Ukuthintela ukungqubana ayikwenzi ukuba uthande

Umxholo

• Yintoni
• Ijongeka kanjani
• Kutheni kungancedi
• Iindlela zokuyoyisa
• Yisa kwakhona ukujongana
• Yenza isicwangciso
• Sebenzisa izivamvo zakho ukukhulula ngokukhawuleza uxinzelelo
• Qaphela kwaye ulawule iimvakalelo zakho
• Sombulula imiba ngexesha lokwenyani
• Ungalufumana nini uncedo
• Umgca wezantsi

Yintoni

Khawufane ucinge ngale meko: Usebenze nzima kwintetho iiveki ezininzi, uchitha iiyure ezongezelelweyo uzama ukufumana yonke into ngokuchanekileyo. Ujonge zonke iinkcukacha kwaye uvuke kwangoko ukulungiselela intlanganiso yanamhlanje nomphathi wakho.

Ngoku khawufane ucinge umntu osebenza naye engena ngaphakathi kwaye ethatha lonke ityala eyakho sebenza. Kodwa endaweni yokunxibelelana nomsindo wakho kwaye (ngokufanelekileyo) uthethe, ukhetha ukurhoxa cwaka.

Ukuphepha ungquzulwano kuthetha kanye oko: ukoyika ukungavisisani kunokwenzeka ngazo zonke iindleko.

Ngaphandle kobomi bethu bomsebenzi, ukuthintela ungquzulwano kunokubonakalisa kubudlelwane bethu bothando, ubuhlobo kunye nakwimeko yosapho.

Ngelixa ukuphuma kwezi patheni zonakalisayo kuyinkohliso, kukho iindlela zokuqhubela phambili xa ujongene noloyiko lwethu kwaye ubonakalise iimvakalelo zethu ngokuqinisekileyo.

Ijongeka kanjani

Ukuphepha ukungqubana luhlobo lokuziphatha okukholisa abantu oluhlala luvela kuloyiko olunzulu olunzulu lokucaphukisa abanye.

Uninzi lwezi zinto zinokulandelwa emva ekukhuleni kwimeko yokugxothwa okanye egxekayo.

Abantu abaphendula ukungqubana ngale ndlela bahlala belindele iziphumo ezibi kwaye bakufumanise kunzima ukuthemba impendulo yomnye umntu.

Ngamanye amagama, ukunyanzelisa uluvo lwakho kunokubonakala kusothusa okanye kungoyiki.

Ukhetha ukubonwa njengomntu “olungileyo” emsebenzini, umzekelo, okanye usenokuba neentloni kwingxabano evulekileyo nenempilo ukuze ungasigungqisi isikhephe.

Kubudlelwane, oku kungakhangeleka njengokuthula cwaka kwiqabane, ukutshintsha umxholo, okanye ukunyamezela iimeko ezingathandekiyo endaweni yokuveza imiba ngokuphandle.

Nayi eminye imizekelo yendlela oku kunokubonakalisa ngayo:

• ilitye, okanye ukwala umba ukhona ngokungawuthobeli
• uloyiko lokuphoxa abanye
• ukuphepha ngabom incoko
• ethe cwaka ecaphuka

Kutheni kungancedi

Xa uphepha ukungavisisani nakancinci, ulalanisa iimvakalelo zakho zokwenyani kwaye ugcina ukukhathazeka okunokuphelisa impilo yakho.

Omnye wafumanisa ukuba ukufakela iimvakalelo zethu kunokunyusa umngcipheko wokufa ngaphambi kwexesha, kubandakanya nokufa ngumhlaza.

Ukuhleka sisoyika okanye ukutyabeka uncumo lobuxoki ebusweni bethu endaweni yokuvuma iimvakalelo ezibandezelayo kunokubangela ukuba ube nesithukuthezi kunye noxinzelelo.

Ukuthintela ungquzulwano kunefuthe kubudlelwane bethu kuba sinqamla lonke unxibelelwano olunyanisekileyo nomnye umntu.

Ngelixa ukuthintela ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala njengeyona ndlela yokujongana neengxabano, ekuhambeni kwexesha kuyaphela kwenzakalisa ukusondelelana kwethu.

Iindlela zokuyoyisa

Uyayiqonda nayiphi na imiqondiso engasentla kuwe? Ezi ngcebiso zingezantsi zinokukunceda ujongane nomba ngokuzithemba ngakumbi.

Yisa kwakhona ukujongana

Ukungavumelani nomntu akuthethi "ukulwa." Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ayisiyokugxeka omnye umntu okanye ukungqina ukuba ngubani na olungileyo nengalunganga kwimeko enikiweyo.

Ukusombulula ungquzulwano malunga nokuzimela ngokwakho nokuthetha xa uziva unomsindo okanye ukhathazekile.

Ikwa malunga nokuqinisekisa ukuba imiba enengxaki (njengaleyo usebenza nayo) kujongwana nayo ukuze ingaphinde yenzeke kwixesha elizayo.

