Ukuwa ngothando nokuphakamisa kuncede njani uJeannie Mai afunde ukuwuthanda umzimba wakhe

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Ubuntu beTV uJeannie Mai kutshanje wenze izihloko emva kokuthumela umyalezo okhuthazayo, nothando malunga nokuzuza kwakhe ubunzima beepawundi ezili-17. Ngokusokoliswa yimicimbi yemizimba yomzimba kangangeminyaka eli-12 (umsebenzi wakhe wonke kwezolonwabo), uMai ekugqibeleni uyekile ukuba "ubhityile" kuthetha yonke into. (Idibeneyo: UKatie Willcox ufuna ukuba abafazi bayeke ukucinga ukuba bafuna ukunciphisa umzimba ukuze bathandwe)

"Njengoko ndisondela kwiminyaka yam ye-40, ndiyaqonda ukuba ndiye ndatyhutyha kakhulu ngokwengqondo nangokweemvakalelo, kutheni umzimba wam kufuneka unyanzelwe ukuba ubandezeleke (kwiindlela zam zokulawula ngokugqithiseleyo)?" usanda kubhala ku-Instagram. "Ke kwiinyanga ezi-3 ezidlulileyo ndiye ndaqala isicwangciso esitsha sokutya kunye nenkqubo yoqeqesho kwaye ndafumana i-17 lbs. Andinanjongo yobunzima ... nje isithembiso sokuba somelele ngokomzimba njengoko ndingenakonakala ngengqondo."

Impendulo kaMai awayifumana kwisithuba sakhe ebengayilindelanga. Andinakukuxelela inani labantu abakwi-DMs abandibuzayo ukuba bangatyeba njani na,” utshilo Ubume. "Ukufunda ibali lam, kunye nabanye abanjengalo, bafikelele ekuqinisekiseni ukuba bomelele banomtsalane kwaye bafuna ukuya apho, nabo."

Kwezi nyanga zidlulileyo, uMai kuye kwafuneka atshintshe indlela acinga ngayo emzimbeni wakhe, utshilo. "Bendi ne-103 yeepawundi kwiminyaka eyi-12, kwaye into ephambeneyo kukuba bendifuna ukulinganisa i-100, utshilo. "Ngokunyanisekileyo, kwakungekho esinye isizathu ngaphandle kokuba ndicinga ukuba kuya kuba mnandi ukuthetha ukuba ndandilinganise iipounds ezili-100."

Ekugqibeleni, kwafika kwinqanaba apho uMai waqala ukuchazwa ngokubhitya kwakhe. Uthi, ukuba lulibhityile kwaba yinxalenye yenkcazo yam njengomntu, utshilo. "Abantu banokuthi izinto ezinje," uyamazi uJeannie, mncinci kakhulu 'okanye bandibuze ukuba ndiza kuhlala njani ndibhityile. Xa usiva izinto ezinje ngalo lonke ixesha, baqala ukukuyila bakuphawule-kwaye basebenze ushishino lokonwaba, andikaze ndizinike ithuba lokuba ndenze nantoni na ngaphandle kwaleyo bendichazwe ngayo kwiminyaka eli-12 edlulileyo.

UMai uthi umnxeba wakhe wokuvuka kwakukudala ufikile. "Into enkulu eyandiphembelela ukuba ndithathe eli nyathelo yayikukuqonda ukuba incoko ngemizimba yabasetyhini kunye nendlela ekufuneka bejongeka ngayo nabangafanele kujongeka ngayo yayitshintsha, utshilo. "Kwinkqubo yam Okwenyani, sihlala sikhuthaza abasetyhini ukuba balwe nokuhlaziswa komzimba kwaye babe nolusu abakulo. Kodwa rhoqo kumboniso, ndibhekisela kum "njengemilenze yenkukhu" kwaye ndizibize ngokuba nethambo, impundu engekhoyo. Inxalenye yayo yayikukuzihlekisa, kodwa ndaye ndabona ukuba bendizenza iintloni ngokwam. "

Ingca yokugqibela yeza xa uMai wayehamba ngefowuni yakhe ecoca imifanekiso yakhe. “Ndabona umfanekiso wam ndikwela lokhwe yemostade ndaza ndeva ukothuka nosizi,” utshilo. "Kwakungathi ilokhwe yayixhonywe kwihanger, ndikhangeleka ndingenabomi. Amadolo am ayengekho apho, izidlele zam zazingumkhinkqi, amehlo am ayebonakala ngathi awumngxunya-ndibonakala ngathi ndiyagula."

