Ndine C-Icandelo kwaye kundithathe ixesha elide ukuba ndiyeke ukuba nomsindo malunga nalo

Umxholo

• Ukukhululeka kwam kuqala kwaba yenye into
• Andikude ndedwa
• Into ebalulekileyo kukuqonda ukuba nokuba ungantoni na, unelungelo kubo
• Ukuzixolela, kuye kwafuneka ndiphinde ndizive ndizilawula

Ndandingakulungelanga ukubakho kwecandelo le-C. Kuninzi endinqwenela ukuba ndikwazile ngaphambi kokuba ndijongane nenye.

Umzuzu ugqirha wam andixelele ukuba ndifuna ukuba nalo cesarean section, ndaqala ukukhala.

Ngokubanzi ndizithatha ndinesibindi, kodwa xa ndaxelelwayo ukuba ndifuna utyando olukhulu ukuze ndibeleke unyana wam, andizange ndikhaliphe - ndandisoyika.

Bekufanele ukuba ndinemibuzo emininzi, kodwa ekuphela kwento endiye ndakwazi ukuyikhupha kukuba "Ngokwenene?"

Ngelixa ndiqhuba uvavanyo lwe-pelvic, ugqirha wam wathi andixutywanga, kwaye emva kweeyure ezi-5 zokucutha, wayecinga ukuba kufanelekile. Ndandinomqolo omncinci, wachaza, kwaye oko kuya kwenza umsebenzi ube nzima. Uye wamema umyeni wam ukuba azive ngaphakathi kum ukuze abone indlela emxinwa ngayo-into ebendingayilindelanga kwaye ndingaziva ndikhululekile kuyo.

Undixelele ukuba ngenxa yokuba ndandineeveki ezingama-36 kuphela ndikhulelwe, wayengafuni ukustressa usana lwam ngomsebenzi onzima. Uye wathi kungcono ukuba benze icandelo le-C ngaphambi kokuba kungxamiseke kuba mancinci amathuba okubetha ilungu.

Wayengabonakalisi nayiphi na le nto njengengxoxo. Wayesenzile isigqibo kwaye ndaziva ndingenandlela yimbi ngaphandle kokuvuma.

Mhlawumbi ngendikwindawo engcono yokubuza imibuzo ukuba bendingadinwanga.

Ndibe sele ndisesibhedlele iintsuku ezimbini. Ngexesha lokuvavanywa kwe-ultrasound, baqonda ukuba inqanaba lamanzi amniotic lalisezantsi ngoko ke bandithumela ngqo esibhedlele. Ukufika kwam apho, bandixhomekeke kumatshini wokujonga umntwana ongekazalwa, bandinika ulwelo lwe-IV, amayeza okubulala iintsholongwane, kunye nee-steroids ukukhawulezisa ukukhula kwemiphunga yosana lwam, emva koko baxoxa ukuba ingaba mandiyenze okanye hayi.

Khange kube emva kweeyure ezingama-48, ukuqala kwam ukucuthana kwaqala. Kwisithuba seeyure ezi-6 emva koko, ndandiqhutywa ngevili kwigumbi lotyando kwaye unyana wam wasikwa kum ngelixa ndilila. Kuya kuba yimizuzu eyi-10 ngaphambi kokuba ndimbone kunye neminye imizuzu engama-20 okanye phambi kokuba ndibambe kwaye ndimncancise.

Ndiyabulela ngokungazenzisiyo ukuba nomntwana onempilo ngaphambi kwexesha ebengadingi xesha le-NICU. Kwaye ekuqaleni, ndaziva ndonwabile ukuba wazalwa ngecandelo le-C kuba ugqirha wam wandixelela ukuba intambo yakhe yayisongelwe entanyeni yakhe-oko kukuthi, ndade ndafunda ukuba iintambo ezijikeleze intamo, okanye iintambo ze-nuchal, zixhaphake kakhulu .

Ngokujikeleze abantwana abasisigxina bazalwa nabo.

Ukukhululeka kwam kuqala kwaba yenye into

Ngaphezulu kweeveki ezilandelayo, njengoko ndandiqala ukubuyela emzimbeni, ndaqala ukuziva imvakalelo ebendingayilindelanga: umsindo.

Ndandinomsindo kwi-OB-GYN yam, ndandinomsindo esibhedlele, ndandinomsindo andizange ndibuze imibuzo emininzi, kwaye, ngaphezu kwako konke, ndandinomsindo wokuba ndibanjiwe ithuba lokuhambisa unyana wam "ngokwendalo. ”

Ndaziva ndincitshiswa nethuba lokumbamba kwangoko, olo qhakamshelwano lolusu ngolusu, kunye nokuzalwa endandihlala ndikucinga.

Ewe, oosarean banokusindisa ubomi - kodwa andikwazi ukulwa nemvakalelo yokuba mhlawumbi eyam ibingeyomfuneko.

Ngokwe-CDC, ujikeleze konke ukuhanjiswa e-United States kukuhanjiswa, kodwa iingcali ezininzi zicinga ukuba le pesenti iphezulu kakhulu.

Umzekelo, uqikelela ukuba inqanaba elifanelekileyo lecandelo le-C kufuneka lisondele kwiipesenti ezili-10 okanye ezili-15.

Andinguye ugqirha, ngenxa yoko kunokwenzeka ukuba eyam ibifuneka ngenene - kodwa nokuba ibikhona, oogqirha bam benzile hayi yenza umsebenzi olungileyo wokuchaza kum.

