzi yokuphela kwexesha, unokufumana ixesha lakho nanini na-iintsuku ezili-10 emva kokuba unayo, okanye iintsuku ezili-120 emva kokuba unayo," uyachaza. “Ngumdlalo oqashelayo. Ngamanye amaxesha kuyabonwa, ngamanye amaxesha igiza. ”

2.Ayonto u "hamba ngayo"

U-Esselman unomdla wokulumkisa abantu basetyhini (kunye namadoda) ukuba ukuya exesheni ayisiyiyo into "ohamba kuyo". Endaweni yoko, uyaphawula, uya kuhamba iminyaka yokuthintitha, ukulala ubuthongo, unxunguphalo olungaqhelekanga, kunye not-super-fun mood swings.

Uthi: "Asinakukufihla oko," utshilo. Ukwaluphala ayisiyonto ithathwayo, yinto yokwenene, kwaye into endinqwenela ukuyenza kukunceda abasetyhini abancinci ukuba bafunde okungakumbi ngayo ngaphambi kokuba ibabethe entloko- ukuya exesheni kunye nezinye izinto zendalo (kodwa eziphazamisayo) zokukhula njengomfazi. ”

3. Wonke umntu wasetyhini uhlangabezana nokuyeka ukuya exesheni ngokwahlukileyo

Akukho mfazi kwaye akukho xesha lokuya exesheni elihlala lifana, ngoko ke kubalulekile ukuba amadoda aqonde ukuba ayinguye wonke umntu wasetyhini oza kufumana izinto ezifanayo ngendlela efanayo. Abasetyhini baneembono ezahlukeneyo kwimijikelo yabo yokuya exesheni kunye namanqanaba okuthuthuzela ahlukeneyo ngemizimba yabo. Zonke ezi zinto zichaphazela amava abo ngokuya exesheni.

U-Laurie Pea, onamava okuyeka ukuya exesheni, uthi ubomi bakhe bubonakala bungaphelelwa lixesha.

"Andisakwazi ukugcina umkhondo weentsuku zam nobusuku kumjikelo wam, kwaye ndihlala ngaphandle kohlobo lomda," utshilo.

4. Ayisoloko ingcono kunethuba

Ukusuka kwimbono yamadoda, kunokubonakala ngathi umfazi uya kuba mnandi ngokungathandabuzekiyo ukuze aphelise ukwenzeka kwenyanga okumnyanzela ukuba aphume kwilungu lobufazi. Kodwa ukubonakala kunokukhohlisa.

UVictoria Fraser ulumkisa esithi: “Akusoloko kubhetele. Kumava am, kwavakala ngathi isifo sengqondo esixhalabisayo kunye nokufikisa kunomntwana kunye! ”

5. Kuya kubakho iinguqulelo zomzimba ekunokuba nzima ukuzilawula

Ukuyeka ukuya exesheni kunokubangela iimpawu ezininzi ezibonakalayo, kubandakanya iintloko, ukoma kwilungu lobufazi, kunye notshintsho kwizinwele zakho. Nangona uMichelle Nati, 51, evuma ukuba ungaze ucinge malunga nexesha lakhe lilungile, i-cons ibaluleke kakhulu kuncedo lokunxiba ii-unies ezimhlophe 24/7.

UNati ukwathi iimpawu zomzimba zokutshisa okutshisayo, inkungu yengqondo, ukukhala, kunye nokuzuza ubunzima besisu baziva ngathi "azivelanga."

6. I-PMS ayisoloko ihamba

Ukuba ucinga ukuya exesheni kuthetha ukuthi sayonara kwintuthumbo eyi-PMS, cinga kwakhona. UNati nabanye abafana naye bafumanisa ukuba endaweni yokutsiba ubomi obungenasiphelo se-PMS, ukuyeka ukuya exesheni kuye kwafana neveki enye.

"[Ifana] ne-PMS ngaphandle kwesiqabu, utshilo.

7. Kuya kubakho ukutshintsha

"Bendihlala ndibhityile, kodwa nge-54 ndiye ndafumana i-pudge engazukujikeleza esinqeni," utshilo u-Esselman. "Bendilindele ukutyeba ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile, kodwa hayi ukususwa kobunzima, ukutsalwa komxhuzulane kuyo yonke into, ukusukela kwizidlele zeapile (ukuzijika zibe ziijowls) ukuya kwilungu lobufazi lam elihle."

Ke amadoda, xa ungasahambi nokuhamba, mhlawumbi ungafunda ukuvumela izinto ziwele apho zinokuvela khona.

8. Ukubetha indawo yokwenza umthambo kubalulekile - okanye, ubuncinci, ukuzonwabisa kancinci kubalulekile

Elinye icala lesiphumo sokuyeka ukuya exesheni lelokuba abanye abantu basetyhini bathambekele ekunciphiseni imetabolism.

ULorraine Berry, elinye ibhinqa elalisabelana namava okuyeka ukuya exesheni lithi: “Ngeli thuba lokuphinda ube lixesha kuye kwaba lulutho olukhulu, ubunzima obukhulu obenzekileyo (ngaphandle kokonyuka kokutya!) Khange ibe yeyona nto ndiyithandayo. .

Uyinceda njani inguqu yakhe ngokuyeka ukuya exesheni

Ke, gents, nali ingcebiso enkulu yokugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nabasetyhini ebomini bakho, ngakumbi ngexesha lokuyeka ukuya exesheni.

Xa kuziwa kukutshintsha kwemood: Mncede asebenze ngokutshintsha kwemozulu ngokuqonda ukuba ayijoliswanga kuwe. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuzinkcinkca ngokubukela umboniso owuthandayo kunye okanye ukumnyanga ngemini ye-spa kwanele ukunciphisa umthwalo.

Xa kuziwa kwisini: Qaphela ukuba umzimba wakhe uyatshintsha. Kunye nayo, ukuzithemba komzimba wakhe, ukuqhuba ngesondo, kunye nokonwaba ngokwesondo nako kunokutshintsha. Zimiseleni ukuthetha ngezi zinto ngentlonipho, kwaye nifumane iindlela zokuthetha nabo njengesibini.

Xa kuziwa emzimbeni wakhe: Yabelana ngeeyantlukwano ozibonayo zisenzeka emzimbeni wakho. Ubudala busichaphazela sonke, kwaye kubalulekile ukuba azi ukuba ayinguye yedwa owenza utshintsho.

Xa kuziwa ekuzithembeni: Mxhase ekusebenzeni ukuba ufuna nini kwaye nini, kodwa ukuba ufuna ukonwabela ukutya okumnandi, umtyise kakuhle kwaye umxelele ukuba mhle. Kuba kunjalo!

UChaunie Brusie, i-BSN, ngumongikazi obhalisiweyo onamava kwezabasebenzi nasekuhambiseni, ukhathalelo olunzima, kunye nokonga ixesha elide. Uhlala eMichigan nomyeni wakhe nabantwana abane abancinci, kwaye ungumbhali wencwadi ethi "Tiny Blue Lines."