Uqeqesha njani uMntwana oneminyaka emi-2 ubudala

Umxholo

• Ungabahoyi
• Hamb 'umshiye
• Banike oko bakufunayo ngokwemiqathango yakho
• Ukuphazamisa nokuguqula ingqalelo yabo
• Cinga njengomntwana wakho omncinci
• Nceda umntwana wakho ahlole
• Kodwa beka imida
• Beka ngexesha lokuvala
• Ukuthatha

Khawufane ucinge ngoku: Usekhaya, usebenza edesikeni yakho. Intombi yakho eneminyaka emibini iza kuwe nencwadi yayo oyithandayo. Ufuna ukuba umfundele. Umxelela kamnandi ukuba awukwazi ngalo mzuzu, kodwa uza kumfundela ngeyure. Uqala ukukhupha. Into elandelayo uyazi, uhleli enqamleze iminqwazi ekhaphethini, elila ngokungalawulekiyo.

Uninzi lwabazali luyalahleka xa kufikwa kumba wokulungisa umsindo weentsana zabo. Kusenokubonakala ngathi akuyi ndawo kuba umntwana wakho akakumameli.

Ke kuya kufuneka wenze ntoni?

Umsindo wobushushu yinxalenye eqhelekileyo yokukhula. Bayindlela yomntwana wakho oneminyaka emibini yokubonakalisa ukukhathazeka xa bengenamagama okanye ulwimi lokukuxelela into abayifunayo okanye abaziva ngayo. Ingaphezulu nje kokuba "ngamawele amabi". Yindlela yakho encinci yokufunda ukujongana nemiceli mngeni kunye nokuphoxeka.

Kukho iindlela onokuthi uphendule ngazo xa ugqabhuka okanye ekuziphatheni okungalunganga ngaphandle kokuchaphazela kakubi umntwana wakho oneminyaka emi-2 ubudala kunye nokukhula kwabo. Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa ngeendlela ezifanelekileyo zokuqeqesha umntwana wakho omncinci.

Ungabahoyi

Oku kunokubonakala kunzima, kodwa enye yeendlela eziphambili zokuphendula kumntwana wakho ukuba angazibandakanyi. Nje ukuba umntwana wakho oneminyaka emi-2 abe nomsindo, iimvakalelo zabo ziye zabangcono, kwaye ukuthetha nabo okanye ukuzama amanye amanyathelo oqeqesho akunakusebenza ngelo xesha. Qiniseka ukuba bakhuselekile, emva koko uyeke umsindo. Xa bezolile, banike kwaye uqhubeke nosuku.

Abantwana abaneminyaka emibini abadli ngokuba neenjongo ngenjongo, ngaphandle kokuba bafunda ukuba ukuba nomsindo yeyona ndlela ilula yokufumana ingqalelo. Unokufuna ukubazisa, ngokuqinileyo, ukuba awubahoyi ingqumbo yabo kuba indlela yokuziphatha ayisiyondlela yokufumana ingqalelo yakho.Baxelele ngqongqo kodwa ngokuzola ukuba kufuneka basebenzise amagama abo ukuba bafuna ukukuxelela into.

Basenokungabinaso isigama esipheleleyo sokukuxelela, nokuba bayawazi amagama, ke bakhuthaze ngezinye iindlela. Ungalufundisa ulwimi lwakho lokuthetha ngezandla njengamagama athi “Ndifuna,” “ndonzakalise,” “ngaphezulu,” “ndisele,” kwaye “ndidiniwe” ukuba abathethi okwangoku okanye abathethi ngokucacileyo. Ukufumana ezinye iindlela zonxibelelwano kunokunceda ukunciphisa ukuqhuma kwaye kukuncede wakhe ubudlelwane obomeleleyo nomntwana wakho.

Hamb 'umshiye

Ukuqonda imida yakho yinxalenye yokuqeqesha umntwana wakho oneminyaka emi-2. Ukuba uziva unomsindo, hamba. Thatha umoya.

Khumbula ukuba umntwana wakho akakho mbi okanye uzama ukukucaphukisa. Endaweni yoko, bayazicaphukisa kwaye abanako ukuveza iimvakalelo zabo ngendlela yabantu abadala. Xa uzolile, uya kuba nakho ukuqeqesha ngokufanelekileyo umntwana wakho ngendlela engayi kuba yingozi.

Banike oko bakufunayo ngokwemiqathango yakho

Umntwana wakho omncinci ubamba ingqayi yejusi kwaye uzama kanzima ukuyivula. Ucinga ukuba oku kuya kuphela kakubi. Unokumngxolisa umntwana wakho ukuba abeke ijusi phantsi.

Endaweni yoko, thabatha ngobumnene isitya kubo. Baqinisekise ukuba uya kuvula ibhotile kwaye ubathulule iglasi. Ungabusebenzisa obu buchule kwezinye iimeko, ngokungathi bafikelela kwinto ethile kwikhabhinethi okanye ukuba baphosa iithoyi zabo ngeenxa zonke kuba kunzima ukufikelela kuleyo bayifunayo.

Ukuboleka ngokunceda ngale ndlela kubenza bazi ukuba bangacela uncedo xa benengxaki endaweni yokuzama ngokwabo kunye nokwenza isiphithiphithi. Kodwa ukuba awufuni ukuba babe nayo loo nto, sebenzisa ilizwi elipholileyo ukucacisa ukuba kutheni uyithatha kwaye unikezela ngento engena endaweni.

