Iindaba ezimnandi! Iinyembezi ezonwabileyo zisebenzela injongo

Umxholo

• Ukulila kunceda ukulawula iimvakalelo ezigqithileyo
• Inkcazo yeDimorphous
• Ukufumana ibhalansi
• Iinyembezi zikunceda unxibelelane nabanye
• Ukulila ngokoqobo kukwenza uzive ungcono
• Iihormoni ezonwabileyo
• Ukukhululwa ngokweemvakalelo
• Ingqondo yakho inokudideka nje kancinci
• Umgca wezantsi

Ukulila xa ulusizi? Eqhelekileyo. Mhlawumbi uye wakwenza oko ixesha okanye ezimbini ngokwakho. Mhlawumbi nawe ukhale ngomsindo okanye unxunguphalo ngelinye ixesha - okanye wabona ubungqina bomsindo womnye umntu.

Kodwa kukho olunye uhlobo lokulila onokuba namava ngalo: ukulila ngolonwabo.

Mhlawumbi ubonile oku nakweyiphi na inamba yemiboniso bhanyabhanya kunye neenkqubo zeTV, kodwa ukuba ukhe waziva woyiswa luvuyo okanye impumelelo, usenokuba ukhale ngezinyembezi zakho zovuyo.

Iinyembezi zovuyo zinokudideka ngandlela ithile, ngakumbi ukuba ukudibanisa ukulila neemvakalelo ezingafunekiyo. Kodwa ziqhelekile ngokupheleleyo.

Iinyembezi ezonwabileyo azichazwanga ngokobudala okanye isini, ngenxa yoko ithiyori, zinokwenzeka kuye nabani na ova iimvakalelo.

Kodwa kutheni zisenzeka? Akukho mntu unempendulo eqinisekileyo, kodwa uphando lwezenzululwazi lunika iinkcazo ezimbalwa ezinokubakho.

Ukulila kunceda ukulawula iimvakalelo ezigqithileyo

Uninzi lwabantu lucinga ukuba lusizi, umsindo, kunye nonxunguphalo njengezingalunganga. Abantu ngokubanzi bafuna ukonwaba, kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba ube nobunzima ekufumaneni umntu ojonga ulonwabo njengolubi. Ke, yintoni enika iinyembezi zovuyo?

Ewe, ulonwabo yenza yabelana ngokufana kunye nezinye iimvakalelo: Ezintle okanye ezimbi, zonke zinokuba namandla kakhulu.

Ngokophando olwenziwe ngo-2015, iinyembezi ezonwabileyo zenzeka xa uhlangabezana neemvakalelo ezinamandla ngendlela engalawulekiyo. Xa ezi mvakalelo ziqala ukongamela wena, ungakhala okanye ukhwaze (mhlawumbi zombini) ukuze uncede ukukhupha ezo mvakalelo.

Emva kokukrazula uvule ileta yakho yokwamkela ikholeji, umzekelo, usenokuba ukhale kakhulu (ngokukhwaza usapho lwakho lucinga ukuba ungazilimaza kakhulu) emva koko zehle iinyembezi.

Inkcazo yeDimorphous

Iinyembezi ezonwabileyo ngumzekelo obalaseleyo wokubonisa. Apha, i-dimorphous ithetha "iifom ezimbini." Ezi ntetho zivela kwindawo enye kodwa zibonisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.

Nanku omnye umzekelo: Wakhe wayibona into emnandi kangaka, enjengesilwanyana okanye usana, kangangokuba wawunomnqweno wokuyibamba uze uyikhame? Kukho ibinzana onokuthi ulivile, mhlawumbi ukusuka kumntu omdala ukuya kumntwana omncinci: "Ndingakutya nje!"

Ewe awufuni kwenzakalisa eso silwanyana okanye ukusicofa. Kwaye (uninzi?) Abantu abadala bafuna ukubamba nokubamba iintsana, bangazityi. Ke, le ntetho inochuku yemvakalelo inokubonakala ingaqhelekanga, kodwa inenkcazo ethe ngqo: Iimvakalelo zinamandla kangangokuba awazi ukuba uziphathe njani.

Ukufumana ibhalansi

Ubunzima bokulawula iimvakalelo ngamanye amaxesha bunokuba neziphumo ezibi. Abanye abantu abathi rhoqo babe nobunzima kulawulo lweemvakalelo banokuba nokutshintsha kwemozulu okanye ukuqhuma okungafunekiyo.

Ngendlela, ke, ezi nyembezana zovuyo zikukhusela ngokunika ulungelelwaniso kwiimvakalelo ezigabadeleyo ezinokuthi zibe nefuthe kwimpilo yakho yeemvakalelo. Ngamanye amagama, ukukhala kunokuba luncedo xa uziva woyisiwe awazi ukuba ungaqala njani ukuzola.

Iinyembezi zikunceda unxibelelane nabanye

Xa ukhala ngaso nasiphi na isizathu, uthumela umyalezo kuye nakubani na onokukubona (nokuba uyafuna okanye awufuni). Isenzo sokukhala senza abanye bazi ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zikongamele, ezinokuthi emva koko zibonakalise ukuba ufuna inkxaso okanye intuthuzelo.

"Ngokuqinisekileyo," ungacinga, "ngubani ongafuniyo ukuthuthuzeleka xa eziva elusizi okanye enoxinzelelo?"

Kodwa xa wonwabe ngokupheleleyo, unokufuna inkxaso. Ngokukodwa, uphando oluvela ku-2009 lucebisa ukuba ufuna ukudibana nabanye ngaphezulu kweemvakalelo ezigqithileyo ohlangabezana nazo, ukusuka kulonwabo ukuya kuvuyo nothando.

