Ukuphathwa gadalala kwabantwana ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo

Umxholo

• Yeyiphi imiqondiso yokuphathwa gadalala kwabantwana ngokweemvakalelo?
• Ndifanele ndixelele bani?
• Ndingenza ntoni xa ndicinga ukuba ndingamonzakalisa umntwana wam?
• Iziphumo zexesha elide zokuphathwa gadalala ngokweemvakalelo
• Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba umntwana ophethwe gadalala abuyele kwimeko yesiqhelo?

Kukuthini ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemoyeni nangokwengqondo ebantwaneni?

Ukuphathwa gadalala ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo ebantwaneni kuchazwa njengokuziphatha, intetho, kunye nezenzo zabazali, abanonopheli, okanye amanye amanani abalulekileyo kubomi bomntwana onefuthe elibi engqondweni.

NgokukaRhulumente wase-U.S. "Ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo (okanye ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemphefumlweni) yindlela yokuziphatha ethintela ukukhula komntwana ngokweemvakalelo okanye ukuziva ezixabisa."

Imizekelo yokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo ibandakanya:

• ukubiza igama
• ukuthuka
• isoyikiso sobundlobongela (nangaphandle kokwenza izoyikiso)
• ukuvumela abantwana ukuba babone ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo komnye umntu
• ubamba uthando, inkxaso, okanye isikhokelo

Kunzima kakhulu ukwazi ukuba kuxhaphake kangakanani ukuxhatshazwa komntwana ngokweemvakalelo. Uluhlu olubanzi lweendlela zokuziphatha lunokuthathwa njengokuxhaphaza, kwaye zonke iifom kucingelwa ukuba azichazwa.

U-Childhelp uqikelela ukuba minyaka le e-United States, ngaphezulu kwe-6.6 yezigidi zabantwana bayabandakanyeka kuthumelo lweeNkonzo zoKhuseleko loMntwana (CPS). Ngokuka, ngo-2014, ngaphezulu kwama-702,000 abantwana baqinisekiswa yi-CPS njengabaphethwe gadalala okanye abangahoywanga.

Ukuxhatshazwa kwabantwana kwenzeka kuzo zonke iintlobo zeentsapho. Nangona kunjalo, ukuxhatshazwa okuxeliweyo kubonakala kuxhaphake kakhulu kwiintsapho ezi:

• ukuba neengxaki zemali
• ukujongana nokuba ngumzali omnye
• ukufumana (okanye amava) uqhawulo mtshato
• Ukujamelana nemicimbi yokusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi

Yeyiphi imiqondiso yokuphathwa gadalala kwabantwana ngokweemvakalelo?

Iimpawu zokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo emntwaneni zinokubandakanya:

• esoyika umzali
• besithi bayamcaphukela umzali
• bethetha kakubi ngabo (njengokuthi, "Ndisisidenge")
• kubonakala ngathi ayikakhuli ngokweemvakalelo xa kuthelekiswa noontanga
• Ukubonisa utshintsho olukhawulezileyo kwintetho (njengokuthintitha)
• ukufumana utshintsho olukhawulezileyo ekuziphatheni (njengokwenza kakubi esikolweni)

Iimpawu kumzali okanye umnakekeli zibandakanya:

• ukubonisa kancinci okanye ukungamhoyi umntwana
• uthetha kakubi ngomntwana
• ungamphathi okanye umbambe ngothando umntwana
• ukungakhathaleli iimfuno zonyango zomntwana

Ndifanele ndixelele bani?

Ezinye iindlela zokuxhatshazwa, ezinjengokukhwaza, zisenokungabi yingozi ngoko nangoko. Nangona kunjalo, ezinye iindlela, njengokuvumela abantwana ukuba basebenzise iziyobisi, kunokuba yingozi kwangoko. Ukuba unesizathu sokukholelwa ukuba wena okanye umntwana omaziyo usemngciphekweni, tsalela umnxeba ku-911 ngoko nangoko.

Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo uxhatshazwa ngokwasemoyeni, nxibelelana nabantwana bakho basekuhlaleni okanye amasebe eenkonzo zosapho. Cela ukuthetha nomcebisi. Amasebe amaninzi eenkonzo zosapho avumela abafowunelwa ukuba baxele ukuxhatshazwa okurhanelwayo bengazichazanga.

Ungatsalela umnxeba kule nombolo ilandelayo: 800-4-A-CHILD (800-422-4453) ukuze ufumane ulwazi ngoncedo lwasimahla kwindawo yakho.

