Musa ukutshintsha

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Unobomi obuhle-okanye ubuncinci ubucinga ukuba wenze njalo. Kwakungaphambi kokuba umhlobo wakho abhengeze ukuba ufumene umsebenzi omtsha oshushu, kunye neenketho zesitokhwe. Okanye abantu basebumelwaneni bafudukela kwindawo ephucukileyo. Kungekudala uyazibuza ukuba ngaba kufuneka ujonge uluhlu lwemisebenzi. Kwaye kutheni ikhaya lakho live ngesiquphe - lincinci? Lihlabathi elihamba ngokukhawuleza, kwaye sonke siziva sicinezelekile ukuba sihambisane nesantya.

"Sihamba ngokukhawuleza, asinalo ixesha lokucinga. Sisabela nje kubomi obusingqongileyo, "uqinisekisa uBeth Rothenberg, umqeqeshi wezoshishino kunye nomcebisi wendlela yokuphila eLos Angeles. "Kwaye kwenzeka ntoni kubantu abaninzi ababiza phambili bengakhange bacinge ukuba ngenye imini bayaqonda," Ndinemali eninzi, ndinendlu enkulu, kodwa andonwabanga.

Ngemiyalezo emininzi ethe ngqo nengathanga ngqo yokuphucula imisebenzi yethu, amakhaya ethu, kunye nobomi bethu ukusuka kwiigurus, iincwadi, izalamane nkqu nakwizinto zethu ezifunayo, sazi njani ukuba kufuneka sizithulele phi ezo zwi kwaye saneliseke apho sikhona? Ilula kunokuba isenokubonakala. "Isitshixo sokwenza ukhetho oluya kukuzisela uyolo kukuchaza imilinganiselo yakho," utshilo uRothenberg, "emva koko ujonge ukuba ingaba isigqibo siyahambelana na nale migaqo."

Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe nayiphi na iapile ekuhendayo, phinda ujonge oko kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe, utshilo uRothenberg. Nje ukuba uchaze iimfuno zakho zobomi obutyebileyo, uya kuba nakho ukwahlula-hlula kwinto esisimumu. Kwaye kwixesha elizayo inqanawa ibonakala ngathi iyakudlula, usenokuvuya ngokuwangawangisa izandla kuye nabani na okhweleyo.

Izitshixo zolonwabo lwakho

Ngaphambi kokuba wenze utshintsho: Bhala phantsi ezintathu okanye ezine zezona zinto zibalulekileyo ebomini bakho. Ezi kufuneka zibe zizikhokelo zakho xa ucinga ngalo naluphi na utshintsho olubalulekileyo. UBeth Rothenberg uthi: "Ukuba enye yemilinganiselo yakho iyasebenza kwimeko yokudala, umzekelo, umsebenzi kwindawo engenzi nto, nokuba iyintoni na intlawulo, ayinakwanelisa enye yezona mfuno zakho zibalulekileyo." Kwaye xa ubomi bakho bungenakulinganiswa ngendlela ebalulekileyo kuwe, impilo yakho yonke iyasokola. Iinqobo zokuziphatha zezobuqu kunye nomntu ngamnye: Eyakho inokubandakanya ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kangangoko nosapho; ukwenza igalelo elibalulekileyo kwintsimi ekhethiweyo; okanye ukuba nokhuseleko kunye nexesha elaneleyo lokukhululeka.

Okulandelayo: Chonga ukuba kutheni ixabiso ngalinye libalulekile kuwe, emva koko jonga indlela onokuziva ngayo ukuba wamkele utshintsho olungahambelani nelo xabiso. Mhlawumbi ukulandela isidanga somsebenzi ongcono kuya kulungela ukuzincama ngexesha kunye needola. Okanye indlu esendulini ayibukeki intle kangako ecaleni kweyure eyongezelelweyo onokuthi uyibhale kuhambo lwakho lokuhamba.

Ngaba utshintsha-holic?

Ngaba utsaleleka ekubeni utshintshe ngenxa yezizathu eziphosakeleyo? Zibuze.

1. Ngaba uhlala uvuma ukwenza into ongayifuni ngokwenene?

Abantu abaninzi kunzima ukuba bathi 'hayi' nakubani na, kwanaxa kungangcono impilo yabo yeemvakalelo.

2. Wakhe wamkela isithembiso somsebenzi sokuphucula i-resume yakho okanye ukwenza imali eninzi kwaye waba lusizi kuyo?

Ukuba iwonga nemali ikwimilinganiselo ephakamileyo, ngoko umsebenzi onjalo unokukwanelisa. Kodwa abantu abaninzi bayalubekela bucala ulonwabo, becinga ukuba baya kwenza imali ngoku ukuze benze oko bafuna kamva. Ngelishwa, "kamva" ngamanye amaxesha kuza emva kwexesha.

3. Ngaba ixesha elininzi wena kunye nosapho lwakho lixabiso onobunzima ekulondolozeni?

Uninzi lwabantu ludwelisa ezi zinto phakathi kwemilinganiselo yazo. Kubalulekile ukuba uzibuze ukuba kwenzeka ntoni xa ungaphili ngala maxabiso. Ngaba urhwebo lufanelekile? Ngaba unokwenza izinto ezimbalwa zokulalanisa (ukunciphisa iiyure ezimbalwa emsebenzini okanye wenze ezinye izinto ngexesha lesidlo sasemini) ukuze ube nobomi obufunayo?

4. Ngaba ukhe wasebenza nzima kwinjongo ethile -- kwaye waziva udanile emva kokuba uyifezekisile?

Abantu abaninzi baphendula kwintetho yokubeka iinjongo, kodwa abaneliseki xa beyiphumeze. Ngokufuthi, kungenxa yokuba abazange baqale baqwalasele enoba usukelo lwabo luyayifikelela kusini na imilinganiselo yabo.

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