Iingcebiso ezili-10 zokujongana noBuntu beNarcissistic

Umxholo

• 1. Zibone ukuba ziphi kanye kanye
• 2. Yaphula umlingo uze uyeke ukugxila kubo
• 3. Thetha ngokwakho
• 4. Beka imida ecacileyo
• 5. Balindele ukuba batyhalele emva
• 6. Khumbula ukuba awunaphutha
• 7. Fumana isistim yenkxaso
• 8. Zinyanzelisa ngokukhawuleza, hayi izithembiso
• 9. Qonda ukuba umntu othanda ukudlala angadinga uncedo lobungcali
• 10. Ziqonde xa ufuna uncedo
• Uhamba nini

Sivame ukusebenzisa igama elithi narcissist ukuchaza umntu ozicingela yedwa kwaye omfutshane kuvelwano. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba isifo sobuntu esingathandekiyo (NPD) sisimo esisemthethweni sempilo yengqondo esifuna ukuxilongwa yingcali yezempilo yengqondo.

Okwangoku, abantu banokubonisa iimpawu ezithile ze-narcissistic ngaphandle kokuba ne-NPD. Oku kunokubandakanya:

• ukuba nomoya wokuzithemba
• efuna ukunconywa rhoqo
• ukuxhaphaza abanye
• ukungaziqondi okanye ukungakhathali ngeemfuno zabanye

Ukwenza izinto zibe nzima ngakumbi, abantu abane-NPD okanye utyekelo lwe-narcissistic bahlala benovakalelo kugxekwa, ngaphandle kokuzithemba okuphezulu.

Nazi ezinye zeendlela zokujongana nomntu one-NPD okanye utyekelo lwe-narcissistic- kunye neengcebiso zokuqonda ukuba lixesha lokuba uqhubeke.

1. Zibone ukuba ziphi kanye kanye

Xa befuna njalo, abo banobuntu obukrelekrele balungile xa bevula umtsalane. Unokuzifumana utsaleleka kwizimvo kunye nezithembiso zabo. Oku kunokubenza ukuba bathandwe ngakumbi kuseto lomsebenzi.

Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba utsalwe, jonga indlela abaphatha ngayo abantu xa bengekho "eqongeni." Ukuba ubafumana bexoka, bekhohlisa, okanye bengabahloniphi abanye, akukho sizathu sokukholelwa ukuba abayi kwenza okufanayo nakuwe.

Ngaphandle kwento anokuyithetha umntu onobuntu obunomdla, iimfuno zakho kunye neemfuno zakho azibalulekanga kubo. Kwaye ukuba uzama ukuzisa lo mbandela, unokuhlangabezana nenkcaso.

Inyathelo lokuqala lokujongana nomntu onobuntu obuthandayo ukwamkela nje ukuba bangoobani aba - akukho nto ingako onokuyenza ukutshintsha loo nto.

2. Yaphula umlingo uze uyeke ukugxila kubo

Xa kukho ubuntu be-narcissistic kwi-orbit yakho, ingqalelo ibonakala iyithambise indlela yabo. Oko kuyilo-nokuba kukujonga okungalunganga okanye okuqinisekileyo, abo banobuntu obukrelekrele basebenza nzima ukuzigcina ekukhanyeni.

Ngokukhawuleza unokuzifumanisa uthenga ngeli qhinga, uzityhalele ecaleni iimfuno zakho ukuze uzigcine wanelisekile.

Ukuba ulinde ikhefu kwindlela abaziphethe ngayo, inokungaze ifike. Nokuba ungabutshintsha kangakanani na ubomi bakho ukuba buhambelane neemfuno zabo, ngekhe kulunge.

Ukuba kufuneka ujongane nobuntu obuthandayo, sukubavumela ukuba bangene ngaphakathi kwakho okanye bachaze ilizwe lakho. Nawe ubalulekile. Rhoqo khumbuza amandla akho, iminqweno kunye neenjongo zakho.

Thatha uxanduva kwaye wenze ixesha "elithile" Khathalela wena kuqala kwaye ukhumbule ukuba ayingomsebenzi wakho ukuzilungisa.

3. Thetha ngokwakho

Kukho amaxesha apho ukungahoyi into okanye ukuhamba nje impendulo efanelekileyo-khetha iimfazwe zakho, akunjalo?

Kodwa okuninzi kuxhomekeke kubudlelwane. Umzekelo, ukujongana nomphathi, umzali, okanye iqabane kunokubiza iindlela ngeendlela kunokujongana nomntu osebenza naye, umntakwabo, okanye umntwana.

