Ndifuna Ukwabelana Ngenyaniso Ngokuphila noGawulayo

Umxholo

• Ukusela ukujamelana nokuziphatha kwakhe ngokwesondo
• Ukufumana isifo sikaGawulayo ngelixa usilwa nomlutha
• Ukukhuthaza ulwazi malunga ne-HIV ne-AIDS
• Ukufumana isidima nokujongana nomhlaza

Ngelixa unyango lwe-HIV ne-AIDS lude lude, uDaniel Garza wabelana ngohambo lwakhe kunye nenyaniso ngokuphila nesi sifo.

Impilo kunye nokuphila kakuhle kuchaphazela ngamnye wethu ngokwahlukileyo. Eli libali lomntu omnye.

Ukususela ngexesha uDaniel Garza wayeneminyaka emi-5 ubudala, wayesazi ukuba wayenomdla kubafana. Kodwa evela kwimvelaphi yamaKatolika aseMexico, ejongene nokufezekiswa kwathatha iminyaka.

Xa wayeneminyaka emithathu ubudala, intsapho kaGarza yashiya iMexico ukuba ifudukele eDallas, eTexas.

"Njengomntu wokuqala waseMelika kunye nonyana kuphela waseMexico, wamaKatolika, osapho olondolozayo, uxinzelelo oluninzi kunye nokulindelwa okuza nayo," utshilo uGarza uHealthline.

Xa uGarza wayeneminyaka eli-18 ubudala, wayekhutshelwa ngaphandle kusapho, olwaqubisana naye kwimpelaveki yokuBonga ngo-1988.

“Abonwabanga yindlela ephume ngayo yonke le nto. Ukuthatha unyango iminyaka emininzi ukumelana neempendulo zabo. Utata wam wayenengqondo yokuba sisigaba nje kwaye yayiyimpazamo yakhe, kodwa ukuba ndingatshintshwa, ”ukhumbula oko uGarza.

Umama wakhe wayephoxekile kukuba uGarza wayengamthembi ngokwaneleyo ukuba angamxelela.

“Mna nomama sasisondelelene kakhulu ndisemncinci, kwaye wayedla ngokuza kum amaxesha amaninzi ebuza ukuba ingaba ikhona into eyenzekayo okanye ikhona into endifuna ukumxelela yona. Ndandihlala ndisithi ‘hayi.’ Xa ndandikhutshiwe, wayecaphuka kakhulu kuba ndingazange ndizityand 'igila kuye, ”utshilo uGarza.

Ukusela ukujamelana nokuziphatha kwakhe ngokwesondo

Ngaphambi kokuba avuleke ngokuba ngumlingani, uGarza waqala ukulwa notywala malunga neminyaka eyi-15.

“Kukho iphakheji yonke eza nokusela kum. Yayiyingcinezelo encinci yoontanga eyayizenzela kwaye ifuna ukwamkeleka kwabanye abantwana, kunye nokufuna ukonwaba ngesini sam, utshilo.

Xa wayeneminyaka eli-17 ubudala, wafumanisa ibha yesitabane eyamvumela ukuba angene.

“Ndingaba ngumfana olifanasini kwaye ndikulungele ukwamkela. Ndandibawela ukuzimanya nabanye abafana. Xa ndandisemncinci, ndandingasondelanga notata kwaye umama wayeyinto encinci yomama wehelikopta. Ndicinga ukuba wayesazi ukuba ndahlukile ngandlela thile kwaye ke ukuze andikhusele akazange andivumele ukuba ndixhomeke ngaphandle okanye ndenze okuninzi namanye amakhwenkwe, utshilo uGarza. “Ukuya kwindawo enesitabane nokusela kulapho bekungafuneki ukuba ndibengunyana ogqibeleleyo okanye umzalwana othe ngqo. Ndingahamba nje, ndiyibaleke yonke le nto, ndingazixhalabisi nganto. ”

Ngelixa esithi wakhangela ubuhlobo kunye namadoda, imigca yayihlala iphazanyiswa zizesondo kunye neqabane.

Ukufumana isifo sikaGawulayo ngelixa usilwa nomlutha

Xa ejonga ngasemva, uGarza ukholelwa ukuba ufumene i-HIV kubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo kwiminyaka yakhe yama-20. Kodwa ngelo xesha, wayengazi ukuba uyagula. Kodwa ke, wayeqala umzabalazo wakhe weziyobisi notywala.

