Yonke into ekufuneka uyazi malunga nokulila kwayo ngaphandle kwendlela

Umxholo

• Yeyiphi indlela yeCIO?
• Indlela kaWeissbluth
• Indlela kaMurkoff
• Indlela kaBucknam no-Ezzo
• Indlela kaHogg noBlau
• Indlela kaFerber
• Indlela kaGiordano kunye no-Abidin
• Ngolwazi oluthe kratya
• Isebenza njani indlela ye-CIO
• 1. Misela inkqubo enokuqikelelwa ngexesha lasebusuku
• 2. Beka umntwana wakho kwisibhedlele sakhe
• 3. Bukela ulinde
• 4. Thoba umoya, kodwa ungalibazisi
• 5. Cinga ngezinye iimeko
• 6. Yiba ngokungaguquguqukiyo
• Kude kangakanani xa kufikwa kumba wokulila?
• Iminyaka yokuqala
• Abaxhasi bathi…
• Abagxeki bathi…
• Ukuthatha

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

"Lala xa umntwana elele," batsho. Kodwa uza kuthini ukuba eyakho ayibonakali inomdla wokulala? kukonke?

Ewe, awuwedwa. Kukho uninzi lweencwadi zokuba ngumzali ezibhalwe ngokukodwa malunga neendlela zoqeqesho lokulala, ezinye zazo zibandakanya ukuvumela usana lwakho lukhale kangangexesha elithile.

Ngelixa inokuvakala irhabaxa, uluvo emva kokulukhala, njengoko lubizwa njalo, kukuba usana lunokufunda ukuzithobisa ukulala ngokuchasene nokuxhomekeka kumongi ukubathoba. Kwaye ukuzithoba kunokukhokelela kwizakhono zokulala ezomeleleyo kunye nokuzimela ngokuhamba kwexesha.

Masiqwalasele ngakumbi indlela yokulila ukuze ubone ukuba yinto ofuna ukuyizama.

Yeyiphi indlela yeCIO?

"Khala" (i-CIO) - okanye ngamanye amaxesha "ukulila okulawulwayo" - ligama lesambrela elisetyenziselwa ukuchaza iindlela ezahlukeneyo ezibandakanya ukuvumela usana lukhale njengoko lufunda ukulala lodwa.

Unokuqhelana nendlela yeFerber, umzekelo, enabazali ababeke ixesha elithile lokujonga umntwana ukuba bayakhala - kodwa zikhona ezininzi ezinye iinkqubo zokuqeqesha ukulala ezibandakanya amanqanaba ahlukeneyo e-CIO.

Indlela kaWeissbluth

Ngale ndlela, uMarc Weissbluth, MD, ucacisa ukuba abantwana banokuvuka amaxesha amabini ngobusuku kwiinyanga ezisi-8 ubudala. Nangona kunjalo, uthi abazali kufuneka baqale ixesha lokulala eliqikelelweyo- ukuvumela abantwana ukuba bakhale imizuzu eyi-10 ukuya kwengama-20 yokulala- nabantwana abancinci kangangeeveki ezi-5 ukuya kwezi-6 ubudala.

Emva koko, xa umntwana eneenyanga ezi-4 ubudala, u-Weissbluth ucebisa ukwenza into ebizwa ngokuba "kukutshabalala ngokupheleleyo," oko kuthetha ukubavumela ukuba bakhale de bayeke / balale ngaphandle kokudibana / ukujonga komzali.

Indlela kaMurkoff

UHeidi Murkoff ucacisa ukuba ngeenyanga ezi-4 ubudala (iiponti ezili-11), iintsana azisadingi zondliwa ebusuku. Oku kukwathetha ukuba banokulala ubusuku bonke- kwaye ngobo busuku ukuvuka emva kweenyanga ezintlanu ngumkhwa.

Uqeqesho lokulala-ukupheliswa okugqityiweyo, ukuvuswa okucwangcisiweyo, ukuqiniswa kwesingqisho sokulala-kuqala emva kweenyanga ezi-4 ubudala njengoko kukhethwe ngabazali. Kwiinyanga ezi-6, uMurkoff uthi "i-turkey ebandayo" i-CIO ilungile.

