Abantu baZenza njani iiNtsingiselo zokuqala?

Umxholo

• Zeziphi izinto oqala ukuziva?
• Kukhawuleza kangakanani ukwenza umbono wokuqala?
• Ngaba ukubonakala kokuqala kuchanekile?
• Ukuthatha

Ushwankathelo

Kukho rhoqo ukukhwela okuninzi kwindlela oziveza ngayo komnye umntu. Uphando lubonisa ukuba amadoda amhle kwaye amade ahlala efumana imivuzo ephezulu kunamadoda anomtsalane, amafutshane.

Olunye uphando lufumanise ukuba abantu abanomtsalane kulindeleke ukuba babenomdla ngakumbi, bafudumale, baphume, kwaye babe nezakhono ekuhlaleni kunabantu abangenamtsalane.

Abaphambukeli babonakala ngathi banomtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokutsho kwabaphandi abafunda isayensi yokuthandana kunye nomtsalane. Izazinzulu zikwafumanise ukuba abantu abadala abanobuso obusisazinge "bobuso bosana" babonwa njengabantu abanobukrwada, abanobubele, abafudumeleyo nabanyanisekileyo kunabantu abanobuso obukhali okanye obunemingxunya engaphezulu.

Ke, kubonakala ngathi xa kufikwa kumbonakalo wokuqala, ukubukeka okuhle kuhlawula kakhulu. Kodwa ngaba kujongeka kulungile yonke into?

Zeziphi izinto oqala ukuziva?

Kwisifundo esinye, izazinzulu zifumanise ukuba umbono wokuqala uhlala uphenjelelwa ikakhulu kukunxibelelana okungathethiyo kunye nolwimi lomzimba. Bafumanise ukuba impahla yokunxiba, iinwele, izincedisi, kunye nezinye iinkangeleko zangaphandle zomntu zinempembelelo ebonakala ngathi incinci kwimbonakalo yokuqala.

Nangona kunjalo, izazinzulu ziyavuma ukuba kunzima ukulinganisa okanye ukuvavanya ukubonakala kokuqala, kuba izinto eziya ekunqwenelekeni kwezentlalo zixhomekeke kakhulu.

Olunye uphando lwenzululwazi lukwaxhasa uluvo lokuba ukubonakala kobuso kunye nolwimi lomzimba luneziphumo ezomeleleyo kwimbonakalo yokuqala. Bazimisele ukuba abantu ababonakalisa ngamandla iimvakalelo zabo - ngenkangeleko yabo yobuso kunye nolwimi lomzimba, umzekelo, bayathandwa ngcono kunabantu abangathethi kakhulu.

Ke kuyabonakala ukuba ukubonisa ngokucacileyo-ngakumbi ukubonisa iimvakalelo ezintle ezinje ngovuyo kunye nolonwabo-kunokwenza umbono wokuqala omhle. Ezi mvakalelo zinokubonakaliswa ngokuziqhelanisa nomzimba, ukuma komzimba, ukunxibelelana ngamehlo, ithoni yelizwi, isikhundla somlomo, kunye nemilo yamashiya.

Kukhawuleza kangakanani ukwenza umbono wokuqala?

Ngokwenzululwazi, umntu uqala ukwenza ukubonakala komntu emva kokubona ubuso bakhe ngaphantsi kweshumi lomzuzwana. Ngelo xesha, sithatha isigqibo sokuba umntu lowo unomtsalane, uthembekile, unekhono, uyadelela, okanye ubalaseleyo.

Ke, ukubonakala kokuqala kwenziwa ngokukhawuleza okukhulu. Abanye oososayensi bathi zenzeka ngokukhawuleza okukhulu ukuba zichaneke kakhulu. Kukho iingcinga ezibaxekileyo abantu ezinxulumana neempawu ezithile zomzimba, kwaye ezi ngcinga zinokuchaphazela umbono wokuqala.

