Ngaba Unayo Imvume okanye Umlutha Wothando?

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukwamkeleka / uthando ulikhoboka? Apha ngezantsi kuluhlu lokukhangela ukuze ubone ukuba ulikhoboka lothando kunye / okanye ukuvunywa. Ukukholelwa kuyo nayiphi na kwezi kunokubonisa uthando okanye ukuvunywa likhoboka.

Ndiyayikholelwa lo nto:

• Ulonwabo nempilo yam ixhomekeke ekufumaneni uthando komnye umntu.

Ukwanela, ukuthanda, kunye neemvakalelo zokuziva ndifanelekile kunye nokuzithemba kwam zivela kwabanye abantu abandithandayo nabandivumayo.

• Abanye ukungamkelwa okanye ukungamkelwa kuthetha ukuba andifanele.

• Andikwazi ukuzonwabisa.

• Andikwazi ukuzonwabisa njengaye omnye umntu.

• Ezona mvakalelo zam zintle zivela ngaphandle kwam, kwindlela abanye abantu okanye omnye umntu othile andibona ngayo andiphatha ngayo.

• Abanye banoxanduva lweemvakalelo zam. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu undikhathalele, akanakuze enze nantoni na endikhathazayo okanye endicaphukisayo.

• Andinakuba ndedwa. Ndivakalelwa ngathi ndiza kufa ukuba ndindedwa.

• Xa ndicaphukile, yimpazamo yomnye umntu.

• Kuxhomekeke kwabanye abantu ukundenza ndizive ndilungile ngesiqu sam ngokundivuma.

• Andinaxanduva ngeemvakalelo zam. Abanye abantu bandenza ndizive ndonwabile, ndilusizi, ndinomsindo, ndidanile, ndizivalele phantsi, ndinetyala, ndihlazekile okanye ndidakumbile- kwaye banoxanduva lokulungisa iimvakalelo zam.

• Andinaxanduva lokuziphatha kwam. Abanye abantu bandenza ndikhwaze, ndiphambane, ndigule, ndihleke, ndilile, ndlongondlongo, ndishiye, okanye ndiphumelele.

• Abanye bayazingca ukuba bazenzela unothanda endaweni yokwenza lento ndiyifunayo.

• Ukuba andidibananga nomntu, ndiza kufa.

• Andikwazi ukumelana nentlungu yokungamkelwa, ukwaliwa, ukushiywa, ukuvalelwa ngaphandle - iintlungu zokuba lilolo nokukhathazeka.

Funda ngokufumana izizathu ezingunobangela wokuvunywa kunye nothando lweziyobisi.

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