Iindlela ezi-5 zokuqonda ukukhathazeka kwakho

Umxholo

• 1. Ukuphuhlisa ulwazi lomzimba
• 2. Thatha umoya onzulu, ophefumlayo
• 3. Vavanya imihla ngemihla
• 4. Ngenelela ngalo mzuzu
• 5. Musa ukoyika ukucela uncedo

Ndihlala noxinzelelo ngokubanzi (GAD). Oko kuthetha ukuba uxinzelelo luzizisa kum yonke imihla, imini yonke. Inkqubela phambili endiyenzileyo kunyango, ndisazifumana ndingena kwinto endithanda ukuyibiza ngokuba yi "vortex yoxinzelelo."

Inxalenye yokuchacha kwam ibandakanye nokuqonda xa ndiqala ukuya ezantsi emngxunyeni womvundla, kunye nokusebenzisa izixhobo ukuthatha inyathelo (okanye amanyathelo amaninzi) umva. Ndiva kubantu abaninzi nangakumbi ukuba ngumceli mngeni ekuchazeni indlela abaxhalabise ngayo, ngoko ke nazi ezinye zeeflegi zam ezibomvu, kwaye nento endiyenzayo ukuzinceda xa bevela.

1. Ukuphuhlisa ulwazi lomzimba

Indawo ebalulekileyo yokuqala ukuqaphela indlela oziphethe ngayo ngumzimba wakho. Uninzi lwethu luyaqonda ukuba uxinzelelo lukhona kwiintloko zethu, xa kunjalo, lukwanomzimba kakhulu. Xa iingcinga zam ziqala ubuhlanga kunye nokungazithembi kungena ngaphakathi, ndiguqula ukuqonda kwam kude nengqondo yam kwinto eyenzekayo kum. Xa ukuphefumla kwam sele kukhawulezile, xa ndiqala ukubila, xa izandla zam zitswina, kwaye xa ndibile, ndiyazi ukuba inqanaba lam loxinzelelo liyanda. Impendulo yethu yomzimba kuxinzelelo ibaluleke kakhulu kuthi. Abanye abantu baneentloko ezibuhlungu, isisu esibuhlungu, okanye umqolo obuhlungu, ngelixa abanye bephefumla ngokukhawuleza kwaye bengenzulwanga. Ukuqala ukuqaphela okwenzekayo emzimbeni wam kunye nendlela evakalelwa ngayo kundinike indlela enamandla yokubona iimpawu zoxinzelelo. Nokuba andiqinisekanga ngento endenza ukuba ndixhalabe, ukuqaphela utshintsho olwenzeka emzimbeni kuyandinceda ukuba ndicothise kwaye…

2. Thatha umoya onzulu, ophefumlayo

Ixesha lokuqala endafunda ngalo ngokuphefumla ngokunzulu ndandisesibhedlele se-psych. "Ewe!" Ndacinga, "Ndizophefumla kwaye nexhala liza kuyeka." Khange isebenze. Bendisaxhalabile nangoku. Ngelixa ndandithandabuza ukuba iyandinceda konke konke, ndaye ndahlala nayo iinyanga kunye neenyanga. Ngokukodwa kuba wonke ugqirha kunye noogqirha bengqondo bandixelele ukuba ndiyenze, ndiye ndacinga ukuba ikhona into kwiingcebiso zabo, kwaye ngelo xesha andinanto ndiza kuphulukana nayo. Kuthathe ukuziqhelanisa okuninzi nomsebenzi wokuphefumla ukwenza umahluko. Ngelixa ukuphefumla nzulu phakathi kuhlaselo loloyiko kuyakunceda ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile, ndifumanise ukuba amandla okwenene okuphefumla nzulu ayenzeka mihla le - xa ndicinga phambili ngemini yam, okanye ndiqhuba ndisiya emsebenzini, okanye edesikeni yam. , okanye ukupheka isidlo sangokuhlwa. Andilindi de ndibe kwimeko yoxinzelelo olupheleleyo lokuphefumla ngokunzulu. Ngokukhawuleza xa iingcinga zam ziqala ukubaleka, okanye ndiziva ndinempawu zomzimba, ukuphefumla kwam okunzulu kuyangena. Ngamanye amaxesha, ndiyayishiya idesika yam okwemizuzu embalwa ndime ngaphandle ndiphefumle. Okanye nditsala ngaphezulu kwaye ndiphefumle, ndikhuphe. Yinto endinokuyisebenzisa naphina ukundinceda ndibethe iqhosha lokuphumla kwaye uphinde unxibelelane nomzimba wam.

