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• 1. Umlutha sisifo, kwaye esinye sineziphumo zokwenyani
• 2. Ukungenisa ngaphakathi kwiziphumo zokuba likhoboka: Sihlala sisenza isiphithiphithi, iintloni, uloyiko kunye neentlungu eziza nokuba likhoboka
• 3. Imida kunye nokuseka amasiko okuzikhathalela ayimfuneko
• 4. Uxolelo lunamandla
• 5. Ukuthetha phandle ngesiyobisi yenye yeendlela zokumelana neziphumo zazo

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Sibona njani iimilo zehlabathi esizikhethele zona- kunye nokwabelana ngamava anyanzelisayo kunokubangela ukuba siphathane ngcono. Lo ngumbono onamandla.

Abantwana bayaphumelela kwimeko ezinzileyo nothando. Kodwa nangona ndandithandwa kangaka ngabazali bam, ubuntwana bam babungazinzanga. Ukuzinza bekungabonakali - umbono wangaphandle.

Ndazalwa ndingumntwana wababini (ngoku uyachacha) abantu abanomlutha. Ukukhula kwam, ubomi bam babusoloko busemngciphekweni wesiphithiphithi kunye nokuwa. Ndafunda kwangethuba ukuba umgangatho ungawa phantsi kweenyawo zam nangaliphi na ixesha.

Kum, njengomntwana omncinci, oku kwathetha ukuhambisa izindlu ngenxa yokunqongophala kwemali okanye ukuphulukana nemisebenzi. Kwakungathethi ukuba akukhohambo lwesikolo okanye iifoto zencwadi yonyaka. Oko kwakuthetha ukwahlukana koxinzelelo xa omnye wabazali bam engafikanga ekhaya ebusuku. Kwaye kwakuthetha ukuba nexhala lokuba ingaba abanye abantwana besikolo bazakufumanisa bahlekise ngam nosapho lwam.

Ngenxa yeengxaki ezibangelwa likhoboka labazali bam kwiziyobisi, ekugqibeleni bohlukana. Sibe namava okubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo, izigwebo zentolongo, iinkqubo zesigulana, ukubuyela umva, iintlanganiso ze-AA kunye ne-NA- konke ngaphambi kwesikolo esiphakathi (nasemva koko). Usapho lwam luphela luhlala kwintlupheko, lungena luphuma kwiindawo zokuhlala ezingenamakhaya kunye neeYMCA.

Ekugqibeleni, mna nomnakwethu saya kwindawo yokugcina abantwana singekho nje ibhegi ezele zizinto zethu. Iinkumbulo - zombini imeko yam kunye neyabazali bam - zibuhlungu ezimfiliba, kodwa zinamandla angapheliyo. Ngeendlela ezininzi, baziva njengobunye ubomi.

Ndiyabulela ukuba namhlanje abazali bam bobabini bayachacha, bayakwazi ukucinga ngeminyaka yabo emininzi yeentlungu nokugula.

Njengomntu oneminyaka engama-31 ubudala, iminyaka emihlanu emdala kunoxa ndandizalwa ngumama, ngoku ndingacinga ngento ekumele ukuba babeziva ngayo ngelo xesha: belahlekile, benetyala, benentloni, bezisola, kwaye bengenamandla. Ndiyijonga imeko yabo ngovelwano, kodwa ndiyaqonda ukuba olu lukhetho endilwenzileyo.

Imfundo kunye nolwimi olujikeleze umlutha lusabekwa amabala kwaye lukhohlakele, kwaye amaxesha amaninzi indlela esifundiswa ukuba sibajonge kwaye sibaphathe ngayo abo banamakhoboka ingaphaya kwemizila yokucekisa kunovelwano. Umntu angazisebenzisa njani iziyobisi xa enabantwana? Ungayibeka njani intsapho yakho kuloo ndawo?

Le mibuzo ichanekile. Impendulo ayilula, kodwa, kum, ilula: Umlutha sisifo. Ayikokukhetha.

Izizathu ezibangela ukuba likhoboka libe yingxaki ngakumbi: ukugula ngengqondo, uxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo, ukoyikeka okungasombululekanga, kunye nokusilela kwenkxaso. Ukuyityeshela ingcambu nasiphi na isifo kukhokelela ekusasazeni kwayo kwaye kuyondla ngokutshabalalisa.

Nantsi into endiyifundileyo ekubeni ndingumntwana wabantu abanomlutha. Ezi zifundo zindithathe ngaphezulu kweshumi leminyaka ukuba ndiqonde ngokupheleleyo kwaye ndisebenzise. Isenokungabi lula ukuba wonke umntu ayiqonde, okanye avumelane nayo, kodwa ndiyakholelwa ukuba ziyimfuneko ukuba siza kubonisa uvelwano kunye nenkxaso yokuchacha.

