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Umxholo

• I-reel engapheliyo
• Umama uxelela ngokwenene amabali kwimidiya yoluntu
• Iingcebiso ngokugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nemithombo yeendaba
• Yise kude

Amaqela akwi-Intanethi kunye neeakhawunti zinokunika inkxaso eluncedo, kodwa zinokudala ulindelo olungenangqondo malunga nokuba ukukhulelwa okanye ukuba ngumzali kunjani.

Umzekeliso ngu-Alyssa Kiefer

Ah, Imidiya yokuncokola. Sonke siyayisebenzisa- okanye ubuninzi bethu siyayisebenzisa.

Ukutya kwethu kugcwele izithuba zabahlobo bethu, iimemes, iividiyo, iindaba, iintengiso, kunye nabashukumisayo. Yonke i-algorithm yemidiya yoluntu izama ukusebenza ngomlingo wayo ukusibonisa ukuba bacinga ukuba sifuna ntoni. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bayifumana ngokuchanekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha, nangona kunjalo, abenzi njalo.

I-reel engapheliyo

Kubazali abalindeleyo, imithombo yeendaba zentlalo inokuba likrele elintlangothi-mbini. Kungangumthombo omangalisayo wokujoyina amaqela obuzali okanye ukulandela iiakhawunti ngolwazi olunxulumene nokukhulelwa, kodwa kunokudala ulindelo olungenangqondo malunga nokuba ukukhulelwa okanye ukuba ngumzali kunjani.

"Ndicinga ukuba inetyhefu enkulu" utshilo uMolly Miller, * ngumama oza kuba ngumama. "Ndicinga ukuba xa uhlala kwimidiya yoluntu ngalo lonke ixesha uziva phithi zizinto ezenziwa ngabantu kwaye uthelekisa nawe kwaye kuninzi."

Sonke siyayiva le nto. Sive intetho ethi amajelo eendaba ezentlalo yinto nje ebalaseleyo, ebonisa kuphela amaxesha ayilwe ngokugqibeleleyo abantu abafuna ukuba siwabone. Ayibonisi umfanekiso opheleleyo wobomi - onokusinika umbono ojijekileyo wokuba bunjani ubomi babanye abantu.

Xa kufikwa kumba wokukhulelwa nokuba ngumzali, imithombo yeendaba zentlalo inokongeza olunye uluhlu loxinzelelo njengoko abazali bezama ukukhangela indlela abanokuzikhathalela ngayo bona kunye nabantwana babo. Ukubona imifanekiso engapheliyo yemifanekiso egqibeleleyo yabazali abatsha kunye neentsana zabo kunokwenza ukuba kube ngathi kukho into ethile ongayifikeleliyo, xa kungenjalo ngenene.

"Andiqondi ukuba iyinyani. Amaxesha amaninzi ngabantu abadumileyo abathumela malunga nokukhulelwa kwabo. Andinaye umqeqeshi buqu, andinampheki ekhaya ondenzela konke oku kutya kunesondlo, utshilo uMiller.

Ezi ngcamango zingenakwenzeka ziye zafundwa ngabaphandi baseUnited Kingdom.UJoanne Mayoh, i-PhD, umhlohli ophakamileyo kwimidlalo yomzimba kunye nempilo kwiYunivesithi yaseBournemouth, kutshanje upapashe uphando lokuntywila ngendlela amajelo eendaba ezentlalo anxibelelana ngayo nolindelo olungenakwenzeka kubantu ababhinqileyo abakhulelweyo.

“I-Instagram ivelisa imifanekiso ethandanayo, ngakumbi imizimba. ... Luhlobo olunye lomzimba, ngumfazi omhlophe obhityileyo elwandle owenza i-yoga, esela i-smoothie, utshilo uMayoh.

Kuphando lwakhe, uMayoh wafumanisa ukuba uninzi lwezithuba zizama ukubonisa indlela
"Ukukhulelwa okugqibeleleyo" ngokubonisa iimveliso zobunewunewu kunye neefoto ezihluziweyo zesisu sabo abakhulelweyo. Uphando lwakhe luqaphele ukuba izithuba zihlala zingenantlukwano, zishiya amazwi abantu bebala kunye namalungu oluntu lwe-LGBTQIA +.

Ukulindela oomama abanjengoMiller, ezi ziphumo azothusi zonke. Kulula kakhulu ukufumana le mixholo kwisondlo sakho, esinokubangela uxinzelelo olukhulu kubazali abatsha.

