Umdaniso Uncede Lo Mfazana Ukuba Abuyise Umzimba Wakhe Emva Kokulahlekelwa Ngunyana Wakhe

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UKosolu Ananti uhlala ethanda ukuhambisa umzimba wakhe. Ukukhula emva kweminyaka yee-80s, i-aerobics yayiyeyona jam yakhe. Njengoko ukusebenza kwakhe kwavela, waqala ngokwenza uqeqesho lwamandla ngakumbi kunye ne-cardio, kodwa uhlala efumana indlela yokucinezela kwimidaniso embalwa phakathi. Ngo-2014, waba ngumqeqeshi wobuqu oqinisekisiweyo, emva koko wakhulelwa-kwaye yonke into yatshintsha. (Funda indlela ibhalethi eyamnceda ngayo omnye umfazi ukuba aqhagamshele kwakhona nomzimba wakhe.)

"Kwasekuqaleni nje, bendisazi ukuba kukho into engalunganga," utshilo uKosolu, odlula eKasa Ubume. "Bendisopha kakhulu, kodwa ngalo lonke ixesha ndisiya esibhedlele okanye ndindwendwela i-ob-gyn yam, bandixelela ukuba ukukhulelwa kwam kusasebenza."

Ngelixa wayeneenyanga ezintandathu ehamba, uKasa wayesele ethathe ixesha elininzi lokungayi emsebenzini ukuze aye kugqirha kunye notyelelo olungxamisekileyo esibhedlele. Wayenexhala lokuba ukungayi emsebenzini kwakunokumphulula umsebenzi wakhe. Ngoko ngenye imini, xa weva ukuxinana okungaqhelekanga, wagqiba kwelokuba atyhale, ecinga ukuba yonke into isenokuba ilungile, kanye njengokuba kwakunjalo ngamaxesha onke ngaphambili.

Emva kokuba esezintlungwini okwethutyana kwaye enendawo ethile, wagqiba kwelokuba aye esibhedlele, apho bamxelela khona ukuba wayesebenza ngaphambi kwexesha. "Ngexesha lokungena kwam, ndandisele ndi-2cm," utshilo uKasa.

Wahlala esibhedlele iintsuku ezimbini, enethemba lokulugcina usana olo kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ngomhla wesithathu, wazala unyana wakhe ngecandelo le-C elingxamisekileyo.

Unyana wakhe wayengaphambi kwexesha kakhulu, kodwa izinto zazihamba kakuhle. "Wayehamba kakhulu, amehlo akhe evulekile-asenza ukuba sicinge ukuba sinethuba," utshilo uKasa. Kodwa emva kweentsuku ezisixhenxe ngelixa uKasa kunye nomyeni wakhe babetyelele unyana wabo eNICU, amalungu akhe aqala ukusilela waza wasweleka.

"Besingakholelwa," utshilo uKasa. "Nangona besisazi ukuba silumkile, sinethemba elininzi, elenze ukuba ilahleko yakhe ibonakale ngathi yothukile."

Kwiinyanga ezintathu ezilandelayo, uKasa walahleka. Uthi: "Andizange ndizive ngathi," utshilo. "Bendingafuni ukuya naphi na okanye ndenze nantoni na kwaye bekukho amaxesha apho bendinqwenela ukuba ndingavuki. Kodwa bendisazi ukuba kufuneka ndifumane indlela yokuphila ngandlela thile." (Idibeneyo: Nantsi kanye kanye into eyenzekileyo xa bendinokukhupha umtshato)

U-Kasa wazifumana eneenyembezi ezingalawulekiyo emva kokubukela intengiso ye-diaper yosana. "Ndaziva ndibuhlungu kakhulu kwaye ndazi ukuba kufuneka ndiphakame ndenze into, ukuba andizenzeli yona ngenxa yenkumbulo yonyana wam," utshilo. "Ndandiphantsi kakhulu, ndizuze iiponti ezingama-25 kwaye ndandingenzi nto ukuya phambili."

Ke, uthathe isigqibo sokwenza into ebephupha ukuyenza kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo: ukuziqalela inkampani yakhe yokomelela komzimba. “Ndihlala ndifuna ukwenza into edibanisa uthando lwam lomdaniso kunye nokomelela kwaye ndicinge nge-afrikoPOP ngo-2014,” utshilo uKasa. "Njengesizukulwana sokuqala sase-Afrika saseMelika, ndandifuna ukudala into equka umdaniso waseNtshona Afrika kunye noqeqesho oluphezulu." (Jonga kwakhona: Iiklasi ezi-5 zoMdaniso eNtsha eziphindwe kabini njengeCardio)

Emva kokucacisa konke ukuba asebenze kwi-doc yakhe, uKasa waqala ukuyila iklasi. “Ukusukela ngoJanuwari, ndabelana nge-afrikoPOP namakhulu abantu kwaye impendulo nothando luyamangalisa,” utshilo. (Iiklasi ziyafumaneka kwingingqi yaseDallas-Fort Worth okwangoku.)

Ngokuzibeka phaya, ukuleqa iphupha lakhe, kunye nokufunda ukonwabela ukusebenza kwakhona, uKasa ufunde ukuthanda nokwamkela umzimba wakhe emva kokuphulukana nonyana wakhe. "Ukufa kweentsana kuxhaphake kakhulu kunokuba ubuya kucinga, kodwa kukho ihlazo kakhulu," utshilo uKasa. "Uzibona ubuza ukuba yintoni ingxaki ngawe? Wonke umntu ubonakala enabantwana ngokulunga, kutheni ungenako?"

Kodwa ukuqala kwe-afrikoPOP kwenza ukuba uKasa aqonde ukuba okwenzekileyo yayingelilo ityala lakhe. "Andizange ndixelele mntu ngento eyenzekileyo kunyana wam, kwaye ukubuyisa umzimba wam nokuzithemba kwakhona kwandenza ndabona ukuba kulungile ukwabelana ngam ibali lam," utshilo. "Abafazi abaninzi beza ngaphambili namabali afanayo, bendenza ndiqonde ngakumbi ukuba andindedwa."

Namhlanje, uKasa ukhulelwe kwakhona kwaye akukho zingxaki. “Ndifuna abantu basetyhini bazi ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukumamela umzimba wakho, ukhulelwe okanye hayi,” utshilo uKasa. "Ngokuphathelele unyana wam, ngumlo wam, umphumi-mkhosi wam ingelosi yam engumgcini kwaye ndiyambulela uThixo ngobomi bakhe. Umoya wakhe uyandityhala kolu hambo. Undigcina ndidanisa."

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