Imfashini kunye ne-Autism zinxulumene kakhulu nam-Nasi isizathu

Umxholo

• Imfashini njengomdla okhethekileyo
• Ukunxiba iimpahla ngoku kusebenza njengendlela yokwamkela nokuzikhathalela
• Into eyayikhe yangumsebenzi wokukopisha yajika yazibonakalisa

Ndiyayamkela yonke imiba ye-autism ngokunxiba kwam okunemibala.

Impilo kunye nokuphila kakuhle kuchaphazela ngamnye wethu ngokwahlukileyo. Eli libali lomntu omnye.

Elinye lamaxesha okuqala ndanxiba iimpahla ezimibalabala, ezihombisayo - {textend} eneekawusi ezinemigca emide edolo kunye netutu emfusa - {textend} Ndaya e-mall nabahlobo bam abasenyongweni.

Ngelixa sasityhutyha iivenkile ezahlukeneyo zobucwebe kunye nevenkile zeempahla, abathengi kunye nabasebenzi bajikela kum. Ngamanye amaxesha babendincoma ngokunxiba iimpahla zam, ngamanye amaxesha babendigculela kwaye bathukise indlela endikhetha ngayo.

Abahlobo bam bathabatheka, bangasetyenziselwa ukuhoywa kakhulu njengabafundi abaphakathi, kodwa ndaziva ndiqhelekile. Kwakukude ndiqala ukujongwa.

Kwafunyaniswa ukuba ndine-autism ndisengumntwana. Ubomi bam bonke, abantu bajonge kum, bahleba ngam, kwaye benza amagqabantshintshi kum (okanye kubazali bam) esidlangalaleni kuba bendibetha izandla zam, ndijija iinyawo zam, ndinobunzima bokuhamba ndinyuka izitepsi, okanye ndikhangeleka ndilahlekile ngokupheleleyo kwisihlwele.

Ke xa ndanxiba isibini samadolo obumnyama, bendingazimiselanga ukuba babe yindlela yokwamkela ukuzimela kuzo zonke iintlobo zayo - {textend} kodwa mzuzu endabona ngawo ukuba abantu babendijongile ngenxa yendlela endandinxibe ngayo , Yile nto yaba yiyo.

Imfashini njengomdla okhethekileyo

Ifashoni yayingahlali ibalulekile kum.

Ndiqale ukunxiba iimpahla ezimibalabala xa ndandineminyaka eli-14 njengendlela yokugqitha kwiintsuku ezinde zebanga lesibhozo ndichitha ukuxhatshazwa ngenxa yokuphuma njengolindelo.

Kodwa iimpahla eziqaqambileyo, ezimnandi ngokukhawuleza zaba ngumdla okhethekileyo kum. Uninzi lwabantu abane-autistic banomdla omnye okanye nangaphezulu, ezo zinomdla, umdla onomdla kwinto ethile.

Okukhona ndandicwangcise ngobunono iimpahla zam zemihla ngemihla ndaza ndaqokelela iikawusi ezintsha zeepateni kunye namasongo akhazimlayo, ndonwaba ngakumbi. Uphando lubonakalisile ukuba xa abantwana abakwi-autism spectrum bethetha ngeminqweno yabo ekhethekileyo, indlela abaziphatha ngayo, unxibelelwano, kunye nezakhono zentlalo nezeemvakalelo ziyaphucuka.

Ukwabelana nothando lwam lwefashoni ye-quirky kunye nehlabathi ngokunxiba yonke imihla eyenziweyo kwaye kusandizisela uvuyo.

Njengobusuku ngelixa ndandibamba iqonga lololiwe ukugoduka, umfazi omdala wandimisa ukuba ndibuze ukuba ndikwimidlalo yeqonga na.

Okanye ixesha umntu agxadazela malunga nesinxibo sam kumhlobo wabo osecaleni kwabo.

Okanye amatyeli aliqela abantu ongabaziyo bacele ifoto yam kuba bayayithanda into endiyinxibileyo.

Ukunxiba iimpahla ngoku kusebenza njengendlela yokwamkela nokuzikhathalela

Incoko yempilo entle ye-Autistic ihlala igxile kunyango kunye nonyango, njengonyango lomsebenzi, unyango lomzimba, uqeqesho kwindawo yokusebenza, kunye nonyango lokuziphatha.

