Ukwenza ukuba usana lwakho luhambe ngokwamanqanaba ahlukeneyo okukhulelwa

Umxholo

• Ixesha lokuhamba kosana olungekazalwa
• Uyenza njani intsana ukuba ihambe kwikota yesibini yesibini
• Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa kukho ukungabikho kwentshukumo kwikota yesithathu
• Unokwenza njani ukuba umntwana ahambe phantsi
• Ungamfumana njani umntwana ukuba aye kwindawo efanelekileyo (eyakho!)
• Ukuthatha

Ahhh, usana luyakhaba-ezo ntshukumo zincinci zincinci zishukumisayo esiswini sakho ezikwazisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyajija, ujika, uqengqele, kwaye ujike ngesibeleko sakho. Kumnandi kakhulu, akunjalo?

Ngokuqinisekileyo, kude kube ngokulula komntwana kuguquke kube yi-ninja jabs kwi-cage cage yakho kwaye unkqonkqoze umoya uphume kuwe ngelixa ukwifowuni yenkomfa.

Amanye amaqhinga umntwana wakho unokuphakamisa imikhono yakhe ngexesha labo esibelekweni kubandakanya:

• hayi Ukuhambahamba kakhulu kangangeentsuku ezithile (kukuthumela kwimeko yokothuka)
• ukwala ukushukuma xa umakhulu elindile ngomonde ngesandla sakhe esiswini sakho
• ukuzinza kwizikhundla ezingonwabisiyo ngokusisigxina, nokuba ungathanda kangakanani ukuba bathambekele ngasekhohlo, njenge, ii-intshi ezimbini

Nantsi inyani: Ngamanye amaxesha uphume kwithamsanqa xa kusiza ekufumaneni umntwana wakho ukuba aqhubeke nomyalelo, kodwa kukho amaqhinga athile okubanyanzela ukuba bahambe kwaye bagcume xa ufuna.

Nasi isikhokelo sokuba umntwana wakho uza kuqala nini ukuhamba rhoqo, ungamenza njani ukuba atshintshe izikhundla (okanye akwazise ukuba bavukile apho!), Kwaye xa kufuneka unike ingqalelo ukungabikho kwentshukumo.

Ixesha lokuhamba kosana olungekazalwa

Ngomama okhulelweyo okokuqala, uninzi lweentshukumo zomntwana unokuziva phakathi kweeveki ezili-16 ukuya kwezingama-25 zokukhulelwa, ngamanye amaxesha kwikota yesibini yesibini. Oku kukwabizwa ngokuba kukukhawulezisa. Ekuqaleni, ezi ntshukumo ziya kuziva ngathi ziimpempe, okanye iimvakalelo ezingaqhelekanga esiswini sakho.

Ekukhulelweni kamva, unokuziva usana lwakho lushukuma kwakamsinya kuba uyazi ukuba ulindele ntoni - kwaye uzimase umahluko ochuliweyo phakathi kokukhaba kwabantwana kunye negesi yamathumbu! Kodwa nangoku, ukuhamba kwamaxesha ngaphandle kokuziva ushukuma kwikota yesibini yesibini ayingonobangela mkhulu wokukhathazeka; ngamanye amaxesha kunokuziva ngathi ukuthatha usuku lomntwana, kwaye kulungile.

Njengoko usiya ngokupheleleyo kwikota yakho yesithathu, nangona kunjalo, intshukumo yabantwana kufuneka ibe yinto yesiqhelo. Baya kuba namandla kakhulu, nabo-ukukhaba kwabantwana akusayi kuba ne-flutters, kunjalo ngokwenene ukukhaba. Oogqirha bancomela ukuqala kokuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uhambisa isixa esifanelekileyo (ngakumbi kwezo kamva!).

Yazi ukuba ezinye iintsana ngokwendalo ziya kuba ngaphezulu okanye zisebenze kancinci kunabanye. Kuyanceda ukuba nolwazi olusisiseko lwento eqhelekileyo ngayo eyakho usana kunye nokulinganisa okanye ukulandelela ukuhamba ukusuka apho.

Unokwazi ukubona ukungqinelana kwexesha lokuhamba (njengakusa kusasa malunga ne-9: 30 kusasa) okanye unobangela wokuhamba (njengalo lonke ixesha usitya ipitsa!).

Uyenza njani intsana ukuba ihambe kwikota yesibini yesibini

Awunakukhathazeka kakhulu malunga nokulandela umkhondo wokuhamba komntwana ngexesha lekota yesibini yesibini, kodwa ukuba usana lwakho lubonakala ngathi luyishedyuli encinci kwaye ufuna ukujonga kubo - okanye ufuna nje ukuziva ulapho ukuze wonwabe- akukho kunqongophala Izicwangciso zokuqalisa iqela ngexesha lekota yesibini.