“Ngoku ndandineminyaka engama-24, kwaye ndandingazi ukuba ndingaluphatha njani ulwalamano. Ndandifuna uhlobo lobudlelwane umama kunye notata ababenalo kwaye oodadewethu kunye nabayeni babo babenabo, kodwa ndandingazi ukuba ndingayidlulisela njani kubudlelwane bobufanasini, utshilo uGarza. “Ke, malunga neminyaka emihlanu, bendisela kwaye ndisebenzisa iziyobisi kwaye ndafumana isizwe sam sabanye esenza njalo. Ndandinomsindo. ”

Ngo-1998, uGarza wathuthela eHouston ukuze ahlale nabazali bakhe. Kodwa wayeqhubeka esela kwaye esenza iziyobisi ngelixa esebenza kwindawo yokutyela ukuze enze imali.

“Ndibhitye kakhulu. Bendingakwazi ukutya, ukubila ebusuku, urhudo, kunye nokugabha. Ngenye imini, enye yeendwendwe zam eziqhelekileyo yaxelela umphathi wam ukuba andibonakali kakuhle. Umphathi wam wathi mandigoduke ndiye kuzihoya, utshilo uGarza.

Ngelixa uGarza esola ilizwe lakhe ngokusela, iziyobisi, kunye nomthendeleko, uthi uyazi ukuba ezantsi kweempawu zakhe zinxulumene noGawulayo. Kungekudala emva kokubuya kwakhe emsebenzini, waphela esibhedlele eneeseli ezili-108 T kunye nobunzima beepawundi ezili-108. Wafumana isifo sikaGawulayo esisemthethweni ngoSeptemba 2000 eneminyaka engama-30 ubudala.

Ngoxa wayesesibhedlele iiveki ezintathu, wayengenako ukufikelela kwiziyobisi okanye etywaleni. Nangona kunjalo, emva kokuba ekhululwe, wabuyela eHouston wayokuhlala yedwa kwaye waphinda wasela wasebenzisa iziyobisi.

"Ndadibana ne-bartender kwaye yayiyiyo," utshilo uGarza.

Kwakungekho ngo-2007 ukuba uGarza wangena kwiintsuku ezingama-90 zokuvuselelwa kwenkundla. Ucocekile ukusukela ngoko.

“Bandiqhekezisile kwaye bandinceda ukudibanisa yonke into. Ndichithe iminyaka eli-10 edlulileyo ndizalisa iziqwenga kwakhona, utshilo uGarza.

Ukukhuthaza ulwazi malunga ne-HIV ne-AIDS

Ngalo lonke ulwazi kunye namava akhe, uGarza unikezela ixesha lakhe ekuncedeni abanye.

Ndiyakholelwa ukuba sonke soyise izinto ezinzima ebomini bethu, kwaye thina
sonke singafunda omnye komnye.

Ubhengezo lwakhe lwaqala ngokufumanisa isifo sakhe se-HIV. Waqala ngokuzithandela ukuhambisa iikhondom kwiarhente yaseTexas awayethembele kuyo ngenkxaso kunye neenkonzo. Ke ngo-2001, iarhente yamcela ukuba aye kumboniso wezempilo kwikholeji yasekuhlaleni ukuze athethe nabafundi.

“Elo yayilixesha lokuqala ndizazisa ukuba ndine-HIV. Kulapho ke ndaqala khona ukuzifundisa kunye nosapho lwam, kunye nabanye, malunga nesifo sikagawulayo kuba sahambisa amaphecana ngesifo endizakufunda ndifunde kuso, ”ucacisa uGarza.

Kule minyaka, usebenze kwimibutho yase-Texas esemaZantsi efana ne-The Valley AIDS Council, i-Thomas Street Clinic e-Houston, i-Houston Ryan White Council Council, iiNkonzo zoKhuseleko lwaBantwana e-Houston, kunye ne-Radiant Health Centres.

Uye wabuyela ekholejini ukuya kuba ngumcebisi weziyobisi notywala. Ungummeli wokufikelela kunye nesithethi esidlangalaleni kwiYunivesithi yaseCalifornia, eIrvine, naseShanti Orange County. Ukuba oko kwakungonelanga, ungusihlalo weLaguna Beach Advisory Committee, umbutho ocebisa ibhunga ledolophu yakhe ngemigaqo-nkqubo kunye neenkonzo ezinxulumene ne-HIV- kunye ne-AIDS.

Ngokwabelana ngebali lakhe, uGarza unethemba lokufundisa kuphela abantu abancinci
malunga nokwabelana ngesondo okukhuselekileyo kunye ne-HIV ne-AIDS, kodwa nokuphelisa umbono wokuba uGawulayo uyiyo
kulula ukuphatha nokunyanga.

