Iinkonzo kunye neengozi zokuba nosana lwesithathu

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• Umngcipheko wokuba nomntwana wesithathu
• Umngcipheko wokuba nomntwana wesithathu
  
• Izinto ezilungileyo zokufumana umntwana wesithathu
• Iindlela zokufumana umntwana wesithathu
  
• Amanyathelo alandelayo
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Ukuba nabantwana abathathu phantse uziva ngathi ukolula kwezi ntsuku. Oomama abaninzi endibaziyo bandixelele ukuba baziva ngathi ukongeza umntwana wesithathu kwiintsapho zabo bakhuphe iimpendulo ezothusayo kubahlobo babo. Ukuba nomntwana wesithathu, uninzi lwabo lunexhala, linyathelo elinye nje kude lokujoyina usapho lakwaDuggar.

Kodwa xa uziva ukuba ubuhlungu ukuba ubambe omnye umntwana ezandleni zakho, awukwazi ukungahoyi. Ufanele ukuphonononga iimvakalelo zakho malunga nokuba nomntwana wesithathu. Ke ukuba ungowocingo malunga nokongeza ukongeza kwesithathu kusapho lwakho, nazi izinto ezintle kunye nezibi ekufuneka uziqwalasele ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isigqibo.

Umngcipheko wokuba nomntwana wesithathu

Ngaphambi kokuba singene ngaphakathi, mandiqale ngokuthi ndinabantwana abane. Ke, ewe, sele sisenzile isigqibo sokuba nomntwana wesithathu. Kodwa ndaziva ndomelele ukuba kufuneka sibenomntwana wesithathu. Kuthi, yayingengombuzo ngokwenene. Kodwa besisenokuninzi ekufuneka siqwalasele. Masijongane nayo, xa usongeza olo sana lwesithathu njengenxalenye yosapho lomzali ongu-duo, uya kuba mkhulu ngokusesikweni. Kwaye yinto enkulu leyo.

Umngcipheko wokuba nomntwana wesithathu

1. Abazali baninzi ngokusesikweni.
2. Ukuba uvela kusapho oluncinci, ukuba nabantwana abathathu kunokuba kungabonakala kuyinto eqhelekileyo kuwe.
3. Abantwana abathathu banokuba lelona nani lixinzelelekileyo ukuba libe nalo, uphando lubonisa.

1. Baninzi kakhulu kunawe. Olunye uloyiko lwam olukhulu lokongeza umntwana wesithathu kusapho lwethu, ngakumbi kuba abantwana bethu bokuqala bebengaphantsi kweminyaka emihlanu, yayikukuba ndiza kuba nabantwana abaninzi kunezandla. Kuvakala ngathi bubudenge, kodwa xa ungumama onabantwana abancinci, izinto ezincinci ezinje ngokubaleka kwivenkile yokutya ziba ngumzabalazo.

2. Abantwana abathathu basenokungaziva "beqhelekile" kuwe. Ukuba uvela kusapho oluncinci, ukuba nabantwana abathathu usenokuziva ungaqhelekanga okanye ungaqheleki kuwe. Abantwana abathathu bafumana uhlobo lwesiphithiphithi, ke hlolisisa amanqanaba akho okunyamezelana kuyo yonke imithwalo eza kuthi ngokuqinisekileyo ifike ngokongeza umntwana wesithathu.

3. Ukuba nabantwana abathathu lolona xinzelelo. Uphando oluthi “Today Show” luchaze ukuba ukuba nabantwana abathathu lelona nani lixinzelelekileyo kubazali. Ezi ziindaba ezimbi ukuba ucinga ukuyeka abantwana abathathu. Kodwa ziindaba ezimnandi ukuba ucwangcisa ukuba nabantwana ngakumbi. Ngokwesi sifundo, abantwana abaninzi ngandlela thile balingana noxinzelelo oluncinci. Oku ndikubiza ngokuba "kukuyeka".

Izinto ezilungileyo zokufumana umntwana wesithathu

Iindlela zokufumana umntwana wesithathu

1. Usazokwazi ukuphuma ngokulula njengentsapho yesihlanu.
2. Abantwana bakho baya kuba nabantwana abaninzi.
3. Ukuba nabantwana abathathu kunokuba lutshintsho olulula kunokuba ucinga.