Yenza isicwangciso

Ukuba nesicwangciso esibekiweyo ngaphambi kokujongana nomntu kunokukunceda uzive ulungele ngakumbi ngalo mzuzu.

Ziqhelanise neengongoma ezimfutshane ongathanda ukuzifumana kumphathi okanye umntu osebenza naye ukuze uzive uzithembile xa uthetha nazo.

Chaza ngokucacileyo into ongathanda ukuyisombulula phambi kwempikiswano kwaye ubhale ezinciniweyo, iimpendulo eziyinyani oza kuzisebenzisa xa zifuneka (“Ndisebenze kade kwezi veki zimbini zidlulileyo ngelixa umntu endisebenza naye engakhange afumane isabelo sakhe sophando”) .

Sebenzisa izivamvo zakho ukukhulula ngokukhawuleza uxinzelelo

Hlala ugxile kwimeko yoxinzelelo ngokujolisa kunye nokuzoba kwibhokisi yezixhobo zakho: ukubona, isandi, ukubamba, incasa, kunye nephunga.

Oku kuyakuvumela ukuba uhlale ukhululekile kwaye uzilawule ngexesha lamaxesha oxinzelelo.

Ukuba ungumntu obonwayo, umzekelo, unokukhulula uxinzelelo ngokuvala amehlo akho kunye nokucinga ngemifanekiso ethomalalisayo.

Ngokufanayo, ukuba uyathuthuzeleka nangakumbi ngamavumba, ungagcina ioyile ebalulekileyo ukuze uthathe iwhiff ekhawulezileyo xa uziva uxhalabile.

Qaphela kwaye ulawule iimvakalelo zakho

Ukwazi indlela iimvakalelo zakho ezinokukuchaphazela ngayo unokukunceda uziqonde ngakumbi wena kunye nabanye. Ngaphambi kokudibana nomntu, zama ukuvavanya kwaye ubuze iimvakalelo zakho.

Endaweni yokuzama ukuthomalalisa iimvakalelo ezinje ngomsindo, usizi, okanye uloyiko, zama ukuzijonga ngokusebenzisa iilensi zenceba, kwaye uzivumele ukuba ubone iingcinga zakho ezimbi ngovelwano.

Ungazama ukuziqhelanisa nezi ziqinisekiso zilandelayo:

• "Kulungile ukuziva kodwa ndiziva ngalo mzuzu - iimvakalelo zam zisemthethweni."
• “Ndifanelekile ukuba ndiviwe.”
• "Onke amava am (amahle kunye alungileyo) andinika indawo yokukhula."

Sombulula imiba ngexesha lokwenyani

Endaweni yokukhanyisa ngokungapheliyo kwaye uvumele ukungqubana kukhule entlokweni yakho, zama ukuthatha indlela ethembisayo.

Ungaqala ngokuchaza umba ngaphandle kweemvakalelo kwaye usebenzise izivakalisi ezisekwe kwinyani ezinje, "Kubonakala ngathi ndisebenze kanzima kule projekthi kwaye igama lam belishiyelwe ngaphandle kwintetho."

Kulumkele ukutyhola okanye ukuzikhusela xa usiya kumntu osebenza naye othathe lonke ityala lomsebenzi wakho.

Endaweni yoko, yithi "Ndingavuya ukuba, ukuya phambili, sisebenzisa amagama ethu kwiprojekthi kwaye sibandakanya omnye nomnye kuzo zonke ii-imeyile kumlawuli wethu."

Ungalufumana nini uncedo

Ngelixa kunokuba kukuhenda ukubekisa iimvakalelo ezinjengomsindo kunye nokudakumba ngokungasigungqisi isikhephe, ukuthambekisa ukuthintela ukungqubana kunokuthatha impilo yakho yengqondo.

Ukushiya iimbambano zingasonjululwanga kukhokelela kupheliso lokuzivavanya kunye nemvakalelo enkulu yesizungu enokwakha ekuhambeni kwexesha.

Ukuthetha nonyango olufanelekileyo kunokukunceda ufunde indlela yokulawula ngcono iimvakalelo zakho ezingalunganga. Ungasebenza kunye ekusombululeni ukungavisisani ngakumbi.

Umgca wezantsi

Olunye uhlobo lwempikiswano luyinto eqhelekileyo kubomi bethu bobuqu kunye nobungcali.

Ngelixa kulungile ukuba ungaze ukhululeke ngokupheleleyo kukujongana, ukukwazi ukusombulula imiba ngokukuko kuthetha ukuyamkela njengenxalenye esempilweni yokunxibelelana nabanye.

Khumbula ukuba ukungavumelani kunika ukuqonda okunzulu kwaye kwenza kube lula ukunxibelelana nabahlobo bethu, amaqabane kunye nabantu esisebenza nabo.

Ukufunda indlela yokujongana nomntu ngokuzithemba ngekhe kwenzeke ngobusuku obunye. Kodwa usenokuthatha amanyathelo amancinci suku ngalunye ukuziva ukhululekile ukujongana noloyiko lwakho nokuzithethela.

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