Iingcebiso ezizisiweyo nezinyani:

• Yiba nesinekhi. I-spike kwishukela lakho legazi iya kuba nefuthe kumntwana wakho, naye, kwaye unokwenza ukuba bahambe. Musa ukuyibaxa iilekese ezineswekile, kodwa iziqwenga ezimbalwa zetshokholethi yindlela ethembekileyo yokuthumela ukonyusa amandla ngokuthe ngqo kusana lwakho.
• Sela into. Chug iglasi ye-OJ ebandayo okanye ubisi; iswekile yendalo kunye nobushushu obandayo besiselo zihlala zanele ukukhuthaza intshukumo kusana lwakho. (Eli liqhinga elidumileyo kwizangqa zomama ezibonakala ngathi ziyasebenza.)
• Yenza inxolo ethile. Ingqondo yomntwana wakho yokuva intle iphuhlisiwe isiqingatha sekota yesibini, ke ukuthetha okanye ukuculela usana lwakho, okanye ukubeka ii-headphone kwisisu sakho nokudlala umculo, kunokubakhuthaza ukuba baqale ukuhamba.
• I-caffeinate (ngokumodareyitha). IAmerican College of Obstetricians kunye neGynecologists icebisa ukuba oomama abalindeleyo bangadli ngaphezulu kwe-200 milligrams (mg) yecaffeine ngemini, kodwa ukuba awukabinayo ikomityi yakho yemihla ngemihla, i-jolt yecaffeine inokuba nefuthe elifanayo njengeswekile umntwana. (Ikomityi enye yeekofu ezi-8 iqulethe umyinge wama-95 mg weCaffeine.)
• Jonga indawo okuyo. Ukuba umile, lala phantsi. Ukuba sele ulele phantsi, tshintsha amacala. Uyazi ukuba umntwana wakho uthanda nje ukuba asebenze ngokukhawuleza nje xa ulala ukulala ubusuku bonke? Ungayisebenzisa le nto ukuze ufumane inzuzo apha.
• Ukubamba ngobumnene. Ukuba unokuziva ukuba umqolo wosana lwakho okanye impundu icinezelwe ngokuchasene nesisu sakho, beka uxinzelelo olunobunono apho ukuze ubone ukuba bayaphendula ngokuhamba. Lumka, ngokucacileyo, kodwa umntwana wakho ukhuselekile apho-kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukubaphatha kubangela ukuba bakubuyise umva!

Ngaphantsi kokuzama-kwaye-kuyinyani, ilivo yasezidolophini:

• Yenza umthambo okhawulezayo, onamandla. Abanye oomama baxela ukuba umthambo omfutshane (njengokubaleka endaweni) wonele ukuvusa umntwana wabo esibelekweni.
• Khanyisa isibane kwisisu sakho. Ukuya embindini wekota yesibini, umntwana wakho UCanzibe ukwazi ukwahlula phakathi kokukhanya nobumnyama; umthombo wokukhanya oshukumayo UCanzibe nomdla kubo. Kodwa akukho zithembiso.
• Yonwaba. Abanye oomama babenethamsanqa ngokuzinika i-adrenaline surge. Qiniseka nje ukuba umthombo wakho wokukhetha ukhuselekile ekukhulelweni (umzekelo, musa ukutsiba kwi-roller coaster).
• Ukutya okunezinongo. Ngaba umntwana udanisa i-flamenco ngalo lonke ixesha usitya i-burrito? Ukutya okune-spices kuyaziwa ngokuba namandla okuhambisa umntwana. Kodwa bayaziwa ngokubangela ukukhulelwa kwentliziyo.
• Ukuphumla ngokukhawuleza. Oko kuvakala ngathi yi-oxymoron, siyazi, kodwa ukuzibandakanya nokuzikhathalela okusemthethweni (njengokuthanjiswa okukhuselekileyo okanye ukufudumeza - kungashushu! - ibhafu yokuhlambela) kunokukuvumela ukuba uqaphele intshukumo yomntwana ngakumbi kunesiqhelo.

Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa kukho ukungabikho kwentshukumo kwikota yesithathu

Uneeveki ezingama-32 ukhulelwe, ngu-2 emva kwemini, kwaye uyaqonda ukuba awukaziva ushukuma umntwana wakho namhlanje. Sukuba nexhala: Kungenzeka ukuba umntwana usebenze kwaye awuzange uqaphele. (Hayi, uxakekile!)

Kuqala, hlala okanye ulale endaweni ethile okwemizuzu embalwa, ujike yonke ingqalelo yosana lwakho. Ngaba uva nayiphi na intshukumo? Kungaba yinto efihlakeleyo, okanye umntwana wakho abe kwindawo eyahlukileyo kunesiqhelo eyenza ukuba ukuhamba kube nzima ngakumbi.

