Baninzi abantu abaKufumana uXinzelelo lweMfesane kuTyikityo. Nantsi indlela yokujongana nale ngxaki

Umxholo

• Xa uhlala uhlala uyintsika yokutya kwabanye, ungaqala ukudinwa yimfesane.
• Kodwa ukuba awukhathali ngesiqu sakho ngelixa unakekela abanye, usengozini yokutsha.
• Iimpawu zokudinwa kwemfesane
• Ndingazinceda njani ukuba ndinokudinwa kwemfesane?
• Ziqhelanise nokuzinyamekela
• Hlakulela ukuqonda okuqinisekileyo
• Funda indlela yokucela uncedo
• Ukothula kunye nokuzalisa
• Kwaye, njengesiqhelo, unyango

Ukuba novelwano olungenasiphelo, ngelixa uncomekayo, kunokukuqhubela eluthulini.

I-bandwidth yeemvakalelo yindlela yokuphila kula maxesha- kwaye abanye bethu baninzi kunabanye.

Olo bandwidth lubaluleke ngakumbi ngoku. Wonke umntu uhamba into ethile njengoko silungelelanisa notshintsho olukhulu (kodwa lwexeshana!)

Sihlala sixhomekeke kwimfesane yabathandekayo bethu ngamaxesha anje. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, wonke umntu ufuna igxalaba lokukhala.

Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa uhlala uligxalaba elomeleleyo, umgcini, onesisombululo kwiingxaki zomntu wonke?

Xa uhlala uhlala uyintsika yokutya kwabanye, ungaqala ukudinwa yimfesane.

Ukudinwa kwemfesane luxanduva ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni olwenziwe kukukhathalela abo bakwixinzelelo. Ukuphela kweemvakalelo ngokupheleleyo.

Abo bafumana ukudinwa kwemfesane bahlala belahlekelwa kukunxibelelana novelwano lwabo. Baziva bexinekile kwaye benganxibelelananga kangako nomsebenzi wabo kunye nabantu ababathandayo.

Le yinto ehlala ifunyanwa ngoogqirha, oonontlalontle, abaphenduli bokuqala, kunye nabagcini babagula kakhulu. Ngelixa ingozi yomsebenzi kubasebenzi bezempilo, nabani na unokufumana ukudinwa kwemfesane.

Ngobhubhane, sithembele komnye nomnye ngakumbi nangakumbi ukugqitha usuku ngalunye. Kuqhelekile ukufuna ukukhathalela abantu obathandayo ngeli xesha.

Kodwa ukuba awukhathali ngesiqu sakho ngelixa unakekela abanye, usengozini yokutsha.

Ukudinwa kwemfesane ngexesha le-COVID-19 kunokujongeka njengomama ojijisana nokusebenza ekhaya, ukuba ngumzali, kunye nokufundisa abantwana bakhe, ngoku befihle kwigumbi lokuhlambela ukuze bafumane umzuzu woxolo.

Kubonakala kubantu abadala ekufuneka bezikhulisile, abantakwabo, kunye nabazali abangaphumelelanga kubo, ngoku bethandabuza ukuphendula umnxeba xa umntu okwelinye icala enyamezele ukunyibilika kwesine evekini.

Ngaba oogqirha be-ER kunye nabongikazi abakwazi ukubamba ubuthongo bokulala phakathi kweeshifu zewotshi, okanye iqabane lisela ngaphezulu komndilili ukujongana nokukhathalelwa kwe-24/7 kweqabane labo elasulelwa yintsholongwane.

Ukuba novelwano olungenasiphelo, ngelixa uncomekayo, kunokukuqhubela eluthulini.

Imfesane yokudinwa ihlala ichaphazela abo banovelwano olunzulu. Ngamanye amaxesha, abo banamava okudinwa yimfesane banokuba nexhala labo elidlulileyo, elikhokelela kunyanzeliso olukhulu lokufumaneka kwabanye.

Abo banembali yokugqibelela, iinkqubo zenkxaso ezingazinzanga, kunye nolungelelwaniso lokufaka iibhotile kwiimvakalelo zabo basemngciphekweni wokudinwa yimfesane.