"Abo bangeyonxalenye yoluntu lwe-HIV bahlala becinga ukuba abantu abane-HIV baphila ngalo lonke eli xesha ngoko ke akunakuba kubi okanye kuphantsi kolawulo okanye amayeza namhlanje ayasebenza," utshilo uGarza.

“Xa ndisabelana ngebali lam, andijonganga lusizi, ndifumana ingongoma yokuba i-HIV kunzima ukuhlala nayo. Kodwa kananjalo, ndibonisa ukuba nangona ndinoGawulayo, andizukuvumela umhlaba uhambe ngam. Ndinendawo kuyo, kwaye kukuya ezikolweni ukuzama ukuhlangula abantwana. ”

Kodwa ngethuba leentetho zakhe, uGarza akayena wonke umonakalo kunye nobumnyama. Usebenzisa charisma kunye noburharha ukunxibelelana nabaphulaphuli bakhe. "Ukuhleka kwenza izinto zibe lula ukwetyisa," utshilo uGarza.

Usebenzisa indlela yakhe yokukhuthaza abantu bayo yonke iminyaka kunye neemvelaphi ngePodcast yakhe. Ngexesha lesiganeko sokulinga ngo-2012, uGarza waxoxa ngesondo, iziyobisi kunye ne-HIV. Ukusukela ngoko, uwenze banzi umda wokubandakanya iindwendwe ezinemvelaphi eyahlukeneyo.

"Ndifuna ukwabelana ngamabali ngabantu ababuyisela ubomi babo ndawonye," kusho uGarza. "Ndiyakholelwa ukuba sonke sonqobile izinto ezinzima ebomini bethu, kwaye sonke singafunda omnye komnye."

Ukufumana isidima nokujongana nomhlaza

Ngexesha lokudakumba, wajongana nomnye umqobo: ukuxilongwa komhlaza ezimpundu. UGarza wafumana esi sifo ngo-2015 eneminyaka engama-44 kwaye wafumana iinyanga zekhemotherapy kunye nemitha.

Ngo-2016, kwafuneka afakwe isikhwama se-colostomy, esiya kuthiwa nguTommy.

Isoka lakhe leminyaka eliqela, umKristu, wayemi ecaleni kwakhe ekuchongeni isifo somhlaza, unyango kunye nokuhlinzwa kwengxowa yecolostomy. Uye wanceda uGarza ukuba abhale uhambo lwakhe kwividiyo ye-YouTube ebizwa ngokuba yi "Bag ebizwa ngokuba nguTommy."

Iividiyo zam zibonisa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuhlala nazo zonke izinto endinazo.

UGarza ebesele exolelwe ngumhlaza ukusukela ngoJulayi ka-2017. Iimpawu zakhe zikaGawulayo ziphantsi kolawulo nangona esithi iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ezibangelwa ngamayeza, afana noxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu kunye ne-cholesterol, ziyatshintsha. Unentliziyo yokumbombozela, udiniwe rhoqo, kwaye ujongene nesifo samathambo.

Uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo kube ngumzabalazo iminyaka, kwaye ezinye iintsuku zingcono kunezinye.

“Bendingazi ukuba kukho iPTSD enxulumene nempilo. Ngenxa yayo yonke into umzimba wam obuhamba ngayo ubomi bam bonke, ndihlala ndiqaphile ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo ngomzimba wam okanye, kwelinye icala, ndingaphika ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo nomzimba wam, ”utshilo uGarza.

… Nangona ndinoGawulayo, andizukuvumela ilizwe lidlule
mna.

Garza kwindawo apho angabuyela khona kwaye aqonde yonke into ayivayo nayicingayo.

“Ndiyasiqonda isizathu sokuba ndidandatheke okanye ndicaphuke ngamanye amaxesha. Umzimba wam nengqondo kunye nomphefumlo kudlule kwizinto ezininzi, ”utshilo uGarza. "Ndilahlekelwe kakhulu kwaye ndizuze okuninzi ukuze ndikwazi ukuzijonga ngokupheleleyo ngoku."

Kubalisa uDaniel Garza ku Cathy Cassata

UCathy Cassata ngumbhali ozimeleyo ojolise kumabali ajikeleze impilo, impilo yengqondo kunye nokuziphatha komntu. Unobuchule bokubhala ngeemvakalelo kunye nokunxibelelana nabafundi ngendlela enengqiqo nenomdla. Funda ngakumbi ngomsebenzi wakhe apha.