Ewe, abantu abaziimfama bayaphupha, nabo

Umxholo

• Baphupha ngantoni?
• Ngaba bayakwazi ukubona amaphupha abo?
• Ngaba banamaphupha amabi?
• Izinto ekufuneka uzigcine engqondweni
• Eminye imibuzo?
• Umgca wezantsi

Abantu abaziimfama banako kwaye bayaphupha, nangona amaphupha abo angahluka ngandlela ithile kuleyo yabantu ababonayo. Uhlobo lwemifanekiso umntu ongaboniyo anayo emaphupheni ayo ingahluka, kuxhomekeke ekubeni aphulukene njani nokubona kwabo.

Ngaphambili, bekukholelwa ngokubanzi ukuba abantu abaziimfama bebengaphuphi ngokubonakalayo. Ngamanye amagama, "ababonanga" emaphupheni abo ukuba balahlekile emehlweni abo ngaphambi kweminyaka ethile.

Kodwa uphando olutshanje lubonisa abantu abangaboniyo, ukususela ekuzalweni okanye ngenye indlela, banokufumana imifanekiso ebonakalayo kumaphupha abo.

Funda ukuze ufumane okungakumbi malunga nezinto abangaphupha ngazo abantu abangaboniyo, nokuba banamaphupha amabi, kwaye ungafunda njani ngakumbi ngokuphila ungaboni.

Baphupha ngantoni?

Cinga ngezinye zeendidi eziqhelekileyo zamaphupha onawo. Amathuba zibandakanya ukudityaniswa kwezinto ezingaqhelekanga ezingazenziyo itoni yokuqonda, izinto eziqhelekileyo ezenzeka kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, okanye iimeko ezinokubangela iintloni.

Abantu abaziimfama ubukhulu becala baphupha ngezinto ezifanayo nabantu ababonayo.

Isifundo esinye sowe-1999 sijonge amaphupha abantu abadala abayi-15 abangaboniyo kwisithuba seenyanga ezimbini - amaphupha angama-372 ewonke. Abaphandi bafumene ubungqina bokubonisa ukuba amaphupha abantu abangaboniyo ubukhulu becala ayafana nalawo abonwayo, ngaphandle kwemeko ezimbalwa:

• Abantu abaziimfama babenamaphupha ambalwa ngempumelelo yobuqu okanye ukusilela.
• Abantu abangaboniyo babengenakufane baphuphe ngonxibelelwano olunobundlongondlongo.
• Abanye abantu abangaboniyo babonakala bephupha ngezilwanyana, zihlala izinja zabo zenkonzo, rhoqo.
• Abanye abantu abangaboniyo babika amaphupha amaninzi malunga nokutya okanye ukutya.

Enye into efunyenwe kolu phando ibandakanya amaphupha abandakanya uhlobo oluthile lwelishwa. Abantu abangaboniyo abathathe inxaxheba kolu phando baphupha malunga nokuhamba okanye ilishwa elinxulumene nokuhamba malunga nokuphindaphinda kabini kunabantu ababonayo.

Oku kubonakala ngathi kuphakamisa ukuba amaphupha abantu abangaboniyo, njengalawo abonayo, angabonisa izinto ezenzeka kubomi babo bokuvuka, ezinje ngexhala okanye ubunzima bokufumana indawo ngendawo.

Ngaba bayakwazi ukubona amaphupha abo?

Kuqhelekile ukuzibuza ukuba abantu abahlukeneyo bafumana njani amaphupha. Abantu abaninzi ababonayo bahlala benamaphupha abonakalayo, ke ukuba awuyimfama, usenokuzibuza ukuba ingaba abantu abangaboniyo banamaphupha abonakalayo na.

Ithiyori malunga noku ziyahluka, kodwa kucingelwa ukuba bobabini abantu abazalwe bengaboni (ukuzalwa bengaboni) kunye nabantu abathi babe yimfama kamva ebomini banemifanekiso engabonakaliyo emibonweni yabo kunabantu abangaboniyo.

