"Ayisiyiyo iViagra yabasetyhini": Omnye uMfazi wabelana ngendlela uAddyi abutshintshe ngayo ubomi bakhe besondo

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Mna nomyeni wam sadibana ekholejini, kwaye chemistry yethu ngokwesondo kwakumangalisa kwasekuqaleni. Kuwo onke amashumi amabini eminyaka yethu ukuya kwiminyaka yokuqala yomtshato wethu, besizolala ngesondo amaxesha amaninzi ngemini, yonke imihla yeveki. Yayenye yezona ndawo zintle kakhulu kubudlelwane bethu, kwaye eyona nto ibalulekileyo kum: ndandinomdla wesondo, kwaye ndandithanda ukuba ngumqalisi.

Oko konke kwatshintsha xa ndandifumana unyana wam wokuqala, eneminyaka eyi-30. Ewe, kunjalo, yonke into ngobomi bakho iyatshintsha xa sele unomntwana: umzimba wakho, umsebenzi wakho, amandla akho, ingqondo yakho, ulwalamano lwakho. Bendingafuni ukuba yinyani kum, kodwa yayinjalo. Ukuzala kwandithintela yonke iminqweno yam yesini ngomyeni wam. Hayi ngendlela endandilindele ngayo, nangona kunjalo. Ibingathi sidiniwe kukondla umntwana ngo3 ekseni; Kwakungenxa yokuba ndandiziva ngathi akukho mfuneko yokulala ngesondo kwakhona. Xa umyeni wam andichukumisayo-hayi nje ukuba ndiqalise, kodwa ukuwola okanye ukuthandana-ndaphola. (Funda izinto ezili-16 ezinokuSinki (okanye yakhe) kwiDrive drive.)

Umyeni wam waziva enyanyekile kwaye enqabile. Ndaziva ndikude kwaye ndinetyala ngokungummangaliso. Ndingazama ukwenza uthando kuye rhoqo emva kweeveki ezimbini okanye kunjalo, kodwa oko kwakungaphandle kwembopheleleko kunomnqweno. Sasinaye omnye unyana, kodwa xa ndandineminyaka engama-35 ndandicinga ngokuqhawula umtshato. Sasifana nabantu ababini esisebenza nabo ekunxibelelaneni kwabo kuphela malunga nokucwangcisa ukuqeshwa koogqirha okanye ukhathalelo lwemini. Besonwabile omnye komnye, kodwa uthando lwethu lwaphela.

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"Xa umyeni wam wandiphathaphatha-kungekhona nje ukuba ndiqalise, kodwa ukundanga okanye ukubonisa uthando-ndayeka.

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Kodwa bendingafuni umtshato wam uqhawuke, ndiye ndaqala ndazama iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokunyanga. Ndazama izongezelelo zamachiza, ezingasebenziyo kwaye zandifaka kuluhlu lokuposa kwizinto zokudlala zokwabelana ngesondo kunye nezixhasi zepipi. Ndathetha nogqirha kwaye ndazama i-antidepressants, ukuba ukungabikho kwam amandla okanye uxhulumaniso lweemvakalelo lwalunxulumene nento enzulu. Okokugqibela, ndazama inaliti ye testosterone, ndicinga ukuba ingxaki yam kufuneka ibe yehomoni ukusukela oko yafika emva kokubeleka. Izitofu zandinika ubushushu obufutshane kunye nokubetha kwentliziyo-kunye neenwele ezithile zesilevini-kodwa azizange zindibuyisele i-libido yam.

Mna nomyeni wam sasizimisele ukuzama nantoni na, ngoko ke xa wafumana intengiso kwi IWashington Post Ukufuna izifundo zabasetyhini ngesiyobisi esonyusa i-libido, wabelana nam kwangoko. ndicinge Yiyiphi enye inzame? kwaye wabhalisa.

Ngaphambi kokuba ndiqale uvavanyo lwezonyango, abaphandi baqhuba uvavanyo lomzimba kunye novavanyo oluninzi lwengqondo kunye neemvakalelo. Ndacinga ukuba bangandilahla kuba ngokucacileyo ukuba nabantwana yayingumbandela kubudlelwane bam-hayi umzimba wam-kodwa into emangalisayo kukuba, ndakhethwa. Basebenzise igama elithi "hypoactive umnqweno wesini," okanye i-HSDD, ukuchaza into ebendijongene nayo, kwaye andizange ndikholelwe ukuba kukho igama lokwenyani lale nto. Bendifana nokulinda, le yinto yokwenyani? Andikho bad nje ebomini? Embi emtshatweni? Ndaziva ndikhululekile. (Fumana yonke into oyifunayo malunga nePilisi yeViagra yabasetyhini.)

Ndaqala ukuthatha iipilisi, kwaye kunyaka olandelayo kunye nesiqingatha ndandihlangana noogqirha okanye umongikazi malunga nenyanga enye ukuxoxa ngamava am. Ngalo lonke ixesha, ndandizalisa uluhlu lwemibuzo olujonga izinto ezifana nomnqweno wam wesondo, indlela umzimba wam owawusabela ngayo, kunye nokuba mangaphi amava ezesondo endinawo kwinyanga engaphambili.

