Iindlela ezili-10 zokuyeka ukulila

Umxholo

• Ndingayeka njani ukulila?
• Ndingenza ntoni ngokulila kwam?
• Ukuya phambili

Ushwankathelo

Abantu bahlala bekhala emingcwabeni, ngexesha leemovie ezibuhlungu, naxa bemamele iingoma ezilusizi. Kodwa abanye abantu banokuzibona belila ngelixa beshushu incoko nabanye, bejongana nomntu abanomsindo naye, okanye bethetha ngento ebalulekileyo.

Olu hlobo lokukhala lunokubangela iintloni kunye nokudideka. Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba ngokuhamba kwexesha, unokufunda indlela yokuyilawula.

Kuya kufuneka uzibuze ukuba ingaba ukukhala kwakho kuyingxaki na. Ngamanye amaxesha, ngezinyembezi zethu sikhupha iimvakalelo ezibhaliweyo kwaye zifuna ukuvakaliswa. Kukho amaxesha apho ukukhala kunokukunceda uzive ungcono.

Ndingayeka njani ukulila?

Ukuba ulila kakhulu, unokuziva ungazithembi. Ingaziva ngathi abantu bakuthatha kancinci xa bekubona ulila, okanye ungaziva ubuthathaka (engeyonyani ngokwenene).

Kodwa ukuba ulila kakhulu, oko kunokuthetha ukuba unengxaki yokujongana noxinzelelo lwakho. Okanye unokuziva ungenakuncedo xa unamathele kwiimeko ezithile okanye uthetha nabantu abathile. Okanye, ngokwe, unokucinezelwa, okanye ube nengxaki yokufunda, imbonakalo yobuso yabantu.

Ukufunda indlela yokulawula uxinzelelo lwakho ngamanye amaxesha kunokukunceda ukuba uzibambe ngcono iinyembezi zakho. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokukunceda uyeke ukukhala ngokukhawuleza:

1. Thambisa intloko yakho kancinci ukukhusela iinyembezi zingawi. Iinyembezi ziya kuqokelela emazantsi eenkophe zakho ukuze zingagijimisi ubuso bakho. Oku kunokumisa ukuhamba kweenyembezi kwaye uqondise ukujonga kwakho.
2. Zitsibe ulusu phakathi kwesithupha sakho nesikhombisi somnwe- iintlungu zinokukuphazamisa ungakhali.
3. Qinisa izihlunu zakho, ezinokwenza ukuba umzimba kunye nengqondo yakho uzive uzithembile kwaye uzilawula, ngokweenzululwazi.
4. Yenza ubuso obungathathi hlangothi, obunokuzolisa umntu othetha naye kwaye wenze ukuba kuncinci ukuba baya kubeka intetho ebangela iinyembezi zakho. bafumanise ukuba ubuso obungathathi hlangothi buqala kancinci kwimisebenzi yobuchopho kunembonakalo yobuso ebonisa iimvakalelo ezithile.
5. Buyela umva kwimeko yoxinzelelo, njengengxoxo eshushu.
6. Gxila kulawulo lokuphefumla kwakho. Zama ukuqonda ukuphefumla okunzulu kwaye ukhuphe umoya kancinci. Oku kunokukunceda uzive uzolile, ukunciphisa imeko yakho yoxinzelelo, kunye nokunciphisa amathuba akho okuqala (okanye ukuqhubeka) ukukhala.
7. Qhwanyaza ngokukhawuleza ukuba sele uqalile ukukhala ukunceda ukucima iinyembezi ukuze zinganyibiliki ubuso bakho.
8. Sukuqhwanyaza xa uziva ngathi ungakhala, oku kunokuthintela iinyembezi ekuweni.
9. Guqula iingcinga zakho kunye nesimo sengqondo. Ukuba uziva uxinezelekile kwaye ungathanda ukuqala ukukhala, phambukisa ingqalelo yakho ekukhathazekeni nasezinyembezini, endaweni yoko ucinge enye into- umzuzu owonwabileyo, umbono ohlekisayo ovela kwimovie, okanye into onekratshi ngayo- eza kukuphazamisa wena.

Ndingenza ntoni ngokulila kwam?