Abanye abantu abanobuntu obundlongondlongo bayakonwabela ukwenza abanye bahluthe. Ukuba kunjalo, zama ukungabonakali ngokukhawuleza okanye ubonise ukukhathazeka, njengoko oko kuya kubabongoza ukuba baqhubeke.

Ukuba ngumntu ongathanda ukumsondeza ebomini bakho, ke unetyala lokuba uthethe. Zama ukwenza oku ngokuzola, ngobulali.

Kuya kufuneka ubaxelele ukuba amazwi kunye nokuziphatha kwabo kubuchaphazela njani ubomi bakho. Cacisa kwaye ungaguquguquki malunga nento engamkelekanga kunye nendlela olindele ukuba uphathwe ngayo. Kodwa zilungiselele inyani yokuba banokungaqondi nje-okanye bangakhathali.

4. Beka imida ecacileyo

Umntu onobuntu obunomdla ngokufuthi uhlala ezithanda.

Banokucinga ukuba banelungelo lokuya apho bafuna ukuya khona, baphonononge izinto zakho zobuqu, okanye bakuxelele indlela oziva ngayo. Mhlawumbi bakunika iingcebiso ezingacelwanga kwaye bathabathe ikhredithi kwizinto ozenzileyo. Okanye ukukunyanzela ukuba uthethe ngezinto zangasese kwindawo kawonke-wonke.

Banokungabinangqondo yendawo yakho, ke bathambekele ekuweleni kwimida emininzi. Ngamaxesha amaninzi, abayiboni. Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka ucace gca malunga nemida ebalulekileyo kuwe.

Kutheni le nto iziphumo zibalulekile kubo? Kungenxa yokuba umntu onobuntu bokuziphatha kakubi uqala ukuhlawula xa izinto ziqala ukubachaphazela.

Qiniseka nje ukuba ayisosisongelo sokungasebenzi. Thetha ngeziphumo kuphela xa ulungele ukuzenza njengoko kuchaziwe. Ngaphandle koko, abayi kukholelwa kwixesha elizayo.

umzekelo

Yithi unomntu osebenza naye othanda ukumisa ilori yabo enkulu ngendlela eyenza ukuba kubenzima kuwe ukubuyela umva. Qala ngokubabuza ngokuqinileyo ukuba baqiniseke ukuba bakushiyele indawo eyaneleyo. Emva koko, chaza iziphumo zokungahloneli iminqweno yakho.

Umzekelo, ukuba awukwazi ukubuya umva ngokukhuselekileyo, uya kuyirhuqa imoto yabo. Isitshixo kukulandela kwaye ubize inkampani erhuqa kwixesha elizayo xa isenzeka.

5. Balindele ukuba batyhalele emva

Ukuba umi emntwini onobuntu bokuziphatha kakubi, unokulindela ukuba baphendule.

Nje ukuba uthethe kwaye usete imida, banokubuya nezinto zabo ezizezabo. Basenokuzama ukukuqhatha ukuba uzive unetyala okanye bakholelwe ukuba nguwe ongenangqiqo nolawulayo. Banokudlala umdlalo wovelwano.

Zilungiselele ukuma emhlabeni. Ukuba uthatha inyathelo eliya umva, ngekhe bakuthathe nzulu kwixesha elizayo.

6. Khumbula ukuba awunaphutha

Umntu onesifo sobuntu narcissistic akunakwenzeka ukuba avume impazamo okanye athathe uxanduva lokukulimaza. Endaweni yoko, bathambekele ekuboniseni iindlela zabo zokuziphatha ezimbi kuwe okanye komnye umntu.

Unokulingwa ukuba ugcine uxolo ngokwamkela ityala, kodwa akufuneki uzithobe ukuze usindise ukuzithemba kwabo.

Uyayazi inyaniso. Musa ukuvumela nabani na ukuba asuse loo nto kuwe.

7. Fumana isistim yenkxaso

Ukuba awukwazi ukunqanda umntu, zama ukwakha ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nenkxaso yenethiwekhi yabantu. Ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kakhulu kubudlelwane obungasebenziyo nomntu onobuntu bokuzibamba unokukushiya uxolile emphefumlweni.

Hlaziya ubuhlobo obudala kwaye uzame ukukhulisa abatsha. Hlangana nosapho rhoqo. Ukuba isangqa sakho sentlalontle sincinci kunokuba ubungathanda, zama ukuthatha iklasi ukukhangela into oyithandayo. Sebenza kwindawo ohlala kuyo okanye uvolontiye kuluntu lwasekuhlaleni. Yenza into ekuvumela ukuba udibane nabantu abaninzi oziva ukhululekile ukuba kunye nabo.

Buyintoni ubudlelwane obuphilileyo?

Ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nomntu onobuntu obunobunkunkqele kunokwenza kube nzima ukukhumbula ukuba ubudlelwane obusempilweni buziva njani.