Ngokwenyani khange ndicinge ukuba likho ithuba esihogweni lento izakusebenza. Ndiye ndazenza zonke ezi ziyobisi ngesondo kungekho siphumo. Ndabhalisela ityala kuba ndandimthembisile umyeni wam ukuba ndingazama nantoni na ukusindisa ubuhlobo bethu.

Malunga nenyanga, ndaziva ndihlaziyekile amandla, kodwa yayingowomsebenzi womzimba owahlukileyo: ukubaleka. Bendingagijimanga kwiminyaka, kodwa bendinayo loo nto kwaye ndaye ndalahla iiponti ezimbalwa kwezi zinto zingafunekiyo zokuzilolonga. Wowu, ndijonge! Ndaqhubeka ndicinga. Ndiyabulawula ubomi bam! Ndaziva ndifanelekile kwaye ndinomdla, kwaye kwafika ixesha apho ndaqonda ukuba mna nomyeni wam sasilala kabini ngeveki enye. Huh. Uyithanda njani loo nto, Ndicinge.

Ukunyaniseka, bendicinga ukuba ndiyifezile le nto nam. Ndinguye owadibanisa iiteki zam, ndim owaphulukana nobunzima, kwaye yayindim owayeziva elungile kwaye enomdla, ke kunjalo ndandinomdla wokulala ngesondo. Kwenzekile kabini kwiveki elandelayo, nakwiveki elandelayo. Ukubona amanani kwikhweshine yam encinci, ndiye ndaqonda ukuba inokuba liyeza emva kwayo yonke loo nto.

Ibingathi ngequbuliso ndisuke ndanempondo. Sasingayenzi etafileni ekhitshini, okanye siphuthelwe ngumsebenzi. Ndaziva nje njengam kwakhona-umfazi owonwabela isondo kwaye utsala umyeni wakhe. Ibiyi eqhelekileyo ubomi. (Ngaba ujongene neDrive yeDiskhi eseZantsi? Iindlela ezi-6 zokuPhakamisa iLibido yakho.)

Inxalenye yolu vavanyo yayikufunda ngeziphumo zokuhamba iziyobisi nazo. Kwisithuba esingangenyanga siyekile, mna nomyeni wam sasibuyela ekubeni sibe neentlobano zesini ngamaxesha athile rhoqo emva kweeveki ezimbalwa. Ndityumke. Kwakuneminyaka eyadlulayo.

Kuba ndibe nempumelelo enkulu ngolingo, ndacinga ukuba ipilisi iya kuba semarikeni kwiinyanga ezintandathu okanye njalo. Bendiyifuna kwakhona! Andizange ndicinge ukuba kuya kuba ngaphezu kweminyaka emihlanu ngaphambi kokuba i-FDA ivume. Ndandinomsindo. Khange bayiqonde indlela eyimfuneko ngayo le pilisi? Ugqirha wam wandibeka kwi-antidepressant Wellbutrin ngethemba lokuhlaziya amandla kunye noqhagamshelo, kodwa yonke into eyayenzayo yayindenza ndizive ndindisholo ngakumbi. Kwakunzima, kodwa umtshato wam wawusomelele ngelo xesha. Umyeni wam waqonda ukuba andixoki; Ndamthanda, ndandifuna ukuba naye, mna wayenjalo utsaleleke kuye. Ndisandula ukuba nale ngxaki yezempilo.

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"Ndaphinda ndaziva njengam kwakhona-ibhinqa elonwabelayo isini kwaye litsalwa ngumyeni walo."

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Kwenzeka ukuba sibukele iindaba kumabonakude silusapho xa bebhengeza ukuba uAddyi uvunyiwe. Mna nomyeni wam sajongana ngamehlo onwabileyo. Sasicatshukiswa sobabini kodwa yindlela abantu ababethetha ngayo. Viagra yabasetyhini! Njengokuba abafazi bebeswele nje ukulungiswa ngeli xesha lonke. Ndiyacela.

Kukho okuninzi kweli chiza kunokuba neempondo, kwaye kuninzi kakhulu kwisondo kunokuba nokwakhiwa (okanye ukuba manzi). Isiqingatha semitshato siqhekeka, kwaye abantu bajonge ngasemva kwaye bacinga ukuba indawo yokujika yayinabantwana. Ngendandiyithethile loo nto, xa ndandineminyaka engama-35 ubudala. Ulwalamano lwethu lwaphazamiseka, kodwa oko kwakungengenxa yoonyana bethu abamangalisayo. Kwakungenxa yokuba kukho into eyenzekayo kum ngokwemichiza. Ndonwabile ukuba ndiyayazi ngoku, kwaye ndonwabile ukuba eli chiza liza kuphuma ngo-Okthobha. Mna nomyeni wam sinosuku oluneenkwenkwezi kwikhalenda yethu, kwaye siya kuba ngabokuqala emgceni kwikhemesti.

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