Ukuba uhlala ujikeleze: Ileta eya kwabo bafuna ukushiya obu Bomi

Umxholo

• Ndiyazi ngoku ungakhetha ukushiya kunokuphila
• Ukuba uthe nca…
• Ewe, kuya kubakho nezinye izinto

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Molo bahlobo,

Andikwazi, kodwa ndiyazi into ngawe. Ndiyazi ukuba udiniwe.

Ndiyazi ukuba uhlala needemon, ezikufutshane nezingxolayo.

Ndiyayazi indlela abangayekeleli ngayo ukusukela kwakho.

Ndiyazi ukuba uchitha imihla yakho uzama ukubathulisa kunye nobusuku bakho uzama ukuzifihla kubo-kunye nesihogo abakubeka kuso.

Ngaphezu kwako konke, ndiyazi ukuba usebenza nzima kangakanani ukufihla konke, ukwenza ngathi ulungile, ukupeyinta uncumo olukholisayo ebusweni bakho, kwaye wenze ngokungathi konke kulungile ngomphefumlo wakho obethwayo.

Ndiyazi ukuba konke oku kukushiye udiniwe-ukuba uzikhathaze kwaye uzilimaze kwaye uzilambise ngethemba lokuba amazwi abo azakuthula kwaye amanqindi abo aphakanyiswe kwaye ungaphefumla kwakhona.

Ndiyazi ukuba ngoku akubonakali ngathi loo mzuzu uya kuze ufike.

Ndiyazi ngoku ungakhetha ukushiya kunokuphila

Kwaye nangona ndingazimi kwezihlangu zakho ngoku, kwaye nangona ndingakwazi, kwaye nangona ndingenalungelo kwaphela - ndiyakucela ukuba ubambelele.

Ndicela ukuhlala. Ukunyamezela intlungu yakho emangalisayo, engenangqondo ngokupheleleyo ngoku kuba ndiyakubona ubuqaqawuli bakho, ubuhle obuyimfama emva koko, ukuba uyayenza.

Ukuba unamathela, uya kufikelela kwindawo apho usizi lungakuvumeli ukuba ubone ngoku - uya kufikelela ngomso.

Kwaye loo ndawo izaliswe ngamathuba. Lusuku ongazange waya kulo. Ayilolu suku loyikekayo. Kulapho, awuyi kuziva ngqo ukuba uziva njani ngoku. Unokuba namandla, okanye ubone izinto ngokwahlukileyo, okanye ufumane ukucocwa, kwaye ubomi bunokujongeka ngendlela ekungakhange kube kudala: Ingakhangeleka ngathi kufanelekile ukuhlala.

Ngomso yindawo apho ithemba lihlala khona, kwaye ndifuna ukuba uzinike ithuba lokwabelana ngendawo nelo themba- ukudanisa nayo, uphumle kuyo, uphuphe ngaphakathi kuyo kuba ikufanele.

Ukuba uthe nca…

Ukuba uhlala ujikeleze, uza kuhamba kwiindawo ezimangalisayo eziya kususa umphefumlo wakho kwaye ubone ukutshona kwelanga okwangoku kungapeyintwanga kwisibhakabhaka sangokuhlwa.

Ukuba uthe nca, uya kuyitya loo cheeseburger, eya kuthi ibangele ukuba wenze isandi esivakalayo esidlangalaleni - kwaye awuyi kuzisola.

Ukuba uhlala ujikeleze, uyayiva loo ngoma eya kutshintsha ubomi bakho kwaye uya kuyidanisa ngokungathi akukho mntu ubukeleyo (kwaye ungakhathali ukuba kunjalo).

Ukuba uhlala ujikeleze, uyakufumana ukwanga komntu owayelinde ubomi babo bonke ukuba akwamkele, ondlela yakhe uyakuyiguqula kakuhle ngobukho bakho.