Ukuba oku kuseta umntwana wakho ukuba aqhubeke, qala ukubala ukukhaba kwakho ngexesha elithatha ukuba uzive ushukuma iintsana ezili-10. Ukuba iyure iyadlula kwaye khange uve 10, zama iqhinga lokuhambisa usana (njengokuselwa kwe-OJ, ukutya okulula, okanye ukulala ngecala) ulinde enye iyure ukuze ubone ukuba ungazibala na iintshukumo ezili-10.

Ukuba, emva kweeyure ezingama-2, amanqaku akho okubala okukhaba ayikho apho kufanele ukuba ibe khona okanye awukhe uve ntshukumo kwaphela, tsalela ugqirha wakho ASAP. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo, kodwa umboneleli wakho uya kuthi akucele ukuba uze eofisini ukuze ukhawuleze ujongwe. Banokuphulaphula ukubetha kwentliziyo yosana lwakho kwaye, ukuba kukho imfuneko, bakuthumele nge-ultrasound.

Unokwenza njani ukuba umntwana ahambe phantsi

Ngeeveki ezingama-38, izinto ziya ziba intle kugcwele kwisibeleko sakho. Kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha usana lwakho lusolula, uziva ngathi: kwiimbambo zakho (ouch), kwisinyi sakho (isidingo esihlala sikhona sokuhlambela siyinyani), nakwisibeleko sakho (yikes).

Ukuba umntwana wakho uthathe isigqibo sokulahla ngoku, iya kuba lolwamkelo utshintsho; awukwazi ukuhamba ukusuka ekhitshini uye kwigumbi lokuhlambela ngaphandle kokuphefumla, kwaye ukukhulelwa kwentliziyo kukugcina ebusuku.

Iindaba ezimbi kukuba ezinye iintsana azilahli kude kube kanye ngaphambi - okanye nkqu ngexesha - labasebenzi, ke akukho siqinisekiso sokuba umntwana wakho uya kufudukela ezantsi kwi-pelvis yakho nangaliphi na ixesha kungekudala.

Kodwa iindaba ezimnandi nguwe unamandla ube nakho ukukhuthaza usana ukuba luqale umkhondo wabo wokuhla kwaye ufumane isiqabu esincinci. Ungazama:

• ukwenza i-pelvic tilts okanye ukukhulelwa okukhuselekileyo
• ukwenza ukukhanya komzimba rhoqo kunye nokuzilolonga
• uhleli kwibhola yokubeleka okanye uhleli nemilenze yakho uwele amaxesha ngamaxesha ngemini
• ukwenza idinga ne-chiropractor (ukuba umboneleli wakho wezempilo ukunika imvume)

Ungamfumana njani umntwana ukuba aye kwindawo efanelekileyo (eyakho!)

Uxolo ngokuba ngumphathi weendaba ezimbi apha, kodwa ezinye iintsana zinenkani nje. Ungadanisa ujikeleze igumbi lakho lokuhlala emva kokutya isilili ezinesilumkiso ezintlanu kunye neeglasi ze-OJ, kwaye abakayi kukhulula iimpundu zabo ezintle ezintsana phantsi kwembambo yakho yesithathu.

Ukuba uphelelwe lithemba, akukho bubi ekuzameni ukunyanzela umntwana wakho ukuba akhuphe imeko engathandekiyo kwaye ungene kwindawo ekuvumela ukuba uphefumle ngokulula. Akukho siqinisekiso nje sokuba naliphi na lamaqhinga liya kusebenza, kodwa kufanelekile ukuba udutyulwe. Zama:

• ukuziqhelisa ukuzixhasa ngokuxhasa udonga
• Ukuthambisela i-pelvis yakho phambili ngelixa uhleli (hlala emqamelweni kwaye uwele imilenze yakho phambi kwakho)
• uzibeke ezandleni nasemadolweni (cinga i-pose pose) kwaye unyikime kancinci kancinci ubuye umva
• uhleli kwibhola yokubeleka kwaye ujikelezisa isinqe sakho
• Ukulala kwicala ofuna ukuba umntwana ahambele kulo (kuba, ubunzima)

Ukuthatha

Iintsana zihamba kakhulu ngaphakathi esibelekweni nangaphandle kwayo, nangona usenokungazi ukuba umntwana wakho uphi na de kube lixesha lekota yesibini yakho. Okwangoku, awudingi ukuba nexhala kakhulu malunga nokulandela iintshukumo zomntwana.

Kodwa ngekota yesithathu, kuya kufuneka ubenesicwangciso sokubala ukukhaba kube kanye okanye kabini ngemini. Ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nokuba usana lwakho luhamba kaninzi kangakanani, unganqikazi ukubiza ugqirha wakho.