Uphando lubonisa abantu abangaboniyo abaphulukana nokubona kwabo ngaphambi kweminyaka eyi-5 bahlala bengayiboni imifanekiso emaphupheni abo. Ngokwalo loliwe wokucinga, kamva ebomini umntu ulahlekelwa kukubona, kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba baqhubeke nokuba namaphupha abonakalayo.

Abantu abanesifo sokuzalwa esingazalwanga banokubakho amathuba okuba bafumane amaphupha ngokungcamla, ukujoja, isandi, kunye nokuchukumisa, ngokophando luka-2014. Abo baba yimfama kamva ebomini babonakala ngathi banokubamba ngakumbi (touch) kwiimvakalelo zabo.

Apha ngezantsi, umphathi werediyo ongaboniyo kunye nomgxeki wefilimu uTommy Edison ucacisa indlela aphupha ngayo:

Ngaba banamaphupha amabi?

Abantu abangaboniyo baphupha kakubi njengabantu ababonayo. Ngapha koko, olunye uphando lubonisa ukuba banokuba namaphupha amabi rhoqo kunabantu ababonayo. Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa kubantu abazalwa bengaboni.

Iingcali zikholelwa kwelokuba izinga eliphezulu lamaphupha amabi linxibelelene nento yokuba abantu abaziimfama banokujongana namava asoyikisayo rhoqo kunabantu ababonayo.

Cinga ngamaphupha akho amabi-amathuba okuba aphindaphinde (kunye noxinzelelo) xa uphantsi koxinzelelo oluninzi okanye ujongene nexesha eloyikisayo.

Izinto ekufuneka uzigcine engqondweni

Zimbalwa kuphela izifundo zesayensi eziphonononge indlela abantu abangaboniyo abaphupha ngayo, kwaye ezi zifundo zinemida eliqela. Kokunye, ezi zifundo zijonge kuphela kumaqela amancinci abantu, zihlala zingekho ngaphezulu kwama-50.

Amaphupha angahluka kakhulu ukusuka kumntu ukuya emntwini, kwaye izifundo ezincinci zinokunika kuphela isikhokelo ngokubanzi sendlela abanye abantu abanokuphupha ngayo, ingeyiyo inkcazo ecacileyo yomxholo kunye nemifanekiso enokuthi ivele kuwo onke amaphupha.

Kunganzima ukuba abantu abangaboniyo badlulise ngokuchanekileyo indlela ababona ngayo amaphupha abo, ngakumbi ukuba abanalwazi kangako. Kodwa xa iyonke, umxholo wamaphupha omntu ongaboniyo kungenzeka ufane nowakho. Bafumana nje amaphupha abo ngokwahlukileyo.

Eminye imibuzo?

Okona kubheja kwakho kukuya ngqo emthonjeni kwaye uthethe nomntu ongaboniyo. Ukuba uthetha nabo ngentlonelo kwaye uvela kwindawo enomdla wokwenene, baya kukuvuyela ukunikela ukuqonda kwabo.

Ukuba awuziva ukhululekile ukwenza njalo, cinga ngokujonga ezinye iividiyo zikaTommy Edison kwisiteshi sakhe seYouTube, apho ajongana nayo yonke into ukusuka ekuphekeni ukuya ekusebenziseni iFacebook ngelixa engaboni.

Umgca wezantsi

Wonke umntu uyaphupha, nokuba akayikhumbuli, kwaye abantu abangaboniyo abekho. Izifundo ezininzi ziye zavavanya indlela abantu abangaboniyo abaphupha ngayo. Iziphumo ziluncedo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo zinemida ethile.

Ukuqonda okungaphaya kokujonga indlela abantu abangaboniyo abaphupha ngayo, cinga ngokufikelela komnye umntu kwindawo engaboniyo okanye ujonge iiakhawunti zabantu bokuqala kwi-intanethi.