Ungaba kanjani nguMntu: Ukuthetha nabantu abaLutha okanye abaSebenzisa iziyobisi

Umxholo

• Ukutshintsha umbono wethu kuthi uye kubo
• Ayizizo zonke izinto ezinokubakho, kwaye ayizizo zonke iindlela zokuziphatha 'ezifanayo'
• Okokuqala, masiqinisekise ukuba umlutha yingxaki yonyango
• Into oyibiza ngokuba likhoboka lomntu inokuzisa ucalucalulo olungenabulungisa
• Ungaze usebenzise iilebheli
  
• 'Umntu ngumntu ngumntu:' Iilebheli ayisiyo fowuni yakho yokwenza
• Ubuhlanga kunye nokulutha kudlala njani kulwimi
• Utshintsho aluyi kuza ngobusuku - sonke singumsebenzi oqhubekayo
• Ulwimi yinto evumela ukuba uvelwano luphumelele

Ukutshintsha umbono wethu kuthi uye kubo

Xa kuziwa kumlutha, ukusebenzisa abantu-ulwimi lokuqala akusoloko kunqamleza ingqondo yomntu wonke. Ngapha koko, khange iwele eyam kude kube kutshanje. Kwiminyaka eliqela eyadlulayo, abahlobo abaninzi abasenyongweni babenengxaki yokulutha kunye nokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi. Abanye kwiqela lethu lomhlobo bangaphezulu kwaye basweleka.

Ngaphambi kokuba ndisebenze eHealthline, ndandisebenza njengomntu oncedisayo kumfazi okhubazekileyo kuyo yonke ikholeji. Undifundise okuninzi kwaye wandikhupha ekungazini kwam - undifundisa ukuba amagama angakanani, nokuba kubonakala ngathi amancinci kangakanani, anokuchaphazela umntu.

Kodwa ngandlela thile, naxa abahlobo bam babehamba ngeziyobisi, uvelwano aluzange luze ngokulula. Xa ndijonga ngasemva, bendifuna, ndizicingela, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ndithetha njalo. Yile ndlela incoko yesiqhelo ebonakala ngayo:

“Uyadubula? Wenza malini? Kutheni ungazibuyisi iifowuni zam? Ndifuna ukukunceda! ”

“Andikholelwa ukuba baphinde basebenzise. Yiyo leyo. Ndigqibile."

"Kutheni befanele ukuba yingqushu nje?"

Ngelo xesha, kwakunzima ukuhlukanisa iimvakalelo zam kwimeko. Ndandisoyika kwaye ndangxola. Ngombulelo, kuninzi okutshintshileyo ukusukela ngoko. Abahlobo bam bayeka ukusebenzisa kakubi izinto kwaye bafumana inkxaso abayifunayo. Akukho magama anokuhambisa indlela endizingca ngayo ngabo.

Kodwa bendingakhange ndicinge nyani ngolwimi lwam - kunye nabanye ’- ukujikeleza umlutha kude kube ngoku. (Kwaye mhlawumbi ukuphuma kuma-20s akho okuqala kuyanceda, nako. Ukwaluphala kuzisa ubulumko, akunjalo?) Ndiyazigxeka kwizenzo zam, ndiqonda ukuba bendiphazama ngempazamo yam yokufuna ukunceda.

Uninzi lwabantu lubeka iincoko ekucingelwe ukuba zilungile, nazo. Umzekelo, xa sisithi, "Uyenzela ntoni le nto?" Sithetha inyani, “Kutheni usenza le nto kum?”

Le thoni ityhola ibeka amabala ekusebenziseni kwabo-ukuyidemon ngenxa yeengcinga ezizezinye, kuthoba utshintsho lwangempela lwengqondo olwenza kube nzima kubo ukuyeka. Uxinzelelo olukhulu esilubeka kubo ukuze babe ngcono yeyethu eneneni iyenza buthathaka inkqubo yokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo.

Mhlawumbi unaye umntu omthandayo owayenengxaki yokujongana notywala okanye okwangoku. Ndikholelwe, ndiyazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani: ukungalali ebusuku, ukudideka, uloyiko. Kulungile ukuziva ezo zinto- kodwa Akulungile ukuba uzenze ngaphandle kokuthatha inyathelo umva kwaye ucinge ngamagama akho. Olu tshintsho lweelwimi lusenokubonakala lunzima ekuqaleni, kodwa lukhulu kakhulu.

Ayizizo zonke izinto ezinokubakho, kwaye ayizizo zonke iindlela zokuziphatha 'ezifanayo'

Kubalulekile ukuba ungadideki la magama mabini ukuze siqonde ngokupheleleyo kwaye sithethe ngokucacileyo kubantu abanamakhoboka.

