Into Ongayenza Ukuba Awanelisekanga Ngokwesondo Ngobudlelwane Bakho

Umxholo

• Ingaba wena neqabane lakho nithatha njengomntu otyhafisayo?
• Imiba esisiseko sokudana kwesini
• Ukuxoxa ngendlela oziva ngayo neqabane lakho
• Iindlela zokunonga ubomi bakho ngokwesondo
• Funa unyango ngemicimbi yezonyango
• Yamkela unxibelelwano ngesondo
• Yenza ixesha lokulala ngesondo
• Zama ukulingisa kwigumbi lokulala
• Vavanya amanzi ngeethoyi zesini
• Jonga iikinki zakho (kunye neqabane lakho)
• Thetha nengcali yezempilo yengqondo
• Yise kude

Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokuba yinto yothando, kumnandi, okanye kube mnandi, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha akukho nanye kwezo zinto. Ngamanye amaxesha kulungile, kulungile, kuyadika. Ngokwedatha kwiJenali yoPhando ngezeSondo, iipesenti ezingama-27 zabasetyhini kunye neepesenti ezingama-41 zamadoda awanelisekanga ngokwesondo kubudlelwane bawo bangoku.

Ukusilela kwexesha kwiimeko zonyango, zininzi izizathu ezibambekayo zokuba kutheni intlantsi isenokungabikho kwigumbi lokulala.

Siza kungena phakathi kwamashiti ukuze sixoxe ngemiba ebangela isini esidikayo, indlela yokuxoxa ngokungoneliseki ngokwesini kunye neqabane lakho, kunye neendlela zokunonga ubomi bakho ngokwesondo kwakhona.

Ingaba wena neqabane lakho nithatha njengomntu otyhafisayo?

Ukuthanda izinto zesondo kunye neemfuno ziyahluka, ke into eyanelisa omnye umntu ayinako ukwanelisa omnye. Kodwa abantu abahlukeneyo abangasonelisekanga ngokwesondo kubudlelwane babo banokuba neengxaki ezifanayo.

Ishishini lobomi linokuthetha ukuba uchitha ixesha elincinci kwigumbi lokulala. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokuziva ngathi ngumsebenzi kunokuba kube yinto eyonwabisayo. Mhlawumbi sele unohlobo olufanayo kunye nesitayile sesini iminyaka. Zonke ezi zinto zinokwenza ukuba isondo sizive singemnandi.

Ukuba uphoswa yintlantsi phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho, awuwedwa. Kwabanye abantu, ukuphela kwesigaba sasemva komtshato kubonisa ukuphela kwesini esonwabisayo. Kodwa unokufumana iindlela zokujongana nengxaki.

Imiba esisiseko sokudana kwesini

Kunokuba nzima ukufumanisa izizathu zokuba ubomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo bujikile, kodwa zininzi izinto ezinokubangela ukungoneliseki ngokwesondo.

Iimeko zonyango eziqhelekileyo zinokuba yingcambu yobomi besondo obungonelisiyo. Umzekelo, ukunqongophala kwengqwalaselo yokuphazamiseka (ADHD) kunokubangela ukungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.

Umntu one-ADHD unokuba yi-hypersexual kwaye uya egxila ngakumbi kwi-porn endaweni yeqabane lakhe. I-ADHD inokukhokelela nakwisini, esinokuthi senze umsantsa phakathi kwamaqabane angasenayo i-libido efanayo.

Kubantu abane-vaginas, iintlungu ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo aziqhelekanga ngokupheleleyo, kwaye iintlungu ngexesha lokungena kwilungu lobufazi zinokukhokelela ekuthinteleni isini. Abantu abaneepenise banokufumana iintlungu ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo. Xa umntu ephepha ukulala ngesondo, iqabane lakhe linokuziva lingonelisekanga okanye lingafunwa.

Ezinye zeemeko zempilo yengqondo, ezinje ngoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo, zinokubonakalisa kwigumbi lokulala. Olunye uphononongo lufumanise ukuba iimpawu zoxinzelelo eziqinisekileyo zinxulunyaniswa nokwehla kwezokwabelana ngesondo kunye nolwalamano.

Olunye uphononongo olungaphezulu kwama-93,000 abathathi-nxaxheba bafumanisa ukuba ukwehla kokulala ngenxa yokungalali kukhokelela ekunciphiseni ukusebenza ngokwesondo.

Ukuxoxa ngendlela oziva ngayo neqabane lakho

Ukuba uziva ukuba ubomi bakho bobulili buye babudika, inyathelo lokuqala nelona libalulekileyo yingxoxo evulekileyo, ethembekileyo neqabane lakho. Unxibelelwano luyinto ebalulekileyo yokuba nesondo elungileyo.

