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• Okokuqala, jonga ukuba yeyiphi le ndlela yokujongana nayo elungele yona
• 1. Ukucamngca
• 2. Ukwenziwa kweendaba
• 3. Ukucinga okuhle
• 4. Uxolelo
• 5. Ukuhlaziya kwakhona
• 6. Ukuthetha phandle
• 7. Ukusebenza nonyango
• Umgca wezantsi

Xa kuvela umceli mngeni kuwe, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uneendlela ezimbalwa zokuya kukunceda ujongane nayo. Nokuba indlela yakho iyahluka kancinane ukusuka kwingxaki ukuya kwingxaki, kunokwenzeka ukuba ulawule ubunzima ngeendlela ezifanayo.

Unokuba, umzekelo, ube sisombululi seengxaki. Xa uhamba ngomceli mngeni okanye umcimbi oxinzelelekileyo, uye ngqo emthonjeni kwaye usebenze kuwo de ube ulungise okungalunganga okanye wehlisa uxinzelelo lwakho kwinqanaba elilawulekayo.

Kuthekani ukuba ukuthatha inyathelo kwangoko ayisiyonto yakho eyomeleleyo? Mhlawumbi uzama ukuqhekeza iimvakalelo zakho ngokujonga imeko ngokwembono eyahlukileyo okanye ukuncika kubantu obathandayo ukuze bafumane inkxaso.

Ezi ndlela zimbini zibonisa iindlela ezimbini zokulwa:

• Ukujongana nengxaki kubandakanya ukuphatha uxinzelelo ngokujongana ngqo nalo kunye nokuthatha amanyathelo okusombulula oyena nobangela.
• Ukujongana nemvakalelo egxile kwiimvakalelo kubandakanya ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho kunye nokuphendula ngokweemvakalelo kwingxaki endaweni yokujongana nengxaki.

Zombini ezi zicwangciso zinokuba nezibonelelo, kodwa ukumelana nokujolisa kwiimvakalelo kunokuba luncedo ngakumbi kwiimeko ezithile.

Okokuqala, jonga ukuba yeyiphi le ndlela yokujongana nayo elungele yona

Izakhono zokujamelana neemvakalelo ezijolise kwiimvakalelo zikunceda ukuba usebenze kwaye usebenze ngokweemvakalelo ezingafunekiyo okanye ezibuhlungu kunye nokuphendula. Ngamanye amagama, le ndlela ikunceda ulawule iimvakalelo zakho ngaphandle kweemeko zangaphandle.

Le ndlela ayinakukunceda ukusombulula ingxaki ngokuthe ngqo, kodwa sisixhobo esihle ekujonganeni neemeko zoxinzelelo ongenakukutshintsha okanye ukulawula.

Xa unokulawula indlela ophendula ngayo ngokweemvakalelo kwimeko oyinikiweyo ngokufanelekileyo, unokuziva ubhetele noko ngokwenzekayo - okanye ubuncinci ukuxhotyiswa ngayo.

Ucebisa abantu abaqhele ukusebenzisa ubuchule bokujamelana nokujolisa kwiimvakalelo banokomelela ngakumbi kuxinzelelo kwaye bonwabele impilo entle ngokubanzi.

1. Ukucamngca

Ukucamngca kukunceda ukuba ufunde ukwamkela kwaye uhlale nazo zonke iingcinga zakho kunye namava, kwanezo zinzima.

Injongo ephambili yokucamngca? Ingqondo: ukuqonda iingcinga njengoko zikhula, zamkele, kwaye uziyeke zihambe ngaphandle kokuzibamba okanye uzigwebe ukuba unazo.

Unokuziqhelanisa nengcinga nanini na, naphi na, kwaye ayizukubiza nto. Ingaziva ingonwabanga, kwaye ingancedi nto, ekuqaleni, kwaye kungathatha ixesha ngaphambi kokuba izive indalo. Ukuba unamathela kuyo, uya kuqala ukubona izibonelelo kungekudala.

