Njani le mbaleki ye-SI ye-Swimsuit ixhase uMfazi wayo oMangalisayo ngaphakathi ukuba aqhwabe umva kwi-cyberbullying

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I-Paige Spiranac yaya kwintsholongwane kwiminyaka emibini edlulileyo njenge-golfer entle kunye ne-swing yeengcali. Kwaye ngoku ungomnye wabafazi abangama-36 kwi2018 Imidlalo eboniswe Umba weSwimsuit, ecaleni kwezinto ezithandwa nguKate Upton kunye no-Ashley Graham. Kwinye SI ifoto, i-Spiranac rock ibukeka ngathi nguMfazi oMangalisayo, amandla kunye namandla. Into ongenakuyixela kwifoto kukuba indlela yakhe yokuxhotyiswa yayimnyama ngokwenene.

Ngabalandeli abayi-1.3 yezigidi "abathanda" iifoto zakhe kunye namakhulu amawaka bembukele kwisitishi sakhe segalufa seYouTube, uSpiranac waba luphawu lwempikiswano njengoko iintatheli kunye nabanye abadlali begalufa baphosa isithunzi malunga nokunxiba kwakhe kweSpandex kwaye bajolise kuye ngokuziphatha, italente yeembaleki, kwanaye usapho. Nangona umlinganiselo wale ntiyo wawumtsha kuye, u-Spiranac uthi Ubume, "ixesha elide ndikhumbula, ndixhatshazwa."

"Ngokukhula kwam, ndandineenwele apho iinwele zam zaziza kuwa ngokulula, kwaye ndine-asthma embi," utshilo. "Abantwana babecinga ukuba ndingaqhelekanga, okanye babecinga ukuba ndinezifo, ngoko ke babetshica kwiziselo zam, bandigibisela ngamatye, besithi 'yima ngeenyawo ezili-10 kuye ngalo lonke ixesha."

Oku kukhathazwa kwabangela ukuba abazali bakaSpiranac baye kwimfundo yamakhaya kwintombi yabo kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, kwaye ukungcungcuthekiswa kuyaqhubeka gqolo kuyo yonke ikholeji, utshilo. Emva kokuthweswa isidanga, umsebenzi wakhe wegalufa waqala ukubhabha kwaye nobukho bakhe kwi-Intanethi-obukhokelela kubundlobongela obuqatha kwi-cyber kule minyaka mibini idlulileyo.

"Ndiyityhala into endinokuyinxiba, ndinxiba njengembaleki [ngaphambi kokuba ndibethe igalufa ibingumthambo], kwaye abantu bathetha izinto ezimbi, utshilo. "Ndihlazekile, ndahlukunyezwa, ndithunyelwa ngeposi, ndaza ndathumela izoyikiso zokufa ngokunxiba iitanki okanye iziketi ezikulungeleyo. Akukho mntu ujonga lo mntu ndinguye."

I-cyberbullying yathatha imali eyingozi ngexesha lokuqala kukhenketho lwaseSpiranac lwaseYurophu. Umenywe ukuba adlale eDubai kwiinyanga ezintandathu emva kokuba isaqhwithi kwi-intanethi sivuthe ngokwenene, wafika kukhuphiswano ecinga ukuba amaphupha akhe egalufa ayazaliseka. Wadibana namajelo eendaba egxeka isimilo sakhe, isimilo sakhe, kunye nokukhula kwakhe-yonke into eyenza umntu abe ngumntu wokwenyani. Oontanga awayebahloniphile kwihlabathi legalufa bajoyina ekuhlekiseni nasekuxhaphazeni. "Ndaziva ndindedwa," uyavuma. "Bendihleli kwigumbi lokuhlambela ndikhangela kuyo yonke into kwaye ndinokonakala kakhulu. Bendingakwazi ukuphefumla, bendingakwazi ukuyeka ukulila. Ndijonge ebhafini kwaye ngelo xesha ndicinga ukuba ekuphela kwendlela yokuphuma kukungaphili Udade wethu wayekhona kwaye wandinceda kule nto, wabiza umntu ukuba amncede. (Zazi iinyani: Le yingqondo yakho ekuxhatshazweni.)