Kodwa eneneni, ezi ngxoxo kufuneka zithathe indlela ebanzi ngakumbi. Kwaye kum, ifashoni yinxalenye yale ndlela. Ke xa ndidibanisa iimpahla zokuzonwabisa kwaye ndizinxiba, yindlela yokuzikhathalela: Ndikhetha ukuzibandakanya kwinto endiyithandayo engazisi uvuyo kuphela, kodwa nokwamkelwa.

Ifashoni iyandinceda nasekufumaneni umthwalo omkhulu kwiimvakalelo. Umzekelo, njengomntu one-autistic, izinto ezinje ngeziganeko zobungcali zinokuba nzima kakhulu. Kukho uninzi lwegalelo elinoluvo olunzima lokubonisa, ukusuka kwizibane ezikhanyayo kunye namagumbi axineneyo ukuya kwizihlalo ezingonwabanga.

Kodwa ukunxiba isinxibo esintofontofo- {textend} kunye ne-whimsical encinci - {textend} kuyandinceda ukuziqhelanisa nokuhlala ndizinze. Ukuba ndiziva ndothukile, ndinokujonga ilokhwe yam yolwandle kunye nesacholo sentlanzi kwaye ndizikhumbuze ngezinto ezilula ezindizisela uvuyo.

Ngomnyhadala wamva nje apho bendisenza khona iindaba zosasazo zasekuhlaleni kwisangqa saseBoston esinika isangqa, nditsale ingubo emigca emnyama nemhlophe emide, blazer eblowu egutyungelwe kwizambrela, isipaji sefowuni ejikelezayo kunye neziteki zegolide ezimenyezelayo wayophuma ngomnyango. Ubusuku bonke iimpahla zam kunye neenwele ezimfusa ze-ombre zatsala izincomo ezivela kubasebenzi abangenzi nzuzo kwaye zinika amalungu esangqa ukuba abe khona.

Indikhumbuze ukuba ukwenza ukhetho olundinika amandla, nokuba yinto encinci njengeenwele ezimibalabala, zizixhobo ezinamandla zokuzithemba kunye nokuzichaza.

Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ndikhethe phakathi kokuba ndim kwaye ndibonwe njengophando lwam kuphela. Ndingababini.

Into eyayikhe yangumsebenzi wokukopisha yajika yazibonakalisa

Ngelixa ifashoni yaqala njengesixhobo sokukopa, ngokuthe ngcembe yavela yayindlela yokuzithemba kunye nokuzichaza. Abantu bahlala bebuza indlela endikhetha ngayo, ndibuza ukuba lo ngumyalezo endifuna ukuwuthumela umhlaba - {textend} ngakumbi ilizwe lobungcali- {textend} malunga nokuba ndingubani.

Ndivakalelwa kukuba andinandlela yimbi ngaphandle kokuba ewe.

Ndizimele. Ndiza kuhlala ndimile. Ndihlala ndibona umhlaba kwaye ndinxibelelana ngokwahlukileyo kunabantu abangaxhomekekanga kum, nokuba oko kuthetha ukuphakama phakathi kokubhala esi sincoko sithathe ikhefu lokudanisa lwemizuzu eli-10 kwaye ndibethe izandla zam, okanye okwethutyana Ukuphulukana nobuchule bokuthetha ngomlomo xa ubuchopho bam butyhafile.

Ukuba ndiza kwahluka nokuba kunjani, kungcono ndenze ngokwahlukileyo ngendlela endizonwabisa ngayo.

Ngokunxiba ilokhwe egqunywe kwiincwadi zomnyama, ndiyaqinisa umbono wokuba ndiyazingca ngokuba ne-autistic - {textend} ukuba andifuni kutshintsha ukuba ndingubani ukuze ndilingane nabanye abantu.

UAlaina Leary ungumhleli, umphathi weendaba zosasazo kunye nombhali waseBoston, eMassachusetts. Okwangoku ungumncedisi womhleli we-Equally Wed Magazine kunye nomhleli weendaba zosasazo ezingenzi-nzuzo Sifuna iincwadi ezahlukeneyo.