Umbaleki weMaratho uStephanie Bruce nguGritty Super-Mom Yonke imbaleki eMayilandele

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U-Elite marathoner uStephanie Bruce uyinenekazi elixakekileyo. Imbaleki echubekileyo, umfazi weshishini, inkosikazi, kunye nomama koonyana bakhe abaneminyaka emithathu nemine ubudala, uBruce unokubonakala njengomntu obalaseleyo ephepheni. Kodwa njengaye wonke umntu, uBruce uyoyikiswa kukusebenza nzima kwaye udinga ixesha elininzi lokuphinda ahlaziyeke ukuze aqhubeke neshedyuli yakhe yoqeqesho olunzulu.

“Ndibe nethamsanqa elikhulu kule block yoqeqesho ukusebenzisana neBedGear,” utshilo. "Kwatshintsha umdlalo kum ngokulala, kuba njengembaleki ye-marathon kunye nomama, kufuneka ndivuke ngamandla yonke imihla. Kufuneka ndifumane isidlo sakusasa [amakhwenkwe] kwaye ndiwakhuphe emnyango."

I-BedGear, eyenza ukuba kube lula ukulala njengematrasi kunye neepillow, idlale indima ebalulekileyo ekuvuseleleni kwakhe, imbaleki yeHoka One One icacisa. Abanye abantu balala emacaleni, abanye abantu balele ngasemva, abanye abantu bakhetha amaqondo obushushu ahlukeneyo, utshilo. Ulungela izihlangu zakho ezibalekayo-kutheni ungalungeli umbhede wakho?

Mfana, ngaba ufuna konke okunye anokukufumana. Phakathi kokulahla ukusebenza okukhulu kunye nokulinganisa ubomi bomama bemihla ngemihla kunye nomyeni, uBen Bruce, uStephanie ligqwetha elomeleleyo lokwamkela umzimba kuzo zonke iimilo kunye nobukhulu kuluntu olusebenzayo.

Xa ebuyela kwilizwe elibalekayo emva kokuba nabantwana bakhe, uBruce wadibana nokugxekwa komzimba wakhe osemva komntwana. Emva kokubeleka oonyana bakhe, unolusu olongezelelekileyo esiswini sakhe, nto leyo ebangele ukudideka-kunye nokugxekwa ngokungeyomfuneko-kubalandeli be-Intanethi abangaqhelananga notshintsho oluqhelekileyo kumava omzimba womfazi ngexesha nasemva kokukhulelwa. "Zininzi izinto ezithethwayo malunga nomzimba kodwa abantu abathethi ngento esiyenzelwa yimizimba yethu."

I-hashtag engena phantsi kwesikhumba sayo? #Strongnotskinny. "Ndiyakuthanda ukubona ukutshintshela 'Kwinto eyenziwa ngumzimba wam,' kungakhathaliseki ubunzima. Iimbaleki ezininzi zixhomekekile kwaye yiloo nto eyenzekayo xa ubaleka iikhilomitha ezili-120 ngeveki," uyachaza. "Ndifuna ukuba amantombazana kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo abone [iintlobo zomzimba ezibhityileyo] kwaye angafuni ukuba mncinci, kodwa anqwenele ukuqeqesha nzima kangangoko. Ukuba umzimba wabo uncike ngendlela esempilweni kulungile, kodwa ukuba ayenzi njalo, kulungile, nayo. "

Umzimba kaBruce unokwenza lukhulu. Njengaye, yonke into. Umama wamandla uphumelele i-U.S. Yeekhilomitha ezili-10 kwiPeachtree Road Race eGeorgia kule ntwasahlobo idlulileyo. Le mpumelelo –kwaye nezinye iimbasa zakhe zakutshanje- zibonisa iminyaka yokusebenza nzima ukubuyela kwezemidlalo. Mhlawumbi eyona nto ihlaziyayo, akaxhonywanga kwisitayile sakhe sangaphambili soqeqesho lukamama okanye amaxesha omdyarho.

“Kundithathe ixesha elide ukubuyela kwinqanaba apho ndizityhale khona ngokwasemzimbeni,” utshilo. "Loo minyaka mibini yokuqala yayiyimowudi yokusinda kunye nokufumana uqeqesho ngaphandle kokuzenzakalisa. Emva kokuba ndigqithise i-hump yokungonzakali, [bendifuna ukubona] ukuba ndingabaleka kangakanani kwaye ndingabaleka kangakanani."

Njengaye nawuphi na umama omtsha oqala ngokutsha inkqubo yokomelela, uBruce wayefuna ixesha lokuziqhelanisa nomzimba wakhe omtsha. Ndiza kuxelela oomama ukuba bathathe ixesha labo kwaye bangathelekisi izinto zabo ezindala kunye nokuzalwa kwabo emva komntwana, utshilo. "Ungumntu owahlukileyo ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo kwaye nantoni na oyifezayo emva kokuba nomntwana iyamangalisa ngokwayo."

Kwaye ngelixa uBruce ezingela phantsi ngaphambi kosuku lomdyarho, uya kugxila kuye "kutheni." Kutshanje uthumela kuye ii-Insta-feeds malunga nemantra yakhe ye "grit." Uthathe ezinye izinto eziphambili azithathileyo kule ncwadi I-Grit: Ukunyamezela nokunyamezela ngu-Angela Duckworth.

"UDuckworth uchaze i-grit njengokuchasa ukungoneliseki. Kum, [oko kuguqulelwe] ekubeni kutheni ndileqa ezi njongo kwaye ndingena kuzo zonke ezi mile," wabelana. "Isizathu silula: silandela ngenjongo yokulandela kunye nokubona ukuba ndingalunga kangakanani. Le yeyona ndlela ebomini bam endinokuyilawula, into endiyenzayo ekusebenzeni yile nto ndiyiphumayo."

Kwimeko apho, sinoluvo lokuba uyakulifumana okuninzi uphume kugqatso lomgama ngeCawe.

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