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Kutshanje, inkosikazi eneminyaka engama-28 ubudala yaseMinneapolis egama linguLindsay yenza izihloko zeendaba ngokubiza amadoda ekati kwiprojekthi entsha ebizwa ngokuba ngamaKhadi okuNgxothwa. Kwiwebhusayithi, unika amakhadi abantu basetyhini abanokuwakhuphela, bawaprinte, kwaye bawanike abahlukumezi. Amakhadi ajolise ekuboniseni indlela amagama abafowuli bekati abachaphazela ngayo abantu basetyhini-echaza ukuba indlela yokuziphatha ayifuni, ngaphandle kokubandakanyeka kwingxabano okanye ukungqubana. Ezimbini zeentandokazi zethu:

Siwuxhasa ngentliziyo iphela umyalezo wakhe wokuba iminxeba yekati ayisiyo "yokuncoma." (Guys, zikhona ezinye iindlela zokuthetha nabantu basetyhini kunokuthi "Hee, umhle!" Iprojekthi inika abasetyhini imvume yokuma ngenene kwaye babe nelizwi ngokuchasene nokuhlukunyezwa ezitalatweni. "

Nangona kunjalo, njengoko uLindsay ebhala kwiwebhusayithi yakhe, amakhadi ayinguye wonke umntu okanye zonke iimeko. Sacela uArthur ukuba acacise malunga nokuba kufuneka nini kwaye akufuneki ujongane nabantu abasitsalela ikati.

1. Musa:Mbhekise kuye konke ukuba ukwindawo ekude. Ukuba ukwindawo evaliweyo, imoto engaphantsi komhlaba okanye ikheshi, okanye uwedwa esitratweni, uArthur uthi akufuneki unikezele ngekhadi okanye uthethe nomntu ofowunela ikati emngciphekweni wokonyusa imeko.

2. Yenza: Thetha phezulu. Kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kokubiza ngekati ngamazwi kunye nokophula umda womzimba. "Leyo yimeko efuna impendulo ebaluleke ngakumbi," utshilo uArthur. "Ukuba umda wenyama uphukile, kufuneka ulungise ngendlela enokuzithemba." Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba ufanele ukulwa kwakhona-eqinisweni, ukufumana umzimba kufuneka kube yinto yokugqibela, u-Arthur uthi. "Sebenzisa amabinzana acacileyo, acace gca, njengokuthi" Yima. Ungandichukumisi, 'okanye' Ndiyeke, 'ngelixa ujongana namehlo ukuze ufumane umbono wakho. "

3. Musa: Mathandabuze ukubiza abasemagunyeni. "Ngokufuthi abafazi abafuni ukubiza amapolisa ngenxa yokuba abafuni ukugqithisa, kodwa naliphi na ixesha uziva usengozini kufuneka uphulaphule ithuku lakho," kusho u-Arthur. Uthi uhlala esiva kumaxhoba ohlaselo ukuba baziva ngathi kukho into engalunganga, kodwa khange benze nto ngayo.

4. Yenza: Yenza umboniso. “Zama ukufudusa indawo enabantu abaninzi ukuba kukho umntu okulandelayo okanye uzama ukukuphuthaphutha, uze utsalele ingqalelo kuwe ngokukhwaza amazwi angqalileyo: ‘Ndifuna uncedo! ‘Umhlaseli!’ Utshilo uArthur. "Awungekhe uye ngaphezulu xa uziva usoyikiswa. Intetho ethi 'Ungcono ukhuselekile kunokuba nosizi' iyasebenza kule meko."

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