Kubalulekile ukusondela kwingxoxo kwindawo yokugweba. Ukuba utshintsho kubomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo lubangelwe ngumcimbi wezonyango, ukubonisa inkxaso yakho kungenza umahluko omkhulu kwiqabane lakho.

Nazi ezinye zeendlela ezinokwenzeka zokuqalisa incoko:

• “Ndiqaphele ukuba izinto zibonakala zahlukile phakathi kwethu kwigumbi lokulala mva nje. Ngaba konke kuhamba kakuhle? ”
• “Asikhange sikwazi ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye njengokuba besisenza ngaphambili. Ngaba ungakhathazeka xa sithetha ngayo? ”
• “Ndiyayikhumbula kakhulu intlantsi phakathi kwethu, kwaye ndingathanda ukuyifumana kwakhona. Ngaba singazama izinto ezimbalwa kwigumbi lokulala? ”

Ukuba wenzakaliswe lutshintsho kubomi bakho bezesondo, kubalulekile ukuba wazise iqabane lakho. Ukuchaza iimvakalelo zakho ngokuphandle kunokunika iqabane lakho ithuba lokwenza utshintsho olufanelekileyo.

Iindlela zokunonga ubomi bakho ngokwesondo

Ukuba awanelisekanga ngobomi bakho bezesondo, zininzi izinto onokuzenza ukubuyisela ulonwabo kwigumbi lokulala.

Funa unyango ngemicimbi yezonyango

Ukuba kukho isizathu sezonyango zotshintsho kubomi bakho ngokwesondo, ukufuna unyango kunokuphucula ukoneliseka kwakho. Umzekelo, ufumanise ukuba unyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo oluphuculweyo luphucula ukusebenza ngokwesondo, uxinzelelo kunye neempawu zoxinzelelo kubantu abane-vaginismus.

Yamkela unxibelelwano ngesondo

Into elula njengokungabikho konxibelelwano inokwenza umahluko phakathi kwesini esilungileyo nesingalunganga. Zininzi izinto ezinegalelo kulwaneliseko ngokwesondo, kwaye ukuxoxa ngezinto ozithandayo, ongazithandiyo, kunye nezinto onomdla kuzo kunokunceda iqabane lakho likwanelise ngcono.

Yenza ixesha lokulala ngesondo

Ukuba wena neqabane lakho ninengxaki yokufumana ixesha lokwabelana ngesondo, kunokukushiya uziva ungonelisekanga. Inokwenza isondo sizive njengomsebenzi, into ekufuneka uyenzile.

Ukubeka bucala ixesha lokonwabela isondo kwakhona kunokukunceda ugcine izinto zinomdla kwaye ziyanelisa.

Zama ukulingisa kwigumbi lokulala

Ngokophando luka-2017, phantse iipesenti ezingama-22 zabantu bazamile ukudlala indima. Ngokudlala indima, unokwenza kwaye wenze imiboniso yesini eyonwabisayo kwindawo ethembekileyo.

Ukuba nobabini neqabane lakho nivulekile ukuzama, ukudlala indima kunokunceda ukuphucula unxibelelwano ngokwesondo kunye nokuthanda kwigumbi lokulala elinesithukuthezi.

Vavanya amanzi ngeethoyi zesini

Izinto zokudlala zokwabelana ngesondo kunokuba longezo olukhulu kubomi obuphathekayo besini. Zininzi iintlobo zeethoyi zesini kwintengiso, kwaye ukufumana enye evuselelayo kuwo omabini amaqabane kunokwenza ukuba ulwabelana ngesondo ngokulungileyo nangcono.

Jonga iikinki zakho (kunye neqabane lakho)

Ukwabelana ngesondo nge-Kinky akuyonto engekhoyo njengoko kwakuqhelekile. Uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo ababandakanyekayo kuphononongo lwekink njengokongeza okunomdla kubomi babo besondo.

Imvume, imida, kunye nonxibelelwano zezona zinto zibalulekileyo xa ujonga iikinks.

Thetha nengcali yezempilo yengqondo

Ingcali yezokwabelana ngesondo inokukunceda wena neqabane lakho ukuba nityhile kwaye nisombulule imiba kwaye nizise inkanuko kubomi benu bobulili. ikwabonakalisile ukuba ukuphucula ubukrelekrele bokomoya kunye neemvakalelo kunokunceda ukuphucula ukoneliseka ngokwesondo.

Yise kude

Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokuqala ukuziva ukruqula ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi, kubandakanya ukungabikho kwexesha, ukuthanda ukulahleka, okanye imeko yezonyango. Ngonxibelelwano olunyanisekileyo kunye nezixhobo ezifanelekileyo, ungabuyisa inkanuko kubomi bakho bobulili.