Abantu abaninzi banokuxhomekeka kwichiza kwaye bangayiqondi. Kwaye ayisiyo kuphela iziyobisi ezisesitratweni ezinokubangela ukuxhomekeka kunye neziyobisi. Abantu ababeke amayeza eentlungu banokuxhomekeka kwiimeds, nokuba bayazithatha ngokuchanekileyo njengoko baxelelwe ngugqirha wabo.Kwaye kunokwenzeka ngokupheleleyo oku ekugqibeleni kukhokelele ekubeni likhoboka.

Okokuqala, masiqinisekise ukuba umlutha yingxaki yonyango

Ukuba likhoboka yingxaki yonyango, utshilo uGqirha S. Alex Stalcup, umlawuli wezonyango kwiZiko elitsha leNyango lamagqabi eLafayette, eCalifornia.

“Zonke izigulana zethu zifumana ikiti yokudlula ngaphezulu ngosuku lwazo lokuqala. Abantu babecinga ukuba kuyothusa ekuqaleni, kodwa sinika i-Epi-Pens kubantu abanesifo se-aleji kunye nezixhobo zabantu abane-hypoglycemic. Esi sixhobo sonyango sesi sifo, ”utshilo. Ikwayenye indlela yokuchaza ngokucacileyo oku ngu isifo. ”

Ukusukela oko iNew Leaf iqale ukubonelela ngeekiti zokusebenzisa ixesha elininzi, ukufa kuye kwathintelwa, utshilo uGqirha Stalcup. Ucacisa ukuba abantu abaphethe ezi khithi ngenene bajongana nemingcipheko emikhulu de babe bhetele.

Into oyibiza ngokuba likhoboka lomntu inokuzisa ucalucalulo olungenabulungisa

Iilebheli ezithile zihlawuliswa ngokuchazwa okungalunganga. Banciphisa umntu kwiqokobhe lomntu wabo wangaphambili. U-Junkie, i-tweaker, ikhoboka leziyobisi, i-crackhead-usebenzisa la magama acime umntu onembali kunye nethemba, eshiya ngasemva i-caricature yesiyobisi kunye nalo lonke ucalucalulo oluza nayo.

La magama akenzi nto ukuxhasa abantu abafuna uncedo lokubaleka kumlutha. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ibathintela kuphela ekufumaneni. Kutheni le nto bafuna ukwenza imeko yabo yaziwe, ngelixa uluntu lubagweba ngokuqatha? Inzululwazi iyaluxhasa olu hlolisiso kuphando olwenziwa ngo-2010 olwaluchaza isigulana esinengcinga “njengomntu osebenzisa iziyobisi” okanye “umntu onengxaki yokusebenzisa iziyobisi” kwiingcali zonyango.

Abaphandi bafumanise ukuba noochwephesha kwezonyango kunokwenzeka ukuba bambeke ityala umntu ngemeko yakhe. Bade bancomela “iindlela zokubohlwaya” xa kusithiwa “ungumxhaphazi.” Kodwa isigulana esicinga ukuba sinengxaki yokusebenzisa iziyobisi? Abakhange bafumane ngqwabalala kwisigwebo kwaye bazokuziva bencinci "ukohlwaywa" ngezenzo zabo.

Ungaze usebenzise iilebheli

• junkies okanye iziyobisi
• iitweakers kunye neentloko eziqhekezayo
• amanxila okanye amanxila
• “Abaxhaphazi”

'Umntu ngumntu ngumntu:' Iilebheli ayisiyo fowuni yakho yokwenza

Kodwa kuthekani xa abantu bezibiza njenge-junkie? Okanye njengotywala, njengaxa uzazisa kwiintlanganiso zeAA?

Kanye njengaxa uthetha nabantu abakhubazekileyo okanye iimeko zempilo, ayisiyofowuni yethu yokwenza.

“Ndikhe ndabizwa ngokuba ndiyinqwenela izihlandlo eziliwaka. Ndingazibhekisa ngokwam njenge-junkie, kodwa akukho mntu uvunyelweyo. Ndivunyelwe, utshilo uTori, umbhali kunye nowayesebenzisa i-heroin.

UTori uqhuba athi: "Abantu bayiphosa ... yenza ukuba ubengathi s * * *. Uthi: "Kukuzazi kwakho," utshilo. "Kukho amagama phaya akhathaza abantu-ukutyeba, ukubi, i-junkie."

