Ndijamelana Njani 'neChemo Brain' Ngaphandle kokuziva ndinentloni?

Umxholo

• 1. Ngaba ungavuleleka ekufundeni iinkqubo ezintsha zombutho?
• 2. Uziva njani ngokuvulela abanye abantu malunga nemizabalazo yakho?
• 3. Ungayicela umngeni njani indlela wena, kunye nabanye abakungqongileyo, olindele ukuqhubeka ngayo?

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Kulula kakhulu ukuzibek 'ityala ngenxa yamanxeba esiwaphetheyo - ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni.

Umbuzo: Nangona ndigqibile i-chemo kwiinyanga ezininzi ezidlulileyo, ndisasokola "nengqondo ye-chemo" eyoyikekayo. Ndizifumana ndizilibala izinto ezintle ezisisiseko, ezinje ngeeshedyuli zezemidlalo zabantwana bam kunye namagama abantu endisandula ukudibana nabo.

Ukuba akunjalo ngekhalenda kwifowuni yam, andazi ukuba ndingaze ndigcine njani na amadinga okanye izicwangciso endizenzileyo nabahlobo okanye inkosikazi yam- kwaye kulapho kuphela xa ndikhumbula ukubeka izinto kwifowuni yam ukuqala. Umphathi wam uhlala endikhumbuza ngemisebenzi yomsebenzi endiyilibele kwaphela. Zange khe ndibenayo inkqubo yombutho okanye ndigcine uluhlu lwezinto ekufuneka zenziwe kuba khange ndifune njalo, kwaye ngoku ndiziva ndonganyelwe kwaye ndineentloni zokufunda ukuba ndingayenza njani.

Kodwa ngokokwazi kwakhe nabani na ngaphandle kosapho lwam, ndixolelwe kwaye yonke into ilungile. Ukufihla ukusilela kwam kwengqondo kuyadinisa. Nceda?

Ndinebhongo ngawe ngokufumana unyango kwaye uphuma kwelinye icala usazimisele ukwenza okulungileyo ngumfazi wakho, abahlobo bakho, abantwana bakho, kunye nomsebenzi wakho.

Kuba singathetha ngalonto okomzuzwana? Andifuni ukunciphisa imizabalazo yakho yangoku kukonke -Kodwa into ogqithile kuyo injenge, kakhulu. Ndiyathemba ukuba abantu ebomini bakho bayayiqonda loo nto kwaye bazimisele ukukusika ngaphezulu kancinci kancinci ukuba ulibale igama okanye idinga.

Kwaye nam bendikhona. Ndiyazi ukuba lo gama ingcinga entle, ayonelanga. Ngaphandle kwayo yonke into esiye sahamba kuyo, kuhlala kulula kakhulu ukuba sizibeke ityala ngezibi esiziphetheyo-ngokwasemzimbeni kwaye ngengqondo.

Ke, zintathu izinto onokuzibuza zona:

1. Ngaba ungavuleleka ekufundeni iinkqubo ezintsha zombutho?

Ngelixa kuninzi okwahlukileyo malunga namava onyango lomhlaza, uvakalelo lweentloni kunye nokukhathazeka malunga "nokusilela" kwintlangano kunye nokugxila kukwabelwana ngabantu abaninzi abajamelene nezifo ezahlukeneyo kunye neemeko zobomi.

Abantu abadala abasandula ukufumanisa ukuba bane-ADHD, abantu abajongana nokungalali ngokwaneleyo, abazali abatsha abafunda ukulawula iimfuno zomntu omncinci kunye nezabo: Bonke aba bantu kufuneka bajongane nokulibala kunye nokungalungelelani. Oko kuthetha ukufunda izakhono ezitsha.

Ezinye zezona ngcebiso zinemfesane kunye nezona zibalulekileyo ziya kufunyanwa zizinto ezenzelwe abantu abane-ADHD. Ingqondo yeChemo inokulinganisa iimpawu ze-ADHD ngeendlela ezininzi, kwaye ngelixa oko kungathethi ukuba unguye ngoku unayo I-ADHD, oko kuthetha ukuba izakhono ezifanayo zokujongana nazo ziya kuba luncedo.

Ndincoma kakhulu incwadi ethi "ADD-Friendly Ways to Organise Your Life" kunye ne "Mastering Your Adult ADHD." Le ncwadi yokugqibela yenzelwe ukuba igqitywe ngoncedo lwegqirha- elinokuba luluvo oluhle kuwe ukuba unokufikelela kwenye-kodwa lunokuzenzela wedwa. Ezi ncwadi zifundisa izakhono ezisebenzayo eziza kukunceda ugcine umkhondo wezinto kwaye uzive unoxinzelelo oluncinci kwaye ungakwazi.

Ukusetha inkqubo entsha, yentsapho ngokubanzi yindlela efanelekileyo yokubandakanya abathandekayo bakho ekuncedeni ukujamelana.