Ukuba umtsha kukucamngca, qalisa ngokufunda ngakumbi malunga neentlobo ezahlukeneyo okanye ukuzama lo msebenzi wokuvavanywa komzimba ulula.

2. Ukwenziwa kweendaba

Ijenali yindlela elungileyo yokuhlela kunye nokuza neemeko ezinzima.

Xa kukho into engahambi kakuhle, unokufumana uninzi lweemvakalelo ezinzima, eziphikisanayo. Banokuziva ngathi badityanisiwe ngaphakathi kuwe, besenza ingcinga yokuzihlengahlengisa. Okanye, mhlawumbi awuqinisekanga nokuba ungayibiza njani into oziva ngayo ngamagama.

Ukudinwa nokudideka ziimvakalelo ezifanelekileyo kwaye inokuba sisiqalo esihle sokubhala iphepha.

Ngamanye amaxesha, ukubhala iimvakalelo zakho-nokuba zibhidekile okanye zinzima kangakanani-linyathelo lokuqala lokusebenza ngazo. Ekugqibeleni unokufumanisa ukuba ukushicilelwa kweendaba kunika uhlobo lwe-catharsis yeemvakalelo, njengoko uzisusa engqondweni yakho nakwijenali yakho.

Ukufumana okona kulindelo, zama:

• ukubhala yonke imihla, nokuba unemizuzu emi-5 kuphela
• ukubhala nantoni na ethi qatha engqondweni - ungakhathazeki ngokuhlela okanye ngokuzihlola
• Ukugcina umkhondo wazo naziphi na iimvakalelo okanye utshintsho lweemvakalelo olufumanayo kunye naziphi na izinto ezinokuba negalelo kwipateni, nokuba yeyakho indlela yokwenza umthambo, ukutya okuthile, okanye ubudlelwane obuthile

3. Ukucinga okuhle

Ukuzithemba ngekhe kusombulule iingxaki zodwa, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kunokunyusa impilo yakho yeemvakalelo.

Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ukucinga okuhle okanye okuhle kuyayenza hayi kubandakanya ukungahoyi iingxaki zakho. Imalunga nokunika imiceli mngeni kwi-spin efanelekileyo kunye nokufumana iipokotho zovuyo ukukunceda ungene kuzo.

Ukongeza ukucinga okuqinisekileyo ebomini bakho, zama:

• ukuzakha ngokuzithetha ngokwakho endaweni yokuthetha ngokwakho
• uqonde impumelelo yakho endaweni yokujonga "ukusilela"
• ukuhleka iimpazamo
• uzikhumbuze ukuba ungaphinda uzame kwakhona

Zonke ezi zinto kulula ukuzithetha kunokwenza, kodwa ngokuzilolonga, baya kuqala ukuziva bendalo.

4. Uxolelo

Kulula ukugxila kwiimvakalelo zokungekho sikweni okanye ukungabikho kokusesikweni xa umntu ekonile okanye esenza into engenabubele.

Uninzi lwexesha, nangona kunjalo, awunakwenza nto ukutshintsha ubuhlungu obuzuzileyo. Ngamanye amagama, umonakalo wenziwe, kwaye akukho nto inokuyenza ngaphandle kokuyeka ukuya phambili.

Ukuxolela kunokukunceda uyeke ukwenzakala kwaye uqalise ukuphilisa kuyo. Ewe uxolelo alusoloko lusenzeka ngokulula. Kungathabatha ixesha ukuza kumelana nentlungu yakho ngaphambi kokuba uzive ukwazi ukuxolela.

Ukuziqhelanisa nokuxolela kunokukunceda ukuba ube sempilweni ngokweemvakalelo ngeendlela ezininzi. Ungaqaphela:

• ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nomsindo
• ukwanda kwemfesane
• Uvelwano olukhulu
• ubudlelwane obunamandla phakathi kwabantu

Ufuna iingcebiso ngokuzixolela? Jonga isikhokelo sethu sokuyeka ixesha elidlulileyo.