Ukuba akunakwenzeka ukunxibelelana ne-arhente yeenkonzo zosapho, cela umntu omthembileyo, onje ngutitshala, isihlobo, ugqirha, okanye umabhalane akuncede.

Unokwazi ukunceda usapho onomdla kulo ngokunika umntwana okanye ukuqhuba imisebenzi. Nangona kunjalo, sukuzibeka emngciphekweni okanye wenze nantoni na enokunyusa umngcipheko wokuxhatshazwa komntwana oxhalabileyo ngaye.

Ukuba ukhathazekile malunga nokuza kwenzeka kubazali bomntwana okanye kubanonopheli, khumbula ukuba ukufumana uncedo yeyona ndlela yokubabonisa ukuba uyakhathala.

Ndingenza ntoni xa ndicinga ukuba ndingamonzakalisa umntwana wam?

Nabona bazali babalaseleyo banokuba babangxolisa abantwana babo okanye basebenzise amagama anomsindo ngamaxesha oxinzelelo. Ayisiyonyani leyo. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uthathele ingqalelo ukubiza umcebisi ukuba uxhalabile malunga nokuziphatha kwakho.

Ukuba ngumzali ngowona msebenzi unzima kwaye ubaluleke kakhulu oya kuwenza. Funa izixhobo zokwenza kakuhle. Umzekelo, tshintsha indlela oziphethe ngayo ukuba uhlala usebenzisa utywala okanye iziyobisi ezingekho mthethweni. Le mikhwa inokuchaphazela indlela obakhathalele ngayo abantwana bakho.

Iziphumo zexesha elide zokuphathwa gadalala ngokweemvakalelo

Ukuphathwa gadalala kwabantwana ngokweemvakalelo kunxulunyaniswa nokukhula kwengqondo okungalunganga kunye nokwenza nzima kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane obomeleleyo. Ingakhokelela kwiingxaki esikolweni nasemsebenzini kunye nokuziphatha kakubi.

Uphononongo lwakutsha nje kwiYunivesithi yasePurdue luxele ukuba abantu abadala ababengamaxhoba okuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemoyeni nangokwasemzimbeni njengabantwana banomngcipheko ophezulu wokuba nomhlaza.

Banamava nawo.

Abantwana abaphethwe gadalala ngokwasemoyeni nangokwasemzimbeni kwaye abalufuni uncedo banokuba ngabaxhaphazi ngokwabo sele bebadala.

Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba umntwana ophethwe gadalala abuyele kwimeko yesiqhelo?

Inokwenzeka ngokupheleleyo into yokuba umntwana oye waxhatshazwa ngokwasemphefumlweni aphile.

Ukufuna uncedo lwexhoba lomntwana linyathelo lokuqala nelona libalulekileyo ekubuyiseleni kwimeko yesiqhelo.

Inzame elandelayo kufuneka ibe kukufumana uncedo kumxhaphazi kunye namanye amalungu osapho.

Nazi izibonelelo zikazwelonke ezinokukunceda kwezi nzame:

• Umnxeba osayilwayo we-Intanethi unokufikelelwa nge-24/7 ngencoko okanye ngomnxeba (1-800-799-7233 okanye i-TTY 1-800-787-3224) kwaye unokufikelela kubaboneleli ngeenkonzo kunye neendawo zokufihla intloko kwilizwe liphela ukubonelela ngenkxaso yasimahla neyimfihlo.
• Isango loLwazi lwezeNtlalontle yaBantwana ikhuthaza ukhuseleko kunye nentlalontle yabantwana, ulutsha, kunye neentsapho kwaye ibonelele ngonxibelelwano, kubandakanya neenkonzo zenkxaso yosapho.
• Healthfinder.gov unikezela ngolwazi kunye namakhonkco anikezela ngenkxaso kubantwana nakwiintsapho kwizihloko ezininzi zempilo, kubandakanya ukuphathwa gadalala kwabantwana kunye nokungahoywa.
• Thintela ukuphathwa gadalala kwabantwana eMelika ikhuthaza iinkonzo ezixhasa intlalo-ntle yomntwana kwaye iphuhlise iinkqubo zokunceda ukuthintela ukuphathwa gadalala kwabantwana kunye nokungahoywa.
• Inombolo yomnxeba kaZwelonke yokuXhatshazwa kwabantwana unokufikelelwa nge-24/7 ngo-1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) ngolwazi ngoncedo lwasimahla kwindawo yakho.

Ukongeza, urhulumente ngamnye uhlala enefowuni yakhe yokuphathwa gadalala kwabantwana onokuthi uqhagamshelane naye ukuze ufumane uncedo.