Ukulila yinto eyenziwa ngumntu wonke. Kodwa ukuba uziva ngathi ulila kakhulu, usenokuxinezeleka ngokulula, okanye unganomnye umcimbi oqhubekayo, onje ngengxaki yokudakumba. Ungaqala ngokugxila ekunciphiseni uxinzelelo ebomini bakho ukunciphisa ukukhala kwakho. Unokufumana isiphatho kuxinzelelo lwakho ngokuthatha la manyathelo okuchonga, ukujongana, kunye nokujongana noxinzelelo ebomini bakho:

• Chonga ukuba yintoni ebangela uxinzelelo (kunye nokulila kwakho): Ngaba yingxaki yakho, indawo okuyo, abantu abakungqongileyo, okanye enye into?
• Nciphisa inani lezinto ozibophelela kuzo. Ukujonga ngaphezulu yeyona nto ibangela uxinzelelo kubomi babantu abaninzi. Jonga ikhalenda yakho kwaye ucinge malunga nokuba yeyiphi imisebenzi, uxanduva, okanye iminyhadala onokuyinqumla ukukunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo lwakho ngokubanzi.
• Hlala ngaphezulu kwezibophelelo zakho. Ixesha elibekiweyo kunye nokuzibekel 'amangomso kunokunyusa uxinzelelo. Thintela uxinzelelo ngokuhlala ngaphezulu komsebenzi wakho kwaye uzibekele iinjongo ezizezakho xa uziva ucinezelwe ixesha xa uzama ukugqiba iiprojekthi.
• Cela uncedo xa ulufuna. Qinisekisa ukuba ngabaphi abantu ebomini bakho-abahlobo, usapho, kunye nabantu osebenza nabo -ungafowunela uncedo lokujamelana noxinzelelo lwakho.
• Fumana umdlalo. Izinto ezonwabisayo ezinje ngobugcisa, umculo, okanye ivolontiya kunokunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo lwakho ngokubanzi. Izinto ezingakhuphisaniyo ezinje ngokufunda, ukuloba, okanye ukwenza igadi zihlala ziyizinto eziphambili zokuphelisa uxinzelelo.
• Sebenzisa iindlela zokuphumla. Ukuphefumla ngokunzulu, ukuzolula, ukubona imeko enoxolo, nokuphindaphinda imantra kunokunceda ukuzola kwengqondo nomzimba xa uziva uxinezelekile.
• Qinisekisa ukuba ulala ngokwaneleyo. Ukungabikho kokulala kunokwenza ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zikulungele xa uxinezelekile. Uninzi lwabantu abadala ludinga iiyure ezisixhenxe ukuya kwezisi-9 zokulala ubusuku ngabunye.

Ukuba unengxaki yokujongana noxinzelelo lwakho, okanye uziva ulila ngalo lonke ixesha, usenokuba ujongene nemeko yempilo yengqondo enje ngoxinzelelo olukhulu okanye ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Ezi ziimeko ezinzulu zempilo yengqondo ezifuna unyango. Ukuba unomdla, jonga umboneleli wakho wezempilo yengqondo ngoko nangoko ukuze ufumane uncedo.

Ukuya phambili

Ukulila kuyimpendulo yendalo kwiimeko zeemvakalelo. Kodwa abanye abantu bayakhala ngaphezu kwabanye, kwaye ukulila kakhulu kunokuba kungonwabisi. Nangona kunjalo, zininzi izinto onokuzenza ukunciphisa amathuba okuba uqale okanye uqhubeke ulila. Kwaye kukho izinto onokuzenza ekhaya ukunciphisa amathuba okuba uqale ukukhala kwixesha elizayo xa uhlangabezana nemeko yoxinzelelo. Kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba ungafikelela nini kugqirha wakho ukuze akuncede.

Ngexesha elizayo xa uziva ngathi uza kulila, okanye ukuba uqalile ukukrazula, khumbula ukuba kukho izinto onokuzenza ukunqanda ukukhala kwakho. Sebenzisa ezi ngcebiso kwaye ujongane neemeko ezixinzelelekileyo ebomini bakho usazi ukuba akufuneki ukuba ukhale, kwaye ukuba uqala, ungayilawula. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uvumele iinyembezi zakho zikuthintele ukuba ungathathwa nzulu okanye ubonakalise iimfuno zakho ngexesha leengxoxo ezinzima.