1. Intsapho yabantu abahlanu isacinene. Umhlaba ubonakala wakhelwe iintsapho ezine. Iindawo zokuhlala iivenkile zokutyela, uninzi lwezithuthi, kwaye lonke olo khuphiswano lokunikezela ngeholide mahala kodwa ungaze uphumelele konke kwenzelwe abantu abane. Kodwa ndinokuxelela ngokusuka kumava akho ukuba ngomntwana wesithathu, usengowela kuluhlu "oluqhelekileyo" losapho. Unokulingana izihlalo ezintathu zeemoto kwiimoto ezininzi, ungafinya kwezo ndawo zokutyela, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ngekhe uliphumelele iholide, kunjalo.

Eyona nto: Ukuba uyintsapho ethanda ukuhamba, ukuba nomntwana wesithathu akuyi kukunciphisa.

2. Abantakwenu abaninzi bathetha ukhetho oluninzi lwabantwana bakho. "Ndifuna abathathu endaweni yesibini," ucacisa uKelly Burch, umama womnye. "Ndingomnye wabane, kwaye ndibuxabisa kakhulu ubudlelwane obukhethekileyo abathathu endinabo nomntakwethu."

3. Abantwana abathathu lolona tshintsho lulula oya kulwenza. Andizukuthembisa apha. Kodwa ndifuna ukuba lilizwi lokuqiqa kulwandle lwabantu abaza kukuxwayisa ukuba ukuba nomntwana wesithathu kuya kuba sesona siqobo siqobayo oya kujongana naso.Ngokunyaniseka, umntwana wethu wesithathu yayiyeyona nto ilula kum njengomama.
Ukuhamba ukusuka ku-zero ukuya komnye yayikukutshintsha kobomi, ukusuka kwenye ukuya kwezimbini ndaziva ngathi akunakwenzeka, kwaye ezine zandishukumisa ngendlela endisachacha ngayo (kodwa ndinombulelo ongazenzisiyo). Kodwa olo sana lwesithathu lwaluziva ngathi lubethwa ngumoya. Ungene kanye ngoku kwaye sahamba nokuhamba. Ndiziva ngathi xa ufika kumntwana wesithathu, uziva uzithembile ngakumbi kumandla akho kunye nokusikelwa umda njengomzali. Ngokwenene yenza kube lula ukulungelelanisa nobomi nosana olusandul 'ukuzalwa kwakhona.

Amanyathelo alandelayo

Akukho zintlu zilungileyo kunye nezintlu onokuzenza ukuze ufumane impendulo eqinisekileyo yokuba nomntwana wesithathu. Ekupheleni kosuku, kuya kufuneka uqokelele uluhlu lwakho kwaye uthethe nabanye oomama abathathe isigqibo esifanayo. Khumbula ukukuthathela ingqalelo ukuba unethamsanqa ukuba uyakwazi ukwenza ukhetho lokuba bangaphi abantwana abaza kuba nabo. Yiya nantoni na intliziyo yakho ekuxelela ukuba uyenze. Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, usapho lwakho luya kuba lolwakho. Yeyona "pro" inkulu endinokucinga ngayo.

Q:

Kufuneka wenze ntoni ukulungiselela ukuba ucinga ngokuba nomntwana wesithathu?

Isigulana esingaziwayo

A:

Ukuba ucinga ukukhulelwa, yenza idinga kunye nogqirha wakho okanye umbelekisi ukuba nixoxe ngempilo yakho yokukhulelwa kwangaphambili. Ukuthetha ngempilo yakho, amayeza, ukutya, kunye nayo nayiphi na imingcipheko enokukunceda ekuqinisekiseni impilo engcono kakhulu kwiinyanga zokuqala zokuqala zokukhula komntwana ekukhulelweni. Khumbula, ukuba ungumfazi oneminyaka yobudala bokuzala, kufuneka ii-micrograms ezingama-400 ze-folic acid yonke imihla ngaphambi kokuba ukhulelwe, ukunceda ukukhusela iziphene ze-neural tube.

UKimberly Dishman, iimpendulo ze-WHNP zimele uluvo lweengcali zethu zonyango. Yonke imixholo inolwazi ngokungqongqo kwaye akufuneki ukuba ithathelwe ingqalelo njengengcebiso yezonyango.