Nazi iimpawu ezimbalwa onokuzijonga:

• bobabini abantu bayamamela kwaye benze iinzame zokuqonda omnye komnye
• bobabini abantu bayazivuma iimpazamo zabo kwaye bathathe uxanduva ngazo
• bobabini abantu baziva ngathi banokuphumla kwaye babeyinyani yabo phambi komnye

8. Zinyanzelisa ngokukhawuleza, hayi izithembiso

Abantu abanobuntu be-narcissistic balungile ekwenzeni izithembiso. Bathembisa ukwenza le nto uyifunayo kwaye ungayenzi loo nto uyithiyileyo. Bathembisa ukwenza ngcono ngokubanzi.

Kwaye banokunyaniseka ngezi zithembiso. Kodwa musa ukwenza impazamo malunga nayo: Isithembiso yindlela yokuphelisa umntu onobuntu bokuziphatha kakubi.

Nje ukuba bakufumane abakufunayo, inkuthazo ihambile. Awunakho ukuthembela kwizenzo zabo ezihambelana namagama abo.

Cela into oyifunayo kwaye ume umhlaba wakho. Nyanzelisa ukuba uyakufezekisa izicelo zabo emva kokuba bezizalisekisile ezakho.

Musa ukunikezela kweli nqaku. Ukungqinelana kuya kunceda ukuyiqhuba ekhaya.

9. Qonda ukuba umntu othanda ukudlala angadinga uncedo lobungcali

Abantu abane-NPD bahlala bengayiboni ingxaki- ubuncinci hayi ngokwabo. Ngenxa yoko, akunakulindeleka ukuba bafune ingcebiso kwezobungcali.

Kodwa abantu abane-NPD bahlala benezinye iingxaki, ezinje ngokusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi, okanye enye impilo yengqondo okanye ukuphazamiseka kobuntu. Ukuba nesinye isigulo kunokuba yinto ebangela ukuba umntu afune uncedo.

Ungacebisa ukuba bafikelele kuncedo lobuchwephesha, kodwa ngekhe ubenze bakwenze oko. Luxanduva lwabo ngokupheleleyo, hayi olwakho.

Kwaye khumbula, ngelixa i-NPD iyimeko yempilo yengqondo, ayithetheleli isimilo esibi okanye esokuhlukumeza.

10. Ziqonde xa ufuna uncedo

Ukuhlala uqhubana nomntu onobuntu bokuziphatha kakubi kunokuthatha impilo yakho ngengqondo nangokwasemzimbeni.

Ukuba unempawu zoxinzelelo, uxinzelelo, okanye izifo ezingachazwanga, jonga ugqirha wakho wokuqala. Nje ukuba uhlolwe, unokucela ukuhanjiswa kwezinye iinkonzo, ezinje ngeetheraphisti kunye namaqela enkxaso.

Fikelela kusapho kunye nabahlobo kwaye ubize inkqubo yakho yenkxaso kwinkonzo. Akukho mfuneko yokuhamba wedwa.

Uhamba nini

Abanye abantu abanobuntu bokuziphatha kakubi banokubaphatha gadalala ngamazwi nangokweemvakalelo.

Nantsi eminye imiqondiso yobundlobongela:

• ukuthukana, ukuthukwa
• ukuxhasa, ukuthotywa esidlangalaleni
• ukukhwaza, ukugrogrisa
• umona, izityholo

Eminye imiqondiso yokulumkisa ekubukweni komnye umntu ibandakanya:

• ukukusola ngayo yonke into engahambi kakuhle
• Ukujonga iintshukumo zakho okanye ukuzama ukuzahlula
• ukuxelela indlela oziva ngayo okanye oziva ngayo
• bahlala beqikelela ukusilela kwabo kuwe
• ukwala izinto ezicacileyo kuwe okanye ukuzama ukukukhanyisa ngegesi
• ukunciphisa izimvo zakho kunye neemfuno

Kodwa liphi ixesha lokuphosa itawuli? Lonke ulwalamano lunamahla ndinyuka alo, akunjalo?

Nangona oku kuyinyani, kungcono kakhulu ukushiya ubudlelwane ukuba:

• uyaxhatshazwa ngamazwi okanye ngokwasemphefumlweni
• uziva ulawulwa kwaye ulawulwa
• ukhe waphathwa gadalala emzimbeni okanye waziva usoyika
• uziva ulilolo
• umntu one-NPD okanye umntu othanda izinto ezibonisa ukungakhathali ubonakalisa iimpawu zokugula ngengqondo okanye ukusebenzisa gwenxa iziyobisi, kodwa akazukufumana ncedo
• impilo yakho yengqondo okanye yomzimba ichaphazele

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