Indlela kaBucknam no-Ezzo

URobert Bucknam, MD, noGary Ezzo - abanike incwadi yabo ethi "On Becoming Babywise" umxholo othi "Ukunika usana lwakho isipho sokulala ebusuku" - bavakalelwa kukuba ukufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba azithobe sisipho esiza kunceda umntwana ixesha elide.U-Ezzo noBucknam bathi abantwana abaphakathi kweeveki ezisi-7 ukuya kwezi-9 ubudala bayakwazi ukulala ukuya kuthi ga kwiiyure ezisi-8 ngobusuku. Kwiiveki ezili-12, oku kunyuka ukuya kwiiyure ezili-11.

Indlela yeCIO apha ibandakanya ukuvumela imizuzu eli-15 ukuya kwengama-20 yokulila ngaphambi kokulala. Kukwabalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba le ndlela ichaza isingqisho esithile sokulala emini ngokunjalo (yitya-vuka-ulale).

Indlela kaHogg noBlau

"Intlebendwane yomntwana" uTracy Hogg noMelinda Blau bathi ngexesha umntwana enobunzima beepawundi ezili-10, bakulungele ukulala ubusuku bonke. Oko kwathiwa, bacebisa ukondla ngokudityanisiweyo ngokuhlwa kunye nokwenza ukutya kwesondlo.

Ngokubhekisele kwi-CIO, ababhali bathi iintsana ziya kwenza "iicrescendos" ezintathu zokulila ngaphambi kokulala. Abazali bavame ukunikezela ngeli xesha lesibini. Ngale ndlela, abazali bavunyelwe ukuphendula- kodwa bakhuthazwa ukuba baphinde bahambe kwangoko emva kokuhlala kosana.

Indlela kaFerber

Eyona ndlela eyaziwa kakhulu ye-CIO, uRichard Ferber, MD, usebenzisa imodeli yokupheliswa izidanga eqala xa umntwana enenyanga ezintandathu ubudala. "Ukuthweswa isidanga" ngokusisiseko kuthetha ukuba abazali bayakhuthazwa ukuba balalise umntwana ebuthongweni kodwa bozele.

Emva koko, kufuneka uvumele umntwana wakho akhale imizuzu emi-5 ngaphambi kokuba aphendule okokuqala. Emva koko, unokonyusa ixesha phakathi kweempendulo ngama-5- (okanye ngaphantsi) ukunyuswa kwemizuzu.

Indlela kaGiordano kunye no-Abidin

USuzy Giordano kunye noLisa Abidin bakholelwa ukuba iintsana ziyakwazi ukulala iiyure ezili-12 ngexesha ngaphandle kokondla ebusuku ngeeveki ezili-12 ubudala. Nje ukuba umntwana afike kwiiveki ezisibhozo ubudala, le ndlela ivumela ukukhala ebusuku imizuzu emi-3 ukuya kwemi-5 ngaphambi kokuba uphendule. Endaweni yokondla ebusuku, ababhali bakhuthaza abazali ukuba bondle abantwana rhoqo emva kweeyure ezi-3 emini.

Ngolwazi oluthe kratya

Thenga kwi-Intanethi iincwadi malunga nezi ndlela ze-CIO:

• Imikhwa yokulala esempilweni, Umntwana owonwabileyo ngu-Weissbluth
• Yintoni omawuyilindele: Unyaka wokuqala nguMurkoff
• Ngokwenza ubuntwana ngoBucknam kunye no-Ezzo
• Iimfihlelo zoMntwana oSebenzisayo nguHogg noBlau
• Sombulula iingxaki zokulala komntwana wakho nguFerber
• Ukulala kweeyure ezilishumi elinambini ngeeveki ezilishumi elinambini ezindala nguGiordano noAbidin

Isebenza njani indlela ye-CIO

Uhamba njani nge-CIO kuxhomekeke kubudala bomntwana wakho, ifilosofi oyilandelayo, kunye nokulindela kwakho ukulala. Akukho ndlela yokulinganisa enye, kwaye yintoni esebenzela usana olunye okanye usapho inokungasebenzi kakuhle komnye.