Khange ukhankanye ukuba abantwana bakho badala kangakanani, kodwa ukuba badala ngokwaneleyo ukuba bangadlala imidlalo yasemva kwesikolo, mhlawumbi badala ngokwaneleyo ukuba bangafunda ukulawula iishedyuli zabo. Yiloo nto intsapho yonke enokuyenza kunye. Umzekelo, yiba nekhalenda enekhowudi kwibhodi emhlophe enkulu ekhitshini okanye kwigumbi losapho, kwaye ukhuthaze wonke umntu ukuba afake isandla kuyo.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunokuba yinto encinci yohlengahlengiso ukuba ubusoloko ukwazi ukukhumbula yonke into ngaphambili. Kodwa ikwangumzuzu omkhulu wokufundisa abantwana bakho ngokubaluleka kokulinganisa ukusebenza kweemvakalelo kusapho kunye nokuthatha uxanduva lweemfuno zakho.

Kwaye sithetha ngokubandakanya abanye…

2. Uziva njani ngokuvulela abanye abantu malunga nemizabalazo yakho?

Kuvakala ngathi uxinzelelo lwakho ngoku luvela kumzamo wokuzenza ngathi "yonke into ilungile." Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kunokuba ujongane nengxaki eyiyo uzama kanzima ukuyifihla. Unokwaneleyo kwiplate yakho ngoku.

Eyona nto imbi kunazo zonke, ukuba abantu abazi ukuba uyasokola, kulapho kanye xa kunokwenzeka ukuba bafike kwizigqibo ezingalunganga nezingalunganga malunga nawe kwaye kutheni ulibale loo ntlanganiso okanye isabelo.

Ukucaca, bona akufuneki. Kuya kufuneka icace gca ukuba inokuthatha abantu okwethutyana ukuba bachache kunyango lomhlaza. Kodwa asinguye wonke umntu ozaziyo ezi zinto.

Ukuba uyinto enjengam, usenokucinga, "Kodwa ayisosizathu sodwa eso?" Hayi ayinguwe. Njengomsindisi womhlaza, unemvume yam yokukhupha igama elithi "excuse" kwisigama sakho. (Ngaphandle kwa "Uxolo, yeyiphi indawo ethi 'bendinomhlaza nje' ongayiqondiyo?")

Kungabonakala ngathi abantu bayacaphuka okanye bacatshukiswe ngamanye amaxesha ukubanika inkcazo akunakwenza mahluko. Abanye abantu ngekhe, kuba abanye abantu bayanya.

Gxila kwabo bangenayo. Kubo, ukuba nomxholo othile kwimizabalazo yakho yangoku kunokwenza umahluko phakathi konxunguphalo kunye novelwano lokwenene.

3. Ungayicela umngeni njani indlela wena, kunye nabanye abakungqongileyo, olindele ukuqhubeka ngayo?

Ugqibe njani ukuba ukukhumbula iishedyuli zabantwana bakho zangaphandle kunye namagama abo bonke odibana nabo yinto ekufanele ukuba uyenzile?

Andenzi krwada. Ndiyathemba ukuba uyakubonisa ukuba ungene njani kwezi zinto zilindelweyo ekubeni ukwazi ukukhumbula yonke into kunye nokulawula ubomi babantu abaninzi ngaphandle koncedo.

Kungenxa yokuba ukuba uyema kwaye ucinge ngayo, akukho nanye into "yesiqhelo" okanye "yendalo" malunga nembono yokuba kufuneka sikwazi ukwenza izinto ezinjalo kwimemori.

Asilindelanga ukuba abantu babaleke iikhilomitha ezingama-60 ngeyure ukuya emsebenzini; sisebenzisa iimoto okanye uthutho lukawonkewonke. Asilindelanga ukuba sigcine ixesha ngokuchanekileyo ezingqondweni zethu; sisebenzisa iiwotshi neewotshi. Kutheni le nto silindele ukuba sizinkqaye iishedyuli zemidlalo kunye noluhlu lwezinto ezingapheliyo?

Iibongo zabantu azenzelwanga ukuba zikhunjulwe ukuba zeziphi iintsuku kunye namaxesha uJosh abe neModeli ye-UN kwaye xa u-Ashley enendlela yebhola ekhatywayo.

Kwaye ixesha elide, elide kwimbali yoluntu, iishedyuli zethu bezingachazwanga ziiwotshi namaxesha ekuvunyelwene ngawo. Babemiselwe kukuphuma nokutshona kwelanga.

Andiyiyo eyokwenyani yesilivere, kodwa ukuba ikhona enye enokufunyanwa apha, yile: Unyango lwakho kunye neziphumo zalo ezibi zilusizi kwaye zibuhlungu, kodwa mhlawumbi ungabavumela babe sisizathu sokuzikhulula kwinkcubeko engenangqondo. Ukulindela okufunxa ngokunyanisekileyo-kubo bonke abantu.

Ozinzileyo,

UMiri

UMiri Mogilevsky ngumbhali, utitshala, kunye nonyango olusebenza eColumbus, eOhio. Babambe i-BA kwisayikholoji kwiYunivesithi yaseNyakatho-ntshona kunye neenkosi kwimisebenzi yezentlalo evela kwiYunivesithi yaseColumbia. Bafunyaniswe benesigaba 2a somhlaza webele ngo-Okthobha u-2017 kwaye bagqibe unyango ngentwasahlobo ka-2018. UMiri ungumnini malunga neewigi ezingama-25 ezahlukeneyo ukusuka kwiintsuku zabo ze-chemo kwaye uyakonwabela ukuzisebenzisa ngobuchule. Ngaphandle komhlaza, bakwabhala ngempilo yengqondo, ubungqingqwa besini, isondo elikhuselekileyo kunye nemvume, kunye negadi.