Iimpawu zokudinwa kwemfesane

• ukufuna ukuzahlula kunye nokuhlukana nabantu obathandayo
• Ukudubuleka ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokucaphuka
• imiqondiso yomzimba yokuba ubambe uxinzelelo njengomhlathi oxineneyo, amagxa abuhlungu, isisu esibuhlungu, okanye iintloko ezingapheliyo
• ukuzinyanga okanye isimilo sokuziphatha njengokuzinkcinkca ngotywala, ukungcakaza, okanye ukuzinkcinkca ngotywala
• ingxaki ekujongeni
• ukuphuthelwa okanye ukulala nzima
• Ukuphelelwa kukuzixabisa, ithemba kunye nomdla kwizinto ozithandayo

Ukudinwa kwemfesane asikokufa. Inokuqwalaselwa. Nangona kunjalo, ihlala ichazwa gwenxa njengoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo.

Kananjalo ayifani nokudinwa kwakho kwe-run-of-mill. Ukuthatha ikhefu kunye nokuya eholideyini ngekhe kusombulule ingxaki. Ukujamelana nokudinwa kwemfesane kubandakanya ukungatshintshi indlela ophila ngayo.

Ndingazinceda njani ukuba ndinokudinwa kwemfesane?

Ziqhelanise nokuzinyamekela

Asithethi nje ngeebhafu zebhafu kunye neemaski zobuso. Ngelixa zilungile, ziibhals zexeshana kumcimbi omkhulu. Imalunga nokumamela umzimba wakho.

Uxinzelelo luphuma ngeendlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo. Zibuze eyona nto uyifunayo, kwaye uzibophelele ukuba uza kuyenza. Ukuba unokwenza into elungileyo kuwe yonke imihla, sele usendleleni yokuphilisa.

Hlakulela ukuqonda okuqinisekileyo

Qalisa ukuqonda ukuba yintoni eyingozi kuwe, kwaye ukusuka apho, sebenzisa olo lwazi ukwenza kunye nokuqinisekisa imida.

Xa usazi ukuba abanye bakuchaphazela njani, ungaya phambili ekukhathaleleni ngovelwano ngokuzisusa kwimeko yokuntywila.

Imida ivakala ngathi:

• “Ndiyakhathala malunga nento oyithethayo, kodwa andinawo amandla okuzibandakanya ngokupheleleyo kule ncoko ngoku. Singathetha kamva? ”
• "Andisakwazi ukuthatha ixesha elongezelelekileyo ngenxa yempilo, singawusasaza njani umthwalo ngokulinganayo?"
• "Andikwazi ukukunceda kuloo nto ngoku, kodwa nantsi into endinokukunika yona."

Funda indlela yokucela uncedo

Oku mhlawumbi ngumbono wenoveli ukuba uqhele ukuba luncedo. Kanye, mhlawumbi, vumela omnye umntu akukhathalele!

Ukucela umntu omthandayo ukuba enze isidlo sangokuhlwa, usebenze umyalezo othile, okanye uhlambe impahla uwenze lula umthwalo wakho. Inokukunika ixesha elininzi lokuzilungelelanisa kwakhona.

Ukothula kunye nokuzalisa

Ukwenza ushicilelo okanye ukuphuma kwabahlobo bakho kunokukunceda ukhulule umthwalo osindayo. Ukwenza into eyonwabisayo, njengokuzonwabisa kwizinto ezithile okanye ukubukela imovie, kunokunceda ekuvuseleleni amandla akho okukhathalela abanye.

Kwaye, njengesiqhelo, unyango

Ingcali elungileyo inokukukhokela kwiindlela zokuphelisa uxinzelelo kunye nokusebenza ngomthombo oyinyani wengxaki.

Ukuthintela ukudinwa kwemfesane, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abantu bazibeke phambili ngokwabo. Xa ubizo lwakho lukunceda abanye, kunokuba nzima.

Ekupheleni kosuku, nangona ungenako ukuzinceda, awuyi kuba luncedo kwabanye.

UGabrielle Smith yimbongi esembindini eseBrooklyn kunye nombhali. Ubhala ngothando / ngesondo, ukugula ngengqondo, kunye nokuhlangana. Unokuqhubeka naye kwi-Twitter nakwi-Instagram.