Phambi koqeqesho lokulala usebenzisa i-CIO, unokufuna ukuthetha nodokotela wabantwana bomntwana wakho ukuze ufumane ingcaciso malunga nokuba umntwana wakho kufuneka alale kangakanani ebusuku ngenxa yeminyaka yakhe, nokuba ufuna isondlo sasebusuku na, kunye nezinye izinto ezinokukhathaza.

Nantsi isampulu yendlela yokuqalisa i-CIO:

1. Misela inkqubo enokuqikelelwa ngexesha lasebusuku

Iingcali ezininzi zokuba ngumzali ziyavuma ukuba ngaphambi kweCIO, kufanele ukuba ufake umntwana wakho kwisingqisho sokulala. Ngale ndlela, umntwana wakho uyakwazi ukuqala ukuphumla kwaye afumane iindlela zokuba lixesha lokulala. Oku kunokubandakanya izinto ezinje:

• ukufiphala kwezibane ekhayeni lakho
• ukudlala umculo othambileyo okanye ingxolo emhlophe
• ukuhlamba
• Ukufunda ibali lokulala (nazi ezinye zeefeksi zethu!)

2. Beka umntwana wakho kwisibhedlele sakhe

Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uphume kwigumbi, qiniseka ukuziqhelanisa nokulala okukhuselekileyo:

• Sukuziqhelanisa ne-CIO nosana olusasongelwe ngaphambili.
• Qinisekisa ukuba isitya sokulala sicacile kuzo naziphi na izilwanyana ezifakiweyo okanye imiqamelo.
• Beka umntwana wakho emqolo ukuba alale.

3. Bukela ulinde

Ukuba unayo ividiyo okanye iliso lomntwana elweni, vula ungene ukuze ubone ukuba umntwana wakho uphi. Ngamanye amaxesha, banokulala. Kwabanye, kunokubakho ukubambana. Yilapho indlela yakho ethile ifika malunga nendlela ophendula ngayo:

• Ukuba ulandela ukuphela ngokupheleleyo, kuya kufuneka ubeke iliso emntwaneni wakho ukuze aqiniseke ukuba bakhuselekile.
• Ukuba ulandela indlela yokuthweswa isidanga, qiniseka ukuba ugcina umkhondo wamaxesha ahlukeneyo njengoko usiya kuthoba kancinci umntwana wakho.

4. Thoba umoya, kodwa ungalibazisi

Umzekelo, ukuba ulandela indlela yeFerber:

• Inkqubo ye- Ekuqaleni ubusuku, ungangena emva kwemizuzu emi-3, emva koko uphinde emva kwemizuzu emi-5, emva koko uphinde emva kwemizuzu eli-10.
• Inkqubo ye- Isibini ubusuku, amathuba anokuba ngaphezulu kwemizuzu emi-5, imizuzu eli-10, nemizuzu eli-12.
• Kwaye i Isithathu ubusuku, imizuzu eli-12, imizuzu eli-15, imizuzu eli-17.

Njalo xa ungena, khetha umntwana wakho phezulu (okanye kungenjalo - kuxhomekeke kuwe), baqinisekise, uze uhambe. Utyelelo lwakho kufuneka lube yimizuzu emi-1 ukuya kwezi-2, iintloko.

5. Cinga ngezinye iimeko

Ngamanye amaxesha, ukukhala yimiqondiso yosana lwakho yokufuna uncedo.Ngoko ke, kukho amaxesha apho umntwana wakho kunokwenzeka ukuba akhale kwaye ayakudinga. Ukuba umntwana wakho unzima ngokwenene, thatha inyathelo umva kwaye uvavanye owona mfanekiso mkhulu:

• Ngaba bayagula? Ukudibanisa?
• Ngaba igumbi lishushu kakhulu okanye libanda kakhulu?
• Ngaba ilweyile yabo lingcolile?
• Ngaba balambile?

Zininzi izizathu zokuba umntwana wakho angalila kwaye aludinga uncedo lwakho.

6. Yiba ngokungaguquguqukiyo

Kunokuba nzima ukugcina i-CIO ubusuku emva kobusuku ukuba uziva ukuba iinzame zakho azisebenzi kwangoko. Ekugqibeleni, umntwana wakho kufuneka afumane umbono.

