Ukuziphatha kwakho okuNzima kweminyaka emi-4 ubudala: Ngaba oku kuqhelekile?

Umxholo

• Yintoni ethathwa njengokuziphatha okuqhelekileyo komntwana oneminyaka emi-4 ubudala?
• Yiyiphi indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo eneminyaka emi-4 ubudala?
• Ngaba kufanelekile ukuba ubandakanye ugqirha wabantwana bakho?
• Ungamqeqesha njani umntwana wakho oneminyaka emi-4
• Ixesha lokuphumla
• Ukukhalimela ngomlomo
• Iingcebiso zokulawula indlela oziphethe ngayo oneminyaka emi-4 ubudala
• Amanyathelo alandelayo

Ndilungiselela ukubhiyozela umhla wokuzalwa wonyana wam we-4 kweli hlobo. Kwaye ndihlala ndizibuza, yenza konke abazali banzima kangaka nabantwana babo abaneminyaka emi-4?

Ukuba ukweso sikhephe sinye, unokuziva uqinisekile ukuba izigaba "ezibini ezoyikekayo" okanye izigaba "zothintelo" zigutyungelwe zizine ezineengcwangu.

Kodwa iindaba ezimnandi kukuba, njengoko umntwana wakho esenza utshintsho ukusuka kumntwana omncinci ukuya kwisikolo sabantwana abasaqalayo ukuya phantse kwisikolo sabantwana abancinci, unokumangaliswa yindlela akhule ngayo umntwana wakho omncinci.

Nantsi into onokuyilindela kwindlela oziphethe ngayo oneminyaka emi-4 ubudala.

Yintoni ethathwa njengokuziphatha okuqhelekileyo komntwana oneminyaka emi-4 ubudala?

Kusenokubonakala ngathi umntwana wakho usoloko ekucel 'umngeni. Kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba basebenza ngokufanelekileyo kuluhlu lweminyaka emi-4 ubudala.

Njengoko umntwana wakho esiya enkulisa, banokukwazi ngakumbi kwaye bavume imigaqo.

NgokweAmerican Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), indlela yokuziphatha eqhelekileyo eneminyaka emi-4 inokubandakanya:

• Ukufuna ukukholisa kwaye ube ngabahlobo
• kubonisa ukuzimela okukhulu
• ukukwazi ukwahlula intelekelelo kwinyani
• Ukufuna izinto maxa wambi, ukusebenzisana ngamanye amaxesha

Yiyiphi indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo eneminyaka emi-4 ubudala?

Isenokungabi yinto othanda ukuyicinga njengomzali, kodwa isini yinxalenye yobomi, nokuba umdala kangakanani.

I-AAP inetshathi eluncedo yokuphula ngokuthe ngqo indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo eqhelekileyo ebantwaneni.

Ngokwe-AAP, ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakalisa umdla kumalungu abo obuni, amalungu esini omntakwenu, okanye kwanokuphulula amaphambili ngasese, awunanto yakwenza nexhala. Kodwa ukuqhubeka nokuziphatha ngokwesondo kunye noontanga okanye abantwana abahlukeneyo abaneminyaka engavumiyo ekuphazanyisweni ngabazali okanye okubangela uxinzelelo kwabanye abantwana akuqhelekanga. Oku kuziphatha kunokuqinisekisa ingxoxo nogqirha womntwana wakho.

Ngaba kufanelekile ukuba ubandakanye ugqirha wabantwana bakho?

Kungcono uthethe kugqirha wabantwana okanye ingcali ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakalisa ukungaziphathi kakuhle okungazibekiyo okanye kwabanye abantwana emngciphekweni okanye kwenza iimeko zentlalo zingenakwenzeka.

Umntwana wakho unokufuna uvavanyo lobungcali okanye abe neemfuno ezizodwa ezifuna ukuhamba. Uninzi lwabazali nabantwana basabela kakuhle kunyango lokuziphatha, ngaphandle kweemfuno ezizodwa, ukukunceda ufunde indlela yokuziphatha efanelekileyo kunye nokuphendula kwimeko enzima.