Ukuba unamathela, uya kubamba iintsana, kwaye ubone iimuvi, kwaye uhleke kakhulu, kwaye uya kuthandana, kwaye intliziyo yakho yaphuke - kwaye uya kuphinda uthandane kwakhona.

Ukuba uhlala ujikeleze, uya kufunda kwaye ufunde kwaye ukhule, kwaye ufumane ubizo lwakho, kwaye ufumane indawo yakho. Kwaye uyakulala engceni, uzive umbulelo ngelanga ebusweni bakho kunye nomoya opholileyo ezinweleni zakho.

Ukuba uyanamathela kuwe uya kuphila ixesha elide kwiidemon zakho.

Ewe, kuya kubakho nezinye izinto

Ukuphoxeka kunye nentliziyo ebuhlungu kunye nokuzisola neempazamo. Kwaye, kuyakubakho amaxesha okuphelelwa lithemba kunye namaxesha abuhlungu kunye nobusuku obumnyama bomphefumlo oya kuyidinga ukuyinyamezela. Uya kujola izinto kwaye uyekwe. Uya kwenzakala, kwaye uyakuzibuza ukuba uyakuze uphumelele njani.

Kodwa ke uyakusikhumbula isihogo ohambe kuso ukuza apha, kwaye unokukhumbula le leta- kwaye uyakuqonda ukuba uza kulunga. Kuba ngomso usakulindile, udanise uphumle kwaye uphuphe ngaphakathi.

Ke ndicinga ukuba esi sisikhumbuzo nje, esivela kumntu obona into ongayiboniyo apha, ikamva, eya kuba ngcono kakhulu nawe kuyo.

Esi sisibongozo kunye nesithembiso, isibindi kunye nesimemo.

Hlala.

Bambelela.

Uyathandwa.

Izinto ziya kuba ngcono.

Ndithembe.

Khala kwaye ube nomsindo kwaye ucele uncedo kwaye ubethe udonga kwaye ukhwaze kumqamelelo wakho kwaye uphefumle umoya kwaye ubize umntu okuthandayo. Xa uvumela abantu bangene, iidemon ziyarhwaqelela emva, ke vumela abanye bathwale olu lusizi de ube womelele.

Kodwa yeyakho, yabo baya kukukhathaza kufanele ukuba uhambe, nangomso ofanelekileyo ukuba uwubone ...

Nceda unamathele.

Ukuba ufumana uxinzelelo, umnqweno wokuzenzakalisa, okanye iingcinga zokuzibulala, thetha nomntu.

Uncedo lunokufumaneka apha kwaye apha kwaye apha ngoku. Kufanelekile ukulwela.

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Uthintelo lokuzibulala:

Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntu usemngciphekweni wokuzenzakalisa okanye wenzakalise omnye umntu:

• Fikelela kumhlobo othembekileyo, ilungu losapho, okanye ingcali yezempilo. Cinga ukubiza i-911 okanye inombolo yakho yongxamiseko yendawo ukuba awukwazi ukunxibelelana nabo.
• Hlala naloo mntu de kufike uncedo.
• Susa nayiphi na imipu, iimela, amayeza, okanye ezinye izinto ezinokubangela ingozi.
• Mamela, kodwa musa ukugweba, ukuphikisa, ukugrogrisa, okanye ukukhwaza.

Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntu othile ucinga ngokuzibulala, okanye kunjalo, fumana uncedo kwangoko kwingxaki okanye kumnxeba wokukhusela ukuzibulala. Zama iNqanaba lokuSebenza lokuThintela ukuzibulala ku-800-273-8255.

UJohn Pavlovitz ligqala lobulungiseleli elineminyaka engama-20 elithanda ukubhala iingoma, ukuzilolonga, ukupheka, ukuhamba intaba nokutya ngokwasemoyeni. Incwadi yakhe yokuqala epheleleyo egcwele Itheyibhile enkulu: Ukwakha iMessy, eyiyo, kunye neThemba loLuntu loLuntu iphuma ngo-Okthobha ka-2017.