Abantu, ngokubanzi, zizidalwa zentlalo. Olu hlobo lwentlalo lunokudlala indima kumnqweno wokwabelana ngamava abukhali kwaye lufune umanyano kunye nentuthuzelo ngamaxesha amnandi nangalunganga. Ukukhala ngovuyo, ke, kunokuba yenye yeendlela zokuthi, "Nceda wabelane ngalo mzuzu umhle kangaka."

Ababhali besifundo esichazwe apha ngasentla bakwatsho ukuba iinyembezi zingabonisa ubukhulu okanye ukubaluleka kweziganeko ezithile ezibalulekileyo, ezinje ngokuthweswa izidanga, imitshato, okanye ukubuyela ekhaya.

Ukulila uxelela wonke umntu okujikelezile, "Okwenzekayo ngoku kuthetha lukhulu kum." Ngale ndlela, ukukhala kusebenza umsebenzi obalulekileyo kwezentlalo, ngakumbi xa uziva ukoyiswa kakhulu ukwenza umtya isivakalisi kunye.

Ukulila ngokoqobo kukwenza uzive ungcono

Abantu abaninzi abakuthandi ukukhala, nokuba bonwabile. Impumlo yakho ibaleka, intloko yakho inokuba buhlungu, kwaye, ewe, kukho ukubonwa okungenakuphepheka kubantu ongabaziyo xa unethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo ukuba woyiswe yimvakalelo esidlangalaleni.

Kodwa ukulila kunenezibonelelo ezininzi.

Iihormoni ezonwabileyo

Xa ukhala, umzimba wakho uyakhululwa. Ezi hormone zinokunceda ekuthomalaliseni iintlungu, zonyuse imood yakho, kwaye ziphucule impilo-ntle ngokubanzi.

Kwaye iinyembezi zinokukunceda utsala intuthuzelo kunye nenkxaso kwabanye abakungqongileyo, ukulila kunceda ukwandisa imeko yakho yonxibelelwano, enokuthi ikwenze uphucule imeko yakho kunye nokuba sempilweni ngokupheleleyo.

Ukulila lusizi kunye nomsindo kunokunceda ukukhulula ezi mvakalelo kwaye kunokwenza imeko yakho ibonakale imfiliba kancinci.

Kodwa xa ulila ngovuyo, i-oxytocin, i-endorphins, kunye nenkxaso yezentlalo inokuphakamisa amava kwaye ikwenze uzive ungcono (kwaye mhlawumbi ukhale ngakumbi).

Ukukhululwa ngokweemvakalelo

Kukwafanelekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba amaxesha amaninzi okonwaba awaveli nje ngokungacwangciswanga. Ukutshata, ukuzala, ukuphumelela kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo okanye kwikholeji, ukuqeshelwa umsebenzi wephupha lakho - ezi zinto zifezekileyo azizi lula. Ukufezekisa ezi zinto zibalulekileyo, mhlawumbi ubeke ixesha elininzi, umonde kunye nomzamo.

Nokuba wawuzalisekise kangakanani lo msebenzi, ubunokubangela uxinzelelo. Ukulila ke, kunokuba yeyona catharsis, okanye ukukhululwa, kolu xinzelelo lude.

Ingqondo yakho inokudideka nje kancinci

Enye into malunga nokukhala kokonwaba ichaza ukuba ezi nyembezi ziyenzeka kuba ingqondo yakho inengxaki yokwahlula phakathi kweemvakalelo ezinzulu.

Xa ufumana imvakalelo eyomeleleyo njengosizi, umsindo, okanye uvuyo, indawo kwingqondo yakho eyaziwa njenge-amygdala logs loo mvakalelo kwaye ithumele umqondiso kwi-hypothalamus, enye indawo yengqondo yakho.

Ihypothalamus inceda ukulawula iimvakalelo ngokusayina inkqubo yakho yeemvakalelo. Kodwa ayiyixeleli inkqubo yakho yeemvakalelo ukuba yeyiphi na imvakalelo ohlangabezana nayo, kuba ayazi. Yazi nje ukuba iimvakalelo zazigqithise kangangokuba unokuba nengxaki ekuyilawuleni.

Omnye wemisebenzi emininzi ebalulekileyo yenkqubo yakho yemithambo ibandakanya ukukunceda uphendule kuxinzelelo. Xa ujongene nesoyikiso, isebe elinovelwano lenkqubo yakho yeemvakalelo likulungiselela ukuba ulwe okanye ubaleke.

Emva kokuba isoyikiso sidambile, isebe leparasympathetic yenkqubo yakho yemithambo likunceda wehlise umoya.

Xa inkqubo yakho yemithambo-luvo ifumana loo mqondiso uvela kwi-hypothalamus esithi "Heyi, sothukile apha," iyazi ukuba kufuneka inyuke.

Enye indlela elula yokwenza oku? Veza iinyembezi, ezikunceda uvakalise iimvakalelo ezinzulu, zombini ezonwabileyo nezonwabisayo, kwaye zikuncede ukuba uphinde uchache kuzo.

Umgca wezantsi

Iinyembezi ziyimpendulo eqhelekileyo yomntu kwiimvakalelo ezinamandla. Ngelixa kunokwenzeka ukuba ukhale kakhulu ukuphendula usizi, iinyembezi zovuyo aziyonto ingaqhelekanga. Kubonakala ukuba, ziluncedo kakhulu.

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