Kutheni kungakulungelanga ukuthatha iividiyo zabantu abakhubazekileyo ngaphandle kwemvume yabo

Umxholo

• Lo mkhwa wokurekhoda iividiyo kunye nokuthatha imifanekiso yabantu abakhubazekileyo ngaphandle kwemvume yabo yinto ekufuneka siyeke ukuyenza
• Kodwa nantoni na ephatha umntu okhubazekileyo ngovelwano kunye neentloni iyasithoba isidima. Isinciphisa kwiseti emxinwa yokucinga endaweni yabantu abazele ngokupheleleyo.
• Nokuba ibangelwa lusizi okanye inkuthazo, ukwabelana ngeevidiyo kunye neefoto zomntu okhubazekileyo ngaphandle kwemvume kusivimba ilungelo lokuxelela amabali ethu
• Isisombululo esilula yile: Sukuthatha iifoto kunye neevidiyo zakhe nabani na kwaye wabelane ngazo ngaphandle kwemvume

Abantu abakhubazekileyo bafuna kwaye kufanele babe kwiziko lamabali ethu.

Sibona njani iimilo zehlabathi esikhetha ukuba zizo - {textend} kunye nokwabelana ngamava anyanzelisayo anokuyila indlela esiphathana ngayo, ukuba ngcono. Lo ngumbono onamandla.

Mhlawumbi oku kuvakala kuqhelekile: Ividiyo yomfazi ophakanyiswe kwisitulo sakhe esinamavili ukuze afike kwishelufa ephezulu, enamazwibela athi uyenza njani ngokucacileyo kwaye "uyonqena".

Okanye mhlawumbi ifoto efumene ukutya kwakho kuFacebook, inesihloko esithi "inyanzeliso" esenzelwe umntu afunda naye, enezihloko ezothusayo zokuba ulutsha olune-autistic luye kwi-prom "njengaye nawuphi na umntu."

Iividiyo kunye neefoto ezinje ngezi, ezinabantu abakhubazekileyo, ziya zisanda ngokwanda. Ngamanye amaxesha ayenzelwe ukuvuselela iimvakalelo ezintle - {textend} ngamanye amaxesha umsindo kunye nosizi.

Ngokwesiqhelo, ezi vidiyo kunye neefoto zezomntu okhubazekileyo esenza into eyenziwayo ngabantu abomeleleyo ngalo lonke ixesha- {textend} njengokuhamba ngapha kwesitrato, ukwenza ukufudumeza indawo yokwenza umthambo, okanye ukucelwa kumdaniso.

Kwaye rhoqo kunoko? Ezo zihlandlo zisondeleyo ziyafakwa ngaphandle kwemvume yaloo mntu.

Lo mkhwa wokurekhoda iividiyo kunye nokuthatha imifanekiso yabantu abakhubazekileyo ngaphandle kwemvume yabo yinto ekufuneka siyeke ukuyenza

Abantu abakhubazekileyo- {textend} ngakumbi xa iziphene zethu zisaziwa okanye zibonakala ngandlel 'ithile - {textend} ngokufuthi kufuneka sijongane nezi ntlobo zolwaphulo mthetho kuluntu.

Bendi soloko ndizilumkele iindlela ezinokuthi liphume ibali lam ngabantu abangandaziyo, ndicinga ukuba umntu angandithatha ividiyo ndihamba nesithandwa sam, ndimbambe ngesandla ngelixa ndisebenzisa intonga yam.

Ngaba bangambhiyozela ngokuba kubudlelwane 'nomntu okhubazekileyo,' okanye mna ngokuphila nje ubomi bam ngendlela endenza ngayo?

Rhoqo imifanekiso kunye nevidiyo kwabelwane ngazo kwimithombo yeendaba zentlalo emva kokuba zithathiwe, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha zihamba zintsholongwane.

Uninzi lweevidiyo kunye neefoto zivela kwindawo enosizi ("Jonga le nto angenakho ukuyenza lo mntu! Andikucingi ukuba ukule meko") okanye ukukhuthazwa ("Jonga into anokuyenza lo mntu nangona Isiphene onaso! Sithini isizathu sakho? ”).

Kodwa nantoni na ephatha umntu okhubazekileyo ngovelwano kunye neentloni iyasithoba isidima. Isinciphisa kwiseti emxinwa yokucinga endaweni yabantu abazele ngokupheleleyo.