Ungamqeqesha njani umntwana wakho oneminyaka emi-4

Ukujongana nomngeni oneminyaka emi-4 ubudala kunokuba yinto ephazamisayo. Inokukwenza uzibuze ukuba ngaba naziphi na izenzo zakho zenza umahluko emntwaneni wakho. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba iindlela zakho zoluleko zinokunceda okanye zenzakalise njani umntwana wakho.

Ixesha lokuphumla

Kubantwana abasaqala isikolo, amaxesha okuphuma abonakalisiwe ukutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha ukuya kuthi ga kwipesenti ezingama-80 zexesha. Ixesha lokuphuma lisebenza ngokuchanekileyo ekutshintsheni indlela yokuziphatha enye kwixesha elide.

Isitshixo ekuphumeni kwexesha kukuba kufuneka zibandakanye ukuqinisekisa ukuba njengomzali, uyazikhupha emntwaneni wakho. Ayililo ixesha lokuphumla elenza umsebenzi, kodwa into yokuba umntwana wakho asuswe kwingqwalaselo yakho eyenza ixesha lokuphuma lisebenze ngokufanelekileyo.

Kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba uthetha malunga nokuziphatha emva kokuphuma kwexesha ngobumnene nothando. Qonda ukuba xa uqala ukuzama ukuphela kwexesha, indlela yokuziphatha komntwana wakho inokuba mandundu ekuqaleni njengoko bevavanya umda omtsha.

Ukukhalimela ngomlomo

Kuyimfuneko ukusebenzisa ukohlwaya ngomlomo xa ujongene nabasafunda esikolweni abahlala bejonge ukungena engxakini. Kodwa eyona nto iphambili ekusebenziseni izohlwayo zomlomo kukuzigcina zimbalwa kwaye zikude. Oku kuthetha ukuba ungaziphindi izihlandlo ezili-1 000. Xa usenza oko, umntwana wakho akasayi kukuthatha ngokungathí sina.

Kuya kufuneka usoloko uqinisekile ukuba uyasimisela isohlwayo kwisimilo somntwana, hayi umntwana. Umzekelo, ungathi, "Johnny, andithandi ukuba ubaleke kum kwindawo yokupaka," endaweni yokuthi, "Johnny, umbi ngokubaleka kum kwindawo yokupaka."

Iingcebiso zokulawula indlela oziphethe ngayo oneminyaka emi-4 ubudala

Njengoko ufunda ukunceda ngokukuko ukulawula indlela yokuziphatha komceli mngeni oneminyaka emi-4 ubudala, zama ukugcina ezi ngcebiso engqondweni:

• Gcina ithoni yeemvakalelo ezilungileyo
• gcina umjikelo wokuziphatha olungileyo (ukuncoma isimilo ofuna umntwana wakho abonise ngakumbi kwaye angabaniki ngqwalaselo gwenxa kwizenzo ezingathandekiyo)
• gcina ishedyuli yesiqhelo yokuvuka, imisebenzi, kunye nexesha lokulala
• ukuseka iindlela zokuziphatha ezingaguquguqukiyo phakathi kwabanonopheli
• nika umntwana wakho ukhetho xa kufanelekile

Amanyathelo alandelayo

Akukho mathandabuzo ngayo, abantwana abaneminyaka emi-4 banokuba ngumceli mngeni ngamanye amaxesha. Kodwa njengamacandelo amaninzi okukhulisa abantwana, nako oku kuya kudlula.

Kunokuba luncedo ukucinga ngokuziphatha komntwana wakho oneminyaka emi-4 njengokukhula okuqhelekileyo okuya kubanceda bakhule babe ngumntwana osempilweni, osebenzayo. Thetha nomntwana wakho ukuba wena kunye nomntwana wakho nisokola nokuziphatha okuthile okanye nifuna isikhokelo.