Nangona kunjalo, ukufika apho, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzama ukuhlala ungaguquguquki kwaye ulandele isicwangciso. Ukuphendula ngamanye amaxesha hayi abanye kunokudida umntwana wakho.

Idibeneyo: Ngaba kufuneka uvumele umntwana wakho akhale nge-naps?

Kude kangakanani xa kufikwa kumba wokulila?

Nokuba ulandela ukuphela ngokupheleleyo okanye icebo lokuphela kweCIO, kuya kubakho indawo apho unokuzibuza khona: Ndimele ndimyeke ixesha elide kangakanani umntwana wam? Ngelishwa, akukho mpendulo inye kulo mbuzo.

UNicole Johnson, ingcali yokulala kunye nombhali webhlog eyaziwayo Indawo yokulala yaBantwana, uthi abazali kufuneka babe nesicwangciso esicacileyo ngaphambi kokuqala.

Injongo ye-CIO kukuba umntwana alale ngaphandle kwemibutho yokulala, njengokugungqiswa ngumama okanye ngutata. Ke, kuyakhohlisa, kuba ukungena ukujonga usana kunokubandakanya ukunyikima okanye eminye imibutho yokulala.

UJohnson uthi abazali kufuneka benze isigqibo kunye "sexesha elide" Endaweni yokulinda into evakalelwa kukuba "inde kakhulu" ngalo mzuzu, zama ukulungisa iinkcukacha ngaphambi kwexesha.

Kwaye uthi ukuba uqaphele iimeko apho ixesha elide lokulila lomntwana linokuthi libonakalise ukuba umntwana ufuna uncedo (ukugula, ukukhathazeka, njl.).

Inxulumene: Ishedyuli yokulala komntwana wakho kunyaka wokuqala

Iminyaka yokuqala

Iingcali zabelana ukuba ngelixa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zisithi ungaqala i-CIO kwinyanga ezi-3 ukuya kwezi-4 ubudala (ngamanye amaxesha umncinci), kunokuba yinto efanelekileyo ukukhula ukuba ulinde de umntwana wakho abe ngaphezu kweenyanga ezi-4 ubudala.

Ezinye iindlela ze-CIO zihamba ngobunzima bomntwana njengengcebiso yokuba uza kuqala nini. Abanye bahamba kuphela ngobudala.

Nokuba kunjalo, inento yokwenza nokukhula kunye nemibono eyahlukeneyo malunga nokuba umntwana ufuna ukutya kokondla ebusuku xa bekulungele ukuhamba ngaphandle kwabo. (Kwakhona, uyichaza njani into "ukuhamba ngaphandle kokondla ebusuku". Kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kokuya kwiiyure ezi-6 ukuya kwezi-8 ngaphandle kokondla nokuhamba iiyure ezili-12 ngaphandle.)

Le theyibhile ilandelayo ibonisa ubudala beendlela ezahlukeneyo abathi abazali bangaqala ngayo izinto ezinje nge "cold turkey", "extinction", okanye "extinction extinction" CIO ngeentsana.

Ingcinga efanelekileyo yokuthetha nodokotela wezilwanyana ngaphambi kokuba uqale nayiphi na Inkqubo ye-CIO, njengoko umntwana wakho enokuba neemfuno ezithile zempilo okanye zokondla ezingakhange ziqwalaselwe ziincwadi zomzali.

Njengazo zonke izinto zokuba ngumzali, zama konke okusemandleni akho ukuba ungahambi kakhulu ngencwadi kwaye ujonge iimfuno zomntwana wakho ngamnye.

Idibeneyo: Iingcebiso ezi-5 zokunceda umntwana wakho alale ubusuku bonke

Abaxhasi bathi…

Mhlawumbi unaye umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho elifunga ngokupheleleyo ukuba i-CIO yayiyitikiti labo lokulala ngempumelelo yasebusuku. Ewe, ukuba usengumbala omncinci wale ndlela, kukho iindaba ezimnandi: Uphononongo luka-2016 lujolise kwiziphumo zeemvakalelo zokuyeka iintsana zikhale. Iziphumo azibonisanga kukhathazeka okuhlala ixesha elide.

Kubalulekile ukuba uchaze ukuba isifundo sijonge ngokukodwa iindlela zoqeqesho lokulala ezibandakanya ukuphela kwezidanga, apho abazali baphendula khona kwizikhalazo ngamaxesha amiselweyo.