U-Amy, umphathi wezinto zokusebenza kunye nomsebenzisi wangaphambili we-heroin, kwafuneka alinganise uxanduva olunzima phakathi kwenkcubeko yakhe yokuqala kunye nabazali bakhe. Kwakunzima, kwaye kusenjalo nanamhlanje, ukuba abazali bakhe baqonde.

“KwisiTshayina, akukho magama athi‘ iziyobisi. ’Ligama nje elinetyhefu. Ke, kuthetha ukuba uzityhefu. Xa unolwimi olu rhabaxa, lwenza into ibonakale inzima, ”utshilo.

U-Amy uqhubeka athi: "Ubenza bazive ngendlela ethile."

"Ulwimi luchaza umxholo," utshilo uGqirha Stalcup. “Kukho ibala elikhulu eliqhotyoshelwe kuyo. Akufani xa ucinga ngezinye iimeko, njengomhlaza okanye isifo seswekile, ”utshilo. “Vala amehlo uzibize ngokuba ulikhoboka leziyobisi. Uyakufumana uthotho lweemifanekiso ezibonakalayo ongenakuzibetha ngoyaba, utshilo.

“Ndiziva ndinamandla ngale nto… Umntu ngumntu ngumntu,” utshilo uGqirha Stalcup.

Sukuyithetha le nto: "Uyingxubevange."

Yitsho le endaweni: "Unengxaki yokusebenzisa iziyobisi."

Ubuhlanga kunye nokulutha kudlala njani kulwimi

UArthur *, owayesakuba ngumsebenzisi we-heroin, naye wabelana ngeengcinga zakhe ngolwimi olujikeleze umlutha. "Ndiyayihlonipha ngakumbi i-dope fiends," utsho, echaza ukuba yindlela enzima ukuhamba kwaye uqonde ukuba awuzange ugqithe kuyo ngokwakho.

Ukwabhekisa kubuhlanga kulwimi lokulutha, nako-ukuba abantu bebala bapeyintiwe njengamakhoboka eziyobisi "ezingcolileyo" ezitalatweni, xa kuthelekiswa nabantu abamhlophe abaxhomekeke kumachiza “acocekileyo” amayeza. "Abantu bathi," Andilikhoboka, ndixhomekeke kwisizathu sokuba ugqirha amisele, "utshilo uArthur.

Mhlawumbi ayisiyongxaki yokuba kukho ulwazi olukhulayo kunye novelwano ngoku, njengoko uninzi lwabantu abamhlophe bekhulisa ukuxhomekeka kunye neziyobisi.

Uvelwano kufuneka lunikwe wonke umntu - nokuba ngowaluphi na uhlanga, isini, umvuzo, okanye inkolelo.

Kufuneka sijolise ekususeni amagama "acocekileyo" kunye "nongcolileyo" xa zizonke. La magama agcina izimvo zokuziphatha ezijongela phantsi zokuba abantu abanamakhoboka babekade bengakulungelanga oko - kodwa ngoku babuyile kwaye "bacocekile," bayamkeleka. Abantu abanamakhoboka "awangcolisi" ukuba basasebenzisa okanye ukuba uvavanyo lweziyobisi lubuya lulungile ekusebenziseni. Abantu akufuneki bachaze ukuba "bahlambulukile" ukuba bathathwe njengabantu.

Sukuyithetha le nto: “Ucocekile?”

Yitsho le endaweni: "Unjani?"

Njengokusetyenziswa kwegama elithi "junkie," abanye abantu abanengxaki yokusebenzisa banokusebenzisa igama elithi "ukucoceka" ukuchaza ukuba sempilweni kunye nokuchacha kwabo. Kwakhona, ayixhomekekanga kuthi ukuyibhala kunye namava abo.

Utshintsho aluyi kuza ngobusuku - sonke singumsebenzi oqhubekayo

"Inyani yile kwaye iya kuhlala iyinto yokuba abantu bafuna ukuyitshayela le nto phantsi kombhoxo," utshilo uJoe, ongumgcini mhlaba kunye nowayekade esebenzisa iheroin. Uthi: "Akunjengokuza kutshintsha ngobusuku, ngeveki, okanye ngenyanga," utsho.

Kodwa uJoe ucacisa indlela abantu abakhawuleza ngayo unako utshintsho, njengentsapho yakhe yakuba nje iqale unyango.

Kungabonakala ngathi emva kokuba umntu oyisile ingxaki yokusebenzisa iziyobisi, yonke into izakulunga ukuya phambili. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, basempilweni ngoku. Yintoni enye umntu anokuyifunela umntu omthandayo? Kodwa umsebenzi awuyeki kumsebenzisi wangaphambili.

