'Indlela iDrunk Syndrome' ekuchaphazela ngayo ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo

Umxholo

• Imiba yolwimi
• Ziintoni iimpawu?
• Iimpawu zemood
• Iimpawu zokuziphatha
• Ngaba kwenzeka kuye wonke umntu?
• Ngaba ihlala iluphawu lokuphinda ubuye?
• Indlela yokumelana nayo
• Nxibelelana nabanye
• Zibophelele ekuzinyamekeleni
• Phuhlisa iindlela zokulwa ezintsha
• Yiba nemfesane
• Chonga izizathu zakho zokusela
• Funa uncedo lweengcali
• Ukuxhasa umntu omthandayo
• Nika ukhuthazo
• Yiba nomonde
• Xhasa imikhwa elungileyo
• Zifumanele inkxaso
• Umgca wezantsi

Ukuchacha ekusebenziseni utywala kunokuba yinkqubo ende, enzima. Xa ukhetha ukuyeka ukusela, uthatha inyathelo lokuqala elibalulekileyo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, nangona kunjalo, ukuba sezingqondweni kunzima kakhulu kunokuyeka nje utywala.

Omnye umceli mngeni onokubakho uquka "isiselo esinxilisayo esomileyo," isigama esisingisele esivela kwiAlcoholics Anonymous (AA). Ibhekisa kwiimpawu kunye nokuziphatha okuhlala kubonwa ngokusetyenziswa kotywala okuqhubeka nokubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo.

Ngamanye amagama, umntu opholileyo usenokuthi "enze unxilile" okanye ajongane nemicimbi efanayo eyakhokelela ekubeni bayeke ukusela kwasekuqaleni.

Ihlala ivela njengenxalenye yemeko ebanzi eyaziwa ngokuba yi-post-acute syndrome (Paws).

Imiba yolwimi

Ibinzana elithi "ukunxila owomileyo" zihlala zinentsingiselo engeyiyo. Ngaphakathi kweAA, umzekelo, ngamanye amaxesha kusetyenziselwa ukubhekisa kubantu abangasebenziyo inkqubo okanye abazama ngokwaneleyo. Kwaye ukubiza umntu ukuba achache njengalo naluphi na uhlobo "olunxilileyo" ngokubanzi akuncedi.

"Andilisebenzisi igama elithi 'ukunxila owomileyo,'" utshilo uCyndi Turner, uLCSW, uLSATP, MAC. “Abantu abasokolayo kukusetyenziswa kotywala sele bejongana neentlungu ezininzi. Andifuni ukongeza kuyo ngokusebenzisa igama elibeka amabala. "

Xa uthetha nomntu okanye malunga nokufumana kwakhona, thintela ukusebenzisa eli gama. Endaweni yoko, biza iimpawu ezithile okanye isimilo.

Ngelixa ibinzana elithi "ukunxila owomileyo" liyimpikiswano, iseti yeempawu ekubhekiswa kuzo ziyinxalenye yesiqhelo yokufumana kwakhona kubantu abaninzi kwaye akukho nto uneentloni ngayo.

Ziintoni iimpawu?

Iimpawu zale meko zinokwabelana ngokufana neemvakalelo kunye nokuziphatha onokuthi ube nakho ngelixa usela.

Iimpawu zisenokubonakala ngathi zifana nokurhoxa kade, njengoko ezinye iingcali zonyango zitsho.

Iimpawu zemood

Unokufumana utshintsho oluthile kwiimvakalelo zakho okanye kwimeko yeemvakalelo, kubandakanya:

• ukucaphuka, ukukhathazeka, okanye umsindo
• umoya ophantsi
• ukungakhathali, ukungazinzi, okanye ubunzima ekugxileni
• ixhala okanye ixhala malunga nokukwazi kwakho ukugcina ubunyulu
• Ingqumbo ejolise kuwe, kubantu abanokusela, okanye kubantu abafuna uyeke ukusela
• iimvakalelo ezingalunganga okanye ezingenathemba malunga nokukwazi kwakho ukuyeka ukusela
• ukuphazamiseka okanye isithukuthezi

Unokwazi ukubona utshintsho lwakho ngokukhawuleza okanye rhoqo. Ukuchaza iimvakalelo zakho kunokubonakala kunzima okanye kungenakwenzeka, oku kunokukhokelela kukukhathazeka ngakumbi.