1. Umlutha sisifo, kwaye esinye sineziphumo zokwenyani

Xa sisentlungwini, sifuna ukufumana izinto esinokusola ngazo. Xa sibukele abantu esibathandayo bengapheleli nje ngokwabo kodwa besilela kwimisebenzi yabo, kwiintsapho, okanye kwikamva- ngokungayi kubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo okanye ukubuyela enqwelweni- kulula ukuvumela umsindo uthathe indawo.

Ndikhumbula xa mna nomntakwethu sagqibela ngokukhuliswa. Umama wayengenamsebenzi, engenandlela yokwenyani yokusinakekela, kwaye wayekwimpembelelo enzulu yokulutha kwakhe. Ndandinomsindo. Ndacinga ukuba ukhethe ichiza ngaphezu kwethu. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, wayiyeka yafikelela kude.

Leyo yimpendulo yendalo, ewe, kwaye akukho nto iyenzayo. Ukuba ngumntwana womntu onomlutha kukuthatha kwi-labyrinthine kunye nohambo olubuhlungu lweemvakalelo, kodwa akukho mpendulo ichanekileyo okanye iphosakeleyo.

Ngexesha elide, nangona kunjalo, ndiye ndabona ukuba umntu-ungcwatyelwe phantsi komlutha kunye neenzipho zawo nzulu, enzulu- akafuni ukubakhona. Abafuni ukuncama yonke into. Abazi nje unyango.

Ngokuka-a, “Iziyobisi sisifo sengqondo esilingayo kunye nokuzikhethela. Iziyobisi azithathi indawo yokhetho, zigqwetha ukhetho. "

Ndifumanisa ukuba le yeyona nkcazo ichazayo yokulutha. Kukhetho ngenxa yezifo ezinje nge trauma okanye uxinzelelo, kodwa ikwanjalo-ngaxa lithile- umba wemichiza. Oku akwenzi isimilo somlutha sixolelwe, ngakumbi ukuba bayakhathala okanye bayakuxhaphaza. Yindlela enye yokujonga esi sifo.

Nangona zonke iimeko zodwa, ndicinga ukuba ukunyanga umlutha njengesifo xa sisonke kubhetele kunokujonga wonke umntu njengoyisakeleyo nokusibhala isifo njengengxaki "yomntu ombi". Uninzi lwabantu abamangalisayo banengxaki yokufumana iziyobisi.

2. Ukungenisa ngaphakathi kwiziphumo zokuba likhoboka: Sihlala sisenza isiphithiphithi, iintloni, uloyiko kunye neentlungu eziza nokuba likhoboka

Kuthatha iminyaka ukukhupha ezo mvakalelo, kunye nokufunda ukuphinda ndiyisebenzise ingqondo yam.

Ngenxa yokungazinzi rhoqo kwabazali bam, ndafunda ukuzisiphula neengcambu kwisiphithiphithi. Ndiva ngathi ityali ikhutshiwe phantsi kwam yaba luhlobo oluqhelekileyo kum. Ndandihlala-ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo- kwimowudi yokulwa-okanye-yokubhabha, ndihlala ndilindele ukuhambisa izindlu okanye ukutshintsha izikolo okanye ukungabi namali yaneleyo.

Ngapha koko, olunye uphando luthi abantwana abahlala namalungu osapho anengxaki yokusebenzisa iziyobisi banamaxhala, uloyiko, uxinzelelo lokuziva benetyala, iintloni, isizungu, ukudideka kunye nomsindo. Oku kukongeza ekuthatheni iindima zabantu abadala kwakamsinya okanye ekukhuleni kokuphazamiseka okungapheliyo. Ndiyakungqina oku - kwaye ukuba ufunda le, mhlawumbi nawe unako.

Ukuba abazali bakho ngoku bayachacha, ukuba ungumntwana okhulileyo ongumlutha, okanye ukuba usajongana nentlungu, kuya kufuneka uyazi into enye: Ukuhlala ixesha elide, ngaphakathi ngaphakathi, okanye ukwenzakala okungaphakathi kuqhelekile.

Intlungu, uloyiko, unxunguphalo kunye neentloni azivele zinyamalale ukuba uyaqhubeka ukusuka kwimeko okanye ukuba imeko iyatshintsha. Umothuko uhlala, utshintshe imilo, kwaye uyaphuma ngamaxesha angaqhelekanga.

Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba awophukanga. Okwesibini, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba olu luhambo. Intlungu yakho ayenzi kungabikho mntu ukuba achache, kwaye iimvakalelo zakho zisebenza kakhulu.

3. Imida kunye nokuseka amasiko okuzikhathalela ayimfuneko

Ukuba ungumntwana okhulileyo kubazali ekuvuseleleni okanye ekusebenziseni ngenkuthalo, funda ukwenza imida ukukhusela impilo yakho yeemvakalelo.