Njengoko besitsho kwezinye izangqa, ukuchacha kuthatha ubomi. Abathandekayo kufuneka baqonde ukuba le yimeko yabantu abaninzi. Abathandekayo kufuneka bazi ukuba bona ngokwabo kufuneka baqhubeke nokusebenza ukugcina ukuqonda okunobubele, nabo.

UTori uyacacisa: "Imiphumo yokuba likhoboka leziyobisi ngamanye amaxesha yeyona nto inzima." "Ukunyaniseka, abazali bam abakaqondi… [Ulwimi lwabo] lwalululwimi nje, ulwimi lwezonyango, okanye ukuba 'ndinesifo,' kodwa kum, kwakudinisa, utshilo.

UGqr Stalcup uyavuma ukuba iintsapho ezisetyenziswa kwiilwimi zibaluleke kakhulu. Ngelixa kumnandi ukubonisa umdla ekuphulukeni komntu omthandayo, uyayigxininisa loo nto Njani uyakwenza oko kubalulekile. Ukubuza ngenkqubela phambili yabo akufani nokuba umntu omthandayo unesifo seswekile, umzekelo.

Ngokulutha, kubalulekile ukuhlonipha umntu kunye nemfihlo yakhe. Enye indlela uGqirha Stalcup angena ngayo kwizigulana zakhe ukubabuza, "Unjani isithukuthezi sakho? Injani inqanaba lenzala yakho? " Ucacisa ukuba isithukuthezi yinto enkulu ekubuyiseni. Ukungena ngemibuzo ethile elungiselelwe iimfuno zomhlobo wakho kuya kubonisa ukuba uyaqonda ngelixa usenza ukuba umntu azive ekhululekile kwaye ekhathalelwe.

Sukuyithetha le nto: “Ngaba unayo iminqweno mva nje?”

Yitsho le endaweni: “Ubuye ngantoni, nantoni na entsha? Ufuna ukuya enyuka kule mpelaveki? ”

Ulwimi yinto evumela ukuba uvelwano luphumelele

Ukuqala kwam ukusebenza eHealthline, omnye umhlobo waqalisa uhambo lokubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo. Usekonyango, kwaye andinakulinda ukumbona kunyaka omtsha. Emva kokuthetha naye kunye nokuya kwintlanganiso yeqela kwiziko lakhe lonyango, ngoku ndiyazi ukuba bendijongana neziyobisi ngendlela engalunganga kwaphela iminyaka.

Ngoku ndiyazi ukuba mna, kunye nabanye abantu, sinokwenza ngcono kwabo babathandayo.

Gcina imbeko, imfesane kunye nomonde. Phakathi kwabantu endiye ndathetha nabo malunga neziyobisi zabo, eyona nto inkulu yokuthabatha yayikwangamandla alo mvakalelo. Ndingayenza ingxoxo yokuba olu lwimi lunovelwano lubalulekile njengonyango ngokwalo.

“Baphathe ngendlela ongathanda ukuphathwa ngayo. Ukutshintsha ulwimi kuvula iingcango ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha, utshilo uGqirha Stalcup. "Ukuba singalutshintsha ulwimi, yenye yezinto ezibalulekileyo ukukhokelela ekwamkelweni."

Nokuba uthetha nabani-nokuba ngabantu abaneemeko zempilo, abantu abakhubazekileyo, abantu abadlulayo okanye abantu abangabiyiyo-abantu abanamakhoboka bafanelwe sisidima nentlonipho efanayo.

Ulwimi yinto evumela ukuba oluvelwano luphumelele. Masisebenze ngokwaphula le mixokelelwane icinezelekileyo kwaye sibone ukuba umhlaba onenceba ukugcinele ntoni - konke wethu. Ukwenza oku akuyi kusinceda kuphela ukumelana, kodwa kunceda abo sibathandayo bafumane uncedo abaludingayo.

Ukuziphatha komntu onesifo esisebenzayo sokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi kunokukwenza hayi ndifuna ukuba nemfesane. Kodwa ngaphandle kwemfesane kunye novelwano, konke esishiyekileyo kuya kuba lilizwe leentlungu.

Igama litshintshiwe ngesicelo sodliwanondlebe ukuze kugcinwe igama lingachazwanga.

Umbulelo okhethekileyo kakhulu kubahlobo bam ngokundinika isikhokelo kunye nexesha labo lokuphendula imibuzo enzima. Thanda nonke. Enkosi kakhulu enkosi kuGqirha Stalcup ngokunyaniseka nokuzinikela kwakhe. -Sara Giusti, ikopi yomhleli eHealthline.

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