Iimpawu zokuziphatha

Ukuziphatha okuthe ngqo kunye namava ahlala enxulunyaniswa nesi sifo anokubandakanya:

• indlela yokuziphatha enomsindo okanye engxamisekileyo
• ingxaki yokulala
• utyekelo lokuzigweba, ukuzigxeka, okanye ukuzigxeka kabukhali
• Ukudakumba ngenxa yonyango, oku kunokukhokelela ekubeni weqe iintlanganiso okanye iiseshoni zokucebisa, okanye uzincame ngokupheleleyo
• ukuphupha qho okanye ukuphupha, uhlala usebenzisa utywala
• ukunganyaniseki
• ukusebenzisa ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha, ezinje ngeTV okanye ukungcakaza, ukumelana nokuzithiba

Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha kunye neenkxalabo zeemvakalelo zinokulonakalisa ulwalamano lwakho kunye nokunxibelelana nabanye, ngakumbi ukuba ukusetyenziswa kotywala sele kunefuthe elibi kubudlelwane bakho.

Ukuba sele ujongene nokudakumba okanye ezinye iinkxalabo zempilo yengqondo, ezi mpawu zinokuqhubeka nokwenza izinto nzima kwaye zikwenze uzive umbi nangakumbi. Oku ngamanye amaxesha kunokubangela ukusetyenziswa kotywala okuhlaziyiweyo, ngakumbi xa kungekho zindlela zokunceda zokulwa.

Ngaba kwenzeka kuye wonke umntu?

Akunjalo. Ukubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo yinkqubo eyodwa. Ingakhangeleka yahlukile kuye wonke umntu.

Ezinye iingcali zicebisa ukuba abantu abashiya iinkqubo zonyango kwangoko okanye bangajongani nezinto ezibangela ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kotywala banethuba eliphezulu lokufumana le syndrome.

Nangona kunjalo, abukho ubungqina obuninzi bokuxhasa le nto.

Eminye imibandela entsonkothileyo inokudlala indima, kubandakanya nemicimbi yezempilo yengqondo okanye ukungabikho kwenkxaso kwezentlalo.

Ngaba ihlala iluphawu lokuphinda ubuye?

Abanye abantu bacinga ukuba abantu ababonisa imiqondiso yale syndrome bazokuphinda baphinde basele, kodwa oku akusoloko kunjalo.

Turner, ogxile kunyango lweziyobisi eVirginia, ucacisa ukuba ngelixa abantu abaninzi besebenzisa "ukubuyela umva" ukuchaza ukubuyela ekusebenziseni iziyobisi, uchaza ukubuyela umva njengenkqubo yeengcinga, indlela yokuziphatha, kunye neemvakalelo ezinokubangela ukusetyenziswa.

"Ngenxa yokuba ukubuyela umva yinkqubo, kunokuchongwa nokutolikwa ngaphambi kokuba kusetyenziswe," utshilo.

Ngokusekwe kule nkcazo, iimpawu "zesiselo esinxilisayo esomileyo" zinokubangela ukubuyela umva, nokuba umntu akaseli.

Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ukubuyela umva yinto eqhelekileyo, eqhelekileyo yokufumana kwakhona.

Indlela yokumelana nayo

Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba usenokuba ujongene nesi sifo, zama ukuba ungazibeki nzima kuwe. Kubantu abaninzi, yinxalenye yenkqubo yokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo.

Okwangoku, kukho izinto onokuzenza ukulawula ezi mpawu kunye nokunciphisa ifuthe kubomi bakho.

Nxibelelana nabanye

Akusoloko kulula ukuvula malunga nokusetyenziswa kotywala kunye nokuchacha, ngakumbi kubantu abangenamava ngayo, kodwa yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yenkqubo.

Ukuthetha nabantu obathandayo malunga nezinto ohlangabezana nazo kunye nokwabelana kangangoko uziva ukhululekile kuko kunokubanceda baqonde uxinzelelo lwakho. Oku kunokukunceda unxibelelane kwakhona kwaye wenze kube lula kubo ukuba babonelele ngovelwano kunye nenkxaso xa iimvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho zibangela iingcinga zokusela.

Inokuba luncedo kakhulu ukuthetha nabanye ekubuyiseni. Eli candelo lokuchacha liqhelekile, nokuba abantu abaliboni linjalo okanye bathetha ngalo kakhulu.

Zama ukuthetha nomxhasi wakho wonyango, iqabane elinoxanduva lokuphendula, okanye ilungu leqela lenkxaso yoontanga. Amathuba kukuba, ngaphezulu kwabantu abambalwa bahambe indlela efanayo.