Umzekelo: Abezopolitiko abanomtsalane ngakumbi kwaye abadityanisiweyo bahlala bejongwa njengabanobuchule. Amajoni abonakala enzulu kwaye elukhuni aya kutolikwa njengongaphezulu kwaye anokubekwa kwinqanaba eliphezulu ngokusekwe ngaphezulu kwembonakalo yabo.

Xa kuziwa kubuso kunye nokubonakala kokuqala, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ubuso bunzima kakhulu. Abantu banikele ingqalelo nakwezona nguqu zincinci okanye umahluko kwinkangeleko yobuso. Inkcazo elungileyo kunye nokujikeleza, iimpawu zobufazi ngakumbi zenza ukuba ubuso bubonakale bunokuthenjwa ngakumbi. Kwelinye icala, intetho engalunganga kunye nobunzima, ukubonakala kobudoda kuthanda ukwenza ubuso bubonakale bungathembekanga.

Ngaba ukubonakala kokuqala kuchanekile?

Ezinye izinto zobuso zinxulunyaniswa nokunye ukubonakala, kubandakanya ukongamela, ukuxubusha, ubuchule kunye nosongelo. Kwaye ezi mpawu zichaphazela kwangoko indlela esiqala ngayo ukuphatha omnye umntu.

Indlela ukubonakala kokuqala okubuchaphazela ngayo ubomi bomntu kuxhomekeke kwimeko apho kubonakala inkangeleko yabo. Umzekelo, indoda yomkhosi iya kufuna ukubonwa njengoyena ubalaseleyo ngelixa utitshala wesikolo sabantwana abasaqalayo mhlawumbi engayi.

Ngokusekwe kwisayensi, ayothusi into yokuba abantu babeke ubunzima obuninzi ebusweni. Xa siseziintsana, izinto esizijonga kakhulu bubuso babantu abasingqongileyo. Lonke eli xesha ukujonga ubuso kukhokelela kuphuhliso lokuchonga ubuso kunye nezakhono zobuso kunye nemvakalelo yokuqonda.

Ezi zakhono zazenzelwe ukusinceda sifunde iingqondo zabanye, sinxibelelane nabanye, kwaye silungelelanise izenzo zethu nabanye ovakalelo-ukungaphumeleli ukugweba malunga nomnye umntu.

Ke, ukubonakala kokuqala okusekwe kubuso kunye nembonakalo inesiphene, kuba isekwe kukhetho esiluphuhlisayo ngokuhamba kwexesha. Umzekelo, umntu unokuthi "ujonge" ngokuthetha, kodwa banokuba bahle kakhulu. Umboniso wokuqala awunakububona ubumnandi ngasemva kwembonakalo yokuthetha.

Ukuthatha

Ngelixa inzululwazi iphakamisa ukuwisa isigwebo ngokusekwe kwintetho yabanye kunye neenkangeleko yindlela engachanekanga yokuqonda umntu, ukubonakala kokuqala akuhambi naliphi na ixesha kungekudala. Kwaye ukwenza umbono omhle wokuqala kunokuba nezibonelelo ezinkulu: abahlobo abaninzi, iqabane elilungileyo, umvuzo ongcono, kunye nezinye izinto.

Ngokusekwe kwisayensi yokuvela kokuqala, Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokubeka olona nyawo lwakho lubalaseleyo phambili:

• gcina imbonakalo yobuso bakho ithambile kwaye ifudumele
• uncume kwaye uphumle izihlunu zobuso bakho
• sukuqhuzula amashiya ukuphepha ukujonga ukuba unomsindo
• gcina umzimba wakho ukhululekile kwaye uthe tye
• mjonge emehlweni xa udibana okanye uthetha nomnye umntu
• nxiba impahla ecocekileyo, efanelekileyo nefanelekileyo
• Qinisekisa ukuba iinwele, izandla kunye nomzimba zihlanjwe kwaye zenziwe kakuhle
• Thetha ngelizwi elicacileyo nelifudumeleyo

Xa udibana nomntu omtsha, loo mizuzwana embalwa yokuqala kunye nemizuzu zibalulekile. Ke kufanelekile ukucinga ngendlela onokuthi wenze ngayo umbono omhle wokuqala.