3. Vavanya imihla ngemihla

Kum, uxinzelelo alujoliswanga kwiziganeko ezinkulu eziyintlekele. Kunoko, ifihliwe kwimisebenzi yam yemihla ngemihla. Ukusuka ekukhetheni into oza kuyinxiba, ukucwangcisa umsitho, ukuthenga isipho, ndiye ndicinge ngokufumana isisombululo esifanelekileyo. Ukusuka kwezigqibo ezincinci ukuya kwezinkulu, ndiza kuthelekisa kwaye ndikhangele zonke izinto ezinokukhethwa ndide ndizidinise. Ngaphambi kwesiqendu sam soxinzelelo olukhulu kunye noxinzelelo kwi-2014, khange ndicinge ukuba ndinengxaki yoxinzelelo. Ukuthenga, ukuphumeza ngaphezulu, abantu abonwabisayo, uloyiko lokungaphumeleli- ngoku ndingajonga ngasemva kwaye ndibone ukuba uxinzelelo luchaze uninzi lweendlela zam zobuqu nezobuchwephesha. Ukufunda malunga nokuphazamiseka koxinzelelo kundincede kakhulu. Ngoku, ndiyazi ukuba ndibize ntoni na. Ndiyazi ukuba zithini iimpawu kwaye ndinokudibanisa nokuziphatha kwam. Njengokucaphukisa njengoko kunokuba njalo, ubuncinci kunengqiqo. Kwaye andoyiki ukufumana uncedo lobuchwephesha okanye ukuthatha amayeza. Ngokuqinisekileyo ibetha ukuzama ukujongana nam ndedwa.

4. Ngenelela ngalo mzuzu

Ukuxhalaba kufana nebhola ekhephu: Nje ukuba iqale ukuqengqeleka, kunzima kakhulu ukuyinqanda. Ukwazisa ngomzimba, ukuphefumla, kunye nokwazi iimpawu zam lelinye icala lengqekembe. Enye iyatshintsha indlela endixhalabise ngayo, okwangoku kunzima kakhulu ukuyenza kuba amandla anamandla kakhulu. Nokuba siyintoni na isidingo sokuqhuba indlela yokuziphatha okunexhala uziva ungxamisekile kwaye umbi-kwaye, kum, oko kuhlala kuyoloyiko lokwaliwa okanye ukungalungi ngokwaneleyo. Ixesha elingaphezulu, ndiye ndafumanisa ukuba ndingahlala ndijonga emva kwaye ndibone ukuba ukukhetha ilokhwe egqibeleleyo kwakungabalulekanga kwiskimu esikhulu sezinto. Amaxesha amaninzi, ixhala alikho malunga noko sikhathazeke ngako.

Nazi izixhobo ezimbalwa ezindincedayo ukuba ndingenelele kum ngalo mzuzu:

Ukuhamba nje. Ukuba ndiyangena kwi-indecision kwaye ndiqhubeke ndikhangela, ndiphanda, okanye ndibuyele ngapha nangapha, ndiyakhuthaza ngobumnene ukuba ndiyilahle okwangoku.

Ukuseta isibali xesha kwifowuni yam. Ndizinika eminye imizuzu eli-10 yokujonga iindlela ezahlukeneyo, emva koko kufuneka ndiyeke.

Ukugcina ioyile yelavenda kwisipaji sam. Ndiyikhupha ibhotile ndiyiphunga ngamaxesha xa ndiziva uxinzelelo lonyuka. Iyandiphazamisa kwaye ibandakanye izivamvo zam ngendlela eyahlukileyo.

Ukuthetha kum, ngamanye amaxesha ngokuvakalayo. Ndiyaqonda ukuba ndiziva ndisoyika kwaye ndizibuze ukuba yintoni enye endinokukhetha ukuyenza ukundinceda ndizive ndikhuselekile.

Ukusebenza. Ukuzivocavoca, ukuhamba kancinci, okanye nokuma nje nokuzolula kundinceda ukuba ndiphinde ndidibane nomzimba wam kwaye undikhuphe kubunzulu belo xesha. Ukuba nezinto ezincedisayo zokuncedisa: ukupheka, ukwenza imisebenzi yezandla, ukubukela imovie, okanye ukucoca kunokundinceda ndikhethe indlela eyahlukileyo.

5. Musa ukoyika ukucela uncedo

Ndiye ndafumanisa ukuba ixhala liqhelekile. Ngapha koko, sesona sifo sengqondo sixhaphakileyo eUnited States. Baninzi kakhulu abanye abafumana iimpawu zoxinzelelo, nokuba abafunyaniswa benengxaki yoxinzelelo. Ngelixa ndinganxibi mqondiso entanyeni yam othi "INKXASO YOKUXHASHA," ndiyathetha nosapho, abahlobo, kwanabo ndisebenza nabo malunga nayo. Andikwazi ukugxininisa ukuba le nto indincede kangakanani. Undibonisile ukuba andindedwa. Ndifunda kwindlela abanye abantu abahlangabezana ngayo nayo, kwaye ndiyabanceda ngokwabelana ngamava am. Kwaye ndiziva ndingahlali ndedwa xa izinto ziba nzima. Abo basondeleyo kum bangandinceda ndibone xa ixhala lam lisomelela, kwaye ngelixa oko kungasoloko kulula ukukuva, ndiyayixabisa. Abayi kuyazi indlela yokubakhona kum ukuba andingabelani nabanye.

Ukwazi ixhala lam kuyeyona nto iphambili ekuncedeni ukuba ndiyivule. Bendihlala ndicamngca ngokuziphatha okundikhathazayo kwaye ndingahambelani nendlela umzimba wam osabela ngayo kuxinzelelo. Ngelixa kunzima ukujongana nayo, phantse kube sisiqabu ukuqonda indlela i-GAD indichaphazela ngayo imihla ngemihla. Okukhona ndiya ndikhula ngakumbi, ngokufuthi ndizifumana nditsaliwe kwi-vortex. Ngaphandle kolo lwazi, andinakufumana uncedo endiludingayo kwabanye kwaye, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, andikwazi kufumana uncedo endilifunayo kum.

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