5. Ukuhlaziya kwakhona

Xa uyihlaziya imeko, uyijonga ngenye indlela. Oku kunokukunceda ukuba ucinge ngomfanekiso omkhulu endaweni yokubambelela kwiinkcukacha ezincinci, njengoko kunzima okanye kungathandeki njengoko ezinye iinkcukacha zinjalo ngamanye amaxesha.

Yithi, umzekelo, ubudlelwane bakho bebunzima kwinyanga ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo, ikakhulu kuba wena neqabane lakho khange nibe nexesha elininzi lokwenza izinto kunye okanye ukunxibelelana malunga neengxaki.

Ngequbuliso, ulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi kwaye ufumanisa ukuba ngoku uyachitha intabalala yexesha ekhaya.

Ukungasebenzi akulunganga, ewe, kodwa okwangoku akukho nto unokuyenza ukutshintsha loo meko. Endaweni yokuvumela ukukhathazeka kunye nokukruquka kukhule, ungajonga kwicala eliqaqambileyo lemeko: Ngoku unexesha elininzi lokunxibelelana kwakhona neqabane lakho kwaye uqinise ubudlelwane bakho.

6. Ukuthetha phandle

Ukungcwaba okanye ukutyhala kude neemvakalelo ezingalunganga zihlala zingenzi nto ukuziphucula.

Awunakuzibona ezi mvakalelo zingafunekiyo ukuba usebenza nzima ukuzigcina zifihliwe, kodwa ekugqibeleni zihlala zivela kwakhona.

Okwangoku, banokuphuma bekwimo yoku:

• utshintsho lweemvakalelo
• uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo
• iimpawu zomzimba ezinje ngokuxhatshazwa kwemisipha okanye iintlungu zentloko

Ngokuqhelekileyo ngumbono olungileyo ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho kuye nabani na obandakanyekayo kule meko. Basenokungaqondi nokuba banefuthe kuwe ngaphandle kokuba ubaxelele.

Ukunxibelelana nobunzima bakho ngekhe kusombululeke, kodwa ukuba indlela yokusombulula ikhona, kunokwenzeka ukuba uyifumane kunye.

Ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho kumntu omthandayo omthembileyo kunokukunceda uzive ungcono, ngakumbi xa kungekho sisombululo silungileyo kwingxaki yakho. Abahlobo kunye nosapho banokubonelela ngenkxaso yezentlalo kunye neemvakalelo ngokumamela ngovelwano kunye nokuqinisekisa iimvakalelo zakho.

7. Ukusebenza nonyango

Ezinye iinkxalabo ezinzulu zingabangela uxinzelelo oluninzi, ngakumbi xa ungeke wenze nantoni na ukuphucula imeko yakho.

Mhlawumbi uya ekwahlukaneni, ujongene nexhala lezempilo elisongela ubomi, okanye ujongene nentlungu.

Akukho nto ingako onokuyenza ukutshintsha ezi meko kwaye ukujongana neemvakalelo ezibuhlungu eziza ngokwakho kunokuba nzima. Kodwa akukho mfuneko yokuba uhambe wedwa.

Ingcali ethembekileyo yezempilo yengqondo inokukunceda ulawule uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo ngokunika isikhokelo kuso nasiphi na isicwangciso sokujongana nemvakalelo esijolise apha ngasentla. Banokubonelela ngenkxaso eyenzelwe ngokukodwa imeko yakho.

Isikhokelo sethu kunyango olufikelelekayo sinokukunceda ukuba uqalise.

Umgca wezantsi

Kwihlabathi elifanelekileyo, uya kuba nakho ukujongana nazo zonke iingxaki zakho ngqo kwaye uzisombulule kwangoko. Ngokwenyani, nangona kunjalo, mininzi imiceli mngeni engaphaya kwamandla ethu. Ukujongana nemvakalelo egxile kwiimvakalelo kunokukunceda kwisimo sezulu kule mingeni kunye nokwakha ukomelela.

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