Zibophelele ekuzinyamekeleni

Ukunyamekela impilo yakho kunokukunceda kwimozulu yonke imiceli mngeni ngokulula, kubandakanya ukukhuthaza ukuba usele.

Ukuzikhathalela ngcono, zama ukwenza oku kulandelayo:

• Fumana imisebenzi yomzimba yonke imihla.
• Yitya ukutya okunezondlo kwaye usele amanzi amaninzi.
• Bekela bucala ixesha elaneleyo lokulala uphumle.
• Chitha ixesha ngaphandle xa unako.
• Yenza ixesha labahlobo kunye nosapho.

Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uzenze zonke ezi zinto yonke imihla. Endaweni yoko, jolisa ekuthatheni amanyathelo amancinci ukwakha ezinye zazo kwisiqhelo.

Mhlawumbi uqala ngokuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca ngexesha elithile uninzi lweentsuku zeveki. Musa ukukhathazeka kakhulu malunga nokwenza umsebenzi omkhulu; jolisa nje ukuzifumana ulapho.

Phuhlisa iindlela zokulwa ezintsha

Ukuba neendlela eziluncedo zokujongana nazo kunokwenza kube lula ukulawula iimvakalelo ezibandezelayo kunye neengcinga malunga nokusela.

Izinto ezinje ngeendlela zokubeka umhlaba zinokukunceda ulawule iingcinga ezingathandekiyo okanye ezinobunzima, ngelixa umthambo wokuphefumla unokufumana ixesha lomsindo okanye lokukhathazeka.

I-Yoga okanye ukucamngca kunokunika izibonelelo ngaphaya kokuphazamiseka okulula, nako.

Iindlela zokukopa akufuneki zibandakanye ukuzama into entsha, nangona. Zingaba lula njengokubeka bucala ixesha lezinto ozithandayo, kubandakanya:

• ukuzoba, ukupeyinta, okanye izinto ezenziwe ngodongwe
• Ijelo
• ezemidlalo zodwa okanye zeqela
• iiprojekthi zokuphucula amakhaya
• igadi

Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ezi zinto zokuzonwabisa zisenokungavakali njengezonwabisayo kwinqanaba lokuqala lokuchacha. Kuqhelekile ukuziva ngale ndlela ekuqaleni. Ukuba ixesha lihamba kwaye uziva ngendlela efanayo, unokuhlala unika indlela eyahlukileyo yokulwa nokuzama okanye ujonge into oyithandayo.

Yiba nemfesane

Ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo kunokuba nzima kakhulu kwaye kuvelise ukungabi nathemba. Kwaye ukuba wenze izinto ngelixa usela zikwenzakalisa okanye abantu obathandayo, usenokuphatha iintlungu kwaye unamagama amaninzi abukhali.

Khumbula ukuba umlutha sisifo esibi, kwaye wenza konke okusemandleni akho. Zama ukukhulisa iimvakalelo zomonde nokuzithanda, ngakumbi kwiintsuku oziva zincinci ngalo.

Ungaziva? Zama ukucinga malunga nento oya kuyithetha kumhlobo osondeleyo kwindawo yakho.

Chonga izizathu zakho zokusela

Unyango kufuneka lujolise ekuqondeni nasekunyangeni ngoba umntu wajika wasela utywala, ”utshilo uTurner.

Khumbula, ukuphelisa utywala yinxalenye yokulingana. Kubaluleke ngokulinganayo ukuphonononga imikhwa kunye nezizathu zokuba usele, kufanelekile nonyango olufanelekileyo.

“Nje ukuba ujongane ne ngoba, imfuno yotywala ihlala isonjululwa, ”utshilo uTurner.

Funa uncedo lweengcali

Kungcono ukuba nohlobo oluthile lwenkxaso eyongezelelweyo ngexesha lokuchacha, nokuba yinkqubo enamanyathelo ali-12 okanye ukuqeshwa rhoqo nonyango olusebenza ngokucebisa ngeziyobisi.

Into ebalulekileyo kukufumana inkqubo yokubuyisela esebenzayo wena kwaye unamathele kuyo. Ukuba enye indlela ayiziva ilungile, thabatha inyathelo umva kwaye uqwalasele enye eyahlukileyo.

Ukuxhasa umntu omthandayo

Konke oku kungakhathaza ukuba umntu omthandayo ubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo. Usenokuziva ngathi bathatha inyathelo elibuyela umva, hayi phambili. Kodwa khumbula ukuba esi sigaba siyinxalenye yesiqhelo yokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo, kwaye ayisayi kuhlala ngonaphakade.