Uninzi lwezi zithuba zosasazo zilunge njenge-porn ephefumlelweyo, njengoko yayiqulunqwe nguStella Young kwi2017 - {textend} ejolise kubantu abakhubazekileyo kwaye isiguqula sibe libali elenzelwe ukwenza abantu abangenakhubazeka bazive kamnandi.

Uhlala uxelela ibali ukuba uyimpembelelo ye-porn kuba ayizukubakho iindaba ukuba umntu ongenasiphene utshintshiwe.

Amabali malunga nomntu onesifo se-Down syndrome okanye umntu osebenzisa isitulo esinamavili oceliweyo ukuba athembise, njengemizekelo, ziimpembelelo zoononophala kuba akukho mntu ubhalayo malunga nolutsha olungenakukhubazeka lucelwa ukuba luthembise (ngaphandle kokuba libuze ngokukodwa ukudala).

Abantu abakhubazekileyo abekho ukuze "bakukhuthaze", ngakumbi xa sihamba nje ngobomi bethu bemihla ngemihla. Kwaye njengomntu okhubazekileyo ngokwam, kubuhlungu ukubona abantu kwindawo yam bexhaphazwa ngale ndlela.

Nokuba ibangelwa lusizi okanye inkuthazo, ukwabelana ngeevidiyo kunye neefoto zomntu okhubazekileyo ngaphandle kwemvume kusivimba ilungelo lokuxelela amabali ethu

Xa urekhoda into eyenzekayo kunye nokwabelana ngayo ngaphandle komxholo, uthatha amandla omntu wokuchaza amava abo, nokuba ucinga ukuba uyanceda.

Ikwaqinisa amandla apho abantu abangenakukhubazeka babe "lilizwi" kubantu abakhubazekileyo, elingenamandla, ukuthetha kancinci. Abantu abakhubazekileyo bafuna kwaye kufanele ube kwiziko lamabali ethu.

Ndibhalile ngamava am ngokukhubazeka kokubini kwinqanaba lomntu kunye nakwimbono ebanzi malunga namalungelo okukhubazeka, ukuzingca kunye noluntu. Ndingadana kakhulu ukuba umntu angalithatha eli thuba kum kuba efuna ukubalisa ibali lam engakhange afumane nemvume yam, kwaye ayindim ndedwa oziva ngoluhlobo.

Nokuba umntu angabhala ntoni kuba ebona okungekho sikweni - {textend} umsebenzisi ohamba ngesitulo esinamavili enyuswa kwizinyuko kuba kukho izinyuko, okanye umntu ongaboniyo akalelwa inkonzo yoncedo - {textend} kusabalulekile ukubuza loo mntu ukuba bafuna le kwabelwane ngayo esidlangalaleni.

Ukuba bayakwenza oko, ukufumana umbono wabo kunye nokuyixela ngendlela abafuna ixelelwe ngayo yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokuwonga amava abo kunye nokuba lihlakani, endaweni yokuqhubela phambili neentlungu zabo.

Isisombululo esilula yile: Sukuthatha iifoto kunye neevidiyo zakhe nabani na kwaye wabelane ngazo ngaphandle kwemvume

Thetha nabo kuqala. Babuze ukuba oku kulungile.

Fumanisa ngakumbi malunga nebali labo, kuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba uninzi lomxholo ulahlekile (ewe, nokuba uyintatheli yobungcali okanye umphathi weendaba zentlalo).

Akukho mntu ufuna ukujonga imithombo yeendaba zentlalo ukufumanisa ukuba sele bengene kwintsholongwane ngaphandle kokuzimisela (okanye besazi ukuba babhalisiwe).

Sonke kufanelekile ukuba sixelele awethu amabali ngamazwi ethu, endaweni yokuncitshiswa sibe yimemes okanye umxholo onokucofa uphawu lomntu othile.

Abantu abakhubazekileyo abazizo izinto - {textend} singabantu abaneentliziyo, ubomi obupheleleyo, kwaye sinokuninzi esinokwabelana ngakho nehlabathi.

UAlaina Leary ungumhleli, umphathi weendaba zosasazo kunye nombhali waseBoston, eMassachusetts. Okwangoku ungumncedisi womhleli we-Equally Wed Magazine kunye nomhleli weendaba zosasazo ezingenzi-nzuzo Sifuna iincwadi ezahlukeneyo.