Emva kokuthetha nabanye babahlobo bakhe malunga nendlela awayeziva ngayo, bamkhuthaza ukuba atyebe kwaye aqale ukusebenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Uthi: “Ekuqaleni ndandisithi, ‘uthetha ukuthini ukuqalisa ukusebenza?’” utsho. "Ndandingumngcwabo we-cardio kwaye ndachitha iiyure kwindawo yokuzivocavoca ngosuku ndisebenza ukubila. Kodwa abahlobo bam babendikhuthaza ukuba ndizame ukuzilolonga okwandinceda ukuba ndakhe ubunzima bemisipha kwaye bomelele." (Inxulumene: Aba bafazi bomelele batshintsha ubuso baMandla amantombazana njengoko sisazi)

Kungelo xesha awathi uMai waziva elungele ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo ukwenza utshintsho. "Ndiqale ukutya zonke izinto ebendingazukuzama ukuzibamba," utshilo. "Kwiminyaka eyi-12, andizange ndichukumise irayisi, iitapile, iicarbs-nantoni na enokuba negalelo ekuzuzeni ubunzima. Isaladi yayiyeyona nto ibiyiyo. Yonke into endiyityayo yayixhomekeke kwimifuno."

“Ngoku, nditya zonke iintlobo zeekhabhu ezintsonkothileyo kwaye ndide ndizinyange kwiibhega kunye needonuts ngamanye amaxesha,” wongeze watsho. "IiSandwiches kukutya kwam endikuthandayo ngoku, nto leyo ephambeneyo kum. Andikholelwa ukuba ndazibandeza konke oku kutya kumangalisayo iminyaka emininzi." (Ezinxulumeneyo: Iindlela ze-5 zokufumana ubunzima ngendlela esempilweni)

Kancinci kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo, uMai waqala ukubeka ubunzima, avumayo ukuba kwakungekho lula kuye ekuqaleni. "Ndiyakhumbula intliziyo yam ibetha esifubeni sam xa isikali sabetha i-107, yayihlala iyeyona iphezulu kwendakha ndazifumana," utshilo. "Kodwa amanani aqhubeka enyuka kwaye kwafuneka ndigxile kakhulu ekungathetheli phantsi kwaye ndijolise kwinjongo yam yokuphela, eyayiza kuba sempilweni kwaye yomelele."

Ngeli xesha, uMai wathandana nokuphakamisa. “Ndaziswa ngokuphakamisa iintsimbi kwangethuba kuhambo lwam kwaye iwutshintshe kakhulu umzimba wam,” utshilo. "Kwathatha kuphela iiveki ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba ndiqale ndomelele ezingalweni zam kwaye ndaqala ukusikwa yimisipha. Iinqe zam zaqala zangqonga kwaye inqa yam yagcwala."

Emva kwethutyana, uMai waqonda ukuba ukuphakamisa ubunzima kuyamnceda ukuba athandane nomzimba wakhe kwaye awuxabise ngeendlela ezintsha. "Uziva uphumelele nje emva kokuphakamisa ubunzima. Kukho into eyonwabisayo malunga nokuvavanya amandla akho kunye nokuziva umangalisiwe yiyo. Ikwenza ukuba uqaphele ukuba akukho mda kwinto umzimba wakho onokuyenza ukuba ubeka ingqondo yakho kuyo," utshilo. (Idibeneyo: Izibonelelo ezi-8 zezeMpilo zokuPhakamisa ubunzima)

Ngelixa eneenyanga ezintathu kuphela kuhambo lwakhe, uMai wenze inkqubela phambili enkulu, athi kuyo kwimantra ayisebenzisayo ukuzibamba. "Kufuneka ube yinyani kunye nawe kwaye ufumane inyaniso yakho," utsho. Ngalo lonke ixesha elo lizwi entlokweni yam lindihlazisa ngenxa ye-jeans yam engasafanelanga, inyaniso yam ibeka kwaye indikhumbuza indlela endiye ndaphatha kakubi ngayo umzimba wam iminyaka emininzi kwaye kutheni ndifanelwe ngcono.

Kwabo basenokucinga ukuba ixabiso labo libotshelelwe kwisikali, uMai unikela eli cebiso: “Ukuziva kamnandi ngomzimba wakho nokuziva unomtsalane kuvela ngaphakathi, kungekhona kwinani elikwisikali. Umzimba wakho sisandi nje sokuba ngubani yiphathe kakuhle, yiba nenceba kuyo, kwaye wonwabele ubomi. Kulapho ulwaneliseko lokwenene lulele khona.

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