Okwangoku, kukho izinto ezimbalwa onokuzenza ukuze ubaxhase.

Nika ukhuthazo

Musa ukuwajongela phantsi amandla amagama ambalwa akhuthazayo.

Xa usachacha, kulula ukuba ugxile kwizinto ezimbi. Mhlawumbi batyibilika kwaye basela emva kweenyanga ezininzi benganxili. Okanye mhlawumbi baziva ngathi bayaphoswa ziziyunguma zentlalo.

Ungabanceda babone icala eliqaqambileyo, nokuba kukubancoma ukuba kude kangakanani okanye bayavuma xa besenza ukhetho lokuyeka iimeko ezinokuhenda, njengeyure eyonwabisayo yeofisi.

Yiba nomonde

Abantu abachacha ekusebenziseni gwenxa kotywala okanye kumakhoboka otywala bahlala befumana iimvakalelo ezinzima, ezibuhlungu. Banokuziva bekhathazekile okanye benomsindo, besilwa nomnqweno wabo wokusela, okanye baveze uninzi lweengcinga ezimbi. Iimvakalelo zabo zinokutshintsha ngesiquphe kwaye rhoqo.

Nokuba bazalathisela kubo ezi mvakalelo, imeko yabo yeemvakalelo inokuchaphazela eyakho. Zama ukukhumbula ukuba ayisiyiyo imeko abakhethe ukuba kuyo.

Ewe kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuseta (kunye nokunyanzelisa) imida ecacileyo malunga nokuziphatha okukuchaphazela kakubi, njengokugqajukelwa ngumsindo okanye ukunganyaniseki. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuhlakulela umonde njengoko bezama ukwenza utshintsho.

Xhasa imikhwa elungileyo

Ukuchitha ixesha kunye nomntu omthandayo, ngakumbi kwimisebenzi eniyonwabelayo nobabini, kunokubanceda bazive benethemba kwaye benethemba ngobomi ngokubanzi. Izinto endizithandayo zinokunceda ukudala ukuphazamiseka kwiingcinga zokusela.

Cinga ngokuthatha inxaxheba kwizinto ezenziwayo kunye, njengokuhamba intaba, ukuzithandela, okanye nokupheka iiklasi.

Ukuba awonwabisi okanye uthathe inxaxheba kwiindidi ezifanayo zemisebenzi okanye izinto ozithandayo, usenokubakhuthaza ukuba bafune izinto abazithandayo okanye bafumane umdla omtsha.

Bonisa inkxaso ngokubuza malunga nezakhono ezitsha abazifundayo okanye amanqanaba afikelelweyo, njengokudala isidlo esithandekayo okanye ukuthatha inxaxheba kwi-5K.

Zifumanele inkxaso

Unokufuna ukuthatha inxaxheba kunyango kunye nomntu omthandayo nanini na kunokwenzeka, kodwa kukwabubulumko ukuba uthethe nonyango lwakho wedwa. Oku kunjalo ngakumbi ukuba isimilo esithile okanye iimpawu zemozulu zichaphazela ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.

Ukulikhoboka lotywala sisifo, kodwa loo nto ayithetheleli indlela yokuziphatha gwenxa. Ukuba umntu omthandayo uziphatha ngendlela enetyhefu okanye enobundlobongela, kungcono ukuba uthethe ngale nto nonyango kwaye uphuhlise icebo lokuzigcina ukhuselekile.

Ngaphandle konyango, ungalibali ukuzikhathalela wena kunye neemfuno zakho. Qinisekisa ukuba ubeka phambili ukuzinyamekela kwakho kwinkqubo yabo yokubuyisela.

Awunakuba luncedo kakhulu kulowo umthandayo ukuba utshisiwe kwaye uzihoya iimfuno zakho.

Umgca wezantsi

Ukubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo luhambo olunzima, olunzima. Kubantu abaninzi, akwanele ukuyeka nje ukusela. Kuya kufuneka uphonononge, ngokunzulu nangokunyaniseka, iipateni kunye nokuziphatha kubomi bakho obunegalelo ekusebenziseni kwakho utywala.

Oku kunokwenza uhambo olubuhlungu, olubuhlungu, kodwa ukwenza njalo kunokukunceda uhambe ngcono kwimiceli mngeni eza kwaye wandise amathuba okuba ufike kwindawo oya kuyo: ukubuyela ngempumelelo.

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