Ngenxa yoko, andizange ndive ngathi ndinako ukulawula umzimba wam ngaloo mini. Ndaziva ndizingca ngenxa yokungakwazi ukubeka umntwana emva kwam, ngakumbi xa ndandinethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndingaphila kwaye ndibenomntwana oyinkwenkwe ophilileyo.

Andikude ndedwa

Uninzi lwethu luneemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo emva kokuyeka okwexeshana, ngakumbi ukuba bekungacwangciswanga, kungafunwa, okanye kungafuneki.

"Ndineemeko eziphantse zafana nam," utshilo uJusten Alexander, usekela-mongameli kunye nelungu lebhodi ye-International Cesarean Awareness Network (ICAN), xa ndimxelela ibali lam.

"Akukho mntu, ndicinga ukuba, ukhuselekile koku kuba ungena kwezi meko kwaye ujonge kugqirha ... kwaye bayakuxelela 'nantsi into esiza kuyenza' kwaye uziva ulungile yokungabinakuzinceda ngalo mzuzu, ”utshilo. “Kude kube semva kokuba uye waqonda ukuba 'linda, kwenzeke ntoni nje?'”

Into ebalulekileyo kukuqonda ukuba nokuba ungantoni na, unelungelo kubo

"Ukusinda yinto ephantsi," utshilo u-Alexander. "Sifuna ukuba abantu baphile, ewe, kodwa sifuna ukuba baphumelele- kwaye ukuphumelela kubandakanya impilo yeemvakalelo. Nangona usenokuba usindile, ukuba wawukhathazekile ngokweemvakalelo, ayisiyonto intle leyo yokuzalwa kwaye akufuneki ukuba uyifunxe ukuze uqhubeke. ”

"Kulungile ukukhathazeka ngale nto kwaye kulungile ukuba uzive ngathi le nto ayilunganga," uqhubeke. “Kulungile ukuya kunyango kwaye kulungile ukuba ufune iingcebiso zabantu abafuna ukukunceda. Kulungile ukuxelela abantu abakuvalayo, 'Andifuni kuthetha nawe okwangoku.' ”

Kukwabalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba okwenzekileyo kuwe ayilotyala lakho.

Kwafuneka ndizixolele ngokungazi ngakumbi malunga nokuhlinzwa ngaphambi kwexesha kunye nokungazi ukuba kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokwenza.

Umzekelo, bendingazi ukuba abanye oogqirha basebenzisa iidrafti ezicacileyo ukuvumela abazali badibane neentsana zabo kwakamsinya, okanye abanye bakuyeke wenze ulusu nolusu kwigumbi lokusebenza. Bendingazi ngezi zinto ngoko bendingazi ukuzibuza. Mhlawumbi ukuba bendinayo, ngendingaziva ndiphangwe kangaka.

Kwaye kwafuneka ndizixolele ngokungazi ukubuza eminye imibuzo ndingekafiki nasesibhedlele.

Bendingayazi inqanaba likagqirha wam kwaye ndingazi ukuba zithini imigaqo-nkqubo zesibhedlele sam. Ukwazi ezi zinto kunokuba nokuchaphazela amathuba okuba ndiyekwe.

Ukuzixolela, kuye kwafuneka ndiphinde ndizive ndizilawula

Ke, ndiye ndaqala ukuqokelela ulwazi xa kunokwenzeka ndithathe isigqibo sokufumana omnye umntwana. Ngoku ndiyazi ukuba kukho izibonelelo, ezinjengemibuzo yokubuza ugqirha omtsha, endinokuzikhuphelela zona, kwaye kukho namaqela enkxaso endinokuya kuwo xa kufuneka ndithethe.

Ku-Alexander, into eyincedayo kukufikelela kwiirekhodi zakhe zonyango. Yayiyindlela yokuba aphonononge oko kubhalwe ngugqirha nabongikazi, engazi ukuba uyakuze akubone.

"[Ekuqaleni], yandenza ndaziva ndinomsindo," utshilo u-Alexander, "kodwa, yandikhuthaza ukuba ndenze le nto ndiyifunayo xa ndizalwa kwakhona." Wayekhulelwe okwesithathu ngelo xesha, kwaye emva kokufunda iirekhodi, kwamnika ukuzithemba ukuba afumane ugqirha omtsha oza kumvumela ukuba azame ukuzalwa ngokwesini emva koqhaqho (VBAC), into eyayifunwa nguAlexander.

Ke mna, ndikhethe ukubhala ibali lam lokuzalwa endaweni yoko. Ukukhumbula iinkcukacha zolo suku - kunye nokuhlala kwam iveki yonke esibhedlele - kundincede ndenza elam ixesha kwaye ndize kwisimo, njengoko ndinako, ngento eyenzekileyo kum.

Ayitshintshanga eyadlulayo, kodwa yandinceda ndenza eyam inkcazo ngayo- kwaye yandinceda ndayeka omnye waloo msindo.

Ndingaba ndiyaxoka ukuba ndithe ndiphelile kuwo wonke umsindo wam, kodwa kuyanceda ukwazi ukuba andindedwa.

Kwaye suku ngalunye endisenza uphando oluncinci, ndiyazi ukuba ndibuyisa olunye lolawulo endiluthathe kum ngalo mhla.

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