Kwakungelo xesha, ngexesha lakhe eliphantsi, apho uSpiranac wenza isigqibo sokuba angabi lixhoba, kodwa endaweni yesisombululo. Waba ngunozakuzaku wombutho olwa nobundlobongela kwiCybersmile. Ndinethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo ukuba nenkqubo yenkxaso, kodwa xa uneminyaka eli-12 okanye eli-13 kwaye unoluvo, uxinekile lihlabathi langaphandle, ucinga ukuba ekuphela kwendlela yokuphuma kukuthatha ubomi bakho, utshilo.

Olunye lolona phando lukhulu olwenziweyo kwi-cyberbullying kubafundi abakumabanga aphakathi nakwizikolo eziphakamileyo, olupapashwe kulo nyaka uphelileyo, lubonisa ukuba i-70 pesenti yabafundi inamarhe asasazwa ngabo kwi-Intanethi, kwaye amantombazana angafumana ukuxhatshazwa kwi-cyberbullying. Ngeli xesha, kwisiganeko sakutshanje eFlorida, abafundi ababini besikolo esiphakathi batyholwa ngokuxhaphaza i-intanethi emva kokuba omnye umfundi ezibulele. Iingxelo zamapolisa zithi abaxhaphazi be-intanethi baqalise amarhe okuba ixhoba linezifo ezosulela ngokwabelana ngesondo, lithukana, kwaye beligrogrisa ngokuveza iinkcukacha eziyimfihlo. (Eyeleleneyo: Olu lwandiso lweChrome lunokubeka uYekiso kubathiyi be-Intanethi)

"Yingxaki yokwenyani," uphinda u-Spiranac.Ukusukela oko wathatha isigqibo sokuthethelela abanye abantu ukuba baxhatshazwe, uthi ulifumene ilizwi lakhe, kwaye uyangqina oko ngokubetha kwakhe izandla ngokungenazintloni kwabo bamthiyileyo.

Intatheli yowasetyhini eyayisakuba yi-ESPN kutshanje yahlukumeza i-2018 SI Abafazi be-Swimsuit, besithi ukujonga iifoto ze-naked ze kungabaniki amandla kwabasetyhini, kubonisa ukunyaniseka nokunyanyeka. U-Spiranac wakhawuleza waphendula ukubhala, "Abasetyhini abahlukeneyo baziva bexhotyisiwe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kwaye ayilunganga ukuxelela umntu ukuba bangayenza ntoni kwaye bangakwazi ukuyenza."

Oku kuzithemba kutsha kubangelwa kukuphakama kwentshukumo ye SI dubula, utsho Spiranac. Andikwazi ukufihla nganto kwaye oko kwandinika amandla, utshilo. "Lo mbandela uphela unika amandla kwabasetyhini. Kunzima kubafazi yonke imihla; kufuneka silungile, kodwa hayi naye mhle, unamabhongo, kodwa hayi naye amabhongo. Ubeka uxinzelelo olukhulu kwinto ekufuneka siyiyo nesiyiyo. "

Kwaye kwisichazi-magama se-Spiranac, "ukuxhotyiswa" akuchazwanga ngeqhekeza lempahla. Luvakalelo.

"Phantse wonke umntu obhinqileyo endidibene naye ukhe wajamelana nokuxhatshazwa," utshilo. "Iimodeli ngoku SI Ndanombulelo kakhulu kuba ndaye ndathetha ngayo, kuba bahlala bexhatshazwa nabo-kuba bebhityile, bezele kakhulu, nantoni na malunga nokubonakala kwabo. Eyona njongo iphambili kukuba nomntu obhinqileyo azijonge esipilini kwaye azive emangalisa ngaye. Xa uziva unamandla, kuyachukumisa kwaye kuyamangalisa, kwaye ndifuna wonke umntu azive amandla. "

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