Ungabugcina njani ubudlelwane bakho phakathi kwabantu

Umxholo

• Ubudlelwane 101
• Amanqanaba obudlelwane
• Ukubaluleka kobudlelwane
• Ulondolozo lobudlelwane
• Ndivalelisa
• Yise kude

Ubudlelwane 101

Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu benza lonke ubudlelwane obuzalisekisa uluhlu lweemfuno zomzimba kunye neemvakalelo zakho. Aba bantu usondele kubo ebomini bakho.

Ngelixa ubudlelwane bezothando buphakathi kwabantu, amalungu osapho kunye nabahlobo abasondeleyo, nabo. Kukwakho nento efana nobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu. Oku kubandakanya abantu oqhelene nabo, abamelwane, kunye nabanye onxibelelana nabo rhoqo.

Ngamafutshane, unolunye uhlobo lobudlelwane phakathi kwabo bonke abantu obaziyo.

Ngenxa yokubaluleka kobudlelwane kulwalamano lwethu lweemvakalelo kunye nolwasemzimbeni, kubalulekile ukuba sifunde indlela yokuphuhlisa kunye nokugcina.

Amanqanaba obudlelwane

Ubudlelwane abuphuhlisi ngesiquphe. Esinye isayikholojisti, uGeorge Levinger, uchonge amanqanaba amahlanu obudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kwisifundo sango-1980. Wabiza le ngqungquthela, equka:

• ukwazana
• iyakheka ukwenyuka
• ukuqhubeka
• ukuwohloka
• ukuphela (ukupheliswa)

Ubudlelwane obuyimpumelelo phakathi kwabantu buya kuhamba kuphela kumanqanaba amathathu okuqala. Ubudlelwane obuphela ekwahlukaneni nomhlobo okanye iqabane elithandanayo liza kudlula kuwo onke la manqanaba.

Ayilulo lonke ulwalamano oluya kuyenza ukuba idlule kwinqanaba lokuqala lolwazi, nokuba. Inxalenye yokubaluleka kwethiyori kaLevinger kukubonisa ukuba ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu buyaguquguquka njengoko besahluka.

Ukubaluleka kobudlelwane

Unxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu lubalulekile kulonwabo lwakho lomzimba kunye neemvakalelo. Ubudlelwane bunceda ukulwa nesizungu ngelixa kukunika injongo yobomi.

Umzekelo, ukusondela okuziva usapho kunye nabahlobo kuyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yenkxaso yakho kwezentlalo. Ubudlelwane kwezinye izinto zobomi bakho ngaphandle kwezothando kunye nosapho bunokuba nefuthe elihle kuwe, njengokuhlangana kunye nabantu obaziyo ukuba nomdla ekwabelwana ngawo okanye into oyithandayo.

Lonke ulwalamano phakathi kwabantu lwakhiwe kukunyaniseka, inkxaso kunye nokuthembana. Ubuhlobo obusondeleyo bunokwakhiwa nothando. Ukuhloniphana nokubuyisana kwezi mpawu kubalulekile ekugcineni lonke ubudlelwane bakho. Ngaphandle koko, ubudlelwane buba kwicala elinye.

Ulondolozo lobudlelwane

Ukugcina ubuhlobo kunye nolunye ubudlelwane kuthatha umsebenzi. Into yokuqala neyona ibalulekileyo lunxibelelwano. Oku kufuna iingxoxo ngaphakathi kwakho malunga neemvakalelo zakho. Nangona ukuthumela imiyalezo kunye nokuthumela imiyalezo kwi-intanethi kunganelisa kakhulu ngamanye amaxesha, bahlala bengaboneleli ngeziphumo ezifanayo.

Ngexesha elithile kubudlelwane, ingxabano iya kuvela. Indlela ohlangabezana ngayo nayo iya kugqiba ekubeni ukungqubana kuyabomeleza ubudlelwane okanye hayi. Endaweni yokuphepha inqaku lempikiswano, kubalulekile ukuba uthethe uphulaphule uluvo lwabo.

Ukuba kukho into ekukhathazayo emsebenzini okanye esikolweni, thetha. Ukuba unemicimbi ethile nomhlobo, ilungu losapho, okanye iqabane, qiniseka ukubaxelela. Ndiyathemba ukuba baya kuphinda babuyisele ngentlonipho nangokunyaniseka.

Ngaphandle kokunyaniseka kunye nonxibelelwano oluvulekileyo, kubalulekile ukuba:

• Misela imida.
• Yiba ngumphulaphuli okhutheleyo.
• Mbonise omnye umntu imbeko ngalo lonke ixesha.
• Gcina isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo.
• Vulela ukugxeka okwakhayo kunye nengxelo ngaphandle kokuvumela iimvakalelo zakho ukuba zithathe indawo.

Ndivalelisa

Ayilulo lonke ubudlelwane obunobomi bonke. Ngapha koko, abanye abanakuze bagqithe kulomntu umqhelileyo. Kwaye kulungile. Kuqhelekile ukuba ubudlelwane obuthile bufikelele esiphelweni. Kukho izinto ezichaphazela ikhosi kubo bonke ubudlelwane bakho phakathi kwabantu.

Xa ucinga ngokuphela kobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, unokucinga ngokwahlukana neqabane lakho lothando. Kodwa olunye ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu bunokuphela, nabo.

Umzekelo, xa ugqiba esikolweni, awunakuhlala unxibelelana nabo bonke ootitshala bakho kunye nabanye abafundi. Kuyafana xa ushiya umsebenzi kwaye uye komnye.

Akunakwenzeka ukugcina bonke ubudlelwane ebomini bakho ngonaphakade. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi kubudlelwane besibini.

Yise kude

Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu buchaphazela zonke iinkalo zobomi bethu, kubandakanya ikhaya, umsebenzi kunye nokuzonwabisa. Ngaphandle kobudlelwane obuqinileyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba uzive ulilolo kwaye ungaxatyiswanga njengomntu. Unokuziva ukuba uswele inkxaso yoluntu.

Namhlanje, kulula kunanini na ngaphambili ukuphosa ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu ngenxa yetekhnoloji ekhuthaza unxibelelwano lwedijithali. Abantu abasebenza ekhaya baphoswa kunxibelelwano lomntu nomntu. Abahlobo kunye nosapho banokukhetha ukuthumela umyalezo ngefowuni kunokuba bangene kunye kwisidlo kunye nencoko.

Yenza inqaku ukuze ubone usapho kunye nabahlobo bakho buqu, okanye ujonge ukuhlangana kwakho kunye nezinye izixhobo ezikwi-Intanethi ngeendlela zokuzibandakanya kunxibelelwano lwabantu olufunekayo.

Okokugqibela, awunakho ukwakha ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu ukuba awunabo ubudlelwane obuhle nesiqu sakho.

Thatha ixesha lokuzazi kwaye utyale nokuzikhathalela. Ukuba imicimbi ethile ikugcina ungachithi ixesha nabanye, cinga ukuthetha nonyango ukuze ufumane inkxaso kunye nezikhokelo.