"Ndiva ngathi amaxesha amaninzi kwi-Instagram abantu baya kubaphatha abantwana babo njengesixhobo kunokuba babambe umntu wokwenyani ekufuneka ebakhathalele," utshilo uMiller.

Umama uxelela ngokwenene amabali kwimidiya yoluntu

Ngelixa wayeqhuba uphando, uMayoh wafumanisa intshukumo yabasetyhini abazama ukutshintsha ingxelo yemidiya yoluntu ejikeleze ukukhulelwa.

“Kwakuphantse kwafana nokubuya ngasemva - abasetyhini basebenzisa i-Instagram njengendawo yokuphinda basebenze baphinde bavelise ezona ngcinga zibalaseleyo ezibonisa imifanekiso ecacileyo necacileyo yokukhulelwa nokubeleka. [Bendifuna] ukulucelomngeni uluvo lokuba [ukukhulelwa] kuyinto ecwebezelayo, ekhazimlayo, namava afanelekileyo, ”utsho uMayoh.

Ewe sonke sonwabile ukuva malunga nabantu ababhinqileyo abomeleleyo abeza kunye ukwenza imeko yesiqhelo ngokwenene ixesha lokukhulelwa- kodwa abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuba abantu basetyhini bathumela la maxesha aluhlaza ukukhulisa iiprofayili zabo zentlalo kunye nokufumana ukuthandwa kwi-Intanethi.

"Ngaba bathumela ngenene ukunceda abanye abantu okanye bathumela ukuthanda kunye nodumo?" ubuza uMiller.

Ewe, ngokukaMayoh, nokuba ngabafazi are ukuthumela ukuthandwa nodumo, ayisiyonto inkulu kangako. “Ayinamsebenzi kuba kwabelwana ngayo. Kufuneka sithethe ngoxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka, kwaye kufuneka sithethe malunga nokuphuma kwesisu, kwaye kufuneka sithethe ngokuzalwa okwenzakalisayo, kwaye nantoni na ekhuthaza abantu ababhinqileyo ukuba bathethe ngayo iyinto elungileyo kwaye iyenza ibe yinto yesiqhelo, ”utshilo.

Iingcebiso ngokugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nemithombo yeendaba

Nangona kunokuba lula ukutsho kunokuba kwenziwe, uMayoh uthi iqhinga lokusebenzisa imidiya yoluntu ngendlela esempilweni kukuqinisekisa ukuba ulungisa ukutya kwakho kubandakanya umxholo okwenza uzive ulungile malunga nokukhulelwa kwakho.

Nazi ezinye iingcebiso, ngokuyinxalenye ezivela kwi-National Alliance kwiNgqondo yeNgqondo, yokuphelisa ukutya kwakho kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nemidiya yoluntu:

• Thatha inyathelo ubuye umva kwaye ujonge iiakhawunti ozilandelayo kunye nendlela ezikwenza uzive ngayo.
• Kunqande ukuzalisa ukutya kwakho ngokukhulelwa “ngokugqibeleleyo” kunye nezithuba zomzali.
• Zama ukufaka iiakhawunti ezibonisa ukuba yintoni ukukhulelwa nokuba ngumzali ngokwenene njenge. (Inqaku: Sithanda @hlparenthood).
• Zive unamandla okungalandeli okanye ukuthulisa iiakhawunti ezingasebenzi kuwe ngoku.
• Cinga ukunciphisa ixesha lakho olichithe kumaqonga eendaba ezentlalo okanye uthathe ikhefu kubo ngokupheleleyo.

Yise kude

Imidiya yokuncokola idume ngokusenza sizithelekise nabanye. Kubazali abatsha nabalindelekileyo, oku kunokuba ngumthombo woxinzelelo olungeyomfuneko ngexesha esele linoxinzelelo.

Ukuba uqala ukuziva ngathi imidiya yoluntu iphazamisa ukuzithemba kwakho okanye ukonwaba ngokubanzi, inokuba licebo elihle ukuthatha inyathelo ubuye umva kwaye wenze utshintsho kwindlela yokutya okanye kwimikhwa yakho.

Isenokuba nzima ekuqaleni, kodwa ukwenza utshintsho olufanelekileyo kunokukunceda ufumane isiqabu kwaye uqalise ukwakha ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nemithombo yeendaba kwaye-okona kubaluleke kakhulu-ngokwakho.

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