Ukwenza uphando, izazinzulu zilinganise iicortisol zeentsana (i "hormone yoxinzelelo") amanqanaba zisebenzisa amathe. Emva koko, emva konyaka omnye, iintsana zavavanyelwa izinto ezinjengeengxaki zemvakalelo / zokuziphatha kunye nemicimbi yokuncamathisela. Abaphandi abafumananga mahluko ubalulekileyo kwezi ndawo phakathi kweentsana kuvavanyo kunye namaqela olawulo.

Abaphandi baphinde bavavanya ukuba ingaba iindlela ze-CIO zikhokelela ekulaleni ngcono. Kwakhona, impendulo yayiqinisekile. Iintsana eziye zakhala zalala ngokukhawuleza kwaye zazinoxinzelelo oluncinci kunabantwana abakwiqela lolawulo. Iintsana ze-CIO zazinethuba lokulala ubusuku bonke kuneqela lolawulo.

Ngelixa le sisampulu enye, kuvavanywa iziphumo zexesha elide zoqeqesho lokulala. Iziphumo zazifana. Kwiminyaka emihlanu emva koqeqesho lokulala, abaphandi bagqibe kwelokuba ungenelelo olo alunaziphumo zibi- kwaye kwakungekho mahluko phakathi kovavanyo kunye namaqela olawulo.

Abagxeki bathi…

Njengoko unokucinga, uluvo lokuvumela usana lukhale ixesha elithile ngaphandle kokubandakanyeka kwabazali lufumana ubushushu kubagxeki. Kodwa ngaba lukhona uphando oluxhasa uluvo lokuba ukulila kunokuba yingozi kwiintsana?

Omnye wacebisa ukuba iintsana zinamathele ngakumbi koonina xa ukuhlangana ebusuku kulungile - Oko kukuthi, xa umama (okanye utata, mhlawumbi, nangona isifundo sijonge oomama) bephakamisa kwaye bethoba usana xa bevuka belila.

Isazi ngengqondo uMacall Gordon ucacisa ukuba iindlela ezithandwayo zokuqeqesha ubuthongo zibonakala ngathi zithatha indawo yokuba amandla okulala ixesha elide ayacacanga, oko kuthetha ukuba inani lokulala komntwana wakho ebusuku kufuneka lenyuke ngokuhamba kwexesha.

Nangona kunjalo, uchaza ukuba ukulala kunokubotshelelwa kwizinto ezinje:

• ukukhula kwengqondo
• ubuntu bomntwana wakho okanye ubume bomzimba
• inkcubeko kunye nophuhliso lokuhlehla kunyaka wokuqala

Ngamanye amagama: Ukulala akunqunyulwanga kwaye kome, kwaye akukho sicwangciso sithile- kubandakanya ukulila okanye hayi - esiya kwenza ukuba umntwana wakho alale ngokuthembekileyo iiyure ezili-12 busuku ngabunye.

Inxulumene: Ngaba ukukhetha, ukubeka indlela yokusebenza kuyenza ukuba umntwana wakho alale?

Ukuthatha

Unokusebenza kwimikhwa yokulala engcono nosana lwakho ngaphandle kokubhalisela nayiphi na indlela ethile yoqeqesho lokulala. Ezinye iingcebiso:

• HLALA ulungelelanisa ixesha lokulala rhoqo ebusuku kwaye ubeke umntwana wakho kwindawo yakhe yozela kodwa avuke.
• YENZA ukuba umntwana wakho athethe kancinci kwaye ucinge ngokusebenzisa i-pacifier ukubanceda bahlale.
• YENZA umsebenzi wokuqonda ukuba yintoni efanelekileyo ekukhuleni okulindelweyo kumntwana wakho xa kuziwa kukuvuka ebusuku / ukondliwa.
• SUKhathazeke ukuba iindlela ozizamayo azisebenzi.

Abanye abantwana bazalwa belala kamnandi. Kwabanye, yinkqubo enokuthatha ixesha. Ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nemikhwa yokulala komntwana wakho, unganqikazi ukwenza idinga kunye nodokotela wezilwanyana.

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