Ukuphazamisa nokuguqula ingqalelo yabo

Ithuku lethu njengabazali kukukhulisa umntwana wethu kwaye simsuse kuye nakweyiphi na into enokuba yingozi asinge kuyo. Kodwa loo nto inokubangela umsindo kuba uyabasusa kwinto abayifunayo. Ukuba bangena emngciphekweni, njengesitalato esixakekileyo, kulungile. Bonke abantwana abaneminyaka emi-2 bazakubanomsindo kwindlela yabo yokufunda oko banako nabangakwaziyo ukukwenza; ayizukuthintelwa yonke into enomsindo.

Enye indlela xa ukhuseleko lungekho semngciphekweni kukuphazamisa nokujika. Biza igama labo ukuze ubambe ingqalelo yabo. Nje ukuba balungiselelwe kuwe, babizele kuwe kwaye ubabonise enye into abangayithanda ekhuselekileyo.

Oku kunokusebenza ngaphambi kokuba ingqumbo iqale ukubaphazamisa kwinto abacaphuka ngayo kwasekuqaleni.

Cinga njengomntwana wakho omncinci

Kulula ukuba nomsindo xa umntwana wakho esenza ubumdaka. Namhlanje, bazobe zonke iindonga ngeekhrayoni zabo. Izolo, balandelele ukungcola ekudlaleni emva kwendlu. Ngoku ushiyelwe ukuyicoca yonke.

Kodwa zama ukucinga njengomntwana wakho. Bayabona ukuba le misebenzi iyonwabisa, kwaye yinto eqhelekileyo leyo! Bafunda kwaye bafumanisa oko kubangqongileyo.

Musa ukubasusa kulo msebenzi, njengoko kunokubangela umsindo. Endaweni yoko, linda imizuzwana embalwa kwaye baya kudla ngokuya kwenye into. Okanye unokujoyina kwaye ubakhokele ngokwakhayo. Umzekelo, qalisa ukufaka imibala emaphepheni kwaye ubameme ukuba benze njalo.

Nceda umntwana wakho ahlole

Umncinci wakho, njengabo bonke abantwana abancinci, ufuna ukuphonononga umhlaba.

Inxalenye yolo hlolisiso ichukumisa yonke into ephantsi kwelanga. Kwaye uya kukhathazeka ngenxa yokuxhonywa kwabo.

Endaweni yoko, bancede babone ukuba yeyiphi ekhuselekileyo nengakhuselekanga ukuyichukumisa. Zama "ukungathinti" izinto ezingavumelekanga okanye ezingakhuselekanga, "ukuthinta okuthambileyo" ebusweni nakwizilwanyana, kunye "ewe ukuchukumisa" izinto ezikhuselekileyo. Kwaye wonwabe ucinga ngeminye imibutho yamagama enje ngo “touch hot,” “touch touch,” okanye “owie touch” ukunceda ukuthambisa iminwe yomntwana wakho.

Kodwa beka imida

"Kuba nditshilo" kwaye "kuba ndithe hayi" ayizizo iindlela eziluncedo zokuqeqesha umntwana wakho. Endaweni yoko, beka imida kwaye uchaze isizathu sokuba umntwana wakho.

Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho utsala uboya bekati yakho, susa isandla sakhe, mxelele ukuba iyonzakalisa ikati xa esenza oko, kwaye endaweni yoko umbonise indlela yokuphulula. Seta imida ngokugcina izinto zingafikeleli (cinga isikere kunye neemela kwimizobo etshixiweyo, ucango lwe-pantry luvaliwe).

Umntwana wakho unokukhathazeka xa engakwazi ukwenza into ayifunayo, kodwa ngokubeka imida uya kubanceda bafunde ukuzithiba.

Beka ngexesha lokuvala

Ukuba umntwana wakho uqhubeka nokuziphatha okungalunganga, unokufuna ukubabeka ekuphumeni. Khetha indawo ekruqulayo, njengesihlalo okanye umgangatho wepaseji.

Yiba nomntwana wakho omncinane ahlale kuloo ndawo aze abalinde ukuba bazole. Ixesha lokuphuma kufuneka lihlale malunga nomzuzu omnye kunyaka ngamnye kubudala (umzekelo, umntwana oneminyaka emi-2 kufuneka ahlale ekuphumeni imizuzu emibini, kunye nomntwana oneminyaka emi-3 ngemizuzu emithathu). Buyisela umntwana wakho kwindawo yokuphumla ukuba uqala ukuzulazula ngaphambi kwexesha. Musa ukuphendula nantoni na abayithethayo okanye abayenzayo de kuphele ixesha. Xa umntwana wakho ezolile, bacacisele ukuba kutheni umfaka ekuphumeni kunye nokuba kutheni indlela yokuziphatha kwakhe ingalunganga.

Ungaze ubethe okanye usebenzise iindlela zokulawula isinqe xa uqeqesha umntwana wakho. Ezo ndlela ziyamenzakalisa umntwana wakho kwaye zibethelela isimilo esibi.

Ukuthatha

Ukuqeqesha umntwana wakho omncinci kufuna ukuba ulungelelanise ubungqongqo kunye novelwano.

Gcina ukhumbula ukuba uburhalarhume yinto eqhelekileyo ekukhuleni komntwana wakho. Umsindo uyenzeka xa umntwana wakho engayazi indlela yokuchaza into ebacaphukisayo.

Khumbula ukuhlala upholile kwaye uzolile, kwaye umphathe kakuhle umntwana wakho ngelixa ujongana nengxaki. Uninzi lwezi ndlela luya kunceda ekuthinteleni ixesha elizayo.