Esi isenokuba sesona sifundo sinzima ukusifunda, ingesiso kuba sivakalelwa kukuba siyaphikisana, kodwa kungenxa yokuba sinokukhathaza ngokwasemphefumlweni.

Ukuba abazali bakho basasebenzisa, kunokuziva kungenakwenzeka ukuba bangayibambi ifowuni xa befowuna okanye bangabaniki imali ukuba bayayifuna. Okanye, ukuba abazali bakho bayachacha kodwa bahlala bethembele kuwe ngenkxaso yeemvakalelo- ngendlela ebangela ukuba ubenakho - kunokuba nzima ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho. Emva kwakho konke, ukukhulela kwindawo enamakhoboka kunokuba kukufundise ukuba uthule.

Imida yahlukile kuthi sonke. Xa ndandisemncinci, kwakubalulekile ukuba ndibeke umda ongqongqo wokuboleka imali ukuxhasa umlutha. Kwakubalulekile ukuba ndibeke phambili impilo yam engqondweni xa ndisiva ngathi siyatyibilika ngenxa yentlungu yomnye umntu. Ukwenza uluhlu lwemida yakho kunokuba luncedo ngokukodwa-kunye nokuvula amehlo.

4. Uxolelo lunamandla

Akunakwenzeka ukuba wonke umntu, kodwa ukusebenzela ukuxolelwa-kunye nokuyeka isidingo solawulo-kuye kwandikhulula.

Uxolelo lukhankanywa gabalala njenge kufuneka. Xa umlutha ubutshabalalisile ubomi bethu, kunokusenza sigule ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo ukuze siphile singcwatywe phantsi kwawo wonke loo msindo, ukudinwa, ingqumbo noloyiko.

Kuthatha umthwalo omkhulu kumanqanaba oxinzelelo lwethu - onokuthi asiqhubele kwiindawo zethu ezimbi. Yiyo loo nto wonke umntu ethetha ngokuxolela. Luhlobo lwenkululeko. Ndiye ndabaxolela abazali bam. Ndikhethile ukuba ndibabone njengabantu abanesiphako, abantu, abaneziphene, nabonzakeleyo. Ndikhethe ukuhlonipha izizathu kunye ne traumas ezikhokelele kukhetho lwabo.

Ukusebenza kwiimvakalelo zam zenceba kunye nokwazi kwam ukwamkela into endingenakukutshintsha kundincede ndafumana uxolelo, kodwa ndiyaqonda ukuba ukuxolelwa akunakwenzeka kubo bonke abantu - kwaye kulungile.

Ukuthatha ixesha lokwamkela nokwenza uxolo kunye nokunyaniseka kwesiyobisi kunokuba luncedo. Ukwazi ukuba awusosizathu okanye isilungisi esinamandla-seengxaki zonke sinokukunceda. Ngexesha elithile, kufuneka silunikezele kulawulo-kwaye, ngohlobo lwalo, lunokusinceda sifumane uxolo.

5. Ukuthetha phandle ngesiyobisi yenye yeendlela zokumelana neziphumo zazo

Ukufunda malunga nokulutha, ukukhuthaza abantu abanomlutha, ukunyanzelisa izixhobo ezininzi kunye nokuxhasa abanye kubalulekile.

Ukuba ukwindawo yokuxhasa abanye-nokuba yeyabo bahlupheka ngokuba likhoboka okanye amalungu osapho abathanda umntu onomlutha- ke oku kunokuba yinguqu kuwe.

Rhoqo, xa sifikelwa sisaqhwithi somlutha uziva ngathi akukho ankile, akukho nxweme, akukho sikhokelo. Kukho nje ulwandle oluvulekileyo nolungenasiphelo, olulungele ukuwela phantsi kuso nasiphi na isikhephe esinemilinganiselo esinayo.

Ukubuyisa ixesha lakho, amandla, iimvakalelo kunye nobomi kubaluleke kakhulu. Kum, inxenye yoku yeza ngokubhaliweyo malunga, nokwabelana, kunye nokwazisa abanye esidlangalaleni.

Umsebenzi wakho akufuneki ubekho esidlangalaleni. Ukuthetha nomhlobo osweleyo, ukuqhuba umntu uye kwindawo yonyango, okanye ukucela iqela lakho ekuhlaleni ukuba libonelele ngezixhobo ezininzi yindlela enamandla yokwenza utshintsho kwaye ube nengqondo xa ulahlekile elwandle.

ULisa Marie Basile ngumlawuli osungula ubugcisa beLuna Luna Magazine kunye nombhali we "Light Light for Dark Times," ingqokelela yemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla yokuzikhathalela, kunye neencwadi ezimbalwa zemibongo. Ubhalele iNew York Times, ngokulandelelana, Greatist, Ukugcina izindlu kakuhle, Ukucoca 29, iVitamin Shoppe, kunye nokunye